26. From Love Bombs and Hoovering to Ghosting and Flying Monkeys; Decoding Divorce and Relationship Jargon

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Family Secrets: Chris Pratt & Millie Bobby Brown Share Stories From Set 22:08

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Host Francesca Amiker sits down with directors Joe and Anthony Russo, producer Angela Russo-Otstot, stars Millie Bobby Brown and Chris Pratt, and more to uncover how family was the key to building the emotional core of The Electric State . From the Russos’ own experiences growing up in a large Italian family to the film’s central relationship between Michelle and her robot brother Kid Cosmo, family relationships both on and off of the set were the key to bringing The Electric State to life. Listen to more from Netflix Podcasts . State Secrets: Inside the Making of The Electric State is produced by Netflix and Treefort Media.…

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Have you ever found yourself grappling with terms like "gaslighting," "ghosting," or "trauma bonds," unsure of their meanings or implications?

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode, we delve into the complex world of divorce and relationship terminology and lingo…. A bit like an alternative dictionary.

There is so much of this language that has seeped into everyday conversations but often it leaves us feeling confused as to what the hell it all means. From "breadcrumbing" to "gaslighting," this episode is a bit like having your own translator.

TW: Some of the words and terms are complex and can be re-traumatising. If you are experiencing any of the abuse we talked about in today’s episode, please please please seek support.

These are some UK services for supporting domestic abuse:

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

https://refuge.org.uk/

Remember, you deserve to live a fulfilling and healthy life, free from toxic relationships and abuse.

Sending you SO much love

Sarah 🌸

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فصل ها

1. A whole new language needing an interpreter (00:00:00)

2. Closure to Co-dependency to Limerence (00:05:10)

3. Red flags, Pink flags....it's like a poxy circus (00:08:35)

4. Ghosting, Haunting and being on the bench (00:11:43)

5. Gaslighting and toxic relationships (00:12:57)

6. Pain Shopping.... no Gucci in sight (00:15:55)

7. Blame Shifting into Acronyms (00:18:12)

8. No Contact (and grey or yellow rock if you must) (00:20:01)

9. Love-Bombing to Hoovering (00:21:23)

10. Narcissists and The Cycle of Abuse (00:24:02)

11. Trauma Bonds (00:29:02)

12. Word Salad, Flying Monkeys and Triangulation (00:31:45)

13. Breadcrumbing and never getting the whole loaf.... onto baiting as reactive abuse (00:33:51)

14. Coercive Control (00:35:18)

15. Support from each other and from services (00:37:39)

16. New level, new Devil (00:39:36)

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#Society #Relationship #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Sarah Elizabeth #Divorce #Midlife #Breakup #Coaching #Start #Divorcees #Divorce Chapter #Rewrite

26. From Love Bombs and Hoovering to Ghosting and Flying Monkeys; Decoding Divorce and Relationship Jargon

The Divorce Chapter

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MP3•خانه قسمت

Send us a text

Have you ever found yourself grappling with terms like "gaslighting," "ghosting," or "trauma bonds," unsure of their meanings or implications?

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode, we delve into the complex world of divorce and relationship terminology and lingo…. A bit like an alternative dictionary.

TW: Some of the words and terms are complex and can be re-traumatising. If you are experiencing any of the abuse we talked about in today’s episode, please please please seek support.

These are some UK services for supporting domestic abuse:

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

https://refuge.org.uk/

Remember, you deserve to live a fulfilling and healthy life, free from toxic relationships and abuse.

