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Eli Beer & United Hatzalah: Saving Lives in 90 seconds or Less 30:20

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Eli Beer is a pioneer, social entrepreneur, President and Founder of United Hatzalah of Israel. In thirty years, the organization has grown to more than 6,500 volunteers who unite together to provide immediate, life-saving care to anyone in need - regardless of race or religion. This community EMS force network treats over 730,000 incidents per year, in Israel, as they wait for ambulances and medical attention. Eli’s vision is to bring this life-saving model across the world. In 2015, Beer expanded internationally with the establishment of branches in South America and other countries, including “United Rescue” in Jersey City, USA, where the response time was reduced to just two minutes and thirty-five seconds. Episode Chapters (0:00) intro (1:04) Hatzalah’s reputation for speed (4:48) Hatzalah’s volunteer EMTs and ambucycles (5:50) Entrepreneurism at Hatzalah (8:09) Chutzpah (14:15) Hatzalah’s recruitment (18:31) Volunteers from all walks of life (22:51) Having COVID changed Eli’s perspective (26:00) operating around the world amid antisemitism (28:06) goodbye For video episodes, watch on www.youtube.com/@therudermanfamilyfoundation Stay in touch: X: @JayRuderman | @RudermanFdn LinkedIn: Jay Ruderman | Ruderman Family Foundation Instagram: All About Change Podcast | Ruderman Family Foundation To learn more about the podcast, visit https://allaboutchangepodcast.com/ Looking for more insights into the world of activism? Be sure to check out Jay’s brand new book, Find Your Fight , in which Jay teaches the next generation of activists and advocates how to step up and bring about lasting change. You can find Find Your Fight wherever you buy your books, and you can learn more about it at www.jayruderman.com .…

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In this podcast episode, I'm chatting with Alex Heath about healing from trauma. I know Alex from my time working in the pregnancy and birth world, as Alex specialises in birth trauma and perinatal mental and emotional health. For me, birth trauma is unique as far as trauma goes. A huge aspect of trauma is the meaning we associate with a root event, and the meanings we hold around birth are off the scale. The emotional aspect of birth is huge, When you consider how parents-to-be feel about the arrival of a new member of their family, there can be a lot of emotions invested in the birth event. This is the case no matter what kind of journey the family have had in the lead up to the birth. But if there has been a very difficult journey, with loss or fertility, then the emotions surrounding the birth will be very intense. Add to that the fact that birth is a very physical event, this means that when birth doesn't go to plan, the pain can be twofold - physical and emotional. Another huge aspect of trauma - or at least something that can exacerbate it - is when the person experiencing the traumatic event, feels trapped. Like there's no way out. Birth is definitely one of those situations. Once the first few contractions start, there is no getting off that train until the baby has made an appearance. And if the birth is difficult and painful, this can add to the stress and trauma of the event. It's for all these reasons that I thought that a conversation with Alex around trauma would be worth having and I was not disappointed.

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Understanding Trauma with Alex Heath

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Healing by Accessing Unconscious Awareness, with Amanda Blau 58:38

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5 emotional wounds we all suffer from 1:06:02

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Micro-dosing for mental health, Simone's story 56:09

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Micro-dosing for mental health is something that has been explored for some time. The pioneer of this is the Czech-born psychologist Stanislav Grof. Micro-dosing is the practice of taking or administering very small amounts of a drug in order to test or benefit from its physiological action while minimising undesirable side effects. So when it comes to micro-dosing psychedelics, this means consuming very low, sub-hallucinogenic doses of a psychedelic substance, such as lysergic acid diethylamide (LSD) or psilocybin-containing mushrooms. The idea being that you get the benefit of the substance, without the trippy side-effects. This is a trend that's been building for a while now and articles in the media are now pretty common. Like this one in the New York Times: More People Are Microdosing for Mental Health. But Does It Work? There's even a show on Netflix about it: How to change your mind. In this show, author Michael Pollan leads the way in this docuseries exploring the history and uses of psychedelics, including LSD, psilocybin, MDMA and mescaline. Using micro-dosing therapeutically In his latest book, How to Change Your Mind, Michael Pollan writes of his own consciousness-expanding experiments with psychedelic drugs like LSD and psilocybin, and he makes the case for why shaking up the brain's old habits could be therapeutic for people facing addiction, depression, or death. As someone who's taken psychedelics - albeit recreationally and not therapeutically - I have no doubt that they have the potential to provide therapeutic support when taken in small doses, but I was curious to hear someone's experience of this. So when a friend of mine shared a link to an article on Facebook where she was interviewed on how she had used micro-dosing to improve her mental health, I knew I wanted to talk to her about it. Here's the article: Can microdosing psychedelics improve your mental health? Here's what the science says I came to know Simone when I interviewed her for my Fear Free Childbirth podcast about the time she gave birth in a stream. Her YouTube video of the birth at the time had hit over 55 million views and my podcast interview with her has been one of my top episodes on that podcast. Giving birth in nature takes a special kind of fearlessness and confidence in oneself, which Simone had in bucketloads. Simone's experience of micro-dosing for mental health As an experienced therapist Simone also has extensive knowledge and experience in managing emotional and mental wellbeing, so I was particularly interested in hearing how she came to turn to micro-dosing to help with her mental health. My conversation with Simone During my conversation with Simone we discuss; what lead to her deciding to try micro-dosing what substance she took micro-doses of how she felt once she started micro-dosing how long she used micro-dosing for how she came to know that her time for micro-dosing was coming to an end Micro-dosing Resources During our conversation Simone shared some books and resources. These are listed below; Books: A Really Good Day by Ayelet Waldman How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan Website: www.thethirdwave.co. Recommend this for a solid, practical introduction to microdosing. Articles: Simone recommends this article because a lot has come out recently about the fact that Drs/Psychiatrists/Scientists don’t really know how anti-depressants work. Likewise, despite decades of research into psychedelics, we still don’t know exactly how psychedelics work either. She thinks it’s wise to be cautious and proceed carefully, but not to have fear about using psychedelics. https://psychedelicspotlight.com/the-truth-about-depression-serotonin-ssris-and-psychedelics/ Shows: Fantastic Fungi on Netflix How to Change Your Mind on Netflix Here's some research I came across: Psychedelic microdosing benefits and challenges: an empirical codebook https://harmreductionjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12954-019-0308-4 About Simone Simone Surgeoner is a therapist and mentor who has helped thousands of people find their own authentic path in life. She enjoys nothing more than exploring the depths of what it means to be human. Using herself as her own guinea pig, Simone demonstrates beingness as arising from integrity with one’s essence. Helping people find their inner truth, through their own direct experience, is the core of Simone’s work. As a mother of four daughters, currently unschooling her younger two, Simone is passionate about the liberation of all humans. Psychedelic integration and support is one of the areas where Simone supports clients, as she continues to help people at all stages of healing and evolution: sexuality, relationships, trauma, pregnancy & birth, children, hormones, health, business & career to grief and dying. Website: www.saksana.com.au…

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Balancing your inner feminine and masculine 56:16

۳ years پیش56:16

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Your inner masculine and feminine Do you think your inner masculine and feminine energies are in balance? Does this question even make sense to you? I ask that because I’ve had some conversations with people when they’ve looked a bit puzzled when asked. They simply didn’t understand the question. The idea of having inner masculine and feminine energies was a total mystery to them. While I’ve been aware of these differing energies for a while, it’s only really in the last three years or so that I’ve been taking a closer look at them personally. A few weeks ago I shared some learnings I had around balancing my inner masculine and feminine which you can read here: Are you denying your feminine energy? I had realised how much I had been denying my inner feminine during my life, and how I’d dialled up my inner masculine to compensate. This came with costs that are really now only clear to me now that I’ve brought about more balance. Balancing your inner masculine and feminine I don’t feel for a minute that both my masculine and feminine energies are totally within balance. But now I’m a lot more savvy as to why it’s important for them to be in balance, and how to go about bringing our feminine and masculine energies into balance. But, I don’t feel savvy enough about this to be able to speak with authority on it. All that I know is that it’s important to restore balance, as with all aspects of life. What I really needed was someone else who IS totally savvy to break all this down for me, and you! This is where my conversation with Zoe-Anna comes in. When I was seeking out more information on balancing our inner masculine and inner feminine, I came across one of Zoe-Anna’s articles and I thought “THIS is the person I need to speak to!”. I was thrilled when she replied right back with a YES! Zoe-Anna does not disappoint. During our chat we explore; What are our masculine and feminine energies What does being in balance look like How do we know when we’re out of balance; tell tale signs What do each of these energies do for us What is toxic masculinity or toxic femininity is and how it shows up…

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Healing from Trauma 1:05:14

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Healing from Trauma Trauma is something we all have to wrestle with. But not all of us choose to do so. Sometimes we're forced into facing our traumas - as I was recently. This is why I wanted to have a chat with someone who works with trauma, so that they can share their perspective. Brooke is a trauma-informed coach who has experienced trauma throughout her life, and through conquering her trauma, she now focusses her time on helping others to do the same. About Brooke Brooke Bownes an international trauma informed coach and therapist, author and speaker who specialises in working with midlife women to heal from mother wound by a bespoke system Brooke has personally experienced trauma, right from birth, being born with the cord wrapped around her neck which caused medical issues, trauma from narcissist abuse and complex PTSD, loss of her home, being homeless. She has now rebuilt her life and has changed her pain into her passion and helps women from all over the world to heal from the trauma of the mother wound and narcissist abuse, she is on a mission to raise the awareness of and heal the trauma of The Mother Wound and narcissist abuse with her programme Find Your Power by releasing the trauma and mother wound so they can discover who they are and live the life they truly want. Brooke has a loyal community in excess of 7000 over FB, Instagram, & emails and has written a book called You Can Have It! How to break through the self-sabotage cycle. Connect with Brooke here; Facebook group Connect on LinkedIn Add Brooke on Facebook…

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Does your anxiety come from your time in utero? 16:30

