107. Understanding Teen Brain Development With Junior High Counselor, Brittney King

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“An adolescent brain, it is what it is for a reason”- Brittney King

The teenage years can feel like a rollercoaster. One moment your young teen is playing it cool, and the next, they’re literally rolling on the ground pretending to be a dog. Sound familiar? In this week’s episode, I sit down with Brittney King, a licensed counselor, mom of five, and creator of the Think Good Feel Good online courses, to dive into the world of teens, particularly those in Junior High, aged 11-15.

“It’s such a key time for parents ... to be a guiding force.” - Brittney King

Brittney has a unique insight into our teen’s brain development throughout these years and why this unpredictable phase is so crucial for their development, and for us as parents. Their unpredictability can feel frustrating for us as parents (I’m not the only one who thinks sometimes ‘WHAT am I going to do with my teen?!’, right?) but understanding the teenage brain can help us be more tolerant of our kids as they explore, learn, and develop.

One thing Brittney has learned from being a counselor is that there is not one teenager out there who’s not struggling with something. What surprised her the most was how much they want to talk to adults about their problems. They don’t always show it and they certainly want some independence but that doesn’t mean they don’t need you to still be there and helping and supporting them through it.

“Teachers, coaches, therapists, they will come and go. But there is no substitute for caring and intentional parenting.” - Brittney King

It’s not about being a perfect parent or trying to be their therapist (they’ll see right through you!). What they care about is you connecting with them. They care about whether you’re showing up for them and whether they truly believe that you are there for them unconditionally, even when they don’t know how to ask for it.

Let’s hear more invaluable wisdom from Brittney in today’s episode.

In this episode on the brain development of teenagers, we cover:

• Why unpredictability is actually part of teen brain development;
• The importance of being a guiding force;
• How to connect with your teen without trying to “fix” them;
• The difference between helping and letting your teen solve their own problems;
• The importance of developing emotional intelligence for parents raising teens;
• What does it mean to be a safe person for your teen to open up to?;
• What teens are looking for in their parents;
• And more!

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Links & resources mentioned in this episode:

• You can reach out to Brittney on her website brittneykingcoaching.com or send her an email at [e-mail]
• Get 50% off the Think Good Feel Good online course bundle for parents and teens with promo code: bethcoaching
• Research by Donald Winnicott: Good Enough Parenting
• Book by Ellen Galinsky: The Breakthrough Years

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