73. Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible: How to Share the Load Without the Stress [Part 3]

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The Southwest’s Wildest Outdoor Art: From Lightning Fields to Sun Tunnels 30:55

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A secret field that summons lightning. A massive spiral that disappears into a salt lake. A celestial observatory carved into a volcano. Meet the wild—and sometimes explosive—world of land art, where artists craft masterpieces with dynamite and bulldozers. In our Season 2 premiere, guest Dylan Thuras, cofounder of Atlas Obscura, takes us off road and into the minds of the artists who literally reshaped parts of the Southwest. These works aren’t meant to be easy to reach—or to explain—but they just might change how you see the world. Land art you’ll visit in this episode: - Double Negative and City by Michael Heizer (Garden Valley, Nevada) - Spiral Jetty by Robert Smithson (Great Salt Lake, Utah) - Sun Tunnels by Nancy Holt (Great Basin Desert, Utah) - Lightning Field by Walter De Maria (Catron County, New Mexico) - Roden Crater by James Turrell (Painted Desert, Arizona) Via Podcast is a production of AAA Mountain West Group.…

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You’re juggling everything, but no one seems to notice.

You’re the one keeping track of school emails, therapy appointments, meal plans, and a million invisible tasks.
Your brain never stops. The mental gymnastics of managing everything is exhausting.
And when something doesn’t get done? That’s the only thing anyone notices.

🔥 This is the invisible mental load. And if it feels like it’s breaking you, you’re not alone.

PLUS we've put together A Kit for Making the Mental Load Visible (and Finally Sharing it). Download HERE.

In this episode, we’re breaking it all down:

Why ADHD mums feel the weight of the mental load harder than anyone else
The unseen tasks that no one else even thinks about
Why your partner isn’t stepping in - and how to finally shift the balance
Practical ways to make the invisible load visible - without it turning into another argument
Small, realistic changes that actually help

This isn’t about doing more - it’s about making sure you don’t have to carry it all alone.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan - Part 1

7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load - Part 2

Family Meeting Template

Mental Load Cards

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https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/

Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD mental load, invisible mental load, sharing the mental load, ADHD mums, burnout, overwhelm, emotional labour, neurodivergent relationships, partner support, ADHD and parenting, mental load resentment, executive function challenges, ADHD household balance, relationship struggles, ADHD and marriage, division of labour, cognitive hyperactivity, unseen tasks, ADHD family dynamics, mental load exhaustion, practical strategies for ADHD mums, ADHD mum burnout, balancing responsibilities, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD-friendly household management, supporting an ADHD partner, communication in ADHD relationships, household workload, ADHD decision fatigue, ADHD overwhelm solutions.

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ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it.

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73. Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible: How to Share the Load Without the Stress [Part 3]

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MP3•خانه قسمت

You’re juggling everything, but no one seems to notice.

You’re the one keeping track of school emails, therapy appointments, meal plans, and a million invisible tasks.
Your brain never stops. The mental gymnastics of managing everything is exhausting.
And when something doesn’t get done? That’s the only thing anyone notices.

🔥 This is the invisible mental load. And if it feels like it’s breaking you, you’re not alone.

PLUS we've put together A Kit for Making the Mental Load Visible (and Finally Sharing it). Download HERE.

In this episode, we’re breaking it all down:

Why ADHD mums feel the weight of the mental load harder than anyone else
The unseen tasks that no one else even thinks about
Why your partner isn’t stepping in - and how to finally shift the balance
Practical ways to make the invisible load visible - without it turning into another argument
Small, realistic changes that actually help

This isn’t about doing more - it’s about making sure you don’t have to carry it all alone.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan - Part 1

7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load - Part 2

Family Meeting Template

Mental Load Cards

START HERE:

https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

ADHD Planner

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QUICK RESET: Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does 17:28

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Why does getting support for your child feel like a full-time job… with no sick leave? In this solo episode, Jane dives into the exhausting, invisible labour of advocacy – and why neurodivergent mums are often left navigating broken systems without a map, a translator, or a break. From IEP meetings to GP appointments, this is the episode for every mum who’s ever stayed up till 2am writing an email that might just get ignored. If you’re tired of being dismissed, dismissed again, then blamed for being ‘too emotional’ about it – you are not the problem. This episode will help you do it without setting yourself on fire. 💡 What We Cover: • How to advocate for your child without it consuming your entire life • What to say when professionals dismiss you or minimise your concerns • Scripts to stay calm and assertive in tense school/NDIS/GP meetings • Energy-saving strategies for emotionally draining advocacy tasks • Balancing authenticity vs masking when you’re in ‘the system’ • Why documentation (yes, again) is your best ally – and how to use it • Emotional resilience vs toxic positivity when you’re gaslit again • Building long-term allies in school and health systems – without losing your mind SCHOOL MINI SERIES: S1 E41: Camouflaging ADHD + Autistic Traits in Girls with Millie Carr | Spotify | Apple Podcast S3 E2: SCHOOL SERIES When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents | Spotify | Apple Podcast S3 E3: SCHOOL SERIES When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents | Spotify | Apple Podcast 🔗 Resources & Links: • Join the Facebook community: ADHD Mums FB Group • More resources & tools: www.adhdmums.com.au/shop 🎧 Listen Now If you’ve ever left a meeting wondering what just happened – or held back tears while playing nice just to get a referral – this one’s for you. Hit play. Share it with a friend who’s fighting the same fight. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD advocacy, neurodivergent parenting, school refusal, IEP meetings, masking and burnout, ADHD mums emotional load, advocating for your ADHD child, navigating NDIS, GP advocacy scripts, ADHD mental load, supporting neurodivergent kids in school, trauma-informed advocacy, inclusive education, ADHD documentation strategies, neuroaffirming parenting, advocacy burnout, parenting ADHD and autism, school system failures, emotional regulation in meetings, ADHD self-compassion, strength-based parenting, advocacy energy management See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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7. SCHOOL SERIES: The Great Gaslighting: When Schools Say We Don’t See It 24:18

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What happens when schools insist your child is fine - but everything in your gut says otherwise? In this powerful instalment of our school mini-series, Jane is joined again by Millie Carr - teacher, parent, and neurodivergent advocate - to unpack one of the most maddening experiences families face: being gaslit by educators who don’t “see” the struggle. If you’ve ever been told your child is “fine” at school while managing meltdowns, shutdowns, or burnout at home, this one will hit hard. Jane shares a deeply personal story of leaving a school that refused to acknowledge her daughter’s invisible needs - and Millie breaks down exactly why high-masking kids get overlooked, and what parents can do when they’re dismissed. Together, they explore: Why girls and high-masking kids are so often missed The damaging impact of visible vs invisible disability bias What to say in IEP meetings when schools won’t listen Why anxiety is often misdiagnosed when it’s really about unmet needs How PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) is misunderstood in schools—and what helps instead This episode will validate your fury, your heartbreak, and your instincts. You’re not imagining it. You’re not overreacting. And you’re not alone. Listen If: You’ve been told “we don’t see it” and felt dismissed Your child is different at school than at home—and no one believes you You’re exhausted from advocating and need to feel seen You want practical strategies for navigating resistant schools Other Episodes with Millie Carr S1 E41: Camouflaging ADHD + Autistic Traits in Girls with Millie Carr | Spotify | Apple Podcast S3 E2: SCHOOL SERIES When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents | Spotify | Apple Podcast S3 E3: SCHOOL SERIES When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents | Spotify | Apple Podcast Episode on PDA: S2E30: Could it be PDA? Exploring the signs and why it’s different from ODD with Prof Tony Attwood and Dr Michelle Garnett | Spotify | Apple Podcast 🔗 Resources & Links: 🔗 Sign our Change Petition here 🎧 Listener Questions please send here 🔗 Submit your experience with schooling here 🔗 ADHD Mums Free Guides and Resources here 📚 References & Further Reading Disability Standards for Education 2005 Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government Disability Discrimination Act 1992 View the full legislation on the Federal Register Disability & Education Laws Referenced (Qld Human Rights Act, DSE 2005, UN CRPD) 👩‍⚖️ Human Rights Commission: humanrights.gov.au JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at assistant@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . Topics Covered In This Episode: Invisible disabilities, ADHD girls, autism masking, high masking, school gaslighting, inclusion in education, IEP meetings, neurodiversity in schools, Pathological Demand Avoidance, PDA strategies, school refusal, trauma-informed schools, advocating for neurodivergent kids, ADHD parenting, neurodivergent burnout, federal disability education law, ADHD girls dismissed, reasonable adjustments school, ADHD Mums podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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6. NDIS Is Making Psychology Support Harder To Access And The New Budget Rules 52:27