۳ years پیش16:30

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I recently stumbled on a past trauma that proved to be the key to a lot of the things I've wrestled with as an adult. As someone who hunts down head trash - especially my own - this is a HUGE win for me. When something isn't shifting, I dig and dig until I can figure it out and get rid of it. I had some personal stuff that just wasn't shifting and I needed to figure out why. Trauma feeds fear and anxiety I figured there must be a traumatic experience feeding it. Trauma does that, it's feeder of fear and anxiety. In my experience, if fear or anxiety isn't shifting easily then there's a trauma keeping it in place or making it worse. Sometimes, we don't even have a conscious recollection of the experience. This was the case for me. I had no conscious memory of the trauma I was about to clear. Clearing traumas of things we can't even remember To get around this, before clearing the trauma, I placed my intention on clearing whatever it was that was feeding the anxiety I wanted to address. What followed was a brutal hour of clearance work. Tears, snot and more tears. It just kept coming. By the end of it I was spent. Spent, but alive and vibrant! And light... god how I felt light! It proved to be one of the most significant clearances I have ever done. The traumatic event I worked on proved to be The Key to a huge number of the patterns that were running me. Emotional patterns that were sabotaging me and holding me back. It was also the the root event of my eczema, which had recently come back with a vengeance like I have never known. Once I was done, I wanted to know what the event was. I was curious. So, what WAS this event?? What the hell was it that had embedded so much crap for me? So I asked how old I was to try and figure it out. Childhood trauma is usually the culprit, so I started there. Was I under 5? Yes. Was I under 4? Yes. I got a hunch. Was I in utero? Yes. I was in utero! And then I knew EXACTLY what it was. When my mother was pregnant with me she was worried about losing her job if they found out. So she tried to keep me a secret from her employers in case they found out and fired her. Talk about stressful! Apparently her bump was really small and you could hardly tell she was pregnant. I arrived early. I can only imagine the thoughts she would have been having; I've got to hide this. I must keep this a secret. I want my bump to be small. My baby can't be visible. If I get found out, I'll lose my job. She was the breadwinner, so this would have been a big deal. Being found out meant loss of security. Oh hello Lex's head trash! The root of my problem patterns! This is all the shit I've been wrestling with FOR AGES that wasn't budging. Some of it is only obvious to me now that I understand and can see where it came from. I had lightbulbs going off all over the place! I'm totally fine being visible, thinking big and doing things that make me stand out. That bit is ME: Lex. And yet, I've not been able to sustain it or go ALL IN with it. I was getting pulled back into hiding and playing small. That bit was HER. I was running my mother's pregnancy fears and making them my own. No wonder I was struggling with this stuff. Your time in the womb matters As part of my work in birth and pregnancy, I know that the in-utero experience is a precious one, and one to be protected and nurtured. When I interviewed the father of prenatal psychology, Thomas Verny, on my podcast he talked about all this. It's a fascinating chat and worth listening to if this stuff interests you. There's a lot of evidence that supports this so I'm not being all woo here. The in-utero experience and the birth create emotional imprints in the baby that they will carry though into adulthood. Anna Verwal also talks a lot about this. This is why I'm so vocal about wanting expectant mothers to clear their fear, stress and anxiety while they're pregnant. It matters. Not only does it help them to have a better birth experience - which is a bloody good reason on its own - but it's also good for the baby and its future adult self. I expand on all this in my book, Fearless Birthing . If they're not positive emotional patterns, then these imprints can be the root cause of anxiety and phobias as adults. I see this time and time again in my work helping women overcome tokophobia (extreme fear of birth). Some people have accused me of fear-mongering or making women feel guilty for their thoughts and feelings during pregnancy. Pregnancy is already such a challenging time for some, physically, mentally and emotionally. The last thing they want is the guilt that comes from thinking that their negative thoughts are damaging in some way. I'm afraid I can't do anything about that. That we know already. It's already happening. Surely, it's best for women to know this so that they can do something about it. I'm simply the messenger. Being well-informed is crucial People can choose whether they do anything about it or not. But being informed is crucial in making that decision. We know that eating meat, fatty foods, drinking alcohol and smoking is bad. And yet people still do it. That's their choice. Perhaps they feel guilty with every cigarette or burger. Perhaps they don't. It doesn't mean we're going to keep quiet about it just in case some people feel guilty. The same goes for this. Women NEED to know about this. Whether we like it or not, our bodies and minds are potent creators of future generations. Perhaps the mental health crisis we're seeing today has its roots in crappy pregnancies and births of the past. It would make sense. Intellectually I knew the importance of the in-utero experience from my work in pregnancy and birth. But now I truly KNOW. I would urge all pregnant women to keep diaries of how they're feeling throughout their pregnancy. It could be the best gift to your child on their 18th birthday as they wrestle with figuring out who they are. It would probably save a ton of time in therapy too. A lot of our focus as parents is in providing for our children - schooling, opportunity etc - but perhaps we ned to shift the focus to mental health. As expectant parents, what can we do, to support the future mental health of our children. Because isn't that what will help them to survive best? Emotionally resilient and happy people usually do pretty well, no matter what.…

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Not all public speaking fears are equal 17:55

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Not all public speaking or presenting is equal, at least when it comes to how we feel about it. Presenting and public speaking sit nicely at the top of any list about fears and anxiety. Thank you primal brain for that! But not all presenting or public speaking is equal in terms of its potential to make us nervous, fearful or anxious. And, this is different for everyone. Speaking in front of a large audience of people you don’t know probably sits at the top of the scary pile for most people. This goes back to our primal brain and how we used to live, and survive. Back in the caveman days, if we could look out and see lots of eyes on us, then it was probably because we were being eyed up for dinner. Bad situation. Life or death situation! In this situation, our fear and anxiety was pretty useful and helped us to survive. Today, when we have eyes on us it’s usually because the eyes belong to people who are interested in what we have to say or what we’re doing (at least we hope they are!). In situations like this, the fear and anxiety that is wired in is less helpful, so it can be useful to get rid of it. How to lose the fear and anxiety around public speaking To lose the fear or anxiety you might have around public speaking and presenting, it’s useful to dig deeper. This is because it can give us clues as to what is at the root of your fear or anxiety. This is especially so, if you want to use Head Trash Clearance to get rid of your fears and anxiety. To use Head Trash Clearance effectively, we need a list. A nice list of things to clear. And we’re only going to be able to get that if we dig and unravel what’s going on. So let’s get to it! The different aspects of public speaking fear The first thing we need to explore is the idea that not all public speaking and presenting scenarios are the same. Once we recognise this we can start to get to the bottom of it. Consider these different situations; Speaking to a small group of your peers at work. (e.g. your team) Presenting to people more senior than you (e.g. the management team, the board or the company investors) Speaking in front of a small group of people you don’t know at work (e.g. clients, suppliers or other departments) Presenting to a large group of people who know you (e.g. the whole company or your division) Doing a presentation in front of a large group of people who DON’T know you (e.g. a visiting subsidiary or at a conference) Do you feel the same approaching all of these scenarios? Probably not. It’s quite possible that some of these won’t present a problem for you, whereas others will. Maybe you’re fine speaking in front of people you don’t know, it’s speaking in front of people you DO know that’s the problem. Perhaps you worry about what those people will think of you. Or maybe you struggle with authority and are easily intimidated when having to communicate to those who you perceive to hold more power or authority than you. This could make you nervous and anxious and stop you thinking straight or doing a good job. Or perhaps you are fine speaking to small groups, it’s the large groups that make you nervous. Different presenting situations trigger different fears You see, behind all of these different scenarios, there are different fears and anxieties. it’s less about the speaking per se, and more about what these situations bring up for the person doing the speaking. These different situations could bring up any of the following; fear of looking or sounding silly or foolish saying the wrong thing messing up people thinking less of them not being taken seriously appearing stupid or like an idiot fear of being fired or demoted for doing a bad job (messing up, saying the wrong thing) fear of missing out on a promotion for not doing a good enough job fear of appearing a fraud not being expert or knowledgable enough But this is not all that you need to consider if you want to get rid of your fears around public speaking and presenting. We need to take this one step further to get a fuller picture. The nature of the presenting job It’s important to consider the difference in the nature of the presenting job itself. There are two main options you face when it comes to presenting or public speaking; 1. You’ve prepared something specific to share In this situation you have something that you’ve prepared in advance that you’re going to talk through. Perhaps something like: specific internal presentation – monthly team update keynote presentation at a conference pitch to potential investors sales presentation to potential customers In these situations, you have time to prepare and run through what you want to say. The main challenge you have is ensuring that you remember to cover all the points you want to cover and that you stick to the timings. Of course there’s a bit more to it than that, but you get my point. It’s quite a different situation to the next one; 2. You’re speaking, but it’s unscripted or ‘on the fly’ This is when you’re attending an event or meeting, but where you’re not there to present something that’s been prepared in advance. You could be hosting a conference or panel. Or perhaps you’re attending a monthly team meeting and will need to present or speak in response to what else is shared or discussed during the meeting. Or maybe you’re an audience member at an event and want to contribute to the Q&As or you have questions for the panel or speaker. In these situations, it’s much harder to prepare and there’s so much more that could go wrong (in your mind at least). All of this means that there are ten potential different presenting and public speaking scenarios that you could be facing. Each of these scenarios will bring up slightly different fears and emotional responses in you. These emotional responses could be so great that you’re not able to practically prepare for what you’re facing. This is very common. When your fear or anxiety gets in the way of you preparing Let’s say you have a presentation coming up. Every time you think about it you feel the anxiety rising. It’s enough to keep you up at night. This makes it very hard for you to sit down and prepare for the presentation. Your preparation might involve things like writing the presentation working with colleagues to get their support and help practical planning of the event rehearsing the presentation Sometimes our fear and anxiety holds us back from even taking the first step. This can lead to last minute preparations which will exacerbate the fear and anxiety. It could also means that your’e more likely to mess up and say the wrong thing, thereby fulfilling your fears. How clearing your fears in advance can help By taking time in advance to unravel what’s going on, you’re much better placed to do the emotional clearance work, that will help you to prepare for the presenting or public speaking task you’re facing. Then you can look forward to your event or meeting with confidence, knowing that you’re putting your best foot forward and you’ve done the best you can. In these situations, it’s much harder to put a foot wrong. And your confident energy will transform your performance and carry you through any little mistakes that come up.…

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Abandonment Trauma 26:18

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If you've been following my adventures in trauma clearance, you'll know that I'm feeling very called to clear my traumas at the moment. If you missed it, I dive into that in my blog: Traumas & Yetis: 2 things they have in common . One theme of emotional pain that has come up a lot for me in my life is around abandonment and rejection so this has been on y Healing-To-Do-List for a while. That's not to say I haven't tried to heal this pain in me because i have. But I know that I'm not fully healed of it. There's clearly more to do. So now that I've diving into traumas, this is an obvious one for me to address. As I've been prepping myself mentally to clear the traumas I'm carrying around abandonment, I've been giving it a lot of thought. I think it's important to be super clear what abandonment really means. What do we mean by abandonment, and feeling abandoned? When we carry hurt around abandonment, we often feel like we've rejected, dumped or left behind, and that this has been done to us deliberately or consciously. Perhaps there are some situations where that is the case. But, I bet many of those times that's not the case. More often than not, the abandonment is an emotional feeling rather than an actual state of being. Of course, it can be both, but I'm interested in the feeling aspect here. If you got lost in the supermarket or park as a child, you might have felt abandoned in that moment. But, I bet your parents didn't actually abandon you. They were probably desperately looking for you. But in that moment, the child in you FELT abandoned. Very different from the time your mates thought it would be funny to leave you in nothing but your underwear in the middle of town after a drinking session. My parents divorced when I was four, so I don't have to look much further to figure out where some of my abandonment issues come from. I remember thinking as a child that I thought it was my fault my dad left us, even though my mum assured me that wasn't the case. But that's how I felt and as far as my emotional self was concerned, that's all that mattered. As with most divorces, the parents don't separate because of one of the kids. It's their relationship that's broken down. And, when they eventually part ways, it's unlikely that the parent who leaves the family home is abandoning the children in a deliberate fashion. They might be desperate to stay. But things just aren't workable and it breaks their heart to leave. No matter how the leaving parent feels, the kids will most likely FEEL abandoned by them. Their sheer absence will do that. I think it's important to get clear on this stuff because we sometimes start throwing some blame into the mix which just adds emotional weight to our abandonment. This doesn't help things at all and can make it all much more painful, and therefore more difficult to face and resolve. Abandonment is not always inflicted deliberately Let's take my mum for example. Years ago, when I did the Hoffman Process, I prepared myself for the slew of Daddy Issues that would come up from the divorce situation. What I was not prepared for were the Mummy Issues I had, and a lot of those came from her abandoning me by dying suddenly to cancer when I was 30. Now, I'm pretty sure she didn't die deliberately to abandon me. But the fact is I had abandonment pain that I felt as a result of her dying so early in my life. Being 30 without a mum is a tough gig. Being a mum without a mother is even more so... as I would later discover. The family pattern of abandonment The more I thought about abandonment, the more I realised how strong this theme has been experienced by my family and predecessors. My grandmother was abandoned by her community when she fell pregnant out of wedlock. My mum was abandoned by her mum when she was put into an orphanage during WW2 for her safety, to be retrieved once the war was over. My mum was later abandoned by my dad which led to their divorce. My dad's parents divorced when he was young, so he was abandoned by a parent too. Then me. I was abandoned by my dad as part of my parents' divorce, and later by my mum when she died when I was 30. This was a pattern I was carrying inside me. It's in my DNA. The memories of abandonment are in my cells. Time to expand the scope of the trauma clearance As I fully took all this on board, I realised that my approach to clearing my trauma this time around needed to be different to how I'd done it before. I needed to cast the net wider than my own life and my life in utero. I also needed to deal with these cellular memories of trauma. So that meant including ancestral trauma that I've acquired from previous generations. And while I was at it, I might as well throw past life trauma in there too! Phew! How many traumatic experiences was I carrying? Now as I'm a numbers person, I was curious as how many of these traumas I was carrying around. You want to know? I bet you do! Current life: 121 In utero: 5 Past life traumas: 11,800 ish! Ancestral traumas: 15,200 ish! Whoa! That's a lotta shit to be carrying around. I'm carrying over 27,000 traumatic experiences around the theme of abandonment, and being left out or left behind. Correction. I WAS carrying! Yup. So I did the clearance. And, as predicted, by the time I finished I was surrounded by a mountain of snotty tissues. Clearing the traumas was a snotty experience I thought I would sob emotional tears for this one as it touched on themes and experiences that I had clear memories of. But it didn't, just tears of release. And snot. A LOT OF SNOT! If felt good to snot all that shit out. And by the end I was spent and headed to bed for an early night. My subconscious had a lot of processing to do. Then the MAGIC showed up... And the next day the magic showed up. The further I go along path of deeper healing, the more magical moments I experience. Magic is pretty much a daily experience for me now. But I get proper tingly excited when something happens that is DIRECTLY related to the theme of the clearance I've recently done. For me it's a sign that the energy has truly shifted and I've healed. Well, sure enough, the next day it happened. I was INVITED to be part of something new that's very exciting. Something BIG! I was SOUGHT OUT. I was CHOSEN because of who I am. I was PICKED OUT for it. However, I express that idea, one thing is clear: it's the OPPOSITE of BEING ABANDONED and LEFT BEHIND. It's what my toxic emotional energy was blocking from me. Now that the energy is clear, these things are more freely available to me now. They can flow to me, where before I was resisting, repelling even. Our unresolved trauma keeps us stuck Our unresolved traumas are keeping us stuck in the very places we desperately want to leave. It's time to let these fuckers go. For good. Then the things you truly desire can come into your life.…

