E343 | The Power of Indirect Influence: Strategies for Convincing Stubborn People

The Art Of Coaching

“They just won’t listen. No matter how clearly I explain it, they refuse to see my side of things. It’s like talking to a brick wall."

Have you ever felt like this, like you're hitting a dead end with someone who just won’t budge? Influencing people is an art, one that often requires more than just logic and facts, especially in today’s world where information has been turned into a kind of religion willing to anoint whoever can wield it more skillfully.

In today’s episode, we’ll revisit several past topics and connect the dots to reveal an alternative way to move the ball forward. Oftentimes, if we try to bull our way straight ahead, we’re met with the most resistance. In reality, an indirect route can be like finding a perfect gap in the defense—avoiding tackles and making the smoothest run toward the end zone.

Topics Discussed:

• The necessity of understanding power dynamics and influence tactics
• How penetrating someone’s ring of influence can help your cause
• Coalition building and the true strength in numbers when voices align
• Invoking reciprocity and how deep-seated trust begins with giving

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Referenced Episodes:

E202 | Why Facts And Logic Don't Change Our Minds - If you’re unfamiliar with influence tactics or need a refresher give this a listen!

E240 | The 4 Styles Of Communication - At a baseline level you should understand the different components of communication.

E178 | Kindra Hall: Choose Your Story, Change Your Life - Storytelling is the oldest form of communication. Learn to harness it for good.

E152 | Michael Tucker: How Storytelling And Self-Awareness Shape Who We Become - Another phenomenal episode on storytelling if you want to deep dive on the subject.

E85 | Why Won't They Listen To Me? Reasons Your Message Isn't Getting Across - If you’ve ever asked yourself this question in frustration, you’ll find answers here.

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