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You’re not imagining it — psychology funding is reducing from NDIS plans. And neurodivergent families are being hit the hardest. In this critical solo episode, Jane breaks down the real impact of recent NDIS changes, including the hidden rollout of Section 33, why psychology is being reframed as a ‘Medicare issue’, and how support for emotional regulation, anxiety and trauma is being stripped away under the radar. If you’re navigating plan reviews, therapy cancellations, or watching mental health supports vanish — this episode gives you the language, strategy and advocate for yourself or your child. What We Cover: The quiet rollout of Section 33 and what it means for your child’s plan Why psychology for ADHD, anxiety, trauma and RSD is no longer ‘reasonable and necessary’ The difference between clinical vs. functional supports — and how to frame them What psychologists are being told, and why they may redirect you to Medicare How to advocate for functional impact without breaching new NDIS rules The cost blowout no one’s talking about: $600+ monthly gap payments for ADHD families Why early intervention cuts contradict everything the NDIS claims to support What to say in your next plan review — including exact phrases for therapy justification The personal toll on ADHD mums trying to keep their kids afloat — emotionally and financially Resources & Links: Submit your story: Speak Up for Change: Submit Your NDIS Complaint to Help Us Lobby for Fairness Listen to the related podcast episodes on: The NDIS Shake-Up and National Autism Strategy: What Jane Really Thinks: Spotify: listen here Apple: listen here Sign the petition: NDIS Cuts Are Failing Our Kids List of ADHD Mums Recommended Providers All NDIS Changes and Resources - https://adhdmums.com.au/ndis/ JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . Topics Covered In This Episode: NDIS psychology funding cuts, ADHD therapy removed from NDIS, Section 33 NDIS explanation, ADHD and functional capacity reports, neurodivergent families NDIS, ADHD emotional regulation therapy, reasonable and necessary supports ADHD, early intervention plan review, psychology under Medicare vs NDIS, ADHD child anxiety supports, ADHD trauma support, rejection sensitivity NDIS, plan review scripts ADHD, disability discrimination Australia, NDIS burnout for mothers, ADHD Mums podcast NDIS, school refusal and therapy access, ADHD kids unsupported by NDIS, petition for NDIS reform, neurodivergent parenting advocacy Australia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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5. SCHOOL SERIES: Your Child Isn’t ‘Acting Out’ — They’re Burning Out 52:37

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If your kid has been labelled ‘disruptive’, ‘too much’, or has a 'behaviour problem’ at school - this episode is for you. In this raw, honest, and fiercely educational conversation, Jane is joined by Tania Waring - lawyer-turned-PhD researcher, mum of three neurodivergent boys, and longtime education advocate. They go into what’s really happening when ADHD and autistic kids are ‘acting out’ - and why so many schools are punishing trauma responses, not managing them. This episode isn’t polite. It’s personal, practical, and painfully real. From school exclusions and behaviour plans to Human Rights Commission complaints and fighting for basic inclusion - this one’s for every parent who’s been dismissed, gaslit, and told their child doesn’t belong. Trigger warning: briefly mentions suicide ideation of a child. 💡 What We Cover: The myth of ‘naughty kids’ vs the reality of burnout and nervous system collapse Why suspension and detention are discriminatory—not developmental How behaviour plans often become performance-management tools What schools are legally required to do under federal, state, and disability law. How to document, escalate, and advocate when you’re being stonewalled Tips for writing advocacy emails that get attention (without sounding ‘difficult’) What parents can realistically do when change feels impossible 🔗 Resources & Links: 🔗 Sign our Change Petition here 🎧 Listener Questions please send here 🔗 Submit your experience with schooling here 🔗 ADHD Mums Free Guides and Resources here 📚 References & Further Reading Disability Standards for Education 2005 Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government Disability Discrimination Act 1992 View the full legislation on the Federal Register Disability & Education Laws Referenced (Qld Human Rights Act, DSE 2005, UN CRPD) 👩‍⚖️ Human Rights Commission: humanrights.gov.au JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . Topics Covered In This Episode: ADHD school exclusion Australia neurodivergent child suspension ADHD behaviour plans and trauma disability standards for education 2005 QLD Human Rights Act school rights ADHD and school-based discrimination inclusive education ADHD autism school burnout ADHD child advocacy tools for ADHD parents ADHD child behaviour misunderstood ADHD suspension legal rights UN CRPD education rights Human Rights Commission school complaints ADHD parent advocacy Australia trauma-informed education ADHD Tania Waring ADHD advocacy ADHD Mums podcast Australia neuroaffirming schools strategies ADHD child misunderstood in classroom See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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4. Advanced ADHD + Neurodivergent Myths.....Busted :) 33:04

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You’ve already heard the basics: ADHD isn’t just for boys. Autism isn’t all hand-flapping. Great. But what about the deeper stuff? In this solo episode, Jane takes a sledgehammer to the most persistent, harmful, and advanced myths that are still sabotaging ADHD and autistic women. From the dangerous praise of ‘high functioning’ to the weaponisation of executive function, performative neurodiversity, and the false promise that meds fix everything—this is the truth the awareness campaigns skip. If you’ve ever been told you’re ‘too capable to struggle’, ‘too smart to be ADHD’, or ‘too emotional to be taken seriously’, this episode is your armour. 💡 What We Cover: Why ‘high functioning’ is just ‘high masking’—and why it’s killing us slowly How executive function gets twisted into shame and perfectionism Why medication is support, not salvation The deeply gendered myth of what autism ‘looks like’ in kids Neuroaffirming ≠ letting your child do whatever they want Why your nervous system needs more than a planner and good intentions The hidden cost of chasing ‘normal’ as a goal How parenting myths keep mums stuck in shame, guilt, and silence 🔗 Resources & Links: 📚 Research cited: Hull et al. (2020) on camouflaging in ADHD & autism Brown’s Executive Function Model (ADD Warehouse) Lye & Baron-Cohen (2015) on misdiagnosis in girls Dvorsky (2016) on long-term neurodivergent outcomes Dr Mona Delahooke on co-regulation & scaffolding 🎧 Related episodes: Ep 20 – The Worst Assessment Process Ever SCHOOL SERIES - When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents The Worst Assessment Process Ever: A Cautionary Tale Listen in Spotify Listen in Apple LISTEN NOW: If you’ve ever been told you’re ‘fine’ because you’re functioning — or you’ve questioned your diagnosis because you still can’t get organised — this episode is the recalibration you didn’t know you needed. Send it to a friend. A partner. A GP. Anyone who still doesn’t get it. #ADHDMumsPodcast #HighMasking #NeurodivergentMyths #ADHDAndMedication #ExecutiveDysfunction #Camouflaging #AutismInGirls #NeurodivergentBurnout #ADHDFatigue #MentalLoadMatters #NeuroaffirmingParenting #JaneMcFaddenPodcast JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: High masking ADHD, high functioning myth, ADHD and executive dysfunction, medication and burnout, autism myths in children, neuroaffirming parenting, parenting neurodivergent kids, mental load of diagnosis, late-diagnosed ADHD women, emotional regulation myths, ADHD and trauma overlap, gender bias in autism, ADHD toolkit for mums, camouflaging in ADHD women, ADHD shame, parenting without guilt See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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3. SCHOOL SERIES - Burnout Starts in the Classroom — And Follows Them Home 18:37