Sending you SO much love

Sarah 🌸

فصل ها

1. A whole new language needing an interpreter (00:00:00)

2. Closure to Co-dependency to Limerence (00:05:10)

3. Red flags, Pink flags....it's like a poxy circus (00:08:35)

4. Ghosting, Haunting and being on the bench (00:11:43)

5. Gaslighting and toxic relationships (00:12:57)

6. Pain Shopping.... no Gucci in sight (00:15:55)

7. Blame Shifting into Acronyms (00:18:12)

8. No Contact (and grey or yellow rock if you must) (00:20:01)

9. Love-Bombing to Hoovering (00:21:23)

10. Narcissists and The Cycle of Abuse (00:24:02)

11. Trauma Bonds (00:29:02)

12. Word Salad, Flying Monkeys and Triangulation (00:31:45)

13. Breadcrumbing and never getting the whole loaf.... onto baiting as reactive abuse (00:33:51)

14. Coercive Control (00:35:18)

15. Support from each other and from services (00:37:39)

16. New level, new Devil (00:39:36)

84 قسمت

#Society #Relationship #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Sarah Elizabeth #Divorce #Midlife #Breakup #Coaching #Start #Divorcees #Divorce Chapter #Rewrite

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EP83 The Pip Talks Chapter: Midlife, Menopause & Taking Your Power Back 50:39

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Send us a text 💡 Ever felt like midlife is a crisis instead of an opportunity? Like your confidence is fading, your body is changing, and you don’t even recognise yourself anymore? 🔥 That ends today. This week, I’m joined by the brilliant Pippa Matthews, a midlife coach who helps women reclaim their confidence, navigate life’s transitions, and rediscover their power…. whether it’s after divorce, menopause, or a complete life overhaul. 🎙️ In this episode, we talk about: ✨ How Pippa went from a corporate career to coaching thousands of women through transformation. ✨ The unexpected symptoms of perimenopause that no one warns you about (brain fog, itchy skin, exhaustion… sound familiar?) ✨ How to spot the real signs of burnout and midlife crisis… and what to do about it. ✨ Why divorce doesn’t have to be a disaster….it can be a doorway to your best chapter (and why Pippa and her ex-husband are the unicorns 🦄) ✨ The "Happiness Buffet" strategy….Pippa’s simple but powerful way to start choosing yourself every day. 🚨 If you’ve been struggling to feel like yourself, this episode is the reminder you need: Midlife isn’t the end. It’s your chance to do life on YOUR terms. 🛠️ Resources & Links: Join Pippa’s free community, Mpowered: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mpoweredbypippa Follow Pippa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamthatpippa/ Check out Pippa’s website: www.pippamatthews.com Grab Pippa’s must-read book recommendation: Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis I LOVED chatting with Pippa, I hope you enjoy listening too 🩷 Loads of Love, Sarah x 🌸 Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club! 📚 This April, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan The blurb says: It will help you to: - keep yourself fit and healthy into older age - keep your brain firing on all cylinders - improve your sleep - deal with anxiety - thrive in your career - navigate changing relationships (whether that's empty nests or aging parents) - cope with illness and loss - be a healthier, more productive, creative and happy older person With a Midpoint Action Plan (MAP) at the end of each chapter, it contains all the tips and tricks, habits and practices you need for a positive mindset, a healthy body and a happy life. It's a must-have manual for all midlife men and women. So what’s stopping you? Because life after divorce doesn’t come with a manual…. but if it did, this book club would be i THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP82 Know Your Worth: The Self-Worth Reset 34:56

12 روز پیش34:56

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Send us a text 💡 Ever felt like you have to earn your worth? Like you’re only valuable if you’re doing, giving, or bending over backwards for everyone else? 🔥 Spoiler: That’s a lie. And this book will blow your mind. If You Struggle with Self-Worth, This One’s for You In this episode, we’re diving deep into Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur…. a book that will change the way you see yourself forever . If you’ve ever struggled with self-worth, people-pleasing, or feeling like you’re constantly running on empty while giving everything to others… this one’s for you. Here’s what we’re getting into: ✨ Why your worth is NOT based on what you do (and never was) ✨ The “windscreen” metaphor that will completely shift how you see self-esteem ✨ How childhood messages shaped your self-worth (without you even realizing it) ✨ The brutal cost of low self-esteem—burnout, boundaries, and why we feel guilty for taking up space ✨ How to rewire your inner critic (so she finally shuts the f*ck up ) 💛 Listen now & start reclaiming the worth that was always yours. Loads of Love, Sarah x 🌸 🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the episode, email a screenshot to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖 🚨 PLUS: If you’ve been wondering whether to join the Divorce Book Club, this is the episode that will convince you. Because this book? It’s the one that’ll crack you open. 📚 This March, we’re reading Runaway Husbands by Vikki Stark … This book unpacks the patterns and stages of what’s termed "Wife Abandonment Syndrome." Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal: Amazon.co.uk Whether you've personally encountered a runaway husband or not (personally I feel like infidelity has very similar patterns), reading this with the Divorce Book Club will share experiences, give some expert insights through the private podcasts, and just generally give you so much strength that comes from a community going through similar sh*t. Check it out below ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP81 The Liz Clark Chapter: The Art of Healing your Heart Too 33:59