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Dr Thomas Verny, The Embodied Mind - Interview 49:41

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In this episode I get to chat to one of my heroes for the second time - lucky me! Dr Thomas Verny is the godfather of prenatal psychology and the author of the classic book The Secret Life of the Unborn Child. It was this book that was a huge inspiration to me when I wrote my first book Fearless Birthing. In his words.. "As a psychiatrist, I have had a lifelong interest in memory and the mind. At the beginning of my career, this took me into establishing the science of Pre and Perinatal Psychology. About seven years ago I developed an interest in cellular memory and cellular intelligence. I started to read scientific journals and books on this subject. All in all, I must have read more than 5,000 papers which eventually led me to write the book that you see before you, The Embodied Mind." I first interviewed Dr Thomas Verny for my Fear Free Childbirth podcast and you can listen to that here. During that conversation, Dr Verny said that he was working on his next book and I asked him to let me know when it came out so that we can have another chat. Well he did and here we are. His latest book is The Embodied Mind and it came out late last year. We spoke just before my personal life unravelled somewhat and so I never got round to editing and publishing the podcast. But now I'm back, here it is! In this podcast, Dr Verny explains the thinking behind his book and during our chat we talk about; how we must abandon the top-down system... this thinking that the brain and head is at the heart of everything and 'in charge'. Instead, it's more like a horizontal system. the trauma we carry in our bodies and in our cells the collective trauma that's built up - that nations have, that peoples have how little attention is being paid to the collective trauma hidden trauma the importance of the health of parents pre-conception and much more.…

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Yetis & Trauma: 2 things they have in common 25:54

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I’m feeling very called to get back to work on clearing trauma at the moment. A few months ago I went all in with it when I was really ill. My mind had pretty much shut down and healing was my sole focus as I kicked off a physical healing protocol, but it would need time; I needed to detox The Thing that was making me ill, and then my body needed to heal from The Thing. I wasn’t good for much while this was happening so I thought I’d double-down and support my physical healing with emotional healing. Why not clear some more of my shit? There was a lot of crap going on for me on all levels so this seemed like a good idea. I’d been dabbling with trauma clearance just before I was ill, so I decided go all-in and hunt down more of my unresolved traumas. Why traumas are like yetis I found that hunting down my unresolved traumas is like hunting down the Yeti. You only know they’re there by the shit and footprints they leave behind. Well I had the brown stuff in bucket loads, and I could see the footprints in my triggers, self-sabotaging habits and inner conflicts, so I knew it was lurking. But when I delved into the various life aspects I was struggling with, the truth was I didn’t actually know if I had indeed experienced a trauma around this particular theme in my life. And, if I had, what that experience might have been. When I’m working with women on their pregnancy and birth phobias, most of the them have experienced trauma from their own birth experience (as I did). Even though most can’t remember their birth experience, having your own birth as a thing in the mind to focus on is helpful. But when you have no idea WHETHER there is a traumatic experience in there, and WHAT the experience is … well, that’s just tricksy! I figured it must be there because of the footprints and the crap but I just couldn’t put my finger on what it was. It felt nebulous and shifty – like it was trying to escape or avoid detection (fears are very good at doing this). This meant I needed to cast a super huge net to catch the bastards. Getting creative with clearing my traumas Pretty much straightaway, I found I needed to leave the safe shores of the trauma clearance methods I knew and I needed to make shit up. Or, as I prefer to call it; follow my intuitive guidance. So I decided to crack on making a few assumptions; Yes. Trauma was the culprit of my various head trashy nightmares There’s probably more than one of these ‘traumatic’ events that I might have experienced in my life around each theme I probably have no recollection of most of these events or experiences Some of these might have happened while I was in utero Now, because I’m a curious, businessy numbers person I was interested in HOW MANY traumas I was dealing with here. How many unresolved traumas did I have, EXACTLY? I found that I had anything up to 100+ experiences that my emotional system had deemed ‘traumatic’ that I was carrying around with me related to any particular theme. Here are some numbers; Lack of self belief 10 Feelings of insecurity 8 Taking action 18 Inaction & procrastination 94 So taking action was traumatic.. as was NOT taking action! No wonder I was struggling and going around in circles. Tug of war aside, these numbers blew my mind… … until I stopped to think about it and then realised they make perfect sense. Our lives are packed with experiences, some of which are traumatic We’ve had LOADS of life experiences. And a fair few of them will have left an emotional trace and made us stop and think about how we might behave differently next time… especially to avoid The Shitty Thing happening again. And so a destructive or self-sabotaging pattern gets embedded. These numbers were also crushing. Up until this point I had been clearing my traumas one-by-one. I was NEVER going to get this shit cleared if I had to clear each of these bloody traumas one-by-one! Until I spoke to a very Wise and Wonderful friend who highlighted the bleedin’ obvious – why don’t you clear ALL of them at once? Can I do that??? Apparently no permission is required. You can do what you bloody want. So I tried. And it turns out I can! You can clear more than one trauma at once Oh lordy! It reminded me of the time when we were renovating our Victorian house in the UK and we finally got a wallpaper stripper. Suddenly I needed to strip ALL the walls, RIGHT NOW! Most sensible people do a room at a time. Not me! ALL. THE. ROOMS! Well, if you take this same approach to your trauma clearance, then your emotional system is going to look a bit like my walls did. Like a bomb’s hit it. Yep! Taking this approach kicked off the Mother of all healing crises. Not only was my body trying to heal from The Toxic Thing, but now my emotional system was healing from The Great Trauma Purge (my very own Great Reset). For about a week afterwards I slept 16 hours a day and ate like a gannet. But oh my goodness. When I eventually emerged I felt different. I felt lighter and more at peace. I feel like I have more trust in myself. The urgent gotta-do-it-all-right-now energy had evaporated. Replaced by more patience, slow-ness and present-ness. The part of me that always made me want to BE MORE because I wasn’t ENOUGH… feels almost gone. I give less of a shit about stuff than before. I thought I was pretty good on that front, but now I’m much more like some of my zero-fucks-to-give friends. I’ve had a break now and I’m already feeling the call to jump back in. Next on my list are the traumas at the root of my dog allergies and eczema (the kids want a dog!). As well as my abandonment traumas – of which I have 121!!! So if I disappear again, you know why.…

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The dangers of playing hide and seek 22:33

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Did you ever play hide and seek as a kid? I bet it's a YES. Please don't say no... because that would be a little bit sad. If you did - and you did, right? - then your hide and seek shenanigans could be responsible for some head trashy challenges you might be experiencing as an adult. My kids LOVE playing hide and seek and I'm pretty sure it's something we've all played as kids. I sometimes join in and my favourite time was when my daughter and I hid under the blankets that cover the sofa in our lounge and my other half totally missed us. Like, how did he not notice the huge lumps under the blanket?? TOP HIDE AND SEEK TIP: Hide in plain site. But I'm afraid I bring bad news; all is not fine and dandy in the world of hide and seek. Playing hide and seek could be bad for your health Hide and seek could actually be bad for your mental and emotional health. Shocker, right? Recently I've started to realise that it might not be the innocent and fun game we imagine it to be. I know this because games of hide and seek are coming up quite a bit during my client sessions. And, no, I don't PLAY hide and seek with my clients! 😂 When you're clearing head trash around something, you are often reminded of memories and experiences that relate to whatever it is that you're clearing. Some of these memories could come from way back, and you might not have even thought about them until now in the midst of a clearance. This often suggests that they could be responsible for planting the roots of the head trash in the first place (not always, but if it's a memory of you as a kid, then it's pretty likely). This means that games of hide and seek could well be the unlikely culprit that's responsible for some pretty specific head trash that many people are wrestling with today. It's pretty obvious when you think about it. But let's see if you can figure it out... Not all games of hide and seek though! Let me just be clear about this.... the dangers I'm referring to don't come from ALL hide and seek games. I'm talking about the times when you hid - let say in a box or a laundry basket - and then no-one came to find you. So you were left trapped in a box or cupboard wondering if anyone was going to find you. At first you'll be sitting there smiling smugly at your wonderful hiding place thinking things like; I must stay hidden and not be seen ... because those are the rules of the game, and I've got to stick to the rules. I don't want to be discovered ... because I want to win the game. The quieter I am the better ... because then I won't be found out. I must make myself as small as possible ... because then it's easier to hide. What does playing hide and seek teach us? Let's pause a moment to explore some of the powerful lessons that hide and seek teaches us: Winning = being really well hidden Winning = not being discovered Winning = being quiet Hmmm.... Are these really lessons that we want to be teaching our kids? And, you starting to get a sense of the head trash that I'm referring to? Now, let's say quite a bit of time has passed and no-one has come to find you. Perhaps your older brother or sister has decided to play a joke on you and leave you in the laundry basket.... ha ha hilarious! But it's not really, not for you. The longer you're left there waiting, the more you're going to be thinking things like ... "If I come out, I'll be breaking the rules. And I might lose. "How come no-one has come to find me? "Have I been forgotten? "Perhaps they've abandoned me. "They don't care about me." "I don't matter." "I"m not worth bothering with." "I'm not worth it" Now you're going be conflicted. Hide and seek creates inner conflicts You really want to win, but, if you break the rules then you're definitely not going to win, so you wait. You might be tempted to break the rules and come out of your hiding place to see what's going on, but, you've been told that breaking the rules is bad. You want to peek your head out even just a bit, but, you might be seen and then you'll definitely lose so you decide not to. Oh the conflicts! But you REALLY want to win.... which, let's face it, ALL kids want to win at EVERYTHING! Whether they're getting the biscuit tin out of the kitchen cupboard, racing back to the car in the supermarket car park, or playing hide and seek. Now remember, this is the child version of you interpreting all this. The memories could be of you aged anywhere between 2 and 10 years old so your capacity for navigating conflicts and rules is still being figured out. You experience situations very differently than if you were faced with the same situation as an adult. But one thing is sure: this is all a VERY BIG DEAL for you. And you're taking your game of hide and seek very seriously indeed. Childhood experiences can be defining ... When we have events that are accompanied by strong or high level of emotions, these events are often imprinted within us. They might turn out to be significant or defining moments for us. But not in a "oh that day I won the Nobel prize" kind of defining. More like "I'll never forget the day my brother left me in the laundry basket for hours and I feel asleep" kind of defining. The intense emotion experienced will leave a trace, either because of a strong impact or simply if the emotion was trapped. These are events are like mini traumas which means they can feed things like anxiety or fear as long as they are still in place. Getting awareness of them - and then clearing them - is a great way to let these events go, and reduce their hold on you. ... but also the source of head trash If you have clear childhood memories about certain events that have a slightly negative tinge, the chances are that those events could be the source of some adult head trash that you're wrestling with today. There's a kicker though: there are probably tons of events you experienced as a child that you no longer remember, that are also doing the same thing. You are probably wrestling with stuff today, that was imprinted as a child, and you have NO IDEA! Anyway, back to the dangers of hide and seek... What head trash does hide and seek create? As I said earlier, games of hide and seek have been coming up a lot during client sessions recently. But what makes this very interesting is that they're coming up when I've been helping my clients address something very specific. Have you figured it out yet? Visibility. The clients were all women who wanted to be more visible and 'seen'. They wanted to speak up and be heard. Now, let's just let that sink in for a moment. Hide and Seek teaches us to HIDE and STAY HIDDEN All of these women were struggling with being seen and speaking up. All of them recalled times when they played hide and seek as a child during the clearance work. But these weren't pleasant hide and seek memories. They were times when they had been left in their hiding place, either because they'd been forgotten, or a sibling had played a joke on them. A strong desire to be hidden and quiet had embedded itself and created a life-long pattern of struggle. The conflicts created by playing hide and seek The conflicts I mentioned earlier will be running patterns of behaviour silently in the background sabotaging them whenever any instance of being heard or seen confronts them. Being quiet or hidden = winning ... which means that being heard or seen = losing Sticking to the rules and being compliant = being a good girl ... which means that breaking the rules = being a naughty girl This means that whenever any instance of being heard or seen confronts them, they will subconsciously choose to do The Thing that will enable them to achieve the thing they value the most; Winning [achievement, success] Being a good girl [peace, harmony, approval, avoidance of conflict] Playing by the rules [being helpful, being accommodating, being compliant, avoiding conflict] These conflicts are familiar territory for many women who suffer with the toxic side effects of kindness and 'being nice'. And who knows, perhaps playing hide and seek as kid is to blame. Healing the conflicts can stop the patterns of struggle Wherever these conflicts have come from - because hide and seek is not the only culprit in town - the important thing is to heal these conflicts so that we can stop running these unhelpful patterns of self-sabotage. Thankfully this is easy to do using Head Trash Clearance. To find out more about Head Trash Clearance and how you can get hold of the clearance method, CLICK HERE. Your Head Trash Clearance To-Do List Once you have got hold of the Head Trash Clearance method, here are some suggested items to add to your clearance list; Being seen or visible Being hidden Being loud Being quiet Being small Winning Losing Wondering what a Head Trash Clearance To-do list is? Read this to find out more. There could be additional conflicts getting in the way of your visibility and ability to speak up but these would be a good start. Especially if you played a lot of hide and seek as a kid!…

