I’m Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and I teach people to recognize and heal the symptoms of Childhood PTSD. Welcome to my podcast!I’m not a doctor or therapist; I know about childhood trauma because I lived it, and I discovered a radical approach to healing that focuses first on calming neurological dysregulation, which is common in people who grew up with abuse and neglect. In my podcasts, I teach about dysregulation – how to know if you have it, what it can do to yo ...
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Hi, I'm Candice Horbacz I believe that life is messy and that's okay, that thinking for yourself is rare but necessary, and that we should always be expanding our curiosity. This podcast aims to have conversations that are thought provoking and challenge you to become a critical thinker.
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Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions from the perspective of a happily married couple. Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a ...
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"BREAKING NEWS: Your dream life (and your dream bod) isn’t just going to happen because you made a vision board. Join Oonagh Duncan (fitness expert and bestselling author of Healthy As F*ck/Ditch The Diet) to examine the habits of kicking ass every day - so you can create a life of no regrets. Whether you want to lose weight, get rich, or save the whales while writing bestselling mystery novels- get ready to be inspired. This isn’t about incantations and putting the right crystals in your br ...
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Listen as Chris Seiter helps women through breakups and recovery. The Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast is one of the most popular self help and dating podcasts online today. Seiter takes real life situations on one by one and provides valuable advice that have helped thousands of women find success and peace with their love lives.
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You have a friend you’re secretly in love with. You thought you had to act like just a friend, to keep them as a friend, because you were sure they would never have feelings for you. That could be true, or could be your low self-esteem talking. What if all this time, they were pretending to be just a friend too? Should you risk telling them how you…
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#128 Overcoming Trauma: How to Re-Regulate Your Nervous System for Better Relationships | Anna Runkle
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In this episode of Chatting With Candice, Candice Horbacz and Anna Runkle dive deep into how childhood trauma influences adult behavior, particularly in relationships. Anna Runkle, the "Crappy Childhood Fairy," shares insights on ending toxic relationships, building healthy connections, and the challenges of going against societal norms. Learn how …
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Your Crappy Childhood Ft Anna Runkle, Aka Crappy Childhood Fairy - Ep 329
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Today's guest has come hotly requested by many of you and we're so happy to dissect the not-so-happy topic of childhood trauma with her. Anna Runkle, aka the one and only @CrappyChildhoodFairy , is the author of the upcoming book "Re-Regulated" (releases October 1, 2024 - preorder below). She has amassed a whopping 860K+ Youtube subscribers with he…
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Bachelorette Recap: Finale | Devin & Jenn, A Shakespearean Tragedy - Ep 332
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Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down the shocking FINALE of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://sundaysfordogs.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your first order! - Go to https://mudwtr.com and use code SHANDY to get up to 43% off you…
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When traumatized people date, it’s easy to detach from reality, and create elaborate constructs that explain why other people do what they do, and why we feel hurt by it – without having to actually admit what's really happening. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who is feeling confused (a tell-tale sign you've been "soft-ghosted" wh…
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Hey everyone! Welcome to another episode of Chatting with Candice. This week, I'm flying solo and diving into some of the most talked-about topics right now. I share my thoughts on RFK's surprising endorsement of Trump and what that could mean moving forward. We'll also explore how Trump's approach seems to be evolving, especially with Tulsi Gabbar…
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Send us a text Fashion is a dance off classic lines like “Do I look good in this?” versus “Omg, I love her sweater”. Wardrobe stylist and emotional intelligence coach, Jennine Jacob, joins me to talk about fashion…and how its more than just trends in a magazine. Style has an impact on your mental health in more ways than you realize. When you love …
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Even if you're good at acting confident, you may be giving off signs that you feel "less than" other people. Low self-esteem can have the effect of pushing good people away from you, and this in turn makes it harder to grow in confidence. In this video from my archive, I teach about what I call "the underdog effect" -- the unspoken signals you may …
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They're Not Into You, So You Love Them MORE (4-Video Compilation)
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People neglected as children sometimes spend their WHOLE life longing for love – chasing it, fighting for it, and never having it, all because of an attraction to unavailable people. This includes people who are married and can’t really be with you (but string you along), or people who flat out aren’t into you. Yet your wounds from childhood make y…
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It’s a terrible form of abuse when whole families gang up on one person. Sometimes it’s scapegoating, where they blame you for problems you never caused. Sometimes it’s just plain bullying and cruelty, and of course it leaves terrible wounds, even when you KNOW the abuse was about them, not you, and even when you’ve worked hard to create a good lif…
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LOVE FEST! Caelynn & Dean Bell Are Mega Yin Yang - Ep 331
