109. ROGD Survival Guide: Strategic Advice for Concerned Parents of Trans-Identified Youth

You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist

In a rare solo episode, I reflect on a few key themes that have emerged during the course of my work consulting with with parents who are worried about losing their kids to the gender craze. Join me as I share insights on how to help families facing this challenge. When is it actually a bad idea to tell your kids about the harms of sex trait modification? How can parents express concerns to headstrong adolescents without pushing them away? What strategies can you employ to understand their perspectives while maintaining your own boundaries? Tune in to discover the power of strategic apologizing and the importance of listening without necessarily agreeing.

We'll also explore the impact of porn and social media on youth's perceptions of gender and sexuality. How does exposure to certain media influence their beliefs and behaviors? And what part do male and female role models play in shaping their identities? Plus, we'll touch on the dynamics of splitting and triangulation within families facing the gender crisis. How can parents navigate these complex relationships to support children effectively? And what common pitfalls must be avoided in order to prevent the rift from deepening?

Books mentioned in this episode:

• Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss
• Lost in Trans Nation by Miriam Grossman

Books mentioned on this podcast can also be found in my bookshop. My recommended reading list for ROGD parents is the second section down on that page. If I can help, book a discovery call.

00:00 Start

[00:02:25] Gender craze in family dynamics.

[00:05:27] Origins of gender dysphoria.

[00:10:04] Importance of being strategic.

[00:11:31] A tightrope marathon.

[00:15:47] Avoid sharing too much information.

[00:20:48] Navigating teenage pride and knowledge.

[00:24:11] Hormonal effects on reproductive system.

[00:27:14] Hostage negotiation techniques.

[00:33:40] Apologizing for giving access to technology.

[00:36:21] Internalizing female oppression.

[00:39:44] Boys and porn addiction.

[00:43:35] ROGD parent role models.

[00:47:21] Cry for help in parenting.

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