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If your child’s after-school meltdowns seem to come out of nowhere — they don’t. They’re just not being seen. In this second episode of the School Series, Jane is joined again by neurodivergent educator and mum Millie Carr to unpack how burnout builds silently in classrooms and explodes at home. From sensory overwhelm and executive dysfunction to chronic invalidation and misread behaviour — this episode doesn’t just name the problem. It helps you understand what to look for, what schools can do differently, and what you can shift at home without burning yourself out too . This is a must-listen for any parent hearing ‘they’re fine at school’ while watching their kid unravel every night. 💡 What We Cover: The difference between academic fatigue and neurodivergent burnout What school-based nervous system overload actually looks like How masking, people-pleasing and perfectionism disguise distress Why executive dysfunction + sensory chaos = a ticking time bomb The impact of chronic invalidation on self-esteem and identity Interoception struggles — why neurodivergent kids often don’t see their own crash coming Simple school accommodations that reduce burnout without being performative How parents can build structure and regulation into home life without adding pressure 🎧 Related episodes with Millie Carr: SCHOOL SERIES - When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents Listen in Spotify Listen in Apple How to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis: Essential Do's and Don'ts. Listen in Spotify\ Listen in Apple Camouflaging ADHD and Autistic Traits in Girls Listen in Spotify Listen in Apple The Neurodiverse Classroom Listen in Spotify Listen in Apple 🔗 To find out more about Millie Carr or purchase her books please click on her website or check out her IG 🔗 Sign our Change Petition here 🎧 Listener Questions please send here 🔗 Submit your experience with schooling here 🔗 ADHD Mums Free Guides and Resources here 📚 References & Further Reading Disability Standards for Education 2005 Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government Disability Discrimination Act 1992 View the full legislation on the Federal Register This episode isn’t about blaming teachers—it’s about exposing the system that’s letting everyone down, especially our neurodivergent kids. If you’ve ever been told ‘they’re fine at school’, you need to hear this. Hit play. Share with a friend. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Connect with other ADHD mums in our Facebook group – no question too small, no meltdown too messy. FOLLOW FOR MORE: Daily ADHD mum content on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok , and YouTube . LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review helps other mums find support that actually makes sense. COLLABS: Want Jane to speak or collaborate? Email jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still questioning ADHD or autism? Access recommended self-assessments and tools here . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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2. SCHOOL SERIES When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents 28:56

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If your child holds it together all day at school only to fall apart the second they get home—this episode is for you. In this brutally honest conversation, Jane is joined by teacher, parent, and neurodivergent advocate Millie Carr to unpack the invisible trauma happening behind ‘good behaviour’ in classrooms. From silent shutdowns to explosive rage, masking to misdiagnosis, we explore how the school system is inadvertently breaking the very kids it's meant to support—and what parents can do about it. 💡 What We Cover: What school-based trauma really looks like (it’s not always loud) Why girls and fawn-type students are flying under the radar The link between masking, people-pleasing, and identity loss How chronic invalidation chips away at kids’ mental health Why ‘good girl’ praise can be just as damaging as discipline The high cost of being the “perfect” student RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and the hidden social toll of school What schools and parents can do to build trust and repair harm 🎧 Related episodes with Millie Carr: How to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis: Essential Do's and Don'ts. Listen in Spotify\ Listen in Apple Camouflaging ADHD and Autistic Traits in Girls Listen in Spotify Listen in Apple The Neurodiverse Classroom Listen in Spotify Listen in Apple 🔗 To find out more about Millie Carr or purchase her books please click on her website or check out her IG 🔗 Sign our Change Petition here 🔗 Submit your experience with schooling here 🎧 Listener Questions please send here 🔗 Free Guides and Resources here 📚 References & Further Reading Disability Standards for Education 2005 Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government Disability Discrimination Act 1992 View the full legislation on the Federal Register This episode isn’t about blaming teachers—it’s about exposing the system that’s letting everyone down, especially our neurodivergent kids. If you’ve ever been told ‘they’re fine at school’, you need to hear this. Hit play. Share with a friend. And let’s stop gaslighting ourselves about what’s really going on in classrooms. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Connect with other ADHD mums in our Facebook group – no question too small, no meltdown too messy. FOLLOW FOR MORE: Daily ADHD mum content on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok , and YouTube . LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review helps other mums find support that actually makes sense. COLLABS: Want Jane to speak or collaborate? Email jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still questioning ADHD or autism? Access recommended self-assessments and tools here . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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1. Season 3 Starts Here: No More Explaining – ADHD Tools That Actually Work 14:29

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You’ve read the listicles. You’ve sat in the paediatrician’s office explaining what your child’s meltdown actually meant — again. You’re not confused. You’re exhausted. Season 3 is here — and it’s not about awareness anymore. It’s about tools, systems, scripts, and sustainable change. This season, Jane is done explaining ADHD to the masses. If you’re an ADHD mum, late-diagnosed woman, or raising neurodivergent kids in a system that’s already failing you — this season is built for you. This opener is sharp, validating, and cuts straight to what’s coming, why it matters, and how ADHD Mums is shifting focus to create real support. Spoiler: it started with one burnt-out night, one whiteboard, and the lowest-effort dinner plan that worked like magic. 💡 What We Cover: Why Season 3 ditches the awareness fluff and starts with real-world strategy The ADHD Mum Hack that came out of a PMDD spiral and whiteboard panic How a low-energy dinner framework led to the most helpful ADHD tool Jane’s made yet What 3 years of DMs, reviews, and survey data revealed about what ADHD mums actually want The burnout no one saw coming, and how Jane nearly stopped the podcast altogether What’s changing: solo Thursdays, guest Tuesdays, and no more overexplaining Upcoming series on hormones, medication, school trauma, and misdiagnosis Why ADHD Mums is building a system for us — not just hoping the current one catches up 🎧 Related episodes: Ep 64 – PMDD, PMS & Emotional Burnout Spotify: Listen Here on Spotify Apple: Listen here on Apple Ep 25 - Feeling like PMS is taking over your life? It might be PMDD Spotify: Listen Here on Spotify Apple: Listen here on Apple 🛒 Shop the resources – adhdmums.com.au/shop 💬 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook Group – click Don't Miss Out On the most current information on ADHD Meds & the NDIS. Subscribe to the mailing list here 🎧 Listen Now If you’ve ever thought, ‘I know what ADHD is — what I need is help actually managing my life’ , this episode is your sign to stop apologising and start rebuilding. Hit play. This is your season. #ADHDMumsPodcast #NeurodivergentMums #ADHDParentingTools #BurnoutSupport #PMDDandADHD #ExecutiveDysfunction #RSDInMothers #MentalLoadMums #ADHDSeason3 #ADHDAustralia #LowEnergyParenting #InvisibleLoadADHD JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Validation, dark humour, and strategy — not tips and vibes. Come hang with us on Facebook. FOLLOW FOR MORE: Instagram, TikTok, Facebook , YouTube — because multitasking is the only way we exist. LEAVE A REVIEW: Help another exhausted, brilliant ADHD mum find this and feel seen. Reviews matter more than you think. COLLABS: To book Jane or pitch a media/story idea: jane@adhdmums.com.au TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD burnout, PMDD and ADHD, neurodivergent parenting support, ADHD mums podcast, emotional regulation, ADHD tools for mums, late-diagnosed ADHD women, ADHD low-energy hacks, executive dysfunction management, ADHD daily survival, ADHD women hormones, school trauma ADHD, ADHD parenting podcast, ADHD menu planning, Jane McFadden podcast, ADHD validation, realistic ADHD support See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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88. Mothers Day: I Made the Lunches, Booked the Table, and Still Felt Invisible 18:04

