36. Negative Self-Talk and Equating Our Self-Worth with Productivity ft. Lucas Ng

Shit We Don't Tell Mom

Self-shaming. Struggling relationship. Disappointing Chinese Christian parents. Lucas Ng, Canadian actor and co-host of “Have We Made It Yet” podcast, shares how he got fired from his job triggered a cascade of endless negative self-talk, thoughts of self-harm, and eventually going to therapy 5 years later.

**Content Warning: Self Harm**

Takeaways:

• Traumas can resurface years after they happened
• Can’t expect your partner to be your everything
• A constant need for control might actually be your own denial of your mental health struggles
• Talk with your younger self with compassion and love
• 20s is when you figure out who you are
• 30s is when you figure out what you want

Mentions & Resources:

• Lucas Ng Instagram
• Have We Made It Yet Podcast (Documenting experiences as new entertainers and artists looking to "make it" in the entertainment industry)
• Ep 27. Our Shit: Suicide Ideations and the Depression Roller Coaster

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