Ep. 147 Can You Learn To Love

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Spacemen, we've let you down. I mean, not really, but sort of. We weren't there for you last week when you needed us most. But we, like many people, have limits and have to take vacations from time to time. We're back though, and everything will once again be aligned in the spaceiverse.
As you will hear, Rob was absent on this episode. But it's a good one anyway. Today, we talk about how we can learn to love. Matt and Mike talk about the book 'The Art of Loving' by Eric Fromm and the four main components of love: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge. More specifically, they talk about respect, care, self-growth, and vulnerability. I mean, did you really think we'd have an episode in which we didn't talk about vulnerability? So, get ready to learn...to love...and to laugh. Put that on your wall. You're welcome.

Keywords
love, relationships, care, responsibility, respect, knowledge, effort, understanding, self-growth, vulnerability, relationships, tolerance, sacrifice, well-being, love, acceptance, personal growth

Takeaways

• Love requires active concern for the well-being and growth of the person we love.
• Responsibility in love means being willing to respond and take action in service of the other person's well-being.
• Respect involves fully seeing and understanding the other person, allowing them space to develop on their own terms.
• Knowledge in love means deeply understanding the other person's inner workings and being able to interpret their actions and emotions.
• Love is both an art and a science, requiring effort and understanding.
• The component of love that is often missing or misunderstood is subjective and can vary depending on the individual and the relationship. Respect and tolerance for vulnerability are crucial in relationships.
• Men often sacrifice their own well-being for the sake of others.
• Self-care and personal growth are important for maintaining a healthy relationship.
• Love involves accepting and seeing each other for who they truly are.

Titles

• The Art of Loving: Exploring the Components of Love
• Missing and Misunderstood: Reflecting on the Components of Love Accepting and Seeing Each Other for Who We Truly Are
• The Challenges of Sacrificing One's Well-Being for Others

Sound Bites

• "Care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge"
• "To really love somebody it takes these different things"
• "Love as both an art and a science"
• "There's just not enough toleration of the vulnerability that goes along with allowing yourself to be fully seen so that your partner can respect you."
• "My job is to be kind of at your service, right. And there's no room for me to be tired or spent or need space and just communicate that to you in a way that indicates that it's fine for me to feel that way and we'll still be okay."
• "Knowing yourself well enough to let yourself be seen and choosing to see your partner for who they are."

Chapters

00:00
The Joy of Homemade Creations

00:25
Planning for Future Episodes

07:26
The Four Components of Love: Care, Responsibility, Respect, and Knowledge

13:06
The Challenges Men Face in Understanding and Practicing Love

18:22
The Importance of Self-Care in Love and Relationships

24:31
Seeing and Accepting Your Partner for Who They Truly Are

29:28
The Potential for Deep Connection and Fulfillment in Love

37:41
Closing Thoughts and Reflection

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