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Business, motherhood and mental health 54:52

۳ years پیش54:52

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In this, my first podcast for a while, I chat to business founder Ela Senghera. Ela is the founder of Virtually Thrive, a mental health business that supports parents. During our conversation, Ela and I talk about founder anxiety an the stresses of creating and building a business the importance of self care for parents what you can do to care more for yourself how you can prevent problems with your mental health imposter syndrome, and how Ela wins it more than she doesn't how Ela practices self care and manages to remain calm during her daily stresses the loss of a woman's 'career' once she has kids, and how this needs to be talked about more the importance of self awareness in making life choices - whether to have kids, pursuing the life dream why knowing and living your values is important in being happy and pursuing your life dreams how authenticity and your values are connected why as a founder and business owner you need to focus on the WHY (and as a person too!) This conversation touches on something for everyone. To find out more about Ela, you can visit her website at www.virtuallythrive.com or listen to her podcast Virtually Unbreakable.…

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Clearing self-sabotage; what it looks like 36:10

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Today I want to share with you what clearing self-sabotage looks like. Like EXACTLY. I'm going to share with you an example of someone I worked with so that you can better understand how we self-sabotage. And perhaps this will help you with your own self-sabotaging ways. Self-sabotage is something we can all relate to. Personally, I'm an expert. An expert self-sabotager, but also an expert and getting rid of it (thank God!). The thing is, it's much easier to clear in others than in yourself. This sucks for me, but it's great for the people who come to me for help. This one of the reasons is why I'm looking for people to train in my methods. At least then someone can work with ME on my self-sabotage! (if you're a coach and would like to find out more, get in touch) Self-sabotage Clearance I've developed a clearance process for getting rid of self-sabotage which means that it's possible to get rid of all the sources of sub-conscious self-sabotage really easily (and quickly). No positive thinking. No affirmations. No meditation. No manifesting. No journalling. No need to chat with supportive friends. No banging your head against a brick wall. Just clearance. I've talked about this self-sabotage clearance process before. Self-sabotage; everything you need to know How to eliminate self-sabotage Somewhere along the way I shared how many typical sources of self-sabotage I come across; it's usually around 25-35. How much do you ACTUALLY self-sabotage? Yes you read that right. For any goal that you are pursuing, there are probably around 25-35 separate blocks that are standing between you and your goal. You have conscious and sub-conscious blocks Some of these are conscious. In other words, you are aware of them and would be able to think of them if I asked you. But many of these aren't; they're sub-conscious. This means that not only can you not think of them (and therefore identify them), but it also means that you won't be able to eliminate them. How can you get rid of something that you don't know exists? When I work with people to clear their self-sabotage, we clear ALL of these blocks: the conscious ones and the subconscious ones. And we could be clearing up to 35 separate blocks. Of course it could be more, or it could be less. But this is the typical number that I come across. The exact number will depend on all sorts of factors; how much head trash you have how much inner work you've done how self-aware you are whether the goal is stretching your comfort zone or not whether this goal intersects with some big personal head trash themes for you For example, let's say you have money mindset issues and challenges around self-worth. Now perhaps your goal is around putting your prices up for a program or service you want to sell. If this is you then a lot of your blocks will be related to the money mindset and self-worth head trash you already have. Whereas if you don't have money mindset issues then launching something with increased prices will probably have less sabotage around it. This is why if you've done inner work (and have relatively high levels of self-awareness), the number of individual sabotaging blocks will be less. But they will still be present. Anyway, since i've been sharing the humber of likely block you might be facing around your goals, people have been messaging me because they're curious. The questions I get are mostly these; "What kind of blocks?" "How can we have 35 blocks on ONE goal? 35, really?????" To help peeps get their head around this I figured it might be useful if I shared some examples. One example of clearing self-sabotage So, I thought I'd share an example of someone I worked with on a particular goal. That way you can find out for yourself what these blocks can look like and maybe this will help you to identify them for yourself. Self-awareness is an important first step. Clearance is the next one for sure (especially if you want to get rid of these blocks quickly) but conscious awareness enables you to start dealing with things. And that's what I hope I can help you with by sharing this example with you. A business owner's goal to launch a new training program The example I'm going to share with you on this podcast is someone who is launching a new training program in her business and it's part of an important pivot for her business as she moves away from face-to face interactions and in-person events to providing training (online and in-person) and building a network of practitioners worldwide. During this podcast I share each of the blocks that came up and that we cleared the bigger head trash themes that came up for her that she wasn't aware were sabotaging this goal how long we took to clear them all things that you can look out for in terms of your own self-sabotage I hope you find this useful, and if you're struggling with self-sabotage and it's seriously getting in your way, then let me invite you to get in touch.…

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Planning conflicts and head trash 18:45

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I thought I loved planning. But it was all a lie! I’ve done a lot of planning and I think I’m pretty good at all sorts of planning shenanigans. From road trips across foreign lands and island-hopping holidays to secret birthday parties and complex international product launches. In corporate I used to do high level business planing all the time. As a business coach and consultant people have hired me just to do their business planning. This usually meant doing the business or marketing plan for their management team, or the banks and investors. Earlier this year I did loads of business planning for my own business as part of my discussions and negotiations with potential investors. So yes me and planning are old buds. Well, I thought we were, but apparently not. If I loved planning, why was I doing this? I’d recently become aware that the plans I’d been making for my own business.. well I noticed that I wasn’t sticking to them. I’d spend time creating and refining them. And then ignore them. What on earth was that about? Plans are great. I KNOW how important they can be. What was I playing at? But this was Miss Sensible speaking. Little Miss Rebel had other ideas and it seems she’d been winning. What was my problem with planning? Why was I not sticking to my own plans? I wanted to, because other wise why would I go to the trouble of creating them. There was a conflict somewhere and I needed to get to the bottom of it. I was conflicted about planning Now that I had this awareness I knew that I needed to clear my head trash around planning stuff. So I cracked on with my clearance. And as always happens when I do Head Trash Clearance, I started getting clarity and things started making sense to me. Then I got the ahaa moment …. and it made me laugh out loud! There was part of me that hates plans because they’re telling me what to do. And I have a real big issue with being told what to do! Especially by me it seems! What kind of crazy self sabotage is that? Conflicts sabotage your efforts Conflicts like this are very common and they are a huge cause of self-sabotage. You can like something, or want more of it in your life and, at the same time there’s a part of you that doesn’t want it. The thing is, we’re not always aware of this conflict. But, until we can resolve it, we’re not going to be able to fully do the thing we want, or get the thing we want more of. This is because there’s always going to be a part of us that is blocking us. For me, this meant that I could crack on with creating the plans, but I couldn’t follow through on them because on some level I was resisting the plans. The Clearance process enabled me to get the insight as to WHY there was a part of me that didn’t like planning. Once I could untie these two aspects, I would be free to fully embrace planning in all its glory… should I so wish! So my next obvious clearance would be to clear ‘being told what to do’. Once that clearance is done the conflict that is in play around planning would be resolved. How else does ‘planning’ head trash show up? When I shared my planning clearance on Facebook, one of my friends, Mel, shared how she felt about planning: “I love making plans, as I am a saddo who actually can’t function unless I am telling myself what to do. I looooong to be a spontaneous rebel to my own routine and structure, like you. However I fear imploding if I do not do as I have planned. I am so organised to the umpteenth degree that I panic if I am not following my plan, in case I forget to do something crucial and it comes back to bite me.” Mel too has planning head trash, but it’s showing up very differently to mine. She loves routine and structure, but also hates it and wants to rebel it, so there’s a conflict. I suspect there’s a need to be in control, which routine and structure provide. For Mel, it’s the possibility of things being out of control or chaotic (a fear) that is driving her need to plan. For Mel to be free of her planning head trash, as well as ‘planning’, she would need to clear things like control, and being out of control being organised, and being disorganised routine structure The thing about our head trash is that it’s all tangled up. Things are connected to each other to create head trash knots. For us to get rid of the knot, we have to identify all the strands and clear them one by one. And before you know, it the knot is gone. How do you feel about planning? We’ve all got different stuff going on, so your if you’ve planning head trash, then it’s probably going to be a bit different. But hopefully by seeing how I’ve dissected mine and Mel’s you can try and figure out what’s going on for you. If I were to draw a list of usual suspects for useful and related clearances, it would include things like this: being prepared knowing what to do having no idea what to do / being clueless Once you’ve identified your own list, then just clear it using the Head Trash Clearance method which you can find in my book Clear Your Head Trash .…

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Using the mind-body connection to feel better 1:10:46

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Whenever I see a face, I can usually tell whether they have a load of head trash. this is because whenever we have lots of stresses and anxieties, the tension that this creates shows up in our bodies, and our faces. We're familiar with the aching shoulders, tension head-aches and other bodily aches that come from being stressed and anxious, and in my experience these tensions show up in the face. They are so prominent that I tend to notice a difference in the faces of my clients over the course of the time of us working together. The difference can be quite remarkable. This is a reflection of the connection that we're all-too aware of: the mind-body connection. When we experience emotions, they do not pass through our brain or our conscious mind, they pass through the body. It would take too long for us to get the message if we waited for our emotions to be processed by the mind. Our body enables us to get the message that our emotions are sending to us instantly. This is pretty helpful when faced with a life-threatening situation. The problem comes when our emotions get trapped in our body because this is when tension is created and movements are limited. If we want to release this emotional tension, one way of doing that is by clearing out the emotional energy - which we can do using Head Trash Clearance - and the other way we can do that is through movement of the body. To help us to better understand this connection between mind and body, I invited Victoria Salomon onto the podcast to talk it through. Victoria is a movement specialist and her work touches on the the emotional component, so I thought she'd make a great guest to help us explore this fascinating topic. The Ladder of Head Trash Our conversation follows the structure of the Ladder of Head Trash, more of which you can read about in my book Clear Your Head Trash, but which goes a bit like this; At the bottom of the ladder we are full of head trash. It weighs us down and makes it hard for us to climb the ladder. The more head trash we clear, the more easy we find it to climb the ladder to subsequent rungs. At the top of the ladder, we are in a place whereby we have high levels of emotional resilience and mental fitness, we are confident and have strong levels of personal power. We're in flow. The five rungs of the Head Trash Ladder are as follows; Conkers Washing balls Bouncy balls Snooker Balls Glitter Balls During this conversation, Victoria and I explore each of these rungs from a mind and body perspective. This can help you to figure out where you are on the ladder, and how best to overcome the challenges you're facing as a result of where you are on the ladder, whether those are emotional or physical. About Victoria Victoria specialises in helping you, whether emotional pain means you struggle to jump out of bed in the morning, or your physical pain and stiffness stops you bending down to do up your shoes, or running around participating in sport or playing with your kids! The Ixchel System is her inside out approach, teaching you to assess and realign your own muscular-skeletal and nervous system. This will realign and rebalance your emotional and physical connection, to create total freedom in your body and mind. Victoria’s goal is that you do not need her for long, because within a short time of working The Ixchel System you will have reclaimed the power you want, so you have agency over your health and will be relieved of, or more in control of your pain! She has a series of courses as well working one to one! Find more in on Victoria Salomon and The Ixchel System at her website here . And here are some further resources that Victoria offers: Positive Power of Pain Podcast The 10 Minute Fix Get Into Your Body Level 1…