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You made the reservation. You packed the gifts. You wiped the tears, booked the table, and still felt… like no one saw you. If Mother’s Day makes you feel flat, ragey, or quietly devastated—you’re not ungrateful, you’re unsupported. In this raw solo episode, Jane shares the truth about what ADHD mums, solo parents, and neurodivergent women are really navigating on the day that’s supposed to be for them. This isn’t about handmade cards and breakfast in bed. This is about emotional labour, unmet needs, and the silent heartbreak of being overlooked on the one day you were told you’d be celebrated. 💡 What We Cover: Why so many mums dread Mother’s Day—and it’s not ‘ingratitude’ Survey results from 100+ ADHD Mums on how the day actually goes What invisible emotional labour looks like (and why it stings most on Mother’s Day) The loneliness of solo parenting, co-parenting, or being in a relationship and still doing it all Scripts and strategies to set boundaries, ask for what you need, or say no The complex grief that can rise: for the mum you had, the mum you wanted, or the mum you thought you'd be Seven key reminders for emotionally overloaded mums this Mother's Day How to validate yourself when no one else does—and why your kids will remember even when it feels like they won’t 🔗 Resources & Links: 🎧 Related episodes: 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load [Part 2] Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple How to Handle Family Criticism About ADHD: Boundaries and Keeping Your Sanity Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple 💬 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook group: Click here If Mother’s Day makes you feel like disappearing, this episode is your reminder: you are not invisible, you are just unsupported—and that is not your fault. Hit play. Send this to a mum who needs to feel seen this weekend. #ADHDMumsPodcast #MothersDayBurnout #InvisibleLoad #MentalLoadMatters #ADHDParenting #NeurodivergentMums #EmotionalLabour #ADHDFatigue #SoloMumSupport #ADHDandGrief #RealMotherhood #ADHDMumPodcast JOIN THE COMMUNITY: You don’t have to smile through it. Join our Facebook group for real talk and support. FOLLOW FOR MORE: Find Jane on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and YouTube. Because sometimes you just need someone to say what you're thinking—out loud. LEAVE A REVIEW: Your review helps more exhausted, ragey, overextended mums find this podcast. Share the episode. Rate it. Let’s raise the volume on what really matters. COLLABS: To collaborate or invite Jane to speak, email jane@adhdmums.com.au . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: Mother’s Day and emotional labour, ADHD mums and mental load, invisible labour, solo mum burnout, co-parenting struggles, grief on Mother’s Day, unmet expectations, neurodivergent parenting challenges, ADHD and sensory overwhelm, ADHD mum shutdown, rage and resilience, ADHD women and shame, emotional validation for mothers, complex motherhood, real talk Mother’s Day, ADHD self-compassion, masking on holidays, self-advocacy for mums, survival-mode parenting, ADHD parenting community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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87. Season 2 RECAP: The Year ADHD Mums Stopped Apologising 41:39

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If you made it through Season 2 while juggling meltdowns, meds, late-night Googling, school chaos, and trying to figure out dinner while being told to ‘get off your phone’—you’re not just surviving. You’re reshaping the narrative. In this raw and honest wrap-up, Jane reflects on what really went down in Season 2: the burnout, the backlash, the breakthroughs, and the moments that made her want to walk away. From NDIS implosions to medication shortages, from massive listener growth to imposter syndrome and award snubs—this one lays it bare. This is a thank you, a debrief, and a reminder: you’re not alone, and Season 3 is just getting started. 💡 What We Cover: Why ADHD Mums doesn’t ‘pause for the season’—because the chaos doesn’t either Medication shortages, government silence, and the reality of parenting without support Burnout, surgery, ARFID, and behind-the-scenes pressure that almost ended the podcast What worked, what tanked, and why the DV mini-series didn’t land (even though it mattered) Why she kept going: DMs, community wins, and the power of knowing someone needed it The rise of $10 kits and what the audience really asked for: practical strategies, not fluff The message to women navigating neurodivergence without validation: build anyway 🎧 Listen Now 1. Burnout, Pain & Weird Symptoms? The ADHD Link No One Told Us About (My Lipodema Operation episode) Listen here on Spotify Listen here on Apple 2. Does ADHD Medication make you feel withdrawn, sad or sensory sensitive? Listen Here on Spotify Listen Here on Apple 🔗 Resources & Links: 🎧 Most downloaded episodes of Season 2 – Top 10 Recap Blog 📥 Downloadable Kits & Guides – Go Here 💬 Facebook Group: Join ADHD Mums #ADHDMumsPodcast #NeurodivergentParenting #ADHDMedicationCrisis #ARFIDParenting #BurnoutAndRecovery #NDAdvocacy #ExecutiveDysfunction #PerimenopauseADHD #RageAndMasking #MentalLoadForMums #WomenWithADHD #Season2Recap JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube COLLABS: Want to pitch an idea, book Jane, or collaborate? Email jane@adhdmums.com.au MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD mums podcast recap, burnout parenting, ARFID and ADHD, medication shortage Australia, ADHD and DV, imposter syndrome ADHD, ADHD misdiagnosis women, NDIS changes 2024, ADHD rage and masking, executive dysfunction, perimenopause ADHD, navigating school with ADHD kids, ND community support, practical ADHD strategies, low-energy parenting, advocacy and neurodivergence, ADHD mum community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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86. What the World's Biggest ADHD Meds Study Really Revealed 24:24

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ADHD Meds: Are They Safe Long-Term? What the World's Largest Study Just Told Us You’re sitting in the paediatrician’s office, staring at a tiny tablet in your hand, wondering if giving it to your child makes you a bad parent—or a better one. Sound familiar? In this solo episode, Jane breaks down the world’s biggest ADHD medication study —just published in The Lancet Psychiatry —and unpacks what it really means for neurodivergent families. We’re talking hard data, real side effects, long-term unknowns, and the emotional load mums carry when we’re asked to medicate our kids. This episode is your crash course in science and lived experience. No moral panic, no TikTok nonsense. Just the facts—and how they actually apply to real-life parenting. 💡 What We Cover: What the new research says about long-term safety of ADHD meds for kids and teens The truth about stimulants vs non-stimulants (both affect vitals) Why we need to track more than behaviour —and what to watch for The real-life variables the study didn’t cover (puberty, co-regulation, family chaos) How to use your lived experience to advocate during appointments Questions to ask your paediatrician now , based on the new data Why clinical reassurance alone isn’t enough—and never replaces your gut The difference between data-backed parenting and paranoia (and why you’re probably not overreacting) Previous studies had already established the effectiveness and general safety of ADHD medications. The 2023 ADDUCE study built upon this foundation, offering more detailed insights into their long-term safety, particularly in younger populations. 🔗 Resources & Links: 🧪 The full Lancet Psychiatry study 🎧 Related episodes: From Skeptic to Advocate – Medication, Neuroplasticity & Motherhood Stimulants vs Non-Stimulants – What’s the Difference? ADHD Meds & Pregnancy – with pharmacist Dr Rodney White 📚 Referenced researchers: The Lancet, ADHD Australia, Dr Ari Tuckman, Rodney White (UTS Pharmacy) 🎧 Listen Now If you’ve ever spiralled at 2am wondering if your child’s meds are doing more harm than good—or if you're exhausted from explaining your choices to well-meaning relatives—this episode will ground you in real data and real life. Hit play, send it to your co-parent or GP, and take this study to your next appointment. #ADHDMumsPodcast #ADHDMedicationStudy #ParentingWithADHD #NeurodivergentKids #ADHDMumLife #ADHDAndMedication #ADHDSafety #StimulantMedication #ParentAdvocacy #MedicationTracking JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to talk to other mums navigating ADHD meds and emotional whiplash? Join our Facebook group [here]. FOLLOW FOR MORE: Daily validation, tips, and the occasional rage-fuelled vent session — Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube. LEAVE A REVIEW: Your review helps more overwhelmed mums find this podcast—and feel less alone in the chaos. COLLABS: For interviews, speaking, or partnership enquiries: jane@adhdmums.com.au TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD medication study, ADHD meds and safety, stimulant vs non-stimulant ADHD, Ritalin Vyvanse Intuniv, ADHD in children, medicating neurodivergent kids, paediatric ADHD, ADHD parent guilt, ADHD and blood pressure, ADHD mum podcast, ADHD and tracking symptoms, how to talk to your paediatrician ADHD, lived experience and medication, medication decisions for kids, ADHD research explained, ADHD and monitoring, ADHD study Lancet Psychiatry, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD crash management, ADHD support for mums See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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85. Real Tools for Real Rage (Mum Rage Part 2) 26:42

