80. Your Nervous System Is Speaking Through Your Relationships, Part 1. Attachment; The Baggage You Didn't Know You Carried.

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Imagine carrying an invisible suitcase into every relationship—one packed with your earliest lessons about love, safety, and connection. In this revealing episode of The Q&A Files, host Trisha Jamison teams up with Dr. Jeff Jamison and therapist Tony Overbay to crack open that suitcase and examine what's inside.
Through vivid metaphors and relatable stories, we explore the four attachment styles that shape our relationships: the grounded oak tree (secure), the clingy octopus (anxious), the withdrawing turtle (avoidant), and the conflicted cat in a tree (disorganized). These aren't just psychological categories—they're your nervous system's blueprint for how you give and receive love.
The conversation takes fascinating turns as Tony describes the "anxious-avoidant loop" that traps many couples in painful cycles, while Dr. Jeff offers compassionate insights about why we gravitate toward familiar patterns even when they hurt. You'll discover how early experiences with caregivers created an internal working model that guides your adult relationships, often operating below conscious awareness.
Whether you're overthinking every text message, shutting down during conflicts, or puzzled by your partner's reactions, this episode offers clarity and hope. The panel shares how attachment patterns can shift with awareness and intention, emphasizing that understanding your style isn't about blame but about creating new possibilities for connection.
Ready to recognize your attachment style and transform your relationships? Listen now, and be sure to tune in next week for part two, featuring practical steps toward secure attachment and the introduction of Trisha's new Attachment Map tool.

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1. Welcome to The Q&A Files (00:00:00)

2. Life Updates and Celebrations (00:06:41)

3. Understanding Attachment Styles (00:21:14)

4. The Four Attachment Patterns (00:31:36)

5. Attachment in Relationships (00:35:47)