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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by a Bachelor Nation POWER COUPLE who has been married for nearly a year. You got to know Caelynn on Colton Underwood's season of The Bachelor, and Dean on Rachel Lindsay's season of The Bachelorette, but it was on season 6 of Bachelor in Paradise where we saw them escape reality TV, hand-in-hand! Today…
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Some people get consumed by narcissistic loved ones they’re trying to stay connected with. Other people get off the treadmill by going no contact. But a lot of people are in the middle, with a mix of concern, and a desire to help – with total exasperation, feeling drained and fed up with the narcissist’s endless demands for attention and free labor…
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Bachelorette Recap: Ep 8 + Men Tell All | Fantasy Suites & Hot Seats - Ep 330
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Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're doing double, we're breaking down both Episode 8 and Men Tell All of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.pestly.co and use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your order! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the Z…
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Send us a text Now that we’re alone… I have a confession. I’ve spent 1 million dollars on coaching, courses, and education across my lifetime. (No, not all at once, Mr. Money Bags, but c'mon, that’s a shocking figure). And ya know, I think I have one lesson to show for it. So that’s what I’m dropping in to tell ya. One thing I’ve noticed across my …
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I have a secret portal that allows me to see and understand what childhood trauma does to people -- the different patterns it follows, and which kinds of people end up making rapid progress, and which ones stay stuck. I get this insight from letters and YouTube comments -- thousands of them. And there are basically two kinds of comments: One is the…
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Emotional Dysregulation Damages Relationships (4-Video Compilation)
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If you grew up hurt by your parents -- neglected, not heard, not seen – chances are good that you get emotionally dysregulated. This means your nervous system reacts to stressors with EXTRA strong emotions. When most people would be hurt, you’re devastated. When you fall in love feels ENORMOUS. And getting angry (unfortunately for the people who lo…
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A lot of us who grew up with trauma have trouble shaking off the feeling that we’re somehow different than non-traumatized people. It seems sometimes like everyone else seems to know how to act, what to say, how to be connected -- but that we never got the memo. Do you ever feel like that? In this video I talk about the feeling among people who wer…
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Everyone MUST be free to pursue the relationships and the way of life that makes them happy. Provided what they are doing is legal, we can’t condemn them. But even though some behaviors are legal, it doesn’t mean they aren’t destructive to others -- I’m talking about bullsh**ing vulnerable people into having intimate relationships that are NOT in t…
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Send us a text We’re back to finish up our chat on the “magical wonder drug,” so now is your warning: if you didn't catch last week's episode, go back and listen now! Last week, we learned of the benefits and some of the risks associated with Ozempic and other semaglutide medications. Today, Johann, author of Magic Pill, shares some more of the ris…
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Bachelorette Recap: Ep 7 | Hometownzzzzzzz... 😴 - Ep 328
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Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7, aka Hometown Week of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://sundaysfordogs.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your first order! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first su…
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So many people are feeling blocked from connecting with other people. If you find yourself trying and trying, but nothing seems to lead to friendship or people even seem to be pulling away from you, there might be a problem with your *attunement* – your ability to sense another person’s openness, or to “read the room". In this video I'll tell you s…
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Avoid These Self-Centered Behaviors (3-Video Compilation)
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It's popular to call out relatives and ex-partners as narcissists, but what about the self-centered behaviors and thinking that are common in people traumatized as children? In this 4-video compilation, I share four of my most popular videos about the way ordinary people may exhibit narcissistic behaviors. These traits can make life hard while they…
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One very bad sign that someone is losing themself in an unhappy relationship, is that they write to me about their partner and how wonderful they are, then tell me all about their partner’s traumatic past -- and then list all the ways their partner is mistreating them. It's as if they don't want me to see the facts. Trauma might be an explanation f…
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Q&A! The Case For Fading, Judging Breastfeeding & Confronting Tardy Friends - Ep 327
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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your long distance boyfriend suddenly stops texting you without warning to go play video games, is that a sign of disrespect or a silly nothing burger? If your friends say they'll visit but routinely show up late (or not at all), what's a Shandy to do? If your dating situation makes yo…
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#127 Chase Geiser - From UK Immigration to Kamala Harris: An In-Depth Look at Cultural Conflicts, and Political Scandals
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Candice Horbacz and Chase Geiser engage in a thought-provoking such as the UK’s immigration issues and cultural assimilation, drawing historical parallels with fascism and communism. They critique U.S. political figures, including Joe Biden and Kamala Harris, and address media narratives, Hunter Biden’s laptop, and alleged deep state influence. The…
