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محتوای ارائه شده توسط Betsy Thurston MPH RD, Integrative Health Coach, and Registered Dietitian. تمام محتوای پادکست شامل قسمت‌ها، گرافیک‌ها و توضیحات پادکست مستقیماً توسط Betsy Thurston MPH RD, Integrative Health Coach, and Registered Dietitian یا شریک پلتفرم پادکست آن‌ها آپلود و ارائه می‌شوند. اگر فکر می‌کنید شخصی بدون اجازه شما از اثر دارای حق نسخه‌برداری شما استفاده می‌کند، می‌توانید روندی که در اینجا شرح داده شده است را دنبال کنید.https://fa.player.fm/legal
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Victory BGC is a church in Bonifacio Global City that exists to honor God and make disciples. It is a member of Victory Philippines and under Every Nation Churches and Ministries.
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Welcome to the weekly podcast of Elevation Church led by Pastor Steven Furtick. To learn more visit our website at http://elevationchurch.org or download the Elevation App. To support this ministry and help us continue to reach people all around the world click here: http://ele.vc/WeX3nP
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Fr. Larry Richards is the founder and president of The Reason for our Hope Foundation, a non- profit organization dedicated to ”spreading the Good News” by educating others about Jesus Christ. His new homilies are posted each week.
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The Faith Today Podcast-Conversation inspired by Canada's Christian magazine. The podcast features interviews with Canadian Christians as they sort through the pressing issues of the day and topics like spiritual growth and health, other religions, religious freedom, vocation, and tough questions of faith and living in contemporary society.
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Follow the audio shiurim, lectures and speeches of Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, global religious leader, philosopher, author of over 30 books and moral voice for our time. Rabbi Sacks served as Chief Rabbi of the United Hebrew Congregations of the Commonwealth between September 1991 and September 2013. A full biography - together with an extensive online archive of Rabbi Sacks' work - is available at www.rabbisacks.org or you can follow him on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram @rabbisacks.
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دوست داشته شدWhat’s up, Tribe, and welcome back to Good Moms Bad Choices! January was amazing, but its time to turn the page on the calendar and embrace beautiful new energy as we enter ‘The Journey of Love February.’ This month is all about the heart - join Erica and Milah to catch up and discuss what’s new in the world of motherhood, marriage, and amor! In this week’s episode, the ladies offer witty and sharp perspectives about personal growth in love, supporting your kids through their friend drama, and how to honor your true needs in a partnership. Mama Bear to the Rescue! The Good Moms discuss protective parenting and helping your kids fight their battles (8:00) Bad Choice of the Week: Help! My kids saw me in my lingerie! (20:00) My Happily Ever After: Erica and Milah discuss the prospect of marriage, dreams of becoming a housewife, and the top 5 ways to be confident in love (32:00) Yoni Mapping: Releasing Trauma and Increasing Pleasure (57:00) Its OK to fuck up, but also, what do you (really) bring to the table: The Good Moms have an honest discussion about finding accountability and growth before love (1:03:00) Watch This episode & more on YouTube! Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! Let us help you! Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp Official GMBC Music: So good feat Renee, Trip and http://www.anthemmusicenterprises.com Join us this summer in paradise at the Good Vibe Rest+Vibe Retreat in Costa Rica July 31- August 5 August 8 - August 13 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…
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محتوای ارائه شده توسط Betsy Thurston MPH RD, Integrative Health Coach, and Registered Dietitian. تمام محتوای پادکست شامل قسمت‌ها، گرافیک‌ها و توضیحات پادکست مستقیماً توسط Betsy Thurston MPH RD, Integrative Health Coach, and Registered Dietitian یا شریک پلتفرم پادکست آن‌ها آپلود و ارائه می‌شوند. اگر فکر می‌کنید شخصی بدون اجازه شما از اثر دارای حق نسخه‌برداری شما استفاده می‌کند، می‌توانید روندی که در اینجا شرح داده شده است را دنبال کنید.https://fa.player.fm/legal
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The Importance of Setting a Daily Intention
Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
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محتوای ارائه شده توسط Betsy Thurston MPH RD, Integrative Health Coach, and Registered Dietitian. تمام محتوای پادکست شامل قسمت‌ها، گرافیک‌ها و توضیحات پادکست مستقیماً توسط Betsy Thurston MPH RD, Integrative Health Coach, and Registered Dietitian یا شریک پلتفرم پادکست آن‌ها آپلود و ارائه می‌شوند. اگر فکر می‌کنید شخصی بدون اجازه شما از اثر دارای حق نسخه‌برداری شما استفاده می‌کند، می‌توانید روندی که در اینجا شرح داده شده است را دنبال کنید.https://fa.player.fm/legal
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In this podcast episode Betsy talks with Laurel Mellin, PhD, who is the founder of EBT, or emotional brain training. Laurel explains in great detail how this specific brain training system works, specifically giving examples related to (among other things) binge eating and childhood situations that were at the root of unwanted behaviors. She talks about the difference between low level stressful emotions and the higher level emotions which get trapped in the subconsious mind on a feedback loop. In this intricate system, the user learns to recognize that the unwanted behaviors we face are not about the behavior but about the brain circuits, which can be totally transformed. This healing modality often paralells the model of internal family systems, or IFS, of which Betsy is a practioner. Emotional Brain Training, or EBT uses a specific phone app and peer support, and breaks behaviors down into 5 specific brain states. For more information about working with Betsy you can go to her website, www.betsythurstonrd.com…
During this conversation with weight loss coach Deb Butler, you will hear about her personal journey with weight issues and her process when working with women with similar issues. We talk about thoughts, intuitive eating, emotional eating, how menopause is in some ways like adolesence, and about how finding peace in life is the backbone for change. The conversation went into all sorts of topics that can be helpful to anyone struggling with food and the body. For more information about Betsy, or to book an appointment, you can access her website here: www.betsythurstonrd.com To find out more information about Deb Butler, you can connect with her through her social media: Website: http://drdebbutler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drdebbutler/ Instagram: @ drdebbutler or https://www.instagram.com/drdebbutler/?hl=en Podcast, Thinner Peace in Menopause : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinner-peace-in-menopause/id1097852666…
Betsy talks about the techniques offered in the book The Practice of Embodying Emotions by Raja Selvam, PhD. in order to help listeners learn a tool to help completely change their unwanted behaviors. She gives specific examples and case studies that are presented in the book.
In this podcast Betsy talks about the artform of integrating the experience of fear in all its forms, using ideas from psychology and spirituality. Included in the discussion is a look at the problem of judgment towards the body and she teaches a specific exercise you can do to work towards body acceptance. Finally, the podcast talks about the importance of refocusing attention away from problems and towards solutions, with specific action steps to take to help the nervous system get out of dysregulation.…
1 Lose weight with Low carb diets, blood glucose monitoring and weight loss drugs, an interview 46:52
On this podcast Betsy interviews Dr. Paul Kolodzik, who specializes in the prudent use of weight loss drugs, low carbohydrate diets and blood glucose monitoring for people who have trouble losing weight. Insulin resistance is a very common condition in people with weight issues, and Dr. Kolodzik talks about his approach to working with this population . Listen to this practical and in depth interview here!…
1 Addiction, physical pain, eating disorders, overthinking, OCD and brain training for recovery 58:41
Betsy talks about the brain's "habit" of addiction, eating disorders, pain, anxiety, and even OCD, and one approach to help recover. She reviews concepts from a book called The Pain Habit by Drew Coverdale. Topics include the subconscious and conscious mind, buidling resilence, and learning how to become your own healer.…
On this episode Betsy looks at some of the key components of intuitive eating and how to apply them more fully in order to obtain a new relationship with eating. She also sprinkles in some of the ideas from manifesting, or the Law of Attraction. Topics include having the right mental approach, tuning into hunger and fullness, looking at the satisfaction factor, considering emotional eating and remembering body respect.…
In this episode Betsy talks about the specific skills involved with DBT therapy. She details what to do and how to use some of the best DBT practices, using examples from a client. As always, she sprinkles in some spiritual concepts along the way.
In this episode Betsy gives a mini book report on Jill Bolte Taylor's "Whole Brain Living" which talks about integrating the brain's left and right hemispheres so that unwanted behaviors and habits can shift. She talks about the brain's connection with health, spirituality, and habits as it shows up in the micromoments of day to day life. This episode explains practical tools to help you change such as the 90 second rule and the brain huddle. It can be useful for people with eating issues and for people with ruminating thoughts, compulsive habits, and over active perfectionist tendencies.…
In this episode Betsy talks with Registered Dietitian and diabetes expert Ben Tzeel about how to successfully navigate mental struggles and food confusion that might come up for people with either Type I or Type 2 diabetes. We talk about some common struggles that might also happen with disordered eating. Even for listeners who don't have diabetes, this episode will have relatable topics for people trying to have a better relationship with food.…
Betsy shares one client's extensive list of future self ideals and talks about some of the ideas that came up during the session in which she shared them. We talked about the body, about eating sugar, and about questioning thoughts for their truth. This podcast can give the listener more ideas about how to make effective intentions for createing a future self.…
In this episode Betsy talks about the idea of creating your future self so you can learn to be that future self now. She reviews key idea's from Benjamin Hardy's book, Be Your Future Self Now to help listeners apply the concepts to their struggles with eating, relationships, and other predicments.