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Productivity: Getting distracted vs getting stuff done 22:58

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Getting stuff done and generally being productive requires the mind to stay focussed on singular tasks until they are complete. Sounds fairly straightforward, right? And yet this is where most people fall down, including you. Why? Simple. You get distracted You look away from what you're doing. Perhaps you open up another browser window to check Facebook. Or maybe you look outside through an actual window and just stare. It doesn't really matter what is causing the distraction. What matters is that the mind is up for being distracted. It doesn't have the staying power for the task as hand. It wavers. One minute you're doing the task, the next minute your attention wanders and you're checking email or your phone. Then your attention goes back to the task again. Sound familiar? In this podcast episode I dive into some of the reasons why you might be getting distracted so easily. When your mind is easily distracted your productivity will suffer. The constant wavering as you flit between tasks and wonder whether this is indeed the right task for you to be focusing on creates a huge drain on your effectiveness. Your productivity suffers This constant shift in focus means that it struggles to move forward with The Thing it's actually trying to do and so your productivity suffers. When a mind has strength and resilience it's much easier to stay with the task at hand until it's complete. And it rarely gets distracted. We have all seen people like this. Things are kicking off all around them and despite it all, they remain absorbed in the thing they're doing. You see, it's not about The Distraction per se. It's about the mind and these two things specifically; Is your mind OPEN to being distracted? Can your mind withstand distractions? As you become more resilient, you're better able to remain focussed and bat away distractions. It's all part of being unfuckwithable which you can read all about here . But building mental strength and resilience doesn't sound like something that you can do overnight. So in the meantime what can you do? What can you do to avoid being distracted? Specifically so that you can can get stuff done and generally be more productive. The good news is that the answer is quicker to achieve than you might think. This was something a business client came to me with this week. She told me that she was struggling to get stuff done and that she was getting distracted too easily. My client is in lockdown and like many working parents she is working from home and homeschooling two kids under five. She's a CEO with 15 people working for her so already has plenty on her plate. Lockdown was massively adding to her usual distractions and she told me that she was struggling to get stuff done. I think we can all relate to that! So we used the Head Trash Clearance Method and cleared Getting stuff done Distractions and being distracted You might think it strange for us to clear 'getting stuff done'. There are two reasons why we did that; It's an important part of the clearance process. Head Trash Clearance involves working with opposites, and for my client the opposite of 'being distracted' was 'getting stuff done'. It was the outcome that my client wanted. We often have resistance or blocks around our desires and goals, so it's always worth doing a clearance around the things you want to achieve. In this situation her desired outcome just happened to be the opposite of the thing she was struggling with so that made things nice and neat! if it wasn't the opposite then I would have asked two questions: What's the opposite of 'being distracted'? A good way to ask yourself that is "If you're not being distracted, you're what...?". The answer to this might have been 'being focussed' for example. What's the outcome you desire? This will be the thing you're struggling with, the thing you're trying to achieve but can't for some reason. This is because there are blocks in your way. In my client's situation, the blocks were her being distracted. This clearance took just under an hour and the effects were remarkable. She realised straight after doing the clearance was what was important and what wasn't. Immediately she was able to identify five things that were on her to-do list that were unnecessary and mere distractions. So she struck them straight off without hesitation. She also had unwavering clarity as to what she needed to do and what to prioritise. This gave her a renewed energy and motivation for the things she needed to do. Result! Head Trash Clearance Tips If you're struggling with getting stuff done, use the Head Trash Clearance Method to clear getting stuff done distractions and being distracted…

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COVID Anxiety and how to deal with it 26:37

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With so much uncertainty around right now, the only certainty seems to be this: COVID anxiety is a thing and it's becoming more of a problem as time goes by. COVID anxiety is affecting mental health for a lot of people and we need to do something about it. What is COVID anxiety? It's the various aspects of COVID that are creating additional anxieties in people. For me this is not the same as simply having a higher level of anxiety due to the pressures of living with COVID.Some people are reporting that since COVID came into our lives, they are now experiencing anxiety where they didn't before. In this episode I explore the various aspects of COVID anxiety and how you can begin address it, if that's what you want. Head Trash Clearance Tips for COVID Anxiety If you want to tackle your COVID anxiety, then it's worth exploring each of these aspects and identifying what it is about those things that brings up fear or anxiety for you.There's a lot here to unravel and it will be different for everyone, but here are some things that I would expect to see on someone's Head Trash Clearance To-Do list if they wanted to reduce their COVID anxiety. COVID Getting ill Wearing a mask Uncertainty Changes Being told what to do COVID Anxiety Pack To help you I have created a COVID Anxiety Pack that includes the most common COVID anxieties. The COVID Anxiety Pack includes Clearance Tracks and Clearance Mantras to help you to tackle the most common COVID anxieties. There is also a COVID Anxiety section in the the Clearance Club. The Clearance Club is a vault of 100s of Head Trash Clearance Mantras and Tracks to help you to clear the head trash from a wide range of themes in your life; weight loss & eating, decision-making, health anxieties, medical fears, etc. Find out more about the Clearance Club here.…

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What is anxiety REALLY? And how to shift it. 30:36

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Anxiety is something we have all experienced a one time or other. Or at least I'm assuming you have by the very fact you're on this site. Here are some fun facts about anxiety that I found here; An estimated 284 million people worldwide experienced an anxiety disorder in 2017, making it the most prevalent mental health disorder on the planet (Ritchie, Hannah and Roser, Max. “Anxiety Disorders.” Our World In Data. Accessed May 14, 2019) Anxiety disorders are the most common of mental disorders and will affect nearly 30% of adults at some point in their lives.[4] Even though anxiety disorders are highly treatable, only about 1/3 of those suffering receive adequate treatment What is anxiety? According to authors Kaplan and Sadock, anxiety is “a diffuse, unpleasant, vague sense of apprehension ” and is often a response to an imagined, imprecise, or unknown threat. For example, let’s say you’re walking down a dark street. You might feel a bit apprehensive and have butterflies in your stomach, or be overcome with a sense of dread. These feelings are caused by the anxiety that is related to the possibility that a nasty stranger may jump out from behind a van and ask for your wallet, or worse. This anxiety is not the result of a known or specific threat because you don’t know for sure that there’s a nasty man lurking about. Instead, it’s all in your head; you’re imagining that there might be a nasty man. You may argue with that, saying, “Well, I’m in a dodgy part of town that’s littered with questionable characters on every street corner, so I’m pretty confident that this is a real threat,” but it only becomes real when a man actually appears. Then fear kicks in. Fear is an emotional response to a known or definite threat. Staying in our darkened street, let’s say someone does appear from behind that rusty old van and holds a knife up in your face, asking for your mobile phone and wallet; this would trigger your fear response. In this case, the danger is real, definite, and immediate. Anxiety vs fear - what's the difference? So the main difference between fear and anxiety, is that anxiety is this vague sense of unease and apprehension, about things we IMAGINE about the future, whereas fear is triggered in the moment when we are faced with a threatening situation. This all gets very fuzzy though because our fear radar is completely out of whack because of modern society and the fact that we rarely face situations that threaten our life. And given that fear and anxiety produce very similar physiological responses, it's obvious why we might confuse the two or think of them as being interchangeable. Thankfully when it comes to getting rid of fears or anxiety, it doesn't matter which it is because Head Trash Clearance doesn't care. But it can be very useful to make the distinction for our own self-awareness and being able to manage or cope with it. If you want to read more about the difference between anxiety and fear, this blog post dives into this in more detail; https://clearyourheadtrash.com/articles/fear-and-anxiety/ What does anxiety look like? At least, what does it look like in terms of head trash? Here is an example of how anxiety might show up for someone, maybe you? Let's say you hate not being in control because you can't stand chaos. Things need to be ordered and well planned for you. Everything you do, you prepare to the nth degree. And you do that to help you to FEEL in control. Your need for control also means that you hold on to stuff (emotions, dramas, things). This means that you can’t fully let go AND let yourself go because you’re worried about looking silly or appearing weak. If you look silly or weak you won’t be taken seriously and then people might not like you. If people don’t like you then you might feel like you don’t belong or rejected and if you’re rejected you think you’re not good enough. And if you’re not good enough then you’ll mess up and be a total failure and no one will want anything to do with you and you’ll be all alone. And if there’s one thing you fear more than anything it’s being, feeling, living and dying alone. This is what anxiety looks like. Does this seem familiar to you? This kind of tangled up head trash is hiding in all sorts of pockets in your life and mind; Health Food Relationship Parenting Work Business And unfortunately it creates lots of rubbish side effects. The unfortunate side effects of anxiety Anxiety is the obvious symptom but there's more. The conflicts that are in place will create self-sabotaging patterns and keep you stuck in unhelpful patterns of behaviour. You'll procrastinate on things you actually WANT to do. And because your mind is juggling all of these conflicts and fears, it takes AGES to get anything done: your productivity and effectiveness will suck. And all of this will probably keep you up at night and stop you from getting a decent nights sleep. Which means that during the day you'll reach for the caffeine and sugary snacks to give you the energy to make it through. To avoid facing up to the barrage of these thoughts, you'll want to find ways to escape.. a few drinks, recreational drugs or sleeping tablets. It can be a slippery slope, but that doesn't mean we can't put a stop to it. And it also doesn't have to take that long. So how do we get rid of anxiety? How do we get rid of anxiety? It's simple. We unravel it and clear it one piece at a time. In the unravelling, themes begin to emerge. From what I've shared above, one of the key themes would include control. This is a biggie for a lot of people and shows up in all aspects of our lives. Other themes might includes decisiveness and hesitation change and uncertainty procrastination and action-taking adulting (growing up and acting like the adult you are) trapped and stuck how we relate to others honesty and integrity These themes are extensive and show up for everyone in varying degrees. It's the nature of being human. If you want to reduce your anxiety, then I would recommend exploring these key themes and asking yourself what you fear or worry about. Do you worry about things like; making the wrong decision or messing up? things changing or your life/body changing? taking on responsibility? having no choices or feeling trapped? feeling unsupported or asking for help? being lied to? These are just some of the questions that will help you to unravel your head trash. Once you've unravelled, you're probably going to find yourself facing a long list. Thats OK. Don't feel overwhelmed by it. If you do, then put "overwhelm" at the top of the list. Typically, someone with anxiety will have around 40-60 things on their list. If you commit to clearing 6 things a week, then you could be noticing a HUGE impact in how you feel in just 10 weeks. That's not even 3 months! To make this easy for you, I've compiled the most common clearances that people have needed to do in all of these key themes and they are all in the Clearance Club . The Clearance Club is a vault of head trash clearance resources that have been created to help you clear your head trash quickly and easily. You just need to be able to read and follow simple instructions and you're good to go. Of course, you might prefer guidance and support on this journey.…

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Head trash and pursuing your dream life 33:28