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Send us a text In this powerful episode, I chat with Liz Clark, a divorce coach and founder of Heal Your Heart Too , about her intense healing journey post-divorce. Liz opens up about her toxic 18-year marriage, the impact of religion on her relationship, as well as how divorce became the catalyst for her personal growth. She shares how grief, trauma, and self-doubt shaped her experience….. and how she transformed pain into empowerment. Through self-love, therapy, boundaries, and creative healing like art and music, Liz has built a new, fulfilling life. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating post-divorce healing, struggling with self-worth, or looking for inspiration to rebuild a life they love. Key Topics Discussed: ✔️ Liz’s journey through an 18-year toxic marriage and painful divorce. ✔️ The impact of religion, grief, trauma, and feeling unseen in a relationship. ✔️ Breaking free from conditional love and rediscovering self-worth. ✔️ The importance of boundaries and emotional healing. ✔️ Art, music and creative expression as tools for healing. ✔️ The power of self-love and trusting yourself through divorce. ✔️ Forgiveness, closure, and learning to let go for inner peace. Powerful Quotes from Liz: 💬 "I completely changed myself to make this person love me… and it still wasn’t enough." 💬 "Divorce isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of something better." 💬 "Boundaries upset the people who can no longer control you….but they’re necessary." Liz’s Book Recommendation: 📚 Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? Dr Julie Smith Connect with Liz: 🌎 Website: healyourhearttoo.com 📸 Instagram: @heal.your.heart.2 🎤 Podcast: The Heart Healer (Podbean) Also, Liz has WRITTEN a book to help children after divorce: Check it out here ⬇️ Two Homes of Love by Miffy Lizanne I hope you enjoy the episode with Liz, Sending so much love, Sarah x 🌸 🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the episode, email a screenshot to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖 Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club! 📚 This March, we’re reading Runaway Husbands by Vikki Stark … This book unpacks the patterns and stages of what’s termed "Wife Abandonment Syndrome." Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal: Amazon.co.uk Whether you've personally encountered a runaway THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP80 The Secret Life You Never Knew Existed: How Infidelity Warps Your Reality 42:56

26 روز پیش42:56

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Send us a text 🚨 TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses betrayal trauma, gaslighting, and infidelity as a system of psychological abuse. Welcome to The Divorce Chapter . In this eye-opening episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on Dr. Omar Minwalla’s concept of "The Secret Sexual Basement." If you’ve ever felt blindsided by betrayal, gaslit into doubting your own reality, or struggled to piece together what was actually real in your relationship….this episode is a MUST listen. In This Episode, We Cover: 🔹 What The Secret Sexual Basement really is (hint: infidelity is not just about sex… it’s an entire system of deception). 🔹 The ten steps to understanding infidelity as a system of abuse. 🔹 How betrayal rewires your brain, body, and sense of reality. 🔹 The psychological fallout of discovery…. why it's more than just heartbreak. 🔹 How to rebuild trust in yourself after being deceived. 🔹 The societal collusion that enables and excuses deceptive sexuality. 🔹 Practical steps to reclaim your narrative, re-establish your reality, and reset your standards. 🔗 Learn more about Dr. Omar Minwalla’s work: https://minwallamodel.com/ 🎧 Listen now and remember: You are so much stronger than the secret basement. 💪 Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the episode, email a screenshot to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖 Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club! 📚 This March, we’re reading Runaway Husbands by Vikki Stark … This book unpacks the patterns and stages of what’s termed "Wife Abandonment Syndrome." Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal: Amazon.co.uk Whether you've personally encountered a runaway husband or not (personally I feel like infidelity has very similar patterns), reading this with the Divorce Book Club will share experiences, give some expert insights through the private podcasts, and just generally give you so much strength that comes from a community going through similar sh*t. Check it out below ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP79 The AI Divorce Toolkit: Smart Tech to Rebuild after Heartbreak 45:03