Betsy starts the podcast with a quick review of ideal foods and food goals and intuitive eating basics before shifting to a conversation about several clients who want to stop patterns of over reaction and anger. She talks about working with brain habits, control, and learning how to live from the heart.…
Betsy talks about specific tools to use when confronted with the urges to overeat or binge eat, especially at night. At the very end Betsy talks briefly about a post from facebook from someone who is currently in the weeks after weight loss surgery. There is a lot in this episode that can help anyone improve their relationship with eating!…
Betsy talks about the surprising and calming effect of learning the art of having no preferences. This is a counter intuitive concept that can have tremendous impact on the intensity of food cravings.
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Betsy talks about the system in play in the mind that often keeps people stuck in a cycle of chronic dieting or overthinking food and eating. She also announces her new live class over zoom which will begin the last week in March, 2023
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1 Sensations in the body: learning from them, learning to be with them, and learning from meditation 55:05
This podcast talks about the critically important skill of understanding and listening to sensations in your body. It talks about the experiences of sensation as they relate to food, emotions, trauma, and behaviors. Uncomfortable sensations often precede episodes of overeating. Other times people get lost in thought and ignore their body. Learning from our sensations, and learning how to be with them in a new way can be transformative.…
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In this podcast Betsy talks about the idea of refocusing attention onto love. It was inspired by NFL football players, who now wear helmets with love slogans! We can help our relationship with eating and our bodies by considering how to prioritize our thinking.
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In this podcast Betsy weaves together ideas from key spiritual teachings, the practice of intuitive eating, and anxiety.
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This episode reviews highlights from part of Yung Pueblo's book, "Lighter" and relates them to eating concerns. Betsy talks about some key spiritual concepts, meditation, risk, and radical honesty. At the end she talks about how to apply exposure therapy to help challenge yourself.
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In this episode Betsy talks about key concepts helpful for success. She incorporates stories from clients including issues with food, anxiety, relationships, the body and self criticism. The theme touches on the work of internal family systems therapy (IFS), spirituality, and manifesting. There is a lot to consider and learn!…
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Betsy shares a conversation she had with Heather Russo, who is a clinician with Alsana center for the treatment of eating disorders. We talk about common problems that come up with eating and body image during the holidays. In this conversation we include tools and tips and insights as well as a couple of client stories. This episode will be relatable if you struggle with overeating, binge eating, anorexia, fears around eating, or fears around the emotions that might come up with family. It's a good one!…
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Betsy talks about approaching anxiety in a way which might not be too passive or too active. Anxiety can be managed! She looks at anxiety as a broad concept and also how it might play out with eating and food cravings.
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Betsy has a conversation with the chief medical officer of Alsana, which has a small group of treatment recovery centers in the United States. We talk about what happens inside of this treatment facility, who might want to go, what the prognosis would be if you did go, and what the characteristics of some of the frequent clients might be.…
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This episode talks about Claire's attempt at weight loss and the pitfalls that she experienced along the way. During the last 10 minutes Betsy talks about the 9 enneagram personality types and questions that can help various personality types learn how to minimize problems.
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Diet programs and diets don't work in the long run. Learning intutive eating is helpful but not enough to manage extreme swings in eating behaviors or times when procrastination and excuses take over. Many people have days or weeks or months or success followed by periods of not caring or not focusing on health or eating goals. In order to create sustainable changes, Betsy talks about how to approach the problem from all angles. Internal Family Systems Therapy is one tool that makes a big difference…
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This episode has lots of practical information about setting healthy habits and working with body image problems. We also talk about some life events that connected with what might have been spiritual guidance.
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In this podcast Betsy reviews Judson Brewer's book "Unwinding Anxiety", using his model of habit loops. Betsy talks about her clients who struggle with certain habits such as anxiety, eating, or procrastination and talks about his premise that all habits exist because they provide value to the brain. The solution to changing habits is easier than you would think!…
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In this episode Betsy talks with functional medicine practitioner Magic Barclay about how she changed her life from one with serious medical problems to a life of healing and joy. We talk about getting rid of toxicity, healthy eating, learning how to speak up, and about working with the psycho neuro endocine immune pathways (PNEI) in the body. You can work with Betsy privately or take her online class. Get more informaiton at her website, www.betsythurstonrd.com…
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Betsy talks with author and researcher Michelle Segar about 4 common traps that hook people into behaviors that might sabotage their efforts to achieve health or weight goals.
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1 Brain Priming for Success with Food 1:00:02
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدBetsy talks with Dr. Sharon Grossman about the topic of priming the brain in order to maximize success.
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In this conversation with the podcast host of "The no BS Mama", Betsy and Meghan Eddinger talk about her journey away from feeling stuck and alone and overweight towards action steps such as exercise, body acceptance, and more.
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Ten life lessons, from a source unknown, are the topic of this podcast. The lessons relate to wise truths about life and relationships. The first lesson is this "You will receive a body and it will be yours for your entire life. You may or may not like it, but it will be yours to take care of". Most people already know that taking care of the body involves in part eating an abundance of nutritious healthy foods and avoiding too many of the comfort foods. Yet despite knowing this, many paople can't follow through with healthy eating goals. The lessons connect with broader concepts that might have something to do with staying the course with healthy eating ideals.…
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Body checking, obsessive thoughts about eating and the body, or inner criticisms and judgments can be overwhelming. In this podcast Betsy provides three concrete exercises that can help you manage the intensity of obsessive thoughts or inner criticisms about the body or eating.
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In this podcast Betsy talks about the experience of comparing ourselves and how it can be a trigger for a lot of behaviors and negative emotions. She talks about specific clients and their stories of comparison as well as ideas from various spiritual teachers, Brene Brown, and the science community.
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In this podcast Betsy interviews Christie Bettwy, who now runs Rock Recovery in DC. Christie talks about her long journey to freedom after years of obsessive dieting and overeating to the point of bingeing. We talk about many related topics on this podcast that will be relatable to people who live on diets or those with a full blown eating disorder.…
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1 Eliminating or reducing sugar. Recipes from Brownies for Breakfast. Managing the psyche's response to sugar goals 1:09:07
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدThis podcast has two parts. In the first 35 minutes Betsy has an interview with Lynne Bowman, who talks about her journey to a sugar free, flour free way of life. Lynne is the author of the cookbook Brownies for Breakfast, and she gifts us with some of her recipes. In the second part of the podcast Betsy talks about tackling sugar addiction, the book Brain over Binge, setting boundaries, and a few other things. As usual, she discloses a story from one of her old clients.…
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In this podcast episode Betsy talks with Rebekah Buege about body image, over attachment to beauty, giving away our power, social currency, and how changing our perspective can change our relationship with food. Rebekah is a coach and the author of the book Social Currency.
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدIn this podcast Betsy and Leslie talk about the many things Leslie had to overcome and understand in order to succeed on her journey of losing 100 pounds. Leslie is the author of the best selling book, "You Can't Eat Love". This conversation is both inspiring and informative and will help anyone who has struggled to change eating behaviors.…
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Debilitating and frustrating symptoms of pain, bloating, heartburn, and IBS can be improved by two methods. I talk about each method and how you can start a process of change today. Mind body syndrome is a very real and difficult condition, and I talk about this during the last 10 minutes of the podcast. For those who suffer, good luck! Betsy…
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In this episode I share a conversation with chef Tina McDermott who shares her best tips for quick and easy recipes and grab and go food ideas. We also talk about supplements, digestive issues, GMOs and organic items, and weight loss. The specifics about food and recipes starts at about ten minutes into the podcast.…
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In this podcast I share a conversation with Dr. Carolyn Ross, who specializes in the treatment of eating disorders and emotional eating. We talk about many things, including the brain, supplements, trauma, therapy, the inner critic and judgment and forgiveness.