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The Head Trash Show is back. After a long break In this episode I talk about the head trash I've had to wrestle with as I've been pursuing my dream life. Two years ago, we made the decision to leave the UK and move the family to France. We had always wanted to live somewhere sunny near the coast, so we decided to go for it. This was the beginning of a journey that was fraught with head trash for me. It triggered so many fears for me and it's been hard work. A few months into that journey, the COVID pandemic struck and added a whole new layer of fun to the experience. Deciding to follow your dream sounds romantic and, dare I say it, easy. Well, in my experience it has not been easy. That's no reason not to go for it, mind. I wouldn't go back and change my decision because I'm hugely grateful for where I am, but it's been a testing journey for sure. Probably due to all my head trash. So today, I wanted to get back into my podcasting groove by sharing more about this journey and the head trash I've wrestled with. During this episode I talk about Feelings of being isolated and alone Not having human connection or people to talk to Uncertainty How the COVID pandemic affected our dream life pursuit I also share more about what my dreams are for Head Trash and how I want to take this into the world. I'd love you to join me on this journey as you pursue your happy place, and perhaps your dream life too. If you want to join others on the head trash clearance journey, them please do come and join the Clear Your Head Trash Facebook group .…

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The Psychology of pain with Gary Keil 50:55

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Pain is interesting. At least I find it interesting. And I guess that comes from my work in helping women prepare for birth. Pain comes up a lot! In fact it comes up too much in my opinion. More than it should do. And this is because a fear of pain is probably one of the most common fears I come across. Well, it's only to be expected, after all childbirth is the gold standard when it comes to pain. Everything is compared to childbirth. And yet in some countries, childbirth is not considered or thought of as being painful. Now THAT is interesting! This raises all sorts of questions for us around whether something is universally painful. How subjective is pain? Can we do anything to avoid it or reduce it in some way? Do we all experience it differently? Is it psychological or is it physical. Or both? These are just some of the questions I'm going to be getting to the bottom of in this episode of the podcast. Today I'm joined by my guest Dr Gary Keil . Dr. Keil was originally a pharmacist but has continued his hunger for knowledge in better understanding the human condition, why we behave the way we do and how we can improve. "I am passionate about how the mind and body work together, and how both can be fully developed to create happier, healthier and more creative individuals. Neuroscience and neuroplasticity, philosophy/theosophy/positive psychology, and mind-body practices like yoga and meditation are my main passions but I'm a FIRM believer that what you put into your body is just as important as how the innards work." During our chat Dr Keil talks about the difference between pain and suffering how pain has both emotional and physical components what we can do to reduce our experience of pain, and what is likely to increase it how our beliefs impact our experience of pain the opposite of PTSD, PTGO what we can to prevent our experience of trauma the length of time it can take to train and change our minds It's a fascinating conversation and one that I hope you enjoy.…

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Being an introvert or extrovert - can we change? 22:48

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This week on the podcast I'm exploring the idea of being an introvert or extrovert, and I'm asking the question "Is it fixed? Or can we change?" I don't often hear extroverts wanting to change, but I do often come across introverts not enjoying being an introvert. Or at least, they make excuses for it and make changes to their life to allow for being an introvert. So they might not be openly be complaining about being an introvert, but it sounds like if they could change it they would. What does being an introvert or extrovert mean? This article in Fast magazine describes introverts and extroverts as follows; Introverts (or those of us with introverted tendencies) tend to recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. Extroverts , on the other hand, gain energy from other people. Extroverts actually find their energy is sapped when they spend too much time alone. They recharge by being social. I would like to take a different perspective here, and it starts with this question; Why do introverts lose energy by being around people? I would like to suggest that it's because people and social situations are emotionally triggering for them. When we are emotionally triggered for long periods of time we're exhausted by that and we need recovery time. The reason they might be getting emotionally triggered is that they might have unresolved emotional conflicts or fears and anxieties around being in a social situation. These fears and anxieties could be things like What are people going to think of me? What if they don't take me seriously? People are going to judge me. I never know what to say... what if I say something silly? Being home alone simply means they avoid being emotionally triggered, and therefore they can better manage their energy levels. During this episode I explore this idea and share some examples that I believe support the idea that being an introvert is something that we can change. I think that our natural state is being an ambivert, and that being an introvert or extrovert is simply due to the presence of head trash. And this means something can be done about it. I also talk about introvert speakers - of which there are many - and why they might be experiencing the double whammy of performing and being an introvert that means that they need a day to recover after a speaking gig. Read the podcast transcript Head over here to read the podcast transcript . Would you like to change? If you find that being an introvert is costing you things in your life and would like to become more ambivert, then get in touch about how we can map out your head trash clearance journey so that you can allow more possibilities into your life.…

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Healing your mother wound 40:18

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The mother wound is a new term for me, but the minute I heard it, it made so much sense. I knew immediately that whatever it was, I had it! Well, let's face it, we all have it. I was intrigued as to how the mother wound would show up in our day-to-day lives. I've done a lot of mother wound work on myself, so I had inklings on how my mother wound has been affecting me, but I'm sure I still have blind spots. And I sure as hell will not have anything of value to add when it comes to other people's mother wounds. So when I came across this guest I knew I needed to get her on the show. Today's guest is Rev Chelle. Rev is a Metaphysical Minister, Family Constellation Facilitator & Clinical Hypnotist. In her work she guides daughters as they connect the dots from their mother wound to issues in their relationships, career, finances, fertility, health and parenting. The Mother Wound, with Rev Chelle During our chat we talk about; What the mother wound is and how to recognise it the role that inter-generational trauma plays on your mother wound how the mother wound shows up in on your pregnancy and birth journey the impact of not healing unfinished pregnancies on the family soul how the mother wound might be the reason for imposter syndrome, your lack of abundance or your tricky relationships how you can go about healing your mother wound Rev Chelle works with people to help them to heal their mother wound. She does this through paradigm-shifting, evidence-based, trauma-informed healing experience that breaks generational and subconscious cycles of pain between daughters and their mothers. ABOUT REV CHELLE In her work her focus is breaking generational and subconscious cycles of pain between daughters and their mothers. Getting to the emotional, energetic and generational root of your Mother Wound Connecting the dots from the unhealthy patterns in your family system to your most pressing issues in relationships, fertility, parenting and career Identifying the connection between your Mother Wound and your failed relationships Why an unhealed Mother Wound may be affecting your fertility The connection between your Mother Wound and Imposter Syndrome You can find out more about her work at www.revchelle.com where you can also book a consultation.…

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How to reduce sleep stress 23:54

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Have you got sleep stress? We often hear about how stress affects our sleep, but not always about how sleep affects our stress. As in, how sleep CREATES stress! You know, SLEEP STRESS! Yes, you read that right; sleep is stressful. Which when you're already stressed and can't sleep, isn't exactly good news. The thing is as you lie in bed awake waiting for sleep to take over, your mind racing with stressful thoughts about your stressful life, it's not long before your thoughts turn to sleep; why am I still awake? why can't I fall asleep? what if I don't fall asleep soon, then I won't get my 7 hours and then I'll never be able to function! what time is it again? This is what we call sleep stress. Like we needed another kind of stress in our lives! What is sleep stress? When I think of sleep stress I think of the emotional tangle we get ourselves into all over not being able to fall asleep. The thing is, once we get sucked into these thoughts it's a slippery slope. If you've listened to the other podcasts I did recently on sleep, when I spoke to sleep experts Chel Hamilton and Keri Nola, there was one thing that they both mentioned and it was this Do not judge what is happening to you, just accept and go with it. Ha! Easier said than done right? So on today's podcast, I want to dig a bit deeper into sleep stress so that we can better understand the emotional aspects, which in turn should help us to tackle it. Are you up for that? Now, I've given this a lot of thought... nights of lying awake has given me plenty of time! And I've identified 4 key themes that I believe are the main culprits of sleep stress. 1. Not being able to fall asleep... ... and then getting more and more annoyed by not sleeping. This is a classic that affects us all from time to time (if not for some of us ALL THE TIME!). Now there might be a number of reasons it's happening to us - chemical imbalance, too hot/cold, too much iPad action, too much fear-based late night TV. Alot of these are discussed in my other podcasts so if you want to find out more about what you need to address in your life, listen to my chat with Chel while Keri's podcast is great to listen to if you want to create a more effective sleep ritual. But, one thing is certain - you need to make peace with whatever is happening to you and just let go. Now, for some there may be a very clear reason why they can't sleep and it's this: they don't feel safe enough to. Our body will only let us fall asleep if it thinks we're not in danger. So, if you've had a traumatic experience in your life, maybe this is impacting on your ability to fall asleep. If you can make peace with your trauma and restore your feelings of being safe, then this could unlock your ability to fall asleep with ease. 2. Getting stressed by noises that keep you awake This is a bit like #1 except here there are actual noises that you're hooking onto when you hear them. As with thoughts, you need to just let them pass and not reach out, jump on them and travel around the room with them. If you can hear them and just not care, that would make things much easier to fall asleep - don't you think? The important difference here is how you feel about the noise. 3. Waking up in the middle of the night, or waking up too early... ...and then stressing how you're running out of time to get back to sleep. If this is happening to you, then it could be down to a blood sugar drop. Chel talks about this in the chat I had with her so look to address that bit first before tackling the emotional aspects. Get your head in a tangle once you're awake though is not going to help. Especially if you're clock watching. Get rid of any easy ways of seeing the time from your bed. It really doesn't matter what time it is. As long as you have an alarm to wake you up, knowing the time can only mean trouble for you. Especially if you're stressing about the next one... 4. Worrying about not getting your sleep allowance This is the amount of sleep you believe you need to sleep well or get enough sleep. I'm sure we all have an idea as to how much sleep we think we need to feel rested and refreshed. And if we're not sure, then the media will always be too happy to help us figure it out. Only recently there was another piece of research out telling us how much sleep we need. The thing is this is an average figure and often it's not necessary that we need that amount EVERY night. But if we're stressing about how much we believe we need, and what happens if we DON'T get it, then sleep stress is going to win! How to clear sleep stress Well, it's simple... first, you have to identify which of the key themes is affecting you and then do a bit of digging. You dig until you can list out your sleep stress head trash. Then clear each piece of sleep stress head trash using the Head Trash Clearance Method. You can discover how to do this in my book, Clear Your Head Trash which you can buy on Amazon here .…

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Parent and baby mental health 45:32

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Parent and baby mental health are not discussed enough in my opinion. And yet they are incredibly important not just for the families involved, but for society. One of the reasons why I’m so passionate about helping women to build their emotional resilience during pregnancy is that it’s powerful place to start if you want to support the mental health of the whole family. The ripple effects of a positive birth experience for the mother go far beyond the mother; they affect the baby, the partner and the whole family. That’s not to say that a positive birth experience will guarantee that all will be well. Absolutely not. It simply stacks the odds in your favour. So what else can we do to support parent and baby mental health? This is something I wanted to find out. So this is why I’m speaking to today’s podcast guest, Selma Bacevac. Selma is a psychotherapist who specialises in working with infants and toddlers who have been hurt through trauma in their early childhood. Her work involves working with all members of the family to help to improve the mental health of the child. So she seems a great person to help us all better understand parent and baby mental health. What is baby mental health? Baby mental health, or infant mental health, as it's called in the professional world, is essentially ensuring that every single baby out there has the capacity to learn social and emotional skills in a safe, secure and well connected environment with a caregiver who is consistently present. During our chat, Selma talks about Some of the signs that something might be amiss with a baby’s mental health The direct link between a mother’s mental health and that of her baby The importance of pregnancy and the in-utero experience Why women who are planning pregnancy or pregnant should seek mental health support The important role of the partner in maternal and infant mental health Improving baby mental health starts with the parents and them working on their own emotional health How our parenting style will come from the way that we were parented How being aware of our own head trash, and dealing with it, can be crucial part of the process Why parenting books aren’t the answer to being a better parent…. And what is! This is an important conversation that I urge you to listen to, especially if you’re not yet a parent. Preparing for parenthood starts much earlier than you think! About Selma Selma Bacevac, MA is an entrepreneur, mum, international consultant and promoter of baby mental health. She is an expert on how attachment related problems and developmental trauma affect infants and toddlers. She provides webinars, workshops and online training to parents and professionals who are wanting more information on this specific topic. Selma is also the host of Raising Baby, a podcast devoted to helping parents and professionals understand the world from the babies perspective. Selma is a mom, a wife and in her free time enjoys the beach, biking, and more recently kayaking. IG: @selma_parentchildrelationships, Selma's website: www.parentchildrelationshipinstitute.com Selma's podcast: Raising Baby with Selma Bacevac Facebook https://www.facebook.com/parentchildrelationshipinstitute/ Podcast Transcript For a full transcript of the podcast head over here .…