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Send us a text "Who knew AI could be your divorce recovery bestie?" In this episode of The Divorce Chapter , we’re going all in on a topic you probably never expected…. how AI can actually help you survive and THRIVE after divorce. Yep, AI isn’t just for tech nerds and sci-fi fans….it’s got tools that can help with everything from emotional healing and co-parenting to dating and rebuilding your future. 💔 AI for Emotional Recovery Reflectly ( Website ) Daylio ( Website ) Woebot ( Website ) Wysa ( Website ) Balance App ( Website ) 📅 AI for Organising Your Life Notion AI ( Website ) MindMeister ( Website ) Dream AI ( Website ) 💼 AI for Career & Business Teal HQ ( Website ) Jasper AI ( Website ) ChatGPT ( Website ) 💰 AI for Finances & Budgeting Money Dashboard ( Website ) Emma ( Website ) Snoop ( Website ) Moneyhub ( Website ) 👶 AI for Co-Parenting & Legal Assistance OurFamilyWizard ( Website ) 2Houses ( Website ) Coparently ( Website ) TalkingParents ( Website ) Amicable ( Website ) Calendly ( Website ) 💌 AI for Dating RIZZ AI ( Website ) SciMatch ( Website ) 🎭 AI for Protecting Yourself Brenda & Frank Conversation Analysis (Search in ChatGPT) Replika ( Website ) PimEyes ( Website ) Google Reverse Image Search ( Website ) MySudo ( Website ) 💡 Which AI tool are you most intrigued to try? Send a text to let me know 🩷 Loads of Love Sarah x THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP78 Are You Sabotaging Your Own Happiness After Divorce? Here’s How to Stop 24:33

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Send us a text 💡 What if the reason you keep ending up in the same patterns….relationships, finances, confidence….has nothing to do with bad luck and everything to do with your internal thermostat? In this episode, I’m looking at one of the biggest mindset shifts you can make after divorce…. raising your internal thermostat. Think about it….your brain, much like your home heating system, has a set point for what it believes is normal. If it’s set to struggle in relationships, in money, in self-worth… guess what? No matter how much you want to change, your subconscious will pull you right back to that same old temperature. 🚨 Ever wondered why… 🔥 You keep dating the same emotionally unavailable people? 🔥 You get a financial windfall… only to suddenly have an unexpected expense wipe it out? 🔥 No matter how much self-work you do, you still don’t feel “worthy” of more? That’s your thermostat, love. And it’s time to t urn it the hell up. 🎙️ In this episode, we’re covering: ✔️ How your subconscious thermostat controls your life (without you even realising) ✔️ How to identify your set point in love, money, and self-esteem ✔️ The sneaky ways we sabotage ourselves when things start feeling too good ✔️ How to reprogram your thermostat…. so your new normal is actually what you deserve 💭 Are you a thermostat, setting the temperature for your life? Or just a thermometer, reacting to whatever happens? If you’re ready to start raising the bar on your life after divorce….one degree at a time…. This episode is for you. Let’s go and crank it up 🔥 Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 P.S. And if you also want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply: Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts. Screenshot your review Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com P.P.S. We’re going deep this month in The Divorce Book Club with Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur….helping you break out of low self-worth cycles for good. It is SO good! Join us here ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP77 The Confessions of a Dating Coach Chapter: Love and Life after Divorce 47:09