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Do you often find yourself craving food and feeling the need to control what you eat at the same time? If you want to stop this overwhelming tug of war once and for all, sometimes you need to delve deep into yourself and find out why these feelings surface. IFS, or internal family systems therapy, understands that we are made up of multiple “parts” inside of us that are either needing to protect us or that hold our vulnerabilities. In this episode, I discuss how you might talk to the parts of yourself that overwhelm you with cravings. Extreme cravings or a need to rebel against diet rules often are rooted in past experiences of deprivation or shame. We all have these little parts inside of us that developed to protect us. When we learn how to separate from and understand them, we can get them to change. Tune in to the full episode and learn more about what to do the next time you’re craving food. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Identify and connect with the parts of yourself causing you to have extreme reactions when craving food. Find out how you can connect with the different parts within you. Learn actionable tips on what to do when you’re craving food. Episode Highlights Challenges of Intuitive Eating Intuitive eating is a way of eating where you listen to your body and tune into internal hunger and fullness cues. It requires you to trust your ability to self-regulate. You learn to give yourself food boundaries not because you have to, but because you want to feel good and empowered. Intuitive eaters flow with the ups and downs of eating without being extreme. Intuitive eating may be difficult to achieve for people who have a history of eating disorders. One of my clients described how she found it hard to resist craving food, and convinced herself that since it was what she was craving it would be justified. She thought this was intuitive eating. She was not practicing intuitive eating though, because she was not connected to a peaceful wisdom space. Instead, she was under the spell of the loud, scared, and protective parts inside of her. She was craving from a scared or defiant place. The Internal Tug of War There are often three primary parts of you involved in an overeating or craving cycle. One will have an extreme need to eat, the second will have an extreme need to not eat and might be demanding and critical of you, and the third is the part that will try to figure out what to do. Sometimes the third part is pure shame. Many of my clients find it hard to make food decisions because all these parts working together at the same time just leads to a shutdown. You need to take a step back and investigate why these sides feel so strongly. Take a Step Back and Be Curious When we want to overcome this anxiety and overwhelm around food decisions, we need to investigate and understand these parts of ourselves. IFS therapy uses a specific technique where you learn to separate from the part of you that is craving food, and ask it what it’s afraid of happening if it doesn’t keep urging you to eat. In this way you learn the skill of listening from a genuinely open hearted space. Find the Underlying Reasons There is always a reason for your compulsions. When people go on long-term diets, this eating part of them develops to protect them from being deprived or left out. This part of you may get creative to convince you to eat. It may also feel that if it doesn’t get its way, you’ll be in danger. Sometimes the reason appears to be just the brain based habit of making you feel an urgency. Give Yourself Loving Care and Compassion From there, what we need to find is the part deep down that created the need for this protective part in the first place. You need to connect with this part with loving care and compassion, and this is the skill to be developed. You learn to heal this part of you by validating its feelings and experiences. It might not make sense until you practice it experientially. Often the habits of the brain are just repetitive brain patterns stuck in time. We learn to help our food craving parts see that you are no longer living in the past and the original danger is gone. Usually parts needing food become extreme based on a perception of danger. Question the Part that Does Not Want to Eat After understanding and connecting with the part that has an extreme need to eat (without hating it!!), you might investigate the other side of the conflict. Similar to what you had done with the part that is craving food, connect with the part that has a desperate need to go on a diet or stop overeating. What is it so afraid would happen if you didn’t do this? Release Yourself from the Trap of Extreme Diets Chronic dieting does not work long-term because applying willpower will not work forever. I talk about a specific client who was only able to heal when she connected with her internal parts and helped them come out of the past. She started to recover when she let go of her extreme beliefs about beauty. It takes time to understand your inner world, but it’s worth the investment. Living in a world of stress around eating and the body is exhausting. What to Do When You’re Craving Food As you work with your inner parts, you can implement some food action steps. First, you might try allowing yourself to give in to your food craving without fear but with gentleness. Let yourself eat with curiosity. Notice what your impulse to eat food might be about. When you learn the skill of being present without fear and judgment, perhaps allowing your “dieter part” to calm down, you might learn a lot about what’s going on. You can repeat this experience of noticing, but next time, perhaps be present without eating even though you’re craving. With curiosity, allow the craving to be there. Again, notice what comes up. You might want to turn towards your emotions and see if you can understand what you’re afraid to be with. Is there an emotion that’s looming underneath? Or is it just a sensation of irritability or discomfort? Sometimes you can coach yourself by saying, “I’m craving food, but I’m saying no, all is well, I can be safe in this moment”. This is an individual journey that can be very intense or tangled for some people and less so for others. When we learn to get the loud parts to settle down and feel calmer, what will naturally arise is our higher self. It will know what to do. Resources Receiving Chant by Karen Drucker 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode “With intuitive eating, you learn how to make food decisions out of a choice to honor your body wisdom.” “You just want to try to listen, go within, and open your mind and your heart to this part of you. Because you want to honestly understand why it is doing this.” “You had this cellular memory of deprivation that gets trapped inside, and in order to get it out, it must be heard and witnessed and no longer repressed.” “The trick is learning how to understand [that] they’re little parts within you. Once you separate from them and get this relationship with them, that's when you get the healing shifts.” “We are the healer we've been waiting for. We are it.” If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to schedule an appointment or enroll in my class? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . 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1 Reconnecting with the Past to Address Your Food Insecurity or Overwhelming Focus on Dieting and your Body 41:21
Reconnecting with the Past to Address Your Food Insecurity or Overwhelming Focus on Dieting and your Body In this episode, I discuss how our experiences in our younger years shape our body image and relationship with food. Many of these experiences may have contributed to how you behave and feel around food and your body as an adult. Using the model of internal family systems, you can reconnect with your experiences and find more inner peace. In time, you will be less triggered by comments or experiences that once made your body contract or freeze and your mind ruminate. Tune in to the episode to learn how you might work on your relationship with food and your body by exploring the root of your food insecurity or your overactive need to diet. Also, consider joining my online class to help you learn how to help yourself get out of stressful eating habits. For more information go to www.betsythurstonrd.com . Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Identify when and how your food insecurity started. Discover how reconnecting with your past experiences can help you in your journey to healing. Learn how helpful it can be to have more understanding and compassion for yourself and your inner child. Resources Mary O’Malley Episode Highlights Feeling Flawed and Having Food Insecurity As an adult, you may have developed an image or belief that you are flawed because of your body and how you feel and act around food. You don’t trust yourself around food, and you might avoid it as much as you can. You might also have periods of secretly overeating. Shame and fear of judgment might happen daily. Getting to the Root of the Problem When there’s a fear of being fat or a history of long-term dieting, more often than not, there is an initial source of wounding. And this is often rooted in childhood experiences or sometimes times in college or early adulthood. You may have been surrounded by real or perceived judgments around your body, or you might have been flooded with internal judgment. Other people’s fear for their own bodies may have been projected onto you. These experiences may be traumatizing and have resulted in you feeling inadequate, creating an internal obsession over your weight and body. Explore the Past We can always explore the past with awareness of the present. Tapping into the memories of your younger years could help you heal from issues surrounding your weight and body. By learning to connect with the root of your fears and food insecurity, you gain more understanding and compassion for yourself in your journey to recovery. Separate Threat from Trigger Growing up surrounded by body critics may have led you to watch your food intake and obsess over every little change in your body. For instance, a slight hint of being bloated might set you into panic and hypervigilance. Yet feeling bloated is completely normal; it’s a part of digestion. The part of your mind that takes over in this way actually believes you’re in grave danger. It wants to save you from the early memories of shame and hurt. But these parts can create hyper vigilance and dieting habits, which can be very demanding and destructive. It's important to learn how to separate the threat from the trigger and calm the internal noise in your head. Connect with the Quiet Space Within You One of my clients came to me when she was in her late 30s. She’d been on every diet on the planet. But she still felt defeated and disappointed. She knew it was very exhausting to live in deep fear of having a certain body type and obsessing over what she was eating. What we started to do was to talk about the practicalities of food and a bit on intuitive eating. Then we were led to memories of when she was a little girl who’d experienced being bullied about her body. She was able to get in touch with this critical energy from a curious place. Through a specific process, she reconnected with her inner child, and this allowed her to understand and re-experience what happened in a new way. This child realized that forever more, she was not alone, and she also knew that she was heard. In the weeks after this experience she was able to relax and eat intuitively much better. Be Compassionate with Yourself Another client grew up in a household where the fabric of the conversation, with her mother, in particular, was on dieting. Food and the ‘perfect’ body were overvalued. Along with this, she felt as if she wasn’t paid much attention to as a child. As a result, this client was stuck in a world of stressful eating habits. The solution began with her spending time to find the little girl who was shamed for her body and only found comfort in food. Taking care of this little girl brought her much healing. She was able to find compassion not only for her present self but also for the child she was. Very successful people with the secret eating problem A different client had a problem with binge eating. She felt great shame for being successful in her career, yet secretly having a problem with overeating food. She would follow a diet and rebuke herself if she fell off the track, and then the cycle would continue. But it was through working with a sense of quietness and compassion that she was able to open a space for curiosity and realize the origins of the problem. She was able to process her problem by reflecting on the abuse she experienced as a child. The feelings of loneliness and helplessness around eating shifted to understanding and calmness. 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode “If you've been dieting for your whole life, and here you are listening to this podcast, I want you to take in hopefully, that another diet is really not going to get you anywhere, we really need to get to the bottom of the problem in order to fix the problem.” “I can guarantee you that no matter what happened as a child, on some level, you were just doing your best. You're just a kid seeking love. That's all anybody ever wants.” “It's about connecting with a sensation of feeling alone, or scared or overwhelmed, or helpless, and letting that part be heard, and come out of hiding, and connect with another part within that's listening.” “We have an infinite ability deep within us for healing and peace. It's there; we all are self-healing. It's a matter of finding it. It is. Peace is always available. Calm within is always available.” “We all need to look at the areas in ourselves where we believe we are not enough. I think it's universal… And if we all could work towards healing, our inner children, all of us, imagine how the world would be a better place. We can heal this planet, because then, we're not so stuck in fear and caught up in our heads and worrying all the time. We can be so much more available to life.” If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to enroll in my class or schedule an appointment? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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1 Looking at the Big Picture: A Conversation with Dr. Amy Johnson 1:10:10