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Why Head Trash Clearance is a Practice 15:27

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To feel and perform at your best, I believe that head trash clearance and mindset should be a practice. But I realise that not everyone sees things in that way. Once you get your head around the idea of head trash and that it’s something that you can clear quite easily, it’s easy to get excited about it. Well, it was for me. Noticing such huge differences in how I feel in such a small period of time is something that taps into my need for efficiency and my hate of wasting time. Since I’ve been clearing head trash professionally I’ve worked with lots and lots of people, some of whom I’m still in touch with. One of these people - let’s call him Alfie - was recently sharing about the emotional struggles he was having. Immediately my Head Trash Radar went into full alert. So I tentatively suggested that this might be a head trash situation and that doing some clearance might help. To which Alfie replied “Well, I’ve done some head trash clearance already. You remember? We did some a couple of years back”. And immediately I realised that I had not explained things clearly enough to him back then. So here goes…. Head trash clearance is a lot like exercise If you want to be get fit, then we all know that exercise and diet is a big part of that. Now let’s imagine that a couple of years ago, you decided that you wanted to get fit. And, for about a month you went to the gym three times a week and did some serious juicing. At the time, you noticed a difference and you were really pleased with yourself. But the juicing and the exercise did not remain a part of your lifestyle. So today, you find yourself thinking “hmmm I could really do with losing a bit of weigh and becoming healthier. I should probably get back to exercise and eating better”. You probably wouldn’t think “well, I exercised for a bit two years back, I’m not quite sure what to do now.”. You wouldn’t would you? It’s fairly obvious that the reason you’re out of shape now is BECAUSE you didn’t maintain the healthy activities. The same goes for the mind and our emotional wellbeing. You can’t expect to be in good emotional health if you don’t undertake a regular practice. Head trash clearance is like cutting sugar and fat Head trash clearance is like cutting the sugar and fat from your diet. It’s getting rid of the stuff you don’t need and that no longer serves you. This is the toxic emotional stuff that drags you down and makes you feel crap. Now, as with exercise, this might need to start with a short period of intense activity. I call these Head Trash Clear-Outs and I LOVE doing them with people. It’s a bit like hiring a personal trainer and a nutritionist for a month. You go all-in to make some epic in-roads. Then, like exercise, once you get to your ideal weight (or whatever the short term goal was), you take your foot off the pedal. But you don’t stop. You simply carry on at a more manageable pace that’s sustainable. When it fits around your life and feels effortless, it’s more likely to be maintained. The same goes for head trash clearance. Why mindset should be a practice Our mind and bodies are connected, so it makes sense that if we are striving to be healthy that we have a regular routine for our minds and our bodies. We wouldn't expect our body to be healthy without a consistent focus, and this is why a focus on mindset should be a practice too. If you feel like you’re in a bit of a mess emotionally then you might want to start with a Head Trash Clear-Out. This will help you to get rid of those long-standing patterns that are triggering the the stress and anxiety in your life. With those out the way, you’ll feel calmer and you’ll probably notice that your confidence soars too. Having a head trash clearance burst like that also means that clearing head trash will come second nature to you, so when you notice new stuff popping up, you can get it sorted. Not only will you be able to spot it before it causes you too much angst, but you’ll be able to get rid of it quickly. This means it’s less likely to have too much of an impact on your life. What does a Head Trash Clearance practice look like? This will depend on where you're at emotionally and what’s going on in your life. And of course, how serious you take this aspect of your life. Just like exercise, there are some who get up everyday at 5am to spend an hour in the gym, and there are others who go for a short run 3 times a week. Where this differs to exercise is when there is stuff happening in your life that you’re struggling with. Things like a new job, a relationship breakdown or moving house can easily ramp up anxiety and stress or highlight aspects of yourself that you’d previously been unaware of. When I moved countries with the family, I hit so many new levels of fear and uncertainty that I needed crank up my head trash clearance quite a bit for a while. But as soon as felt calmer with things I pulled back. During a typical month I’d say I do 3-6 clearances a month. Clients who have been through my Head Trash Clear-Outs say the same. When I say mindset should be a practice, that is the kind of practice that I'm referring to. Of course, you can also include other mindset activities in your mindset practice, and for me, you would do these in addition to your head trash clearance practice. Would you like us to work together? In my book, Clear Your Head Trash, I outline some ways that you can start tackling your head trash. But I know that some people prefer to have someone show them the way. If that's you and you'd like us to work together, then I'd love that. Perhaps, you'd like to kick things off with a Head Trash Clear-Out. Well, you can find out more about that here .…

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Mindfulness, Meditation & Clearance 38:46

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On today’s show I’m chatting with Louise Hallam who is a mindfulness and meditation teacher. The reason I wanted to get Louise on the show is because Louise recently did some head trash clearance with me and I thought it would be useful to share her perspective on using meditation and head trash clearance, and how they can be best used side by side. Meditation and Head Trash Clearance We often hear how mindfulness and meditation is the answer to our problems if we want to reduce the stress and anxiety in our lives. And yes, they can help. But I think there are quicker ways of going about this. Personally, I wouldn't use mindfulness and meditation in that way. I think meditation is a powerful technique that is brilliant for giving you the space to connect to your intuition, to create space for mental and emotional processing, and for being guided in our lives. But, I believe that there are quicker ways to reduce stress and anxiety. And using the head trash clearance method is one such way. I talk about combining meditation and head trash clearance in my book, but I think it’s always worth getting a second opinion on these matters because I don't for one minute believe that I have the final word on this. This is why I wanted to dive into this with Louise. As a mindfulness and meditation teacher, who has now experienced an intense period of head trash clearance, I thought she would be the perfect person to challenge me and put me right (if indeed I needed to be put right!). Those of you who do mindfulness and meditation will be interested in Louise’s experience of doing both meditation and head trash clearance and how she uses them to help her to become a better version of herself. Building Confidence But this conversation isn’t only about that. We also talk about the how head trash clearance helped Louise to build up her confidence. By exploring those aspects of herself that were sapping her confidence we were able to clear them away which created the space for her confidence to step forward. Connecting to her authentic self Getting rid of the fears and doubts also created the space for Louise's authentic self to emerge. No longer trying to fit in with people's expectations of her, or from feeling hemmed in from her fears, Louise is now much more accepting of who she is and is happy to own that. A healed introvert? Louise, a self-confessed introvert used to find it hard to go out networking. It was exhausting for her. She would worry about not being taken seriously and saying something silly. This was holding her back in her business. During our chat, Louise shares how within weeks, she was organising her own networking event with over 100 people interested in attending and how now she has no problems going out meeting new people and putting herself out there. Her networking event is now a regular feature in her local business community. Podcast Transcript To access the transcript for this podcast episode, head over here . About Louise Louise has a background in leadership learning and development and is able to provide a bridge between the corporate world and a holistic approach to employee wellbeing. Her employee wellbeing work has included Volvo and recently CTG, an aerospace company in Banbury and an automotive electronics company in Warwick. She also works with individuals, groups and charities and is passionate about making mindfulness and meditation accessible to everyone. Louise has been practising mindfulness and meditation for over 10 years and started Still Calm after seeing that the benefits were not only relevant for her own circumstances, but a whole range of factors that people are facing in the modern world. We live in a time when we can be stimulated by information 24 hours a day and more is expected of us in the workplace. Mindfulness is becoming an essential, rather than an optional tool for running anyone who looks after their wellbeing and forward thinking company. With benefits including increased productivity, performance, innovation, building resilience, communication and managing stress, Louise is able to see the synergy between making mindfulness adaptable for employers as well as the wellbeing of employees. Louise is committed to developing her own practice and continues to practise mindfulness and meditation on a daily basis and attend regular training and CPD events to update her teaching and knowledge. Louise is also pleased to be a Meditation Teacher accredited with the British School of Meditation. You can find Louise at her website StillCalm , on Twitter and on Facebook .…

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The Head Trash Show is back! 17:51

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I’m so excited to bring the Head Trash Show back. It’s been a long break, but one that has been worth it. So in this opening episode this is what I want to share with you; Where I’ve been You might be wondering why I took a break and what I’ve been up to. If I said to you that I had a baby, you’d probably think “oh sure, you’ve been at home with the kids” But that’s not strictly true. The experience of having my second daughter took me on a different trajectory work-wise and head trash-wise. As a result of my own experience in overcoming my fears of birth and pregnancy, I wrote a book Fearless Birthing and launched the Fear Free Childbirth podcast. Just this month I hit 525,000 downloads, which I find a little bit crazy. But such is the importance of fear when it comes to birth and pregnancy. As a result of this detour into pregnancy and birth I’ve learned a lot about the nature of fear and anxiety and I’d like to bring that back now into how fear and anxiety affects us in day-to-day life. The ‘Clear Your Head Trash’ book Last year I brought out the book Clear Your Head Trash. In this book I share the Head Trash Clearance Method™ which is the technique that I’ve refined and use to clear head trash. The book is available from all online book sellers. As you can see, the podcast has a new website too, so this is now your destination for all things head trash. What would you like to hear on the show? I’m really interested to know what you would like to hear on the Head Trash Show. What are you struggling with? What head trash are you wrestling with in your life? I’ve created a tiny little 3-question survey for you use to let me know. FILL IN THE SURVEY HERE. This will help me to come up with content that will be helpful to you. Podcast Transcription If you would like to access the transcription for this podcast episode, then head over here .…

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My fear of vomit made my kids sick 18:29

10 years پیش18:29

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I'm not the first person to say this so it shouldn't be news to you, but if you want to change the world start with yourself. The "world" doesn't have to be some grandiose idea about changing humanity, it can be as simple as changing YOUR world. And this couldn't be truer when it comes to your stresses. If you find yourself being stressed out by LIFE and the people in it, maybe it's time for you to take a look in the mirror, because maybe it's YOU that's creating the stress in the first place. Hear me out! When you're stressed, people will pick up on your stress... maybe not consciously, but it will be affecting them on some level. And this is even more so when it comes to your kids. If your kids are running riot and stressing you out, maybe they're simply responding to your stressy state; your stress is stresssing them out which is making them go a wee bit crazy. Something happened to me on holiday this year which really brought this home to me. And it involved VOMIT! I want to share it with you because it really brings this idea to smelly light. Our holiday this year involved quite a bit of driving… airports and planes with a 10 month old is NOT a holiday! But, my two girls are prone to being sick in the car and this is something that completely stresses me out. I think I was traumatised when my eldest was one and she was being sick in the back while I was doing a long drive on my own. We were in road works and I couldn’t stop the car... All I could hear was liquidy vomit gurgling in her throat and splatting everywhere, and I was panicking that she was choking on it. It was horrible! Not to mention the state of the car! And the smell! Ever since, long journeys get me stressed before we start because of my fear of vomit and either one of them being sick. Looking back, that was clearly the moment that my fear of vomit was instilled. So I was just starting one such journey; a 4-hour drive to Wales. I was picking up my French Aunt at the airport on the way. Timing was everything and stresses were high. Once we picked her up I knew we’d have to stop the car soon… preventative measures and a possible nappy change… We were just over an hour into the journey. We got back into the car and things seemed to go ok for a while. Then the the little one started whimpering. That was it! I was sure this was a cue to an imminent vomit fest, so you can imagine what state I was in. We stopped for some fresh air and a bit of a wander around some greenery. And then we stopped again. And again. There was no vomit, but as far as I was concerned this was because I was managing this situation beautifully… ha! #delusional My aunt dared to suggest that the only reason she was crying was because she was picking up on my stress-vibes, and that I needed to do the work i.e. clear my head trash! Ha! Perceptive lady! By the time we reached our destination, our 4-hour drive had turned into a day trip. Not good. So when the time came for the return journey I knew I had to do some head trash clearance before we started. I needed to shake my fear of vomit stress. The practical stuff was done as I had already covered the back seats in loads of blankets, so really I just needed to sort my head out. So I worked on clearing my fear of kids vomiting in the car , and then just vomit and people vomitting (loving and hating vomit etc). It didn’t take me long and I only did the super quick emergency version . Once that was done, I was super chilled about the thought of vomit. In fact I didn’t care. They could be sick all over the place for all I could care. The car would be fine, they would be fine. IT’S OK! So we set off on our 4-hour journey. It wasn’t long before they fell asleep. An hour into the journey and just before the motorway (we were in Wales remember!) I stopped for diesel and a pee. And then I could finally put my foot down. And I did! They were asleep so I wanted to get as many miles done before they woke up and felt sick. And then that’s when it started getting weird. Weird as in NORMAL. The 10 month old woke up and started singing and playing with her toys. Then after a bit, she fell back asleep. The 4-year old who never sleeps for more than an hour in the car just kept sleeping. My aunt and I were getting hungry and wanted to stop for a drink and a snack but as long as they were both asleep we thought we’d best carry on. Surely it would be better to just get back as soon as possible. Thank goodness I went for a pee back in Wales! The miles were zipping by and my two kids were still sleeping. I was super chilled because I didn’t really care if they would be sick, I just wanted to get home. And the crazy thing is that they just kept sleeping. They finally woke up when I got off the motorway 20 minutes from home. THEY SLEPT for 3 1/2 hours! They NEVER sleep for that long! EVER! Not on any car journey, nor at home! We ended up doing the journey in one go. I couldn't believe it. I know I shouldn't be surprised, because I know that doing this clearance work works. I've had so many tangible results over the years that I really shouldn't be surprised, but I was. I never for one minute thought that them being sick was linked to the stress I was feeling at fearing the possibility that they might be sick. Now, I'm not saying that kids being sick in the car is because their parents are stressed, but for some it might be. And it was certainly the case for me. So, if you find yourself being triggered by situations and people around you, perhaps it's time to take a moment to reflect and figure out if you might be contributing to it somehow. If you want to clear any fears or stresses using the technique that I used, just grab the free download 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method and go for it!…