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Send us a text 💔 Ever felt lost, unworthy, or terrified of being single forever after divorce? You're not alone. In this special guest episode, we chat with Claire Grigson, aka Confessions of a Dating Coach, who shares her journey from heartbreak and betrayal to becoming a powerhouse in dating and relationship coaching. Claire opens up about healing from an anxious attachment style, breaking toxic dating patterns, and learning to fall in love with life as a single woman. We talk about…. ✔️ Why the most important relationship you'll ever have is with yourself ✔️ How anxious attachment affects dating after divorce…. and what to do about it ✔️ Why romanticising your life as a single woman is the ultimate power move ✔️ Practical tips for building confidence and choosing healthier relationships This episode is packed with empathy, humour, and actionable advice to help you reclaim your confidence and glow-up your dating life….on your terms. ✨ Listen in and learn how to stop waiting to be chosen, and start choosing yourself. The book Claire mentions in the episode : The Untethered Soul http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1572245379/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb0f-21 To contact Claire : Instagram www.instagram.com/confessionsofadatingcoach/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@claire_grigson_coaching?lang=en-uk Facebook https://www.facebook.com/claire.grigson.coaching Glow Up Your Dating Bio: https://subscribepage.io/lQa3fn Email Claire@ClaireGrigson.com And if you want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply: Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts. Screenshot your review Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com Can’t wait to hear what you think of the episode ✨ I loved chatting with Claire ❤️ Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 P.S. Want to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem after divorce? Join The Divorce Book Club ! February’s book is Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur, and trust me….it’s absofuckinglutely life-changing Literally, £10 a month (plus VAT) to CHANGE YOUR GODDAMN LIFE ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP76 The 5 Second Rule: Divorce Edition 29:51

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Send us a text 💥 What if 5 seconds could change your life? This isn’t about dropping biscuits on the floor and pretending germs don’t exist 👀 Nope, we’re talking about Mel Robbins' The 5 Second Rule ….. the one that stops overthinking, boosts courage, and helps you make brave choices (even when you really don’t want to). In this episode, I’m taking the 5 Second Rule and giving it a divorce twist …. because, let’s be real, navigating post-divorce life can feel like a never-ending f*cking blooper reel of cringe-worthy moments, regrets, and overthinking spirals. So we’re looking at…. ✔️ How the 5 Second Rule interrupts rumination (perfect for those "What if I'd done X differently?" moments) ✔️ How to shift from thinking to doing after divorce before fear has a chance to stop you ✔️ Why building micro-wins builds confidence and trust in yourself ✔️ Using 5 seconds of courage to set boundaries, stop stalking your ex, or write that dating profile If you’ve ever stared at the ceiling at 2 a.m. replaying your marriage bloopers or procrastinated on reclaiming your life, this one’s for you. ✨ Think of this rule like a police escort for the traffic jam of crap in your brain, shouting "Outta the way, negative thoughts! We’ve got stuff to do!" I hope you enjoy the episode, now 5-4-3-2-1 PLAY 🎧 And if you want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply: Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts. Screenshot your review Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com Can’t wait to hear how you used the 5 Second Rule ✨ Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 P.S. Want to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem after divorce? Join The Divorce Book Club ! February’s book is Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur, and trust me….it’s shaping up to be life-changing Literally, £10 a month (plus VAT) to CHANGE YOUR GODDAMN LIFE ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP75 Why Do They Get to Move On? The Injustice of Divorce 28:38

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Send us a text 💔 Why does it feel like they’re living their best life while you’re just trying to survive? Divorce can feel like the ultimate injustice… especially if you’ve been betrayed. While your ex seems to move on with ease (and maybe even a smug grin), you’re left picking up the emotional, financial, and social pieces of a life you thought would last forever. In this episode, we’re diving into the gut-punching unfairness of it all, from the gut-level rage of " It’s not fair! " to the emotional exhaustion of waiting for karma to show up. But here’s the hard truth: staying stuck in that injustice only hurts you, not them. What you’ll hear in this episode: ✔️ Why divorce feels like someone threw out the rulebook…. and why that hurts so much ✔️ How the inner child’s sense of fairness amplifies the pain of betrayal (and how to soothe it) ✔️ Why waiting for karma is like watching a kettle boil without plugging it in ✔️ The concept of radical acceptance…. and how it’s NOT about approving their behaviour ✔️ How to stop obsessing over them and start focusing on your glow-up Key Takeaways: Their moving on doesn’t mean they’re winning… it just means they’re distracted. Waiting for karma doesn’t heal your wounds; your own growth does. Just because they abandoned your values doesn’t mean you have to abandon them too. This episode is perfect for you if: ✔ You’re stuck in the unfairness of betrayal and wondering why they seem to have it so easy ✔ You find yourself obsessing over karma or wishing for their downfall ✔ You’re ready to take back your power and start living for YOU Can’t wait to see YOU moving on, unapologetic AF 🔥 Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 🎁 P.S. Want to win a £25 Amazon voucher? Leave a review for the podcast, email a screenshot to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com and you’ll be entered into our March prize draw! Don’t forget to tell me which freebies you’d like too 💖 Want More? Join The Divorce Book Club! 📚 This February, we’re diving into Know Your Worth by Anna Mathur… a life-changing guide to building your self-esteem, confidence, and sense of self. Perfect for a post-divorce glow-up! Check it out below ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP74 Unsubscribe From the BS: The Post-Divorce Mental Reset 23:20