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Okay, so you’ve screamed into your car steering wheel. Now what? In Part 2, Jane and clinical psychologist Dr Jacinta Thompson return to bring the goods: the actual, practical tools ADHD mums can use to manage rage without pretending to be zen all the time . From self-coaching scripts to nervous system hacks, this episode gives you permission to be angry—and shows you what to do with it that’s actually effective. Because no, you don’t need to just 'try yoga' again. And no, you’re not the only one who wants to punch the air when your partner asks what’s for dinner. 💡 What We Cover: How to spot rage earlier (before you hit full explosion) DBT’s ‘BUT to AND’ method for flipping shame spirals Why screaming into a pillow can be a regulation strategy How to coach your partner to be useful in the heat of the moment The link between sensory load and delayed rage meltdowns Releasing anger without suppressing it (and modelling this for your kids) Medication and mum rage: what no one tells you Jane’s own messy beliefs—and how she’s rewriting them out loud 🔗 Resources & Links: 🧠 Guest: Dr Jacinta Thompson – Time to Untangle Blog from Jacinta here on this topic. 📚 Referenced approaches: DBT dialectical thinking Emotional regulation via stress cycle completion Agomelatine & SSRIs for ADHD irritability 🎧 Related episodes: Ep 71 – 7 Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Ep 32 – Realising Autistic Burnout: Self-Awareness Part 1 Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple 🎧 Listen Now You’re allowed to feel rage. You’re also allowed to not be destroyed by it. This one’s for every mum trying to hold it together while everyone needs a snack, a hug, or your last nerve. #ADHDMumsPodcast #MumRage #EmotionalRegulation #DBTForADHD #Burnout #NeurodivergentWomen #MentalLoad #TooMuchIsValid #ADHDRealTalk #ParentingWithADHD See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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84. I Love My Family… But I’m So F**king Angry (Mum Rage Part 1) 39:28

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If you've ever felt like you were about to rage-clean the entire house, scream in your car, or book a one-way ticket to anywhere then here , this episode is for you. We’re diving into mum rage, sensory overload, and the shame spiral that follows —because if just regulating your emotions was that easy, none of us would be listening to this episode. Dr. Jacinta Thompson is back to break down why ADHD mums experience explosive frustration and what’s actually happening in your brain when you hit breaking point. 💡 What We Cover: ✔️ Why mum rage happens & how ADHD makes it worse ✔️ How sensory overload builds up (no… it's not just the loud noises) ✔️ The patriarchy’s role in why women suppress anger ✔️ The rage-shame cycle and why it’s so hard to break ✔️ Why we lash out at our partners ( um.. it’s not actually always their fault… mostly ) ✔️ How to recognise the early warning signs before you explode 🔑 Key Takeaway: Mum rage doesn’t mean you’re a bad mum—it means you’re overwhelmed, overstimulated, and probably undersupported. Find out more about Jacinta Thomson here Blog from Jacinta here on this topic. Related Episodes: ADHD and Autistic Traits in Mums: Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple 💬 What’s your biggest mum rage trigger? Drop it in the comments! #ADHDMums #MumRage #NeurodivergentParenting #SensoryOverload #ADHDMentalLoad See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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83. Too Much? Or Just Misunderstood: ADHD, RSD & the Power of Emotional Intensity 27:20

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Ever been called ‘a bit much’? Apologised for your personality before someone’s even asked your name? You’re not alone - and you’re not the problem. In this solo episode, Jane cracks open the messy reality of emotional intensity, ADHD, and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD). From 2am spiral sessions to crying because someone didn’t wave back - this episode calls it what it is: a misunderstood but very real part of neurodivergent life. No shame. No pastel filter. Just honest strategies to help your emotional wiring work for you - not against you. What We Cover: Why being ‘too much’ is usually just being human with ADHD How RSD can derail your week before breakfast Scripts for when you want to rage-text the school group chat How to pause before you blow up (or implode) What the hell the 10-Minute Rule is - and why it actually works Why emotional regulation isn’t just breathing exercises and wine Modelling emotional resilience ( without toxic positivity) Turning emotional intensity into advocacy, connection, and actual power Resources & Links: Download the RSD & Emotional Intensity Kit – includes scripts, reflection prompts, calm-down strategies Related episodes: Handling Family Criticism, Boundary Setting & Boundary Creep on Apple or Spotify (S2 Ep 51) Stop People Pleasing on Apple or Spotify (S2 Ep 50) Listen Now If your emotions feel like a liability (or your kid’s meltdown sets off your own), this one’s for you. Hit play. Share with a friend who spirals too. And share it with the mum who keeps apologising for just being herself. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD emotional intensity, rejection sensitive dysphoria, RSD and ADHD, emotional regulation ADHD, ADHD mum meltdown, ADHD and relationships, ADHD overwhelm, how to manage big emotions ADHD, ADHD parenting stress, ADHD spiralling, ADHD and shame, ADHD self-compassion, ADHD boundary setting, scripts for RSD, ADHD reaction control, ADHD neurodivergent emotions, calming strategies ADHD, ADHD social anxiety, ADHD overstimulation, ADHD mum guilt, ADHD burnout prevention, ADHD advocacy, ADHD friendship struggles See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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82. ADHD or PTSD? Why So Many Women Are Misdiagnosed with Amanda Moses 43:56

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Too many women walk into a psych’s office knowing something’s not right—and walk out with a label that only tells half the story. ADHD or PTSD? Or both? In this episode, Jane chats with senior psychologist, educator, and PhD candidate Amanda Moses , whose work centres on complex, highly masked neurodivergent presentations. Together, they tackle one of the most misunderstood clinical issues facing ADHD women: misdiagnosis, trauma-blaming, and the dangerous trend of withholding treatment. If you’ve ever been told to ' treat the trauma first' or felt like your neurodivergence was being ignored because of your childhood history, this one’s for you. 💡 What We Cover: Why ADHD and PTSD are so often confused—by professionals What the research actually says about overlap (not what google says) How to tell the difference between dissociation and ADHD brain fog The myth that trauma must be ruled out before ADHD can be diagnosed RSD vs trauma responses—how to tell what’s what What actually is trauma-informed ADHD care? What treatment looks like if you have both (and how to advocate for it) Questions you should be asking your health professional. 🔗 Resources & Links: 🔍 Guest: Amanda Moses Psychology 📸 Instagram: @amandamosespsychology Products: Misdiagnosis Series ADHD Strategies 📚 Referenced research: DSM-5 diagnostic guidelines Ari Tuckman on ADHD & executive function Alison Daminger on cognitive labour 🎧 Related episodes: (Spotify) Ep 20 – The Worst Assessment Process Ever 🎧 Listen Now If you’ve ever walked out of an appointment more confused than when you went in—or been told your ADHD symptoms are ‘just trauma’—please don’t miss this one. Share it with your GP, your psych, your burnt-out mate who’s still waiting for a clear answer. #ADHDMumsPodcast #ADHDWomen #PTSDvsADHD #Misdiagnosis #NeurodivergentWomen #RSD #TraumaInformedCare #ExecutiveFunction #ADHDandTrauma #RejectionSensitivity #NeurodiversityAffirming JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD and trauma, PTSD vs ADHD, ADHD misdiagnosis, ADHD and PTSD overlap, rejection sensitivity dysphoria, RSD vs trauma, trauma-informed ADHD care, dissociation vs brain fog, ADHD and executive function, ADHD diagnosis with trauma, ADHD in women, ADHD masking, ADHD and childhood trauma, complex trauma and ADHD, trauma-blaming in diagnosis, ADHD and emotional regulation, ADHD late diagnosis, ADHD medication and trauma, trauma-aware psychologists, ADHD mums podcast, ADHD support for women, ADHD and mental health, neurodivergent women, ADHD and therapy, ADHD self-advocacy, ADHD and comorbid conditions, trauma symptoms vs ADHD traits, ADHD and nervous system, navigating ADHD diagnosis See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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81. You’ve Tried Everything… They Still Won’t Eat: Real Strategies for ARFID at Home 42:02