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Unpopular opinion, but so-called “adult entertainment” could not exist if there weren’t a steady supply of people who were abused as children, and skilled at shutting themselves down emotionally so that other people could use them for “pleasure.” It’s one of many ways that manipulative people – or those they have manipulated – like to normalize an …
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Send us a text Ozempic…the magic medicine that's gaining traction around the world. In fact, the science and impact behind Ozempic and other medications like it are changing the world in ways we haven't seen since the invention of the smartphone. Now, I thought I didn't have much interest in or care about this wave of “magic” weight loss, but when …
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Bachelorette Recap: Ep 6 | Sam And The Case Of The Missing Adjectives - Ep 326
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Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com:/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3…
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There’s an almost universal symptom that people who grew up with trauma will tend to exhibit - and it’s a sense of isolation. Either you feel isolated even with people, or you literally isolate. Shutting people out feels like it's the right, best, most self caring thing you can do sometimes when you're under stress. But if you think that's a good t…
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Limerence Is Toxic Fix for Lonely, Joyless Life (4-Video Compilation)
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If you were emotionally neglected as a child, you may be extra-prone to direct your romantic energy toward people who are not with you. It’s the consequence of an injury to our neurological development, and it can have terrible consequences for you and the people who love you. In this 4-video compilation, I share some of my most popular videos abou…
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Just because someone got a credential to practice therapy doesn’t necessarily mean they’re mentally stable, or able to prioritize the attention that you deserve, over whatever it is they’re feeling. If you had a parent who neglected you or exhibited narcissistic traits, you may have a blind spot for this behavior in others. In this video I respond …
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#126 Laila Micklewait - Trafficking Hub, Censorship or Crusade
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Why Pornhub Failed Victims: Trafficking Hub's Laila Mickelwait Reveals the TruthIn this episode of Chatting with Candice, Candice Horbacz dives into a crucial discussion with Laila Mickelwait, founder of Trafficking Hub and the Justice Defense Fund. They explore the disturbing issue of non-consensual and illegal content on Pornhub, including child …
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UPDATES To Shandies' Questions, Volume 4! - Ep 325
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It's that time again, Shandies!!! We're back with volume 4 of our very special biannual UPDATES! When listening to our caller episodes and Q&As, if you find yourself wondering "where are they now?", today is all about filling in those blanks! We called out for updates from our question-asking Shandies and many were kind enough to provide their subs…
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So many of us who grew up with trauma live as “divided selves” – longing for real love, but playing along to keep people around who DON’T want that – not with us, anyway – but who are happy to soak all our attention and time Iand of course, sex). Your ability to believe you can change how they feel by giving them all you've got – but never honestly…
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Send us a text Hello, paging women in their midlife…are you out there? This one’s for you! If you're usually a listener to the audio podcast only, thanks…I love you for it. But if you can, this time tune in to our YouTube video podcast to see my guest, Star Monroe's, energy and charm in action. Star is a psychotherapist and master life coach who, i…
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Bachelorette Recap: Ep 5 | Farmer Devin & The Sheep Herders - Ep 324
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Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DE…
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When we talk about trauma symptoms, we talk a lot about strong feelings, acting out and emotional dysregulation. But there’s this other side of how trauma wounds and CPTSD can control your behavior, and it’s through *self-suppression*. In this video I teach the signs that your trauma is driving to suppress yourself. You may be surprised how much it…
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How Trauma Makes It Hard to See What's Real (4-Video Compilation)
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When it comes to healing CPTSD, there's abundant advice and hundreds of treatments, but they rarely take into account that trauma wounds make it difficult to learn, process, remember, and categorize information. When your thinking is distorted, it's hard to tell what is your responsibility and what is not -- and to recognize choices available to yo…
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A huge number of people who lived through trauma have ended up with a LOT of physical clutter. And because clutter can hold you back, it’s a good thing when you release belongings that you’ve held onto that you DON’T need, that you can’t use, and that only bring you a sense of stress and obligation. But what about the old letters, gifts and cards t…
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In this episode of Chatting with Candice, Candice Horbacz and Thais Gibson explore attachment theory’s impact on relationships and parenting. They discuss insecure vs. secure attachment styles, the potential for mixed styles, and the influence of parenting and childcare on a child's emotional needs. The conversation includes debates on universal pa…
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Caller 📞 Sessions! Career Vs Love: "He Moved For My Dream And Now Says It's 'My Turn'" - Ep 333
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Callers are back in session! Today we're joined by lovely Elaine. She's on the exciting precipice of transitioning from grad school to career, but she feels a sense of obligation to her longtime boyfriend who's followed her to support her dreams. When it comes to the sacrifices we make for a relationship, is there such a thing as quid pro quo? List…
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