10 weeks پیش23:20

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Send us a text 💡 "If it’s not serving you, hit unsubscribe." Your inbox isn’t the only thing clogged with spam….your mind is too. From guilt and people-pleasing to outdated beliefs about what your post-divorce life should look like, you’re probably unconsciously “subscribed” to a whole load of mental junk you never actually signed up for. So in this episode, we’re hitting ‘unsubscribe’ on everything keeping you stuck. 🔥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why your brain is like an inbox filled with spam (and how to declutter it) ✔️ The 4-Step Unsubscribing Framework to clear out guilt, toxic beliefs, and people-pleasing ✔️ The sneaky "marketing tricks" toxic thoughts use to keep you stuck… and how to break free ✔️ How to set up a VIP Inbox PLUS mental junk mail filters and a firewall to protect your peace 📱 DM me on Instagram @thedivorcechapter and tell me: What are YOU unsubscribing from this week? This episode is perfect for you if: ✔ You’re tired of overthinking and want to break free from mental clutter ✔ You feel stuck in guilt, people-pleasing, or waiting for closure ✔ You need a fun, no-BS way to reclaim your energy and peace after divorce 🔥 Unsubscribe from what drains you. Subscribe to what sets you free. And if you want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply: Write a review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts. Screenshot your review Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com I’ll put all the entries into a hat to draw a winner on 31 March 2025 Can’t wait to see what you’re unsubscribing from 🚫 Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP73 The Secret to Reinventing Yourself After Divorce (It’s Not What You Think) 29:51

11 weeks پیش29:51

29:51

Send us a text 💡 “If you don’t believe you’re the person who can live your dream life, you’ll sabotage yourself every time.” You’ve created the vision. You’ve started taking action. But here’s the kicker… if you still see yourself as the struggling, heartbroken version of you, you’ll keep making choices that pull you back into that identity. So today, we’re going deeper. 🔥 In this episode, I’m sharing: ✔️ Why your identity dictates your results—and how to shift it FAST ✔️ How to retrain your brain using Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule ✔️ Powerful Future You Practices (that work even if you feel stuck) ✔️ The No More Apologies Challenge—this one’s a game-changer ✔️ How to start BEING the person in your vision, right now. 🚀 By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to start BEING the person in your vision. No more waiting. No more wishing. Just stepping into HER right now. You’ve got this….and I’ve got you 💪 And if you also want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply: Write a (preferably nice!) review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts. Screenshot your review Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or both) and email all of this to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com I’ll put all the entries into a hat to draw a winner on 31 March 2025 Can’t wait to see all your dreams coming true 💭 Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 P.S. Don’t forget, by using the code JANUARYSALE you get 50% off the first month in the Divorce Book Club…. So basically a fiver to change your life 🤷🏽‍♀️ Check it out here ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP72 Wobble Your Way to Greatness: Building the Post-Divorce Life You Love One Step at a Time 30:29