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You’re not overreacting. You’ve spent hundreds trying to keep their “safe foods” stocked, only for them to refuse it the next day. You’ve stood in the kitchen, holding a full lunchbox, wondering how they’ll get through the day - and how you’ll keep holding it together. This isn’t just fussy eating. And this episode isn’t just more information - it’s the support you’ve been looking for. Want real tools to help with ARFID at home? The companion kit to this episode is packed with scripts, trackers, and strategies to make food feel less impossible. Grab it here for just $10. In this episode: What * actually* helps when you’ve run out of safe foods and ideas How to feel less panicked when they suddenly refuse the only thing they ate yesterday Ways to reduce the guilt, pressure and dread around mealtimes (for them and for you) Scripts to help you handle family comments or school pushback with calm and clarity How to track food patterns and build a “yes list” that gives you more breathing room What Jane does at home to manage ARFID without daily battles This isn’t about getting them to eat broccoli. It’s about reducing the anxiety, shame, and exhaustion around food - and giving you a path forward that doesn’t rely on force, tricks, or “just one bite” deals. If your child only eats two things, if family mealtimes feel like a minefield, if you’re terrified the fridge doesn’t have the one thing they’ll eat - this episode is for you. 🎧 Hit play for real strategies that meet you where you're at right now - and help make food one less thing to fight about. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Facebook Group Community Episode: Beyond ‘Picky Eating’ - What ARFID Feels Like: Claire Britton’s Personal Story - Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Website Episode: Could it be ARFID? Spotting the signs + why it’s not just fussy eating - Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Website FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ARFID, food refusal, extreme picky eating, safe foods, neurodivergent eating, ADHD kids eating struggles, autism and food, sensory eating issues, lunchbox anxiety, food jagging, feeding neurodivergent children, strategies for ARFID, what is ARFID, ARFID vs picky eating, ARFID support for parents, feeding therapy, sensory food aversion, meal refusal ADHD, ARFID autism, food anxiety, eating issues ADHD, feeding autistic child, managing ARFID at home, ADHD mum podcast, ARFID help, why won’t my child eat, ARFID routines, ARFID safe food list, pressure-free eating, ADHD child not eating, ARFID strategies for families Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook Grab your copy now at www.adhdmums.com.au ADHD Planner See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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80. Executive Function, School Stress, and Support That Actually Works with Sue Larkey 28:01

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Ever feel like you’re the only one holding everything together - school schedules, emotional meltdowns, forgotten socks, and all? And somehow, despite all that effort, your child’s teacher still doesn’t quite get it? You’re not imagining it - and you’re definitely not alone. In this episode, Jane sits down with educator and special ed expert Sue Larkey to talk about what really helps when school feels like a battle, your kid is stuck in ADHD paralysis, and you’re just trying to make it to bedtime without losing it. 💬 “None of your strategies will work unless you build a relationship first - at home or at school.” – Sue Larkey Whether you’re navigating teacher conflicts, trying to avoid another morning meltdown, or carrying the entire family’s mental load, this conversation is packed with real talk and practical ideas that actually work. What We Cover: Why parents are the experts in their own child (and how to help teachers hear you) Building better teacher relationships - especially after a tricky start Why you need someone in the school leadership team on your side The Four Positives to One Negative rule (and how it helps with teachers and partners) Executive function in real life: school bags, time blindness, overwhelm, and more Supporting independence without micromanaging (yes, it’s possible) What to do when your kid hits a wall (a.k.a. ADHD paralysis and autistic inertia) Your child doesn’t just need support at school or at home —they need connection between both worlds. This episode helps you build that bridge, without burning out. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Sue Larkey's website Sue Larkey's Instagram Anne Tullemans Books JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP: ADHD, executive function, ADHD paralysis, autistic inertia, parent teacher relationships, school stress, emotional regulation, ADHD kids, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD mums, supporting neurodivergent children, time blindness, micromanaging kids, building independence, teacher communication, ADHD school support, overwhelmed mums, executive dysfunction, ADHD routines, PDA parenting, ADHD strategies, school anxiety, ADHD meltdowns, homework battles, school transitions, supporting ADHD at school, neurodivergent family life, ADHD podcast for mums Mentioned in this episode: A Mum’s Guide to Supporting Your Child’s Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It’ A Child’s Diagnosis: A Mum’s Guide to Support and Helping Others ‘Get It’ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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79. Navigating School Holidays with Your Sanity & Self-Worth Intact 40:26

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This episode won’t give you a 12-step schedule — just real strategies, honest validation, and permission to drop the guilt. If school holidays leave you feeling overstimulated, under-supported, and one snack request away from snapping — you’re not alone. Need extra support this break? The School Holidays Sanity Kit has printables, reset plans, transcript and flexible tools to help things feel a little more doable. DOWNLOAD HERE. -- In this episode, Jane breaks down why school holidays can completely fry ADHD mums: the emotional labour, the pressure to make it special, the chaos of no routine, and the guilt (whether you’re working or not). This isn’t just a vent session — it’s packed with practical, neuro-affirming tools to help you reduce the overwhelm, create a rhythm that works for your brain, and survive the sibling meltdowns without burning yourself out. Why unstructured time hits ADHD mums so hard The pressure to create “core memories” (and how to opt out) Jane’s personal rhythm strategy that keeps things doable The emotional load creep (and how to call it out) How to support PDA and sensory-sensitive kids without rigid routines What to say when you’re about to lose it — or already have RESOURCES MENTIONED: ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook Polyvagal Theory - Dr Mona Delahooke The Brown Model of Executive Function Ari Takmin PMDD episode with Dr Miranda Robison ADHD Mums Facebook Group Community FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP ADHD mums, school holidays, ADHD parenting, executive dysfunction, emotional overload, sensory overload, school break stress, managing ADHD kids, burnout in mums, school holiday routine, ADHD family rhythm, PDA parenting, sibling fights, ADHD overwhelm, dopamine regulation, ADHD and unstructured time, mental load, emotional labour, holiday survival tips, neurodivergent families, ADHD mum strategies, parenting with ADHD, ADHD mum burnout, decision fatigue, holiday reset, co-regulation, ADHD and PDA, supporting ADHD kids, ADHD school break routines, ADHD toolkit for mums Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it. ADHD Planner See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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78. Could it be ARFID? Spotting the signs + why it’s not just fussy eating with Margo White 43:40

۸ weeks پیش43:40

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If you’re constantly guessing what your child might eat today... If even your “safe foods” aren’t safe anymore… And if every mealtime feels like a silent panic attack - this episode is for you. ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder) isn’t about being picky or manipulative - it’s about safety. And when food feels like a threat, pressure just makes things worse. In this raw and practical chat, Jane sits down with nutritionist and mum-of-two Margo White to talk about what’s really going on when food causes meltdowns, refusal, and shame. You’ll get a clearer picture of ARFID, understand how it connects to autism and ADHD, and walk away with real strategies you can try today - no guilt required. We talk about: The signs of ARFID (and why it’s often missed) Why “just try one bite” doesn’t work - and what to do instead What to do when safe foods suddenly disappear How trauma, burnout, and food refusal are all connected Ways to support your child (and yourself) when it all feels too hard Whether you’re living this daily, or just starting to wonder if it’s more than fussy eating - this episode will help you feel less alone, more confident, and more in control. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Margo White Claire Britton's ARFID episode JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ARFID, Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, picky eating, neurodivergent eating, food refusal, sensory food aversions, food anxiety, mealtime meltdowns, feeding challenges, safe foods, food jags, ADHD and eating, autism and food, fussy eater, trauma-informed feeding, neuroaffirming nutrition, ADHD child won’t eat, ARFID strategies, lunchbox stress, school food anxiety, burnout and feeding, food rituals, feeding therapy alternatives, child gagging at food, ARFID vs picky eating, ARFID support for parents, neurodivergent mealtime strategies, feeding trauma, food and nervous system, eating struggles autism ADHD Mentioned in this episode: A Mum’s Guide to Supporting Your Child’s Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It’ A Child’s Diagnosis: A Mum’s Guide to Support and Helping Others ‘Get It’ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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PSA! Concerta? Gone. Vyvanse? Broken – And Jane Called It a Year Ago 25:45