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Letting Go 42:45

10 years پیش42:45

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Do you find that you're holding on to patterns of thought, behaviours and bodily dis-ease that you'd just rather shake? Well, you're going to love today's podcast. Today I chat to Matt Sison, who is an author, speaker and a coach who shares his approach for letting go of what he calls the conditions and programs that hold you back from your authentic voice and action. “ Matt Sison is the guy who other therapists go to when they have problems. I have seen him work with the most difficult cases imaginable, cases that other therapists have given up on, and he works magic. More importantly, he has done his own work, he’s faced his demons, and has come out on the other side as an embodiment of love, caring, sincerity, but most of all peace. I absolutely love his Reflective Transformations system, which is a synthesis of hypnosis, hypnotherapy regression, Emotional Freedom Techniques, affirmations, yoga, meditation, martial arts, and a whole lot more. Matt’s system is worth its weight in gold .” Eric B. Robins, MD Urologist and Mind-Body Healing Expert Co-author, Your Hands Can Heal You, and The Power of Prana Letting go Three months ago, just before the scheduled launch of his book, Matt had a stroke. At 46 years old, it was unexpected to say the least. He lost all control of one half of his body and the doctors told him that it would take him months if not years to recover. But, being someone who firmly walks his talk, he went inward to try to understand the message that his body was screaming at him. During our fasinating chat, he shares how he creates the space for himself to be able to "hear" what his body is telling him ... clue: it's usually about letting go of something emotional how we can detect when the body is trying to communicate with us the steps he uses when working on letting go of whatever emotional baggage needs to be let go of the power of opposites in doing this kind of work (< I love that bit!!) Matt even does some clearance work on me using his simple framework, which will help you to try his approach for yourself. It's so simple, that you'd be silly not to give it a go! Matt then finishes off our chat by talking about his book and what you can expect to gain from reading it. His book is available right now from Amazon on Kindle and in print. You can find out more about Matt at his site www.MattSison.com and his book here www.LifeIsThePerfectSystem.com…

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How to cope with feeling rejected 15:34

10 years پیش15:34

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Feeling rejected sucks! I'm saying that because that's how it felt to me when I felt rejected a few weeks back. It all started with an email landing in my inbox. Without going into masses of detail, the email basically said " We don't want you anymore! We changed our minds. " It was a business thing... I had jumped through hoops and done a shed-load of work to be part of this THING, and I passed! I made it... all my hard work had paid off. When I got the email back in April letting me know that I was in, I was over the moon. So to get this new email a couple of weeks ago saying " aah well, we've changed our minds " really sucked! The email arrived in the first hour of the day and totally ruined my morning. I really struggled to get any work done because feeling rejected like that felt so rubbish. By lunchtime, I decided that I really should clear this silly head trash. So after some thought, I realised that I was feeling rejected so that's what I decided to clear in myself. As I sat down to use the 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method to clear my feeling rejected head trash, I thought I'd video myself clearing it. I figured that feeling rejected was something that a lot of people must experience too, and that it might be useful for people to see me clearing my head trash to see the 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method in action. So, that's what I did. If you want to see the video, you need to make sure that you've signed up to receive the 5 step method as I'll only be sharing that video with the people who are interested in using the 5 step method... so if that's you - sign up! (that big flaming arrow on the right is where, or on any of the 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method links in this blog post) Now, the interesting thing for me is what's happened since. Sure, once I'd finished clearing it, I was feeling soooo much better about that crappy email. In fact, I was laughing about it and how silly it was of me to even get emotional about such a thing. But, later as the work started to settle, I realised that being part of the thing that I was rejected from, was actually keeping me commited to doing a whole bunch of stuff in my business that I no longer wanted to be doing. And so now I could release myself from that stuff and focus on what really mattered to me. I felt liberated! Since then, the clarity, the energy and the motivation that I've experienced has been phenomenal. And to think that was all from spending 20 minutes doing some head trash clearance work. So, now I sit here grateful for that email and how it made me feel. Because without it I wouldn't have felt the need to clear my feelings of rejection, which wouldn't have led to this increased clarity and focus that I'm experiencing.…

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How to turn your life around 1:03:34

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If you're feeling like life is a bit rubbish and you need to turn things around, then I hope that today's guest will inspire to do just that. Today I'm chatting to Tanya Mann Rennick about how to turn your life around, or more specifually how she managed to turn her life around. Tanya will be sharing her guiding STARR principles that she used to transform her life from a stay-at-home mum who was bored with the lack of sparkle in her life, to a successful entrepreneur and a sought-after inspirational speaker who has spoken at the Houses of Parliament and at the EU in Brussels. How to turn your life around During our chat Tanya shares what her STARR principles are and how you can tap into them to experience some transformational sparkliness in your life. The STARR principles are; Story Tenacity Audacity Right-ness Right now-ness Tanya also dishes out some wonderful stories, snippetts of wisdom and a ton of fabulous energy. All very inspiring! You can connect with Tanya on Twitter or on Facebook or at her site where you can sign up to receive 109 ways to shine for FREE into your inbox. What do you think of Tanya's story? Do her principles resonate with you? What's worked for you in your life? Tell me in the comments!…

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How to stop smoking 40:50

10 years پیش40:50

40:50

If you've been wondering how to stop smoking then you are are going to LOVE this week's podcast. This week I chat to fellow Head Trash Clearance specialist, Shaun Hopkins, about how to stop smoking using our 5 step process (Reflective Repatterning). I've been asked many times What makes this podcast brilliant is Shaun's story. Shaun has been smoking since he was 14 years old and due to certain life events was also sufferer of PTSD, so smoking was a huge coping mechanism for him. But, Shaun was not only smoking cigarettes, but he as also smoking weed... LOTS OF WEED! In fact in his words, he was smoking GARGANTUAN amounts of weed. And he means it! You have to listen to find out exactly how much. Over the years Shaun had tried lots of things to quit smoking, but none of them had worked. So once he trained in Reflective Repatterning, he thought he'd tackle some of the fears that he had around stopping, without trying to actually stop. He never thought for one minute he's end up stopping WITHOUT EVEN TRYING! So in today's podcast, Shaun shares with us exactly what he did to stop smoking. How to stop smoking using Reflective Repatterning In a nutshell this is what he did; Asked himself this " what is stopping me from stopping smoking ?" Smoked a joint. Brainstormed a list Smoked a joint. Cleared each item on his list in turn using the 5 step process. In between joints. Cleared the opposite for each item on his list. In between joints. That's it! So if you've been desperate to find out how to stop smoking, then look no further. It's now been 4 months since he smoked and he simply not interested in smoking. He's achieved total neutrality around smoking, both cigarettes and weed / cannabis. When we finished recording the podcast, Shaun I were chatting and decided to come up with specialist sessions to help you to quit smoking. So if you feel you need additional support in stopping smoking, then we are there to help you.…

The Head Trash + Healing Show with Alexia Leachman

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Let it go! 13:06

10 years پیش13:06

13:06

The theme for me over the last two weeks has very much been about letting go. Well, for the last 6 weeks actually! My little ones have had a succession of illnesses which meant that they’ve taken turns at being off nursery and at home. Having them at home has meant zero work for me! Then last week, just as I had shipped the latest ill one back into nursery, two of my websites went down. So not only was I dealing with a mountain of a backlog, but now I had an extra tonne of unplanned urgent work to add to the pile. You might know that I have another podcast as well as this one, and I was facing the real prospect of not being able to get either podcasts out the door. Thankfully, I just about managed to get my other podcast done, but this one didn’t make it. And so I had to add another thing to the Let Go pile.. my head trash show podcast! I’ve found the last 6 weeks pretty hard to be honest… being in a forced extended period of mothering is not really my scene. Maternity leave was lovely but it wasn’t long before I was itching to get back to my work. So to find myself just a few months later, not able to do work, but instead having to play lego, or hold a poorly crying baby for hours on end, knowing that i had work that needed to be done, was pretty tough. When you have your own business that needs attention, drive and energy, just sitting about and letting it wilt can feel very stressful. But when your kids are ill, they come first and i had to let go. I had to let go of all my expectations, let go of my need to work hard, let go of my need to be “doing work”, of being productive. Maybe I’m obsessed with being busy or doing something. I often think that we are sent challenges because of the things we need to learn in our lives, and if we don’t get the message first time around, then the challenge comes back even bigger until we click. I can’t help but wonder that my lesson over recent months has been to SLOW DOWN and LET GO.. and perhaps trust a bit more that things are going to be OK. So anyway, all this got me thinking…. That’s how letting go was showing up for me in my life this time around, but it can show up in many other ways. Do you recognise any of these patterns in your life that you need to let go of? Do you find yourself replaying conversations in your head? We find ourselves doing this when the conversation didn’t go as we would have liked, so we play re-runs this time inserting our clever comments or come-backs that we didn’t think of at the time. Does this sound familiar? This is a classic. Let it go! Do you have exercise plans for the week that you struggle to maintain? … and then beat yourself up for not doing! My other half aims to go running 3 times a week. But life just gets in the way which means he can’t always do it. The thing is, when he can’t do his 3 runs, he beats himself up about it. Even when he’s ill, he beats himself up. Guess what? Let it go! Do you get easily wound up by other drivers and then try to “get them back”? Maybe if someone’s cut you up, or raced you off from the lights, do you find yourself, trying to race them, or cut them up back? And, are you still trying to do this 15 minutes later? Let it go! Do you find yourself berating yourself over little accidents? If you break something at home, whether it’s a precious item or just a regular glass or cup, do you spend the next hour beating yourself up? With all of these situations, the mental tennis that goes on after the event is simply not helpful. Whatever has happened, has happened and can’t be changed. To quicker you’re able to accept the situation without judgement, the better. So, how can we "let it go”? Now, for those of you that regularly follow my podcast, you know what’s coming! I’m going to share with you the things that you need to clear using our 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method. If you haven’t got your copy, then grab it here > 5 Step Head Trash Clearance Method Once you’ve got that, this is what you need to add to the Head Trash Clearance Mantras, or to put it another way, this is what you need to add to your Head Trash Clearance To Do List . (Not sure what I mean by that? Listen to this podcast episode ). This is what you need to clear: 1. Letting go 2. Acceptance, being accepting 3. Judging, being judgemental Now, you mustn’t forget to also clear the opposite for each of these. Not sure what I mean by that? Listen to this FAQ podcast: What do you mean by "do the opposite"? Did any of these life situations resonate with you? What areas of your life does letting go show up for you? I'd love to know how you get on with this. Let me know in the comments!…

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