12 weeks پیش30:29

30:29

Send us a text It’s January, it’s grey and cold, and if you’re anything like me, you’re on your third cup of tea before noon and wondering if it’s socially acceptable to hibernate until April. Post-Christmas blues, crap weather, and the lingering chaos of divorce…. it’s not exactly the vibe , is it? BUT… (and there’s always a but)… there’s a way out of this dreary rut, and it starts with a choice. You can wallow like a whale in a pity party for one (been there, babes). Or you can choose something better. Something that lights you up. Something that takes that gorgeous vision for your life and turns it into actual, real-life magic ✨ That’s what this week’s episode is all about: how to stop dreaming and start doing. I’m giving you a foolproof roadmap to turn your post-divorce vision into reality with the help of something fabulous: SMARTER goals and tiny, unsexy-but-powerful steps. Here’s what’s inside: 🎯 A fresh take on goal-setting—because "SMART goals" are so last decade dahling. 💃 How to make your goals EXCITING (hint: it involves Beyoncé playlists and champagne-worthy rewards). 🌱 Why tiny, wobbly steps are the secret sauce to massive life changes. 🛠️ Keystone habits, habit stacking, and other hacks to build the life of your dreams. 🔥 And, of course, a few Sarah-isms to make you laugh while you get inspired. Because here’s the thing: You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. You just need to take one small, messy, beautiful step at a time. Wobbly toddlers learn to walk….and then run, love. And you will too. You’ve got this….and I’ve got you 💪 And if you also want a chance at winning a £25 Amazon Gift Voucher, simply: Write a (preferably nice!) review of the episode wherever you listen to your podcasts. Screenshot your review Send the screenshot of the review AND tell me if you want either the free journal prompts to get your ex out your head or else the free guide to the top books to take you from heartbreak to healing after divorce (or tell me if you want both) and email all of this to sarah@thedivorcebookclub.com I’ll put all the entries into a hat to draw a winner on 31 March 2025 Can’t wait to see all your dreams coming true 💭 Loads of Love Sarah x 🌸 P.S. I also mention in the episode the HUGE impact that this month’s book is having in the Divorce Book Club. The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins is beyond amazing as a simple tool to get your beautiful ass in gear…. AND using the code JANUARYSALE you get 50% off the first month…. So basically a fiver to change your life 🤷🏽‍♀️ Check it out here ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP71 F*** the Script: How to Create a Life That Feels Like YOU After Divorce 31:35

13 weeks پیش31:35

31:35

Send us a text Divorce is tough… there’s no sugar-coating it. But here’s the truth no one tells you: it’s also a chance to start over, to wipe the slate clean, and to create a life that feels unapologetically YOU. This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, we’re diving into exactly that: how to create your next chapter after divorce….. a chapter filled with joy, purpose, and a vision that lights you up inside. I know how hard it can be to figure out what you want when life feels like it’s been turned upside down. That’s why I’m sharing practical tools to help you dream big and start turning those dreams into reality. ✨ Here’s a sneak peek of what’s inside: How to use the “Perfect Day” exercise to map out your dream life. Why jealousy might actually be your best compass for discovering what you really want. How to stop giving a flying f*** about what other people think…. this is YOUR story, not theirs. The tools and tricks that helped me go from survival mode to living a life that feels right for ME. Remember, you hold the pen in your hand. You get to write this next chapter exactly the way you want. And trust me, it’s going to be amazing. Sending you so much love and big dreams, Sarah x 🌸 Wheel of Life template can be found here : THE DIVORCE CHAPTER Wheel of Life.png The questions used in the episode to journal on : How would your best friend describe you? Finish this sentence - I am happiest when… What have you achieved that you are proud of? What is unique about your personality? When do you feel most confident? What is your favourite thing to do to treat yourself? What parts of your life are you happy with? What traits do you admire in someone? If you were going to go back to school, what would you study? If you were in a library…. You remember those old school places you got proper books - what section would you find yourself in? Who are you most inspired by (that you personally know or figures from history)? What about them inspires you? What virtues would you most want to increase in yourself? Why those ones? What do you find the most beauty in? What are you most moved by? What would you spend your time working on if you could succeed but no one would ever know that you did it? And finally, don’t forget to 54321 come and join the Divorce Book Club for January where we are doing The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins, an inspirational life changing book. AND using the code JANUARYSALE you get 50% off the first month…. So basically a fiver to change your life 🤷🏽‍♀️ ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP70 Divorce isn’t a Group Project: Why it’s Okay to See Things Your Way 29:12