۹ weeks پیش25:45

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🎙️ NEW EMERGENCY EPISODE: Concerta’s Gone. Vyvanse is Broken. What Now? If your child’s Vvyance suddenly stopped working, you’re not losing your mind. If Vyvanse has started turning you into a Tasmanian devil with insomnia—you’re not alone. And if you're wondering why no one in charge seems remotely concerned ... well, Jane’s here to say what everyone else is thinking, what no one will say, and what absolutely no one is doing anything about. Welcome to the ADHD medication crisis. It’s messy, it’s real, and Jane—who literally called this a year ago —has receipts. 🧠 In 2024 when the government decided to recommend everyone prescribed Vyvanse move over to Concerta during the first shortage, Jane said openly in multiple media stories, ' This is a terrible strategy and will cause a national Concerta shortage.' Surprise: it did. And now we’re here—with no Concerta until late 2025, broken Vyvanse batches, and a TGA statement that basically says, 'Oops....not sure if Vvyance is a bit broken....' 🩺 And yes, the Vyvanse packaging had a few typos—because nothing says 'confidence in pharmaceutical quality control' like misspelling ‘ Pharmaceutivals .’ It’s somehow funny and horrifying at once. 🔗 TGA Product Alert: Vyvanse capsules product alert 📢 Report your symptoms: TGA reporting portal 📖 Blog: It’s Not Just a Bad Week 💥 In this episode: Why Jane is furious (again) and how the system keeps gaslighting families The Vyvanse side effects no one wants to document: rage, sleep chaos, full regression What’s going on with the supply chain and why it’s crumbling The hidden cost: parents homeschooling, reducing work, and holding the whole thing together with duct tape What to tell your doctor, paediatrician, school, and local MP Low-demand parenting tips when meds are out, and your sanity is circling the drain 🔑 Key Point: This isn’t your child. It’s not you. It’s a national systems failure dressed in PR spin. 📣 Share this episode before another family gets gaslit into thinking they’re imagining things. Demand better. We’ve had enough. #JaneWasRight #ADHDMedsCrisis #VyvanseGate #ConcertaShortage #TGA #ADHDMums #ThisIsNotFine #NeurodivergentFamilies #ADHDParenting #LowDemandParenting JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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77. Self-Sacrifice Is Not Your Friend (And Here’s Why) 20:50

۹ weeks پیش20:50

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If you’ve ever looked at your partner relaxing on the couch while you’re drowning in mental load and thought, “how are you not stressed right now?” - this episode is for you. We’re digging into resentment, why ADHD mums feel so responsible for everything , and what happens when we keep putting ourselves last. This isn’t just about snapping - it’s about the emotional and neurological cost of being the one who always “holds it all together.” It’s time to stop waiting for permission to rest, and start naming what you need. 💡 In This Episode: Why resentment isn’t about drama - it’s about unmet needs What “self-sacrifice” actually looks like when no one notices The guilt loop that keeps you from taking time for yourself Why ADHD makes it feel impossible to step away How to create space (and fairness) in your relationship - without blowing up If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, running on empty, and waiting for your partner to just get it - this is the episode to listen to (and maybe even send their way). Press play and let this be the moment you stop carrying it all alone. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD mum burnout, resentment in relationships, self-sacrifice ADHD, ADHD and relationships, mental load ADHD, ADHD mum guilt, emotional overload, partner doesn’t understand ADHD, ADHD and mum rage, burnout in motherhood, ADHD relationship struggles, feeling unsupported ADHD, neurodivergent relationships, ADHD mental load, guilt and self-care, ADHD mum boundaries, emotional regulation ADHD, ADHD mums snapping, ADHD and unmet needs, how to talk to partner ADHD, overwhelmed mum ADHD Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Pre Diagnosis Workbook for Women and Mothers If you’ve ever wondered whether your ADHD traits are changing - or if you’ve been questioning whether you have ADHD at all - understanding how it actually shows up for you is the first step. That’s exactly why I created the ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook, a tool designed to help women and mums navigate this journey before even stepping into a psychiatrist’s office. ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Worbook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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76. It’s Not Just Picky Eating - Claire Britton on ARFID – Claire Britton’s Story (Personal Perspective) 35:31

۹ weeks پیش35:31

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In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we welcome back one of our most popular guests: Claire Britton – occupational therapist, neurodivergent mum, founder of NeuroInclusion , and one of our favourite humans to talk to. Claire opens up about her lived experience with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) —what it was like growing up with sensory sensitivities, food rigidity, and mealtime stress long before ARFID had a name. She takes us through her personal journey from rigid childhood meals to navigating adult food challenges, relationships, and even discovering new foods through dating (yes, Tinder was involved). This is the episode for any parent who has thought, "My child is eating five foods and refusing everything else—what now?" or any adult who’s starting to realise, "Hang on, maybe this was me too." 💡 What We Cover: Claire’s lived experience growing up with ARFID in a neurodivergent family The sensory, social, and emotional dynamics of food avoidance How ARFID differs from “fussy eating” Cultural expectations around food and how they affect ND families The role of autonomy, safety, and environment in expanding food acceptance A breakdown of the SOS Feeding Approach (Sequential Oral Sensory) 🎧 Referenced Resources: Claire’s previous episodes on Executive Function and Evidence-Based OT Strategies Learn more about Claire and her services at neuroinclusion.com.au Info on the SOS Approach to Feeding 🔑 Key Takeaway: ARFID isn’t a behaviour problem—it’s a sensory, emotional, and often traumatic relationship with food that requires compassion, patience, and support. Pressure won’t fix it. Understanding will. 💬 If this episode resonated with you, let us know! And don’t forget to check out next week’s clinical follow-up with Margot White. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ARFID, Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, ADHD and ARFID, Autism and ARFID, sensory food challenges, picky eating vs. ARFID, feeding therapy, food anxiety, neurodivergent eating challenges, eating disorders and neurodivergence, adult ARFID experience, childhood ARFID, sensory sensitivities and food, autism and eating struggles, executive function and eating, food aversions, meal-time anxiety, ADHD food struggles, autism-friendly food strategies, supporting kids with ARFID, ARFID treatment, OT perspective on ARFID, neurodivergent food therapy, eating challenges in autism and ADHD, sensory-friendly eating tips, navigating ARFID as a parent, managing food anxiety in children, ARFID signs and symptoms, Claire Britton ARFID, ADHD Mums podcast ARFID, neurodivergent feeding strategies. Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Pre Diagnosis Workbook for Women and Mothers If you’ve ever wondered whether your ADHD traits are changing - or if you’ve been questioning whether you have ADHD at all - understanding how it actually shows up for you is the first step. That’s exactly why I created the ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook, a tool designed to help women and mums navigate this journey before even stepping into a psychiatrist’s office. ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Worbook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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75. What We Wish Our Partners Knew About the Mental Load - And How to Truly Support Us 23:17

10 weeks پیش23:17

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Having the mental load conversation is about as fun as stepping on LEGO barefoot. You want to explain how much you're carrying, but suddenly you’re “nagging.” You try to share how exhausted you are, and now you’re “overreacting.” Meanwhile, your partner is confused, defensive, and wondering why the conversation about the car getting booked in for a service turned into an existential crisis. Yeah. This episode is for you. PLUS get your episode companion guide for $10 – packed with scripts, validation strategies, and advanced tools to turn resentment into real partnership and shift from "helping" to truly sharing the load. It includes the full episode transcript. Your support keeps this podcast going! Download here. 💛 What We’re Covering: How to talk about the mental load without it ending in a full-blown argument The difference between helping and sharing responsibility What NOT to say unless you enjoy stony silence and tears. How to validate your partner (because “just make a list” is not the answer) Why one of you is focused on surviving today , while the other is planning a retirement in 2047 Resentment doesn’t mean your relationship is broken - it just means something needs to shift before you completely lose your mind. Share with your partner or just casually leave this episode playing at full volume while they’re in the room. 😏 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ep 58 - Here’s What Your Partner Needs You to Know About ADHD Ep 69 - Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan Ep 71 - 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load Ep 73 - Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible The Gottman Institute Family Meeting Template JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP: ADHD mums, mental load, invisible workload, ADHD and relationships, partner validation, ADHD burnout, overwhelm in relationships, emotional labor, household responsibilities, ADHD communication, relationship resentment, sharing the mental load, ADHD and marriage, neurodivergent parenting, supporting an ADHD partner, ADHD executive dysfunction, ADHD overwhelm, mental load frustration, ADHD and emotional regulation, ADHD masking, ADHD partner struggles, parenting with ADHD, ADHD and conflict resolution, how to explain the mental load, ADHD and invisible work, feeling unappreciated in relationships, ADHD mum exhaustion, ADHD mum mental load, ADHD and relationship dynamics, how to get your partner to understand ADHD, ADHD mum struggles, how to talk about the mental load, ADHD household management, ADHD mum stress, partner not understanding ADHD, ADHD and emotional overwhelm, ADHD mum advocacy, why the mental load is exhausting, ADHD mum frustration, ADHD and daily life, how to divide responsibilities with ADHD, ADHD mum resentment, ADHD relationship advice, ADHD and gender roles, neurodivergent relationships, ADHD relationship struggles. Mentioned in this episode: A Guide to ADHD Medication A Guide to ADHD Medication See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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74. Keeping Children Safe from Tricky People & Unsafe Situations with Kristi McVee 35:27

