Episode 19: The 4 Indicators of Looming Divorce Part 2: Contempt and Stonewalling

The Evolved Caveman Podcast w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

Welcome back to a special joint episode of The Evolved Caveman and
Love Isn’t Enough podcasts, where your favorite therapist power couple,
Dr. John and Joree, lovingly drag your toxic relationship habits into the
daylight. This week? We’re tackling the last two horsemen of your relational
apocalypse: Contempt and Stonewalling. (Because your love life wasn't
already teetering on the edge after Criticism and Defensiveness last
week.)
First up: Contempt — the "I’m better than you" flavor of loathing that turns
every dishwasher squabble into a power play. It's got everything: eye-rolls,
sneers, and the emotional subtlety of a flamethrower. According to the
Gottmans, contempt is basically the kiss of death. Spot it in the first 5
minutes of a fight? That relationship’s got the lifespan of a mayfly (that is,
breakup is around the corner!).
Then there's Stonewalling, the cold shoulder’s evil twin. It’s when one
partner shuts down, checks out, and basically becomes a decorative plant
during conflict. Spoiler: that's not sexy. Or helpful. Or sustainable. It’s also a
harbinger of breakup.
John and Joree keep it real by admitting they used to suck at this stuff too.
But they’ve done the work — and now they're here to help you recognize
these behaviors before your relationship flatlines.
So if you're tired of feeling unheard, judged, or like you’re arguing with a
brick wall (or *being* one), tune in. You might cringe a little, but hey —
growth isn’t supposed to be comfy.
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