14 weeks پیش29:12

29:12

Send us a text Ah, Twixtmas. That magical time of year when no one knows what day it is, we’re all living off leftovers, and PJs become acceptable all-day attire. It’s my absolute favourite week…. but it’s also the time I left the ex-husband. December 28th. A day etched in my memory. For me, it was a whirlwind of grief, anger, relief, and uncertainty. For him? I imagine it was completely different. And here’s the thing: that one day, that same event, was experienced completely differently by everyone involved…..me, the ex, and my kids. That’s the thing about divorce…. it’s never one story. It’s a million stories told through different lenses. Your version, your ex’s version, your kids’ version, your family’s version... and none of them will ever be the same. This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, I’m diving into why we all process divorce differently, how our unique lenses shape our experiences, and why it’s time to stop caring what others think. In this episode, we’re exploring: ✨ Why your version of divorce is different from anyone else’s (and why that’s okay). ✨ How our experiences are shaped by the unique lenses we see life through…. our upbringing, beliefs, and relationships. ✨ Why you don’t need validation from anyone else for how you feel or the choices you’ve made. ✨ How to embrace YOUR story, YOUR way, as you start writing your next chapter. This isn’t about replaying the past…. it’s about owning your narrative and stepping into your power. As we approach 2025, it’s time to give yourself permission to stop caring what anyone else thinks and create a future that’s true to YOU. As we head into a new year, give yourself permission to let go of the pressure to explain, justify, or validate your choices. Your story, your journey, your truth. That’s all that matters. Sending you strength, love, and leftover cheese this Twixtmas, Sarah x 🌸 P.S. This January in the Divorce Book Club, we’re kicking off the year with Mel Robbins’ The 5 Second Rule . It’s all about taking bold action and creating a life that works for YOU. And using the code JANUARYSALE you get it for only £5 for the first month.... yes only a fiver to change your goddamn life!!! Check it out ⬇️ THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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EP69 The No BS Guide to Staying Energised at Christmas after Divorce 24:14

15 weeks پیش24:14

24:14

Send us a text It’s Santa Season again…. the season of tinsel, turkey, and to-do lists longer than a John Lewis queue on Christmas Eve. And if you’re anything like me, you’re probably feeling the energy drain kicking in already. Because let’s face it… Christmas post-divorce is a lot . There’s the emotional rollercoaster, the endless logistics, the awkward family gatherings, and let’s not forget dodging those mood hoovers who suck the life out of you faster than a hoover plugged into a turbocharger. But here’s the thing, Christmas doesn’t have to leave you feeling like a wrung-out dishcloth. This week on the podcast, I’m diving into how to manage your energy at Christmas… because protecting your peace isn’t just a nice idea, it’s absolutely essential this time of year. 🎧 In this episode, you’ll learn: 🎄 How to budget your energy like cash in a bank (some interactions are not worth the withdrawal ) 🎄 Hacks to deal with energy vampires/ mood hoovers….whether it’s the nosy aunt or the ex stirring drama. 🎄 Quick ways to recharge when you’re running on empty (no, you don’t need a week-long retreat) 🎄 How to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ strategically so you’re not spending Christmas stretched thinner than wrapping paper. Plus, I’m sharing practical tips for managing the physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion that can creep in during the holidays. Think of it as your survival guide for keeping the season merry and not mentally exhausting. Whether you’re dealing with chaotic schedules, nosy relatives, or just trying to make it through the holidays without a “menty B” (mental breakdown), I’ve got you covered. Wishing you the best Christmas, whatever it looks like for you, and sending you SO much love, Sarah x 🌸 P.S. Oh, and because I know you’re putting everyone else first right now (don’t think I don’t see you 👀), a little reminder: this month’s Divorce Book Club pick is The Self-Care Project by Jayne Hardy. Consider it my nudge to you…. this Christmas, you deserve to be at the top of that list. THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter…

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