1:10:10 پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شد1:10:10
پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدIn this podcast Dr. Amy Johnson talks about her approach to helping people who struggle with anxiety or with all extreme or unwanted habits. Amy looks at life from the big picture, and her model is very different from most models of change available today. Betsy uses the model of Internal Family Systems Therapy, and the conversation explored the differences in these two ways of working with people. This conversation brings up people who have had many different experiences that were difficult, such as feeling invalidated, experiencing stress from the physical effects of sugar, and feeling worry or shame over the body. In this interesting conversation Amy's approach was unusual and refreshing; she constantly zoomed her lens way out to the bigger picture.…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Intuitive eating is the practice of looking inward and noticing body sensations so you can more accurately choose which foods and which portion sizes would be best in that moment. It also involves noticing thoughts, habits, and emotions that might be present as you reach for the food--especially those which might have nothing to do with physical hunger or satiety. Intuitive eating is a practice of honoring the wisdom of the body and trusting that you will feel best when you can learn to delay or minimize the habits and impulses to eat for the “wrong” reasons. These include eating to avoid feeling bored, lonely, sad, angry, or scared, or to rebel against restrictive diet rules. Most people who live with a diet mentality feel compelled to take an extravagant break from the boring and limiting rules. It’s fun to be bad! It is difficult to eat intuitively when you hate your body, or when you hate the parts of you that feel compelled to eat for reasons other than hunger. Intentionally focusing on the skill of self-compassion can dramatically increase your ability to eat ideal portion sizes of ideal foods. Sometimes an ideal portion size is very small, perhaps even just 4 or 5 bites. Other times the ideal portion might be much larger. Sometimes an ideal food is a comfort food and sometimes it’s a plate of vegetables and lean protein. If you skip meals or have limited amounts of protein or colorful foods then you might end up so physically hungry that you overeat. Intuitive eating is hardest to do when you’re stuck in an emotionally charged headspace, or when eating habits take over, so this is the exact time when you might want to stop, pause, and ask yourself what food and in what amount would be just enough for you. Common eating habits that sabotage intuitive eating might include Friday or Saturday nights, alcohol, the hours in between dinner and bedtime, or afternoon breaks from the pressures of the day. Eating Intuitively Also Includes Mindful Eating Taking your time to eat slowly and deliberately is the essence of mindful eating. When you eat mindfully you pay attention to the look, feel, taste, smell, texture, and portion size. You notice that you are chewing and swallowing even as you notice what’s going on in the room around you. You can develop the capacity to eat mindfully at the same time you are present in a setting with others or stuck in a moment of sadness or fear. Listen to this podcast episode if you want to learn more about intuitive eating: listen to the episode here .…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
In this conversation with Nancy McKay, Betsy and Nancy talk about her recovery from alcohol dependence and self criticism. A lot of ideas are presented in this podcast, from noticing thought, living in your "truth" versus pretending, anger, feeling your feelings, and finding freedom. Listeners who might use food or alcohol in excess, or who live a life that doesn't feel authentic or fulfilling will benefit from hearing her story. Nancy is a life coach with a "special twist". She uses equine therapy for clients who come to her ranch in Colorado. Listen to the full episode to hear her full story!…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
In this conversation with Julie Allen, she talks about her journey from inpatient treatment to a life without the extreme behaviors that went along with her eating disorder. Julie talks about OCD and anxiety, about what got her to wake up and find the courage to stop obsessively worrying about her body and her calorie intake, about weighing herself, about intuitive eating, and about clothing and dressing in a way that feels comfortable and which allows for days when her body feels heavier than normal. At the end Julie also talks about her approach to food and eating as she parents very young children. This conversation will be helpful to those who struggle with disordered eating or those who have a more extreme pattern of eating issues which are best helped by inpatient care. Julie now owns a women's clothing boutique which caters to all sizes of bodies, and donates a portion of all sales to help those who need eating disorder treatment but can't afford it. She is the founder of the Mary Rose Foundation, which helps support education and funding for eating disorders.…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Manifesting is a popular term these days, and it is the process of making your dreams a reality. Manifesting doesn't always work though, and that's why it is best to break the goal into small pieces at first. It's also key that you spend some time feeling the emotional blocks that might be in the way first.…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Going on a diet usually requires rigid and even punishing rules around food. When dieting we deprive ourselves, and then beat ourselves up when we make the smallest mistakes. If your body has too much weight on it then it’s true, it makes sense to take in fewer calories in a day or a week in order to make that happen. The problem is that the diet mentality is short lived and stressful and everyone reverts back to eating to soothe or for other emotional reasons. The happy medium is to find a way to set a boundary with food without dieting. In this episode, I show you how to do just that. When we look past our constant need to be in control, we can better assess whether we are truly hungry or using food to numb and avoid. I encourage you to take a step back and get honest with yourself in the moment of eating about what you’re feeling or believing. If it’s not true physical hunger, what’s the worst thing that could happen if you put the fork down? What if you can just be with what’s there without the food? If you want to learn more about how to set a boundary with food, tune in to the episode! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Discover the difference between setting a boundary with food and dieting. Learn to sit with the discomfort that comes with setting food boundaries. Identify instances when dieting may be beneficial. Resources The song by Karen Drucker I’ve Got the Power Episode Highlights The Brain on Overdrive Our minds are always reverting to some form of fear, even though it might be rooted in a memory buried way down under the surface. We all have a need to be needed, to feel good enough, to fit in and to feel a sense of purpose. Our life experiences will always give us opportunities where we feel the opposite though, so we often live in a state of trying to prevent feeling one thing or another that might expose our insecurities. It’s normal to try to calm our looming insecurities or to distract ourselves with food, even though the added weight gain will increase those insecurities. What happens next? We get stuck in a state of overthinking and planning and dieting, leading the mind to panic and make up exaggerated stories about the consequences of extra weight. The mind now shifts its focus to the body rather than other sticky and unsolvable obstacles that might come our way in life. Overthinking is not helpful. A simple but powerful antidote to an overthinking mind is to take a step back and ask these questions: What am I doing? What am I scared about right now? What is taking over my mind this time? Why am I so worried about food? Why am I so caught up in this? How to Set Boundaries with Food A food boundary can be helpful when it’s gentle; when it’s not about dieting or restricting but about noticing when you’re disregarding your goals for health. It can be helpful as you learn how to eat intuitively. It can be a helpful signpost to remind yourself that you might want to not eat those chips or that cookie so you can stop and check in with the inner world. It’s listening to your body and asking, “Why do I want to eat this food right now?” It’s probing the depths of your mind and being curious instead of mindlessly eating. You might want to zero in on the foods or social settings when you often habitually eat too much and choose in advance to create a boundary. For example, before going out or before sitting down for the evening alone at home you might decide what you want the eating experience or the being at home alone experience to be like. Wherever the problem eating is happening, this is where you write down a goal for a boundary. You might try a boundary around chips or ice cream or the amount of sugary foods in a day or eating second portions. Often overeating is a chance for you to rebel against your own rules or society’s rules or your partner’s rules about beauty. It could just be a way to not feel things. It could also be connected to a happy emotion; it can be a way to connect to others, to experience joy and freedom and to enhance a fun situation. There are hundreds of different reasons why people might overeat or eat even though they’re not hungry, or when they deceive themselves and convince themselves they are physically hungry when they’re not. If you don’t investigate this, the patterns might never change. Embracing the Discomfort I don’t think it’s a good idea to be on a strict diet and to ignore true hunger. Just notice when you’re overeating. As you become more self-aware, the next step would be to enforce a food boundary and be with the discomfort involved with dismissing the urge. It can be noticing the short moment between that next bite and you saying, “That’s enough, no more”. When you put your fork down, you make a conscious decision to face life instead of using food as a coping mechanism. You might realize that your fears are largely unfounded. You will be okay. Once you get honest with yourself and acknowledge your fears, you’re generally going to be alright. A food boundary is you saying, “Fork down. I am looking forward to feeling whatever is going to come up right now. Bring it on, life.” When Dieting Is Beneficial However, in some cases and for some people, a diet may be beneficial. Sometimes after a period of indulgence your body might appreciate an internal detox. Rather then a diet as a means for weight loss and control, a “diet” that restores balance to the body is occasionally not a bad thing. This process is listening to what your body wants you to do. So it’s not really going on a diet, it’s paying attention to your body. This process becomes harmful when we get overly attached to the outcome, such as with an intense need to lose a lot of weight or look different. A temporary “diet” can help people embrace low-calorie and nutrient-dense foods. It reboots our taste buds by incorporating healthier alternatives. The brain learns to appreciate and enjoy simpler foods. A “diet” also encourages people to put more effort into planning their food choices. When you diet, you plan to make sure you're not caught off guard in stressful or overwhelming situations. With a plan in mind you manage to stay on track even when you’re too busy or tired to whip up something healthy. It’s not even really a diet; it’s basic self-care. Planning Ahead When we make a plan, we let our logical planning center take the lead instead of the fast-acting and fearful part of our brain. Planning ahead means overbuying healthy foods with long shelf lives while underbuying convenient, fatty, and sugary items. It also means that you don't go to the grocery when you’re hungry or tired. If you do, you’re aware of this and have made a list, so you don’t purchase food impulsively. Benefits of Knowing How to Set a Boundary Setting a food boundary and following through with it would mean that you tap into a source of internal strength. It requires listening closely to your body rather than giving in to the subconscious brain. The benefits of a food boundary may not be immediate, but they add up over time. When you set a food boundary, you are willing to forego immediate gratification to embrace difficult experiences that are a natural part of life. You train your brain to find another way to be present with discomfort. Mindful Living At the end of the day, the best “diet plan” isn’t a diet. It’s a way of life that has three general rules: Pay close attention to the thoughts that go through your head before eating. Ask the why. Why do I want to eat this so badly? Why is it difficult for me to just be present? Why do I believe I need this food to be happy? Plan ahead for food availability. Forgive yourself when you overeat and then regret it. Pick yourself up and try again. In the end, there is no one-size-fits-all approach that you can follow. Only you can figure out what’s best for your body and what feels good for you. But it’s important to know that a food boundary can exist without a diet. It all starts with paying attention and taking the time to get to know yourself. 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode “The only reason these things are scary is because I created a story in my mind that unless my body looks different, I'm unacceptable, I'm not enough, people are judging me. It's this big deal. And that's the joke. We made it up.” “Imagine what would happen if you just noticed the human impulse, to control, to fix, to worry, to create stories, and you just sat with it, what would happen? Nothing. You would be fine.” “Our fast-thinking brain is all about immediate gratification. All you need to do is to be willing to slow down enough and get calm enough inside so you cannot be derailed by an overactive, fearful, fast-thinking subconscious mind.” “It's about asking what your deepest, truest part of you needs, way deep down, the real you, so to speak, rather than the part with an agenda to numb, to avoid, or to not miss out.” “People think that there is one correct amount of protein or carbs or fat and there was one correct amount of ratios, and there is one correct solution, and there isn't one. So this is about you figuring out for yourself, what fits for your body and what feels good for you.” If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to take my online class or schedule an appointment? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Do you often find yourself overeating, especially when you are stressed? If you answered yes, then there are probably other things in your mind contributing to this behavior. It’s not obvious. The subconscious mind is unbelievably complex. I think most dietitians, including me, would agree that you want to honor your cravings to some degree. Intuitive eating teaches us the value of listening for internal physical cues of hunger and fullness and attempting to eat what the body wants. However, intuitive eating is very tricky. You can easily be confused and think that just because you have an urge for a cookie you should honor that urge every time. In this episode, I discuss how you can learn how to identify when the urge is coming from an emotional need rather than a physical need to not feel deprived. In this way you can begin to teach the mind a new way of responding to your cravings. You can learn how to teach yourself how to retrain your brain to stop your cravings and impulsive eating habits. Your brain remembers every little thing from your past, so the habits can run very deep. The process involves listening inside yourself so you can understand and reassure the overeating parts of you. You learn to connect with them and literally let them know that you’re here for them and you understand them. If you want to learn more about this process so you can stop overeating, tune in to this episode! Three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how to stop overeating by retraining your brain using the process of IFS (internal family systems). Learn ways to tap into your inner guidance and intuition. Consider common triggers that can create urges such as the inner critic, social anxiety, and overwhelm. Episode Highlights Learn How to Stop Overeating Eating is a great way to calm the brain. When we feel stressed or out of control, we tend to reach for foods that soothe us. To learn how to stop this, the first step is to get curious about the part of your mind that makes you reach for food unconsciously. For example, the sense of panic about feeling out of control might be held inside of a specific “part” inside of you. This part is alerting you to danger, and it’s likely got a good reason for this; in your past you most likely had many times where bad things happened when you had no control. To get curious you must separate from it. Internally, this can look like moving away from the part in your mind’s eye and noticing that it’s there. Setting Goals and Adopting Habits It’s often difficult to identify all the eating triggers, especially because they can be buried beneath all the activities of your conscious mind. They can hide. Start by intentionally aiming to be more mindful. Slow down and turn your awareness inside. Practically, you might write down a few goals to improve your relationship with mindfulness with eating or with food buying. You may make a goal to go to put your fork down between bites of food, or plan times when you go to the grocery store so healthy food is available during stressful times of the day. You might try to make it a habit not to eat in front of the TV. Focus on one goal at a time. Be Still and Let the Answers Find You We are our own healers. If you get quiet enough to listen, the answer deep within will come to you. What you can do is sit on a chair and actively do nothing. Just notice the inner world. It’s a helpful exercise to pretend that the emotion associated with eating is a person that needs your attention. It will never leave you alone unless it feels validated, unless it realizes you are listening to it. Communicate with it from a place of curiosity, without being mad at it or wishing it would go away. We need to talk to our eating parts and reassure them that we are there for them. In the process, you connect with the thing inside of you to understand the reasons behind your overeating. You also can develop a relationship with these parts so that you can let them know that you want to go through life without having to rely on food to cope, and eventually they will learn to trust that you can handle things without eating. Intuition and Inner Guidance Within every single person, there is a capacity to be present. We can lead and heal our own parts. But we cannot do this if there is too much fear and noise. To listen without interference, try to find a way to get grounded in the body. Breathe. Recognize that the parts are separate entities! This can lead us to our intuition. I had a talk with a woman who was a firefighter during 9/11. She had this voice inside of her that said, “You need to get out of there.” Thank goodness she trusted that voice because it saved a lot of people’s lives that day. She had developed a capacity for listening inside of herself. We Are Motivated by What We Might Lose Rather than rewards, we are more motivated by what we might lose. So, if you feel yourself reaching for snacks, you can ask yourself what you might lose. You might lose your sense of empowerment and hopefulness. You can lose a sense of being in control. Likewise, you can ask yourself, what do I need here? It might just be a relief from boredom, procrastination, or a way to calm your nerves. Working and Connecting with Yourself I worked with another client who has chronic physical pain. This client has a part of her who is so tired from putting on a happy, strong, and stoic face despite the pain. To cope with this, she tended to grab baked goods to reward herself and get on with her day. Ultimately, it was a matter of allowing her to have compassion for and connect with the parts of her that are in pain. This was the same for my clients who were perfectionists. They needed to separate themselves from their perfectionist part so they could see it from a distance. They could then be curious about it and ask: Why do you need to be perfect? Be Quiet, Calm, and Curious We tend to reach for food not because we are hungry, but because we are stressed. What should you do in this situation? You can leave the room. Calm down and rest a second. Connect with the energy inside that’s unsettled. Realize that it’s a part of you, but it’s not you. It’s different from your calm, curious, and compassionate self. Acknowledge this emotion and say, “I can handle this. I can handle the stress without food.” Conversing with Your Critic I also worked with a client who developed an association with certain foods. She would eat these foods when she felt overwhelmed and needed relief. She worked with the part of her that was scared. She also learned how to communicate with her food craving and overeating part. What she ended up doing was to have a conversation with the critic in her mind, since this was the part that was creating such distress. She needed to tell her critic that if she could just allow herself to eat what she was carving without guilt, then she probably won’t overeat. 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode “It's best to do one at a time. That's how you make progress. It's the little things day in and day out.” “We just take a moment and we just turn towards the inner world. And we let the answer find us because it will be there.” “The brain learned way back when that food could comfort and calm in almost any situation until of course, the brain reverted to that. So we need to reassure our eating part that we're there for them, we understand.” “Social interactions are stressful. That is probably the number one reason I have found that people grab food even though they are not hungry.” “The solution is not a diet. The solution is getting quiet, calm, curious, and [to] stop.” If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to schedule an appointment or take my class? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Do you want to lose weight and change your relationship with food? We're so used to thinking that the ideal body type is thin, but it's not. “Ideal” is outdated. It’s subjective. The world is changing, and we are all waking up to the truth that you are so much more than the body which carries you through life. Yes of course we all want to look a certain way, and it’s not a bad thing to attempt to remember to choose healthy foods and slow down the speed of our eating and pay attention at the moment we put food in our mouth. It’s not a bad thing to want to lose some weight at times. It’s a very good thing to exercise and to drink enough water and get enough sleep. The problem is that we take this too far and overfocus on our bodies, and then we become anxious and preoccupied. We retreat into our minds and notice every little change in our flesh or the tightness of our clothes, and only when our weight is down or we don’t feel bloated or heavy can we have a good day. When we get this attached to our weight our inner beauty is completely blocked off. This is madness. This is no way to live a life. What if your body is OK the way it is right now? If you are certain that it’s not, that you’d feel better physically in a lighter body, then what if you could find a way to want to eat healthy foods and lose some weight without the intensity of needing this? What if you could find a way to detach from the outcome (thinner) and just get on with your life without caring so much? The irony of course is that you would probably stop overeating if you didn’t make your body appearance and food so valuable in your mind. Also, some people inherit a genetic tendency to have more fat cells on their stomach or their legs or some other body part. Some people inherit a more muscular body, or a body that is supposed to be on the large side. But every day, the media tells us how to get thin and lose weight and match the ideal presented in magazines. It’s deeply embedded in the cultural narrative. This perfect body obsession is a recipe for stress, hypervigilance and anxiety and it’s never going to work if your body is genetically out of alignment with your ideal image. It promotes a diet mentality that will end up fueling overeating and using food for relief and relaxation. Living with the diet mentality will never give you peace of mind, and it usually won’t help you get the body you want anyway. You need to find a middle ground. Calm down. Perhaps be present in your current body without fearing it or hating it so much. In this podcast episode, I talk about body positivity. I will be digging into what I mean by this and why it matters. You’ll also learn how you can eat intuitively and why you must view your body and all bodies from a different lens. Accepting an obese body is the best first step in changing it. Tune in to the full episode to learn more about how your thoughts can create actual physical changes in the body. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Understand the human tendency to judge people by their body sizes. Learn more about what a healthy body weight really means. Learn about intuitive eating and how it can help you. Episode Highlights The Stigma Around Obesity The stigma of obesity heavily damages the human psyche. Many of the problems associated with obesity come from it. By letting go of needing to control our bodies and lose weight, we become naturally calmer. Your body parts have committed no crime. They're working and doing what they're supposed to do: supporting you, metabolizing your food. We’re taught to value thinness, activity, productivity, and discipline. Many of my clients with large bodies are terrified of being thought of as lazy, unproductive, or undisciplined. Nothing could be farther from the truth. What do those things have to do with body size? Nothing. The Body Positivity Movement Just like people in the "Me Too" movement, we suffer from victimization. What's different is victimizing ourselves is something more likely. We have to take responsibility for ourselves. We need to be the first ones to stop judging and hating our bodies. We need to get off our diets. The Problem with Culture and Defining Feminine Every time we go online or go outdoors, we're bombarded by information. Magazines, billboards, and TV commercials try to sway us. They move us towards believing we aren't good enough unless we look a certain way. They say there must be something wrong with us. The idea ever since was that female bodies should be petite for them to be feminine. To me, femininity is not about body size. It’s about the energy we transmit. It’s about being openhearted, kind, and taking care of others and ourselves in a way that still leaves space for strength, wisdom, and intelligence. The Healthy Body Weight Data show that people who had BMI in the obese range did not necessarily have less death and less disease than thin people. This proves that weight loss and dieting don't give people better health. As you go on more, your body becomes confused and afraid of starving. The practice was making the body overcompensate and compromising the ability to lose weight. I believe most of the people I work with are less interested in disease and more interested in feeling judged in their appearance. Our goal is to learn to love and accept your body. Stop being mean to yourself, and embrace who you are. How to Practice Intuitive Eating Intuitive eating is learning how to eat what the body wants in the portions that the body might want. It’s eating in the present tense and not thinking about what you’re supposed to eat. Weight loss is the side effect of loving yourself. The bottom line is, can you get out of the way and just let the body figure it out and find its way? Some people with eating disorders believe that certain foods feel bad in their body, but the truth is they don't feel as bad — it is their mind tricking them. It's the fear that creates more of the problem than the food itself because fear can create physical symptoms in the body. What Your New Goal Should Be Your goal should not be about being in control. Change your goal to be about self-care. It has to be about seeing what is attractive about the body that you have right this second and looking at all bodies more holistically. If you want control, you're not going to get control. Wanting and trying is not the same as having control. 5 Powerful Quotes “As you look at women who have large bodies, I want you to see those large bodies in a different way—as strong, as capable, as loving, as helpful bodies. There’s nothing wrong with them at all.” “Why would we or should we even care about somebody else’s body? Why are we judging it? It’s a funny thing when you stop and think about it. How is somebody else’s body size relevant to your life at all?” “It is time to change your idea that your body is supposed to fit a standard that used to be like a Barbie and a Ken doll.” “The greater goal has got to be to learn how to care for, in respect for, your body. The greater goal has to be to learn how to listen to it, to learn how to prioritize food, shopping, and planning, so you can have on hand foods that work well for you.” “Body size acceptance does not mean that you stop caring about your body. Instead, you start loving your body. You want to make it the best body for your life purpose.” Resources Non-Appearance Related Compliments by Jennifer Rollin, MSW LCSW Health at Every Size movement If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to schedule an appointment? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
In our journey toward mindful eating, we usually encounter a form of self-sabotage that says, “Why bother?” This little voice urges us to eat even if we’re not hungry or even if we know it’s too much food or it’s harmful to our body. The voice might also say that the situation’s hopeless or the mountain is too high for us to climb. So how can we navigate this part of us that convinces us to stop caring? In this episode, I show you a simple but powerful trick to calm down that “why bother?” voice in your head. I teach you how to take a bird’s eye view of the situation. Whatever intense sensation or emotion you’re feeling right now is not permanent. You don't need to give in to the compulsions of the momentary urge. All you need to do is wait. I also talk about how you can examine these thoughts more closely. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn to recognize that “why bother?” part of you. Understand that all emotions, thoughts, and sensations are temporary. Discover how being honest with yourself will help your mindful eating journey. Episode Highlights How We Self-Sabotage Ideally, most people want a healthy, natural, and forgiving relationship with food. In this perfect relationship, you can have room for fun food items yet maintain a balance. You pay close attention to what and how much you eat. You also don’t allow yourself to get completely famished. But even if you have healthy, mindful eating as the goal, it’s common to fall into the trap of the mind, that “Why bother?” voice. This voice can make a wide range of excuses: You’re going to gain back whatever weight you lose anyway. Feeling the disappointment of failure must be avoided at all costs. You aren’t worthy of looking good. You’re inadequate. You have too much weight to lose. The mountain is too high. You don’t deserve good health. You deserve to be punished. Taking a Bird’s Eye View To take a bird’s eye view, you have to start being comfortable with the fact that nothing is permanent. Even that overwhelming wave of emotion will soon come to pass. There’s a shelf life to everything. Your present worry will not be the same in an hour or two. Therefore you can coach yourself into not caring. You say to yourself, ‘I don’t care what I feel; all I have to do is wait for the feeling to go away.” Being Comfortable with Change We suffer because we become overly attached to a single outcome or an idea. We start believing that things are permanent or should follow a certain rule. We believe the story in our mind that we have created. The trick to connecting with that bird’s eye view lies in the acknowledgement that your brain is a machine programmed to exaggerate the danger. When you start looking closely at worst-case scenarios, you might realize that most of your thoughts aren't even true. They’re wildly exaggerated or distorted versions borne out of your brain’s desire to protect you. An intense craving is often your brain’s way of making a big deal out of something temporary. It’s your brain doing its job. Once you become aware of that, sit and wait for the feeling to go away. All thoughts and sensations are temporary. None of them are worthy of your panic and obsession; they’re generally not even true! Zeroing in On the Why Bother Part From that bird’s eye view, zero in and examine that inner voice more closely. Start by imagining that you’re in a hallway filled with a calm, compassionate, and curious energy. Then, focus on that little voice that says, “Why bother? It’s hopeless. Who cares?” Really try to find that part inside of you—it might not be a voice but a tension in the body or an image. Surprisingly, you might discover that this inner part has your best interests at heart. It’s worried about you and scared that you might feel deprived. It wants you to feel comfortable and safe. It might be protecting you from a loud and angry inner critic. It might secretly need you to rebel against dieting rules, or society, or your husband. It might know that if you do lose weight and then gain it back again, the devastation of this will be unbearable. Once you understand that this voice is trying to help, you can also see how it’s hurting you. From then, you can take time to make a connection with that voice. Let it know that you appreciate its efforts but that it’s hurting more than it’s helping. You have to work with that voice as part of an ongoing project of learning, growing, and loving yourself. Getting Help While it’s possible to do this work on your own, it’s often best to seek professional help to avoid feeling confused or overwhelmed. That “why bother?” voice is tricky since it can change a negative emotion instantly. It works because when you give in to the voice that urges you to eat, it magically lifts your mood. But while it might think it’s helping and it may provide relief now, it’s not helping you over the long term. It’s your brain doing what it thinks it needs to do to avoid discomfort and pain. Remember: this emotion will go away. If you find yourself going down the rabbit hole, cling to that mantra. You can also chant: I know what healing eating looks like for me. I know what would be helpful for me. I stop and pay attention to what I eat. I don't let myself starve. I plan. I allow myself to eat when I’m physically hungry. I am learning to recognize what physical hunger feels like. Every time you listen to your body, you take good care of yourself. It’s not about dieting or deprivation; it’s about being honest with what’s best for yourself. 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode “A healthy relationship with food is one that is natural and easy and not stressful. It's forgiving.” “One of those laws of inner physics: nothing is permanent. So it doesn't really matter what's going on in that moment, if it's an emotion, if it's a sensation, guarantee 100%, it's not going to be there very long.” “So the bird's eye view, this special trick is to remember the impermanence of all things because this is really the core of suffering. We're thinking things are going to be permanent, or we're thinking that things should be a certain way, and they're not.” “Each time is just a way to learn and grow and love yourself through it and be compassionate. There's nothing you can’t handle. You're just gonna be present in life doing the best you can.” “There's always a way to take care of yourself. And this is taking care of yourself. It’s listening to your body and not doing something that you're going to later regret. And this has nothing to do with dieting. And this has nothing to do with deprivation. This is about being honest with yourself, and what would be the best for yourself and your body.” Resources Dr. Amy Johnson’s blog If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to schedule an appointment or take my class? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Have you ever built up good eating habits, only to return to old ones later on? It hurts when it happens. You might feel disappointment, frustration, sadness, guilt — but it’s okay to feel these things. They’re all normal emotions to have. It’s also normal to falter occasionally. In this episode, I discuss why we often self-sabotage when changing our eating habits. No, it doesn’t speak about your worth or ability. You may be looking in the wrong place entirely. Changing habits is a long journey made of small steps, and it’s going to have obstacles and challenges along the way. It’s more important to remember that you can choose how to act and react. Take these challenges as gifts and opportunities. Before I recap the show notes I want to alert listeners that I started a class last March 9, 2021 and you can still sign up to catch up with our lessons. Yes, my CLASS started last March 9 and you can still enroll! This transformative class includes a lot of weekly content, as well as Zoom sessions from 7:30 to 9 pm Eastern time. The next zoom session is Tuesday March 22. The class includes pre-recorded videos, audio recordings, handouts, and membership in a small Facebook community. It is packed with content and comes with a money-back guarantee! You can't take this class and not begin to understand the roots of your eating habits that you might be frustrated with. From this understanding will come change. To sign up for the class or to get private help, visit my website . You can also send me an email at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com . Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how you can change troublesome eating habits. Learn how you can you make the change as a process of small incremental steps. Learn more about the understanding that life happens to us, by us, for us, and through us. Episode Highlights Focus on What Matters Many of my clients come to me and say they have a habit of not following through with their resolutions. Of course, this is frustrating, and many feel guilty and lose trust in their ability to change. Here’s a little secret: what works is a small, gradual change. You cannot change everything overnight. We all have habits that stem deeply from childhood or past experiences. These habits can affect our thinking, our emotional state, and our eating patterns. When we want to change our habits, we need to focus on what lies within us. How Can We Change Our Behavior? There are two main things to consider when changing behavior: deep reflection and specific habits. Specific habits should focus on making things happen the way you want them to happen. Examples of habits are food timing, food planning, and food quality, and shopping habits. Remember, it takes time and patience to change behaviors. It is why we need to be honest with ourselves and reflect on what we can do one step at a time. Make one or two reasonable and achievable goals at a time and focus only on that. Setting Goals and What That Looks Like One way to start changing your eating habits is intuitive eating. It is the practice of noticing when you’re hungry or full. It’s about tuning into what your body might want and need. What can specific goals look like? Here is a quick list for you to consider: Focus on waiting until you know you’re hungry before a meal. Focus on slowing down when eating and noticing when you feel satisfied. A goal might be to stop eating before you’re full. Keep a food record to note hunger and fullness throughout the day. Consider a specific amount of fruits, vegetables, or other foods per day. Don’t be rigid. Try boundaries and limits on food portions before you start eating. For example, think about the perfect portion size that would feel right in your body before you plate your food or choose the snack size. Once you are eating and your dopamine takes over you might end up in a food trance. Remember, your goals need to suit you. It’s going to be different for everybody. Small incremental changes over a long period will be more sustainable. You Need to Trust the Process The first day we resolve to change, we usually feel confident and determined. However, as time passes, it gets more difficult to stay enthusiastic. Eventually we stop caring and self-sabotage. When we change habits and incorporate new ones, it is a long process. We’re continuously building skills. It won’t be perfect all the time, and there will be days when we get overwhelmed with stress. That’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up due to these small setbacks; get back up and trust in the process. You’re not alone in this. Tune in to the full podcast episode to hear a similar story about one of my clients. Life Happens To Us Life happens to us; we can’t always choose the events that happen in our lives. Experiences can make us feel powerless, inadequate, scared, judged, and unattractive. These feelings can stay with us for a long time if we don’t know how to work through them. Sometimes, we take on roles and behaviors to avoid painful feelings and experiences. Life happens by us as defense mechanisms against something else. When we think life happens to me, we can become control freaks or feel helpless or victimized. We will keep putting attention on where we’re lacking and our problems. The moment we start accepting that life happens through our perceptions and reactions to it, we take responsibility. We realize that we can respond differently. We don’t need to be in control all the time, and that’s okay. Choose to See the Silver Lining Life happens for us. Many people believe that things in life happen for a reason. I choose to believe that life’s obstacles can be lessons or realizations. Without these struggles we wouldn’t learn important lessons. You are a gift to the world. You don’t have to look like other people. Just focus on what makes you ‘you.’ Remind yourself to live your life in the present moment. Treating Yourself with Compassion It’s normal to go through problems in life. I have three children , and my middle child was a “nightmare” from a very early age. I read every parenting book I could find and hired experts to help me, yet he continued to present me with ongoing struggles. In his teens he fell into a life of extreme drug addiction which lasted 10 years. He was repeatedly sent to jail, was kicked out of drug program after drug program, and manipulated and lied—as addicts must do to survive. I had to exercise tough love. He had times of homelessness. Over the years, I tried everything to help, but it was a problem I could not fix. My grief and panic consumed me. During this time, I stumbled upon the concept of ‘life happens for us.’ This concept changed my life. It gave me relief and acceptance and I was able to stop trying to be in control. I learned to just trust life. Listen to the full episode for a full account of the struggles I had with my child and how it all turned out. (Even at the time I recorded this podcast I couldn’t have predicted the astonishing turns his life would continue to take. He is now part owner of two drug rehabilitation centers and is currently building an inpatient hospital for people who suffer from mental illness) Take Small Steps We all get stuck. Feelings of fear and inadequacy can convince us that there’s a magic answer out there, and we end up looking in the wrong direction. Step back and ask yourself, what is it that I really want? Look at the big picture. Every challenge is a gift and an opportunity for growth and change. 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode “Your mind has this habit of wanting to toe the line: a bite here, an excuse there, and we keep doing that over and over. And then, of course, we're frustrated, we're guilty, we're sad, and we don't trust our ability to stay on a diet or have success.” “It's much better to just make one or two reasonable goals and to focus only on that, and to relax and be patient and accept that the process of behavior change takes time.” “You just need to be clear on where you specifically get tripped up and where you specifically need improvement or would like improvement. It's very different for everybody.” “A goal of learning how to honor the body and listen to the body is much more effective and helpful than a goal of weight loss.” “Life happens to us, life happens by us, life happens for us, and life happens through us. . . These concepts are radically important to understand if we want to yank ourselves out of our recurrent patterns.” Resources Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to schedule an appointment? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Do you remember how heavy it was to carry your backpack to school? In the same way, your mind has an unseen bag, holding the feelings and weighted expectations you put on your shoulders every day. These emotions and thoughts add enormous weight to our “backpack” that can have real, material consequences in our life. In this episode, I teach you an exercise where we look inside our mental and emotional backpacks and notice which heavy rocks you might have that represent your emotional weight. I go over the most common “rocks” in the way of happiness among the clients that I typically work with. Once we recognize them, we can start letting them go — one rock at a time. Before I recap the show notes I want to alert listeners that I have a class starting March 9, 2021 and that you can sign up now to begin receiving class materials and get a head start. Yes, my 10-week CLASS starts March 9! This transformative class will include a lot of weekly content, as well as 5 Zoom sessions from 7:30 to 9 pm Eastern time. The content includes pre-recorded videos, audio recordings, handouts, and membership in a Facebook community. It is packed with content and comes with a money-back guarantee! You can't take this class and not begin to understand the roots of your eating habits that you might be frustrated with. From this understanding will come change. To sign up for the class or to get private help, visit my website . You can also send me an email at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com . Back to the Podcast! Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Unpack the rocks in your own backpack. Learn to thank these rocks as part of your journey as you let them go. Develop an intention and willingness to put these rocks to rest. Episode Highlights The Weight on Your Shoulders Bearing a heavy backpack day in and day out can drain your energy. You might feel guilty for not getting anything done. You might retreat and isolate yourself. Some might feel angry over the injustice of it all and lash out against others. When you peek inside this mental backpack, you'll discover "rocks" weighing you down. The rocks in your backpack represent an unhealthy belief or attachment to an idea. The first rock contains the word "thin." The problem might lie not in valuing it but in overvaluing it. If you can slowly learn to let go of the intensity of the value to be thin then you will be able to become a more intuitive eater. Unmasking Secrets and Confusion The second rock is "secrets." Whether it's a secret binge eating habit or endlessly worrying about your weight, keeping secrets builds tension that can be a problem. Before coming out with the truth, thank your secrets. We need to be grateful for the obstacles that come our way for the lessons they leave us. The third rock is "confusion." There are countless diets, workouts, and information around us that it's easy to become overwhelmed. But if we learn to stay still, the answer will present itself. When we let go of the need to know, we can tap into the right way to eat. The Rocks in Your Backpack Your backpack is filled with many rocks, and some of the ones mentioned include: shame control fear of hunger and fullness loneliness These rocks change the way we see ourselves. Shame builds up and can be hard to let go of — it can take a lot of therapy and research into the roots of the shame, yet practicing a willingness to put the shame aside from time to time can change the course of your entire day. The need for control is another common rock that can take complete hold of us. Fear of hunger and fear of fullness also can create beliefs that aren’t accurate for us, such as the belief that we can’t handle a small amount of hunger, or that if we’re full it means we’re going to get fatter. Loneliness shackles us to reliance on food or other sources of happiness when people aren’t around. The journey of healing might involve letting go of the rock of believing that you can’t be with loneliness. Letting go of these rocks one by one frees you and opens your life to more possibilities. Bearing the Burden The burden of our rocks limits us and makes us feel insecure, regretful and guilty. Often, we repress our fears which leads to eating. For others, these rocks can strengthen a victim stance, fueling learned helplessness and more fear. Accepting that these rocks exist and weigh us down is the first step. Learning to Let Go It's not a simple task to take these rocks out of our mental backpacks. Unlike physical objects, these rocks exist in our minds and cannot be thrown away that easily. It helps to start with the idea that carrying these rocks for more than what is necessary can get in the way of your happiness. Identify the rocks in your mind and how they may be weighing you down. From then, you can form an intention to thank these rocks for their lessons and finally put them to rest. 5 Powerful Quotes "We naturally compare ourselves to other people. It's a survival thing. So it's not really valuing the attractive, thin body, it's overvaluing it." "Thank you for the opportunity to know that I don't have all the answers. And I'm going to surrender because I can't manage this anymore." "Even our shame is to be thanked. Because it is from our shame that we open up that we change that we are broken apart. So we can realize that we have to love ourselves, or we will not have any chance of having a peaceful life. " "There's no advantage, there's no benefit – nothing to holding on to this rock. It will not make you not make a mistake in the future. It will not do that at all. It will make you feel miserable and sad and overwhelmed, and it will make you eat. It will make you have sadness. Quick, get that rock out of the bag. And let's move on. "As we put the rock of denial into the circle, and we accept, all right, yes, I do have some issues that need to be looked at. In fact, it becomes a little lighter and a little easier." If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Do you want to enroll in my class, or have any questions or want to schedule an appointment? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Do you find yourself stuck in a loop of overthinking thoughts about what you should be eating or what you shouldn’t be eating or what you want to be eating later in the day? Do you also get stuck ruminating on thoughts about your body? Our mind sends us innocent little thoughts over and over - scientists guess that we might think 80,000 thoughts in a day. But when these thoughts connect to our self worth or to our buried beliefs that we are not enough, we get hooked. We ruminate, we try to fix, we panic, we plan, we come up with excuses, and now one innocent little thought has become a hundred or even a thousand thoughts all along the same theme. The mind also loves to think in terms of worst-case scenarios, because then it thinks it is keeping you safe. The mind often believes that if you can just obsess a bit more you will think your way out of the life and death situation of the moment. Ha! It’s sort of hilarious actually. If this sounds like you, well how’s that working for you? The overthinking mind creates a cycle of obsession driven by guilt, fear, and shame and can quickly turn you inside of yourself. You stay in your head, in your thoughts, you barely notice the world around you, and you might become irritable, self-absorbed, or dissociated. when this happens you will have less (not more!) control over your eating habits. In this episode, I talk about some of the obsessive thoughts that can derail us. I discuss specific ways to stop this obsessive cycle and control the thought machine that is your brain. I also address effective ways to set goals and intentions to give you the results you want. Before I recap the show notes I want to alert listeners that I have a class starting March 9, 2021 and that you can sign up now to begin receiving class materials and get a head start. Yes, my 10-week CLASS starts March 9! This transformative class will include 5 zoom sessions from 7:30 to 9 pm eastern time as well as numerous pre-recorded videos, audio recordings, handouts, and membership in a Facebook community. It is packed with content and comes with a money-back guarantee! You can't take this class and not begin to understand the roots of your eating habits that you might be frustrated with. To sign up for the class or to get private help, visit my website . You can also send me an email at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com . Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how fear drives your obsessive thinking about food and your body. Find out about the basic laws of inner physics that happen inside our body when we think about food. Discover how you can acknowledge but not give in to cravings. Episode Highlights How to Change Your Fear About Your Eating and Your Body When you're feeling out of control with your eating habits, you're perceiving an internal state of emergency. The truth is though, this emergency only exists in your mind. Being in this internal state can make you zone out, mindless, and then stop caring. It’s so overwhelming that you might just get more out of control in an effort to calm your inner world down. Everyone’s got a list of regular excuses when it comes to eating. Often, you aren't conscious of these — you shut your obsessive mind off so you can enjoy the food in front of you. Parts of you will be very upset with your eating though, and the internal polarized energy will begin growing. Most likely obsessive thinking will take over. The only way to stop this obsessive thinking is to stop fearing the body you currently have. If you could find a way to make peace with your body in that moment, even just for 5 minutes, everything can calm down. One of the very best tools for understanding and working with the inner world is through Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. IFS helps us understand that past experiences of shame often create this cycle of needing to focus on eating and your body. The feeling of being unsafe in your body now is often based largely on a memory of past experiences. Your Brain Is Only a Thinking Machine You are not totally helpless, even though parts of you will feel this way. Parts of you feel helpless while other parts of you will feel and experience other things. Your brain is just a thinking machine that has a habit of repeating the same thoughts over and over again. There will be parts inside of you desperate not to repeat difficult experiences from the past, and these parts can run our lives. When they completely take us over we can get trapped in all sorts of overthinking. These overthinking, dieting, planning, perfectionistic parts always are trying to help you — even if it doesn’t appear that way. You might think of these thoughts as well-worn pathways in the brain. Every time you think of the fear of how you look or how you eat, you’re reinforcing the strength of this pathway and this part will grow stronger. You might end up reverting back to this well traveled pathway with more and more ease. It is very familiar and easy to think what you keep thinking. Remember: energy flows where attention goes. There is good news! You can change your thinking patterns because the brain can rewire itself. This ability is called neuroplasticity. While it's helpful to acknowledge the fear and the discomfort from these thoughts, learning how to engage with them in a different way or not at all is the trick. There is a process that you can learn, and yes, it takes time. Establishing Your Goal Losing weight is not a helpful goal. Paradoxically, the most effective objective is, "I want to not care about my body weight." It's more likely to give you the results that you want. To do this, you have to stop participating in the thoughts about your body, diet, food, weight in the same way. Often it’s most helpful to stop participating with them at all. Meanwhile, some people have the opposite problem—they don't care enough. But generally deep down inside, they care too much. They care so much that they become in denial. It makes them go numb and eating takes them over. The bottom line is: you need to listen to your body and your thoughts and acknowledge that they're there. You don't have to act on what they're telling you to do. Calm them down, and perhaps tell them that you're not going to talk to them right now. Often the first step is in just noticing your patterns of eating, obsessing, and reacting. Acknowledging these is where healing starts. To be curious and welcome them is a great option. When you see obsessive thoughts, you can say, “Oh, hello! There’s that thought.” Often it’s very effective when for a moment you just notice it without caring about it or taking the bait to go into the world of obsessing. Stopping the Obsessive Thinking Over Food It’s very helpful to get into a practice of eating nutritious, nourishing foods on a mostly regular basis. Don't skip meals. Most people need to eat a minimum of three meals a day. If you want to lose weight, you can reduce the amount of food you eat by focusing on portion size but don't go overboard. Here are some notes on food and eating: A balanced meal includes sources of protein, fat, and carbohydrate. Otherwise it’s easy to feel deprived and be starving an hour later. Fruits and vegetables are very healing the brain and body and keep you satisfied. Eating “diet food” that you don’t like is a setup to fail. Instead, just eat a smaller portion of what you want. Seek balance and moderation, and slow down your eating. It can be helpful to reduce your sugar intake, but you don't need to be extreme. Highly restrictive diets are not going to work in the long run. How to Deal with Cravings Most people go to sugar when they find themselves in that “go off the rails” moment. Having a goal of “no sugar” can be very helpful for some, but it doesn’t work for everyone. What might be more helpful is to make the goal not to care about the craving. It takes us back to the basics of not engaging with the fear thoughts. Just notice the craving from a separate place. You might feel deprived. But feeling deprived boils down to feeling uncomfortable. It's just a sensation driven by a thought. When you learn to stay with this discomfort, recognizing it’s merely a thought, you will feel unbelievably empowered. When you get out of the thought stream, a part of you with more wisdom will take over. 5 Powerful Quotes from this Episode “If you want to lose weight, and you want to stop obsessing over your food choices or your body, you must understand that the problem lies in the paradox: you want it too much.” “It's this physics of life that we have got to understand and work with: we attract to us the very situations that we need to learn to overcome.” “The thing is, the mind knows exactly what it's doing. The mind is always trying to help you. It just doesn't appear that way.” “Whatever you're believing about your body, or the foods, or your obsessions, you're really basing them off of the past. And you know what? We're not in the past. We're in the now; we're in the moment. Every second is an opportunity to change things.” “We can control our lives. We can control our mind when we learn and we realize it's just a machine of thinking.” If you listened to the podcast and enjoyed it, please share and post a review! Have any questions or want to schedule an appointment or enroll in my class? You can email me at betsy@betsythurstonrd.com or visit my website . To making peace with eating, Betsy…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
Betsy Thurston MPH RD talks about the mind and its relentless overthinking, which leads to behaviors that don't serve us well. The brain at any moment is just doing what all brains do, which is trying to help us. In this podcast she talks about the polyvagal theory and how your nervous system is designed to help you, even as it can trap you into unwanted states of being. By understanding the brain and the nature of thought you can learn to relax your attachment to unwanted behaviors.…
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Binge Dieting Learn how to change your relationship with Eating
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Welcome to the weekly podcast of Elevation Church led by Pastor Steven Furtick. To learn more visit our website at http://elevationchurch.org or download the Elevation App. To support this ministry and help us continue to reach people all around the world click here: http://ele.vc/WeX3nP
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The Faith Today Podcast-Conversation inspired by Canada's Christian magazine. The podcast features interviews with Canadian Christians as they sort through the pressing issues of the day and topics like spiritual growth and health, other religions, religious freedom, vocation, and tough questions of faith and living in contemporary society.
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Welcome to the Enjoying Everyday Life TV podcast with Joyce Meyer. To learn more, visit our website at joycemeyer.org or download the Joyce Meyer Ministries App. By supporting Joyce Meyer Ministries, you can help us reach hurting people around the world. To find out more, go to joycemeyer.org/donate
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Follow the audio shiurim, lectures and speeches of Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, global religious leader, philosopher, author of over 30 books and moral voice for our time. Rabbi Sacks served as Chief Rabbi of the United Hebrew Congregations of the Commonwealth between September 1991 and September 2013. A full biography - together with an extensive online archive of Rabbi Sacks' work - is available at www.rabbisacks.org or you can follow him on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram @rabbisacks.
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