10 weeks پیش35:27

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⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away. Most parents assume they’ll know if their child is unsafe. But here’s the reality: neurodivergent kids are more vulnerable - not because they’re unaware, but because they see the world differently. They assume people mean what they say. They trust familiar adults - even when they shouldn’t. They think being ‘polite’ means saying yes. They struggle to spot manipulation, pressure, or coercion. They keep quiet when they feel uncomfortable - because they’re not sure if it ‘counts.’ If you’ve never thought about it this way, this episode is a must-listen. What You’ll Get From This Episode: How to teach body safety without making it scary The ‘What If?’ method – Simple ways to help kids recognise & react to unsafe situations The biggest safety mistake parents don’t realise they’re making How to help your child set boundaries & say no - even when it’s hard Red flags your child might be missing (and how to help them notice) The right way to talk about online safety - without isolating them from social life 🔗 Missed Part 1? Understanding the Risks – Neurodivergent Children, Social Safety & Grooming dives into why neurodivergent kids are more vulnerable & what parents often overlook. Listen to that first, or jump straight into this episode for practical, real-world strategies. 👉 Because keeping kids safe isn’t just about protecting them - it’s about making sure they can protect themselves. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Kristi's website Kristi's Instagram Kristi's Conversations with Kids Kristi's book - Operation KidSafe My Tricky Eye Spy START HERE: https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/ Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE neurodivergent child safety, ADHD child safety, PDA child boundaries, body safety for kids, teaching consent to kids, tricky people awareness, social safety for neurodivergent kids, helping kids say no, red flags for kids, grooming prevention for parents, online safety for ADHD kids, digital safety for tweens, social boundaries for neurodivergent kids, child advocacy skills, how to teach kids about consent, helping neurodivergent kids recognise manipulation, self-advocacy for kids, stranger danger alternatives, protecting kids from unsafe situations, parenting neurodivergent tweens, safety conversations for kids, child safety skills, teaching kids about red flags, neurodivergent kids and social cues, ADHD kids and boundaries, empowering kids to speak up, personal safety for neurodivergent children, recognizing unsafe adults, parenting PDA kids, practical safety strategies for kids, helping kids trust their instincts Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook Grab your copy now at www.adhdmums.com.au ADHD Planner See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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73. Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible: How to Share the Load Without the Stress [Part 3] 30:04

11 weeks پیش30:04

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You’re juggling everything, but no one seems to notice. You’re the one keeping track of school emails, therapy appointments, meal plans, and a million invisible tasks. Your brain never stops. The mental gymnastics of managing everything is exhausting. And when something doesn’t get done? That’s the only thing anyone notices. 🔥 This is the invisible mental load. And if it feels like it’s breaking you, you’re not alone. PLUS we've put together A Kit for Making the Mental Load Visible (and Finally Sharing it) . Download HERE. In this episode, we’re breaking it all down: Why ADHD mums feel the weight of the mental load harder than anyone else The unseen tasks that no one else even thinks about Why your partner isn’t stepping in - and how to finally shift the balance Practical ways to make the invisible load visible - without it turning into another argument Small, realistic changes that actually help This isn’t about doing more - it’s about making sure you don’t have to carry it all alone . RESOURCES MENTIONED: Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan - Part 1 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load - Part 2 Family Meeting Template Mental Load Cards START HERE: https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/ Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are. JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: ADHD mental load, invisible mental load, sharing the mental load, ADHD mums, burnout, overwhelm, emotional labour, neurodivergent relationships, partner support, ADHD and parenting, mental load resentment, executive function challenges, ADHD household balance, relationship struggles, ADHD and marriage, division of labour, cognitive hyperactivity, unseen tasks, ADHD family dynamics, mental load exhaustion, practical strategies for ADHD mums, ADHD mum burnout, balancing responsibilities, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD-friendly household management, supporting an ADHD partner, communication in ADHD relationships, household workload, ADHD decision fatigue, ADHD overwhelm solutions. Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it. ADHD Planner See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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72. Understanding the Risks – Neurodivergent Children, Social Safety, and Grooming [Part 1] with Kristi McVee 36:54

11 weeks پیش36:54

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⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away. Most of us assume we’d see the signs. We believe we’d know if someone was grooming our child. But the truth? Grooming is subtle, calculated, and often happens right under our noses . In this crucial episode, former detective and child safety advocate Kristi McVee discusses the unique risks neurodivergent children face in social situations, online spaces, and within their communities. Many parents worry about keeping their kids safe, but for parents of neurodivergent children, the challenges can be even greater - especially when it comes to understanding social cues, setting boundaries, and recognising unsafe situations. PLUS we've put together a free Kit on Body Safety & Child Protection. Download HERE. 🚨 This is the conversation we all wish we didn’t have to have. But we can’t afford not to. 💥 Coming next week: The practical strategies every parent needs to protect their child - what to say, what to teach, and how to build safety skills that actually work. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Kristi's website Kristi's Instagram Kristi's Conversations with Kids Krist's book - Operation KidSafe Australian Child Maltreatment Study JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE neurodivergent children, child safety, grooming awareness, social safety, online safety for kids, protecting neurodivergent kids, ADHD parenting, autism parenting, child abuse prevention, grooming red flags, child exploitation prevention, consent and boundaries, parenting neurodivergent kids, internet safety for children, child predators, neurodivergent vulnerability, child grooming signs, ADHD and social awareness, body safety for kids, preventing child abuse, Kristi McVee, ADHD Mums podcast Mentioned in this episode: A Mum’s Guide to Supporting Your Child’s Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It’ A Child’s Diagnosis: A Mum’s Guide to Support and Helping Others ‘Get It’ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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71. 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load [Part 2] 23:49

12 weeks پیش23:49

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re juggling every detail while everyone else just lives their life , you’re not alone. The mental load is real , and so is the frustration of carrying it all. In Part Two, we’re unpacking why so many ADHD mums stop speaking up about the mental load - even when it’s pushing us to burnout. Maybe you’ve tried before and been met with defensiveness, guilt, or the feeling that it’s just easier to do it yourself. But what if the way you bring it up could actually lead to change? Want to go deeper? This episode’s companion kit gives you practical strategies, conversation guides, and small shifts to help you redistribute the mental load - without burnout, conflict, or micromanaging. Also includes full transcript of this episode. Click here to get the kit. In This Episode: Why it feels impossible to shift the mental load (and how to stop getting stuck in that cycle) How societal expectations make us feel like it’s “just part of being a mum” Why resentment builds and how to prevent burnout before it happens The role of gender norms, guilt, and internalised pressure in keeping us silent Simple, low-energy conversation shifts that can help you get the support you need Relatable? Overwhelming? Exhausting? You’re not alone. This episode is your reminder that carrying the mental load doesn’t mean you should carry it alone. Resources & Links: Listen to Part 1 Episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the ADHD Mums website ADHD Planner & Values Workbook Miniseries Ep 5 on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the ADHD Mums website 58. What Your Partner Needs You to Know on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the ADHD Mums website PDA episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the ADHD Mums website PMDD episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the ADHD Mums website People Pleasing episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the ADHD Mums website Perimenopause & PMDD episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the ADHD Mums website Connect on Instagram: @adhd_mums Join our FB Community If this episode helps, send it to another mum who needs to hear it! And if you’ve got a second, leaving a review helps us keep these conversations going. 💛 JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP: ADHD mums, mental load, invisible labour, gendered mental load, emotional burnout, overwhelm, ADHD and relationships, communication struggles, advocacy fatigue, resentment in parenting, asking for help, sharing responsibilities, household balance, partnership struggles, why mums do everything, feeling unheard, defensiveness in relationships, avoiding conflict, burnout prevention, guilt of asking for help, internalised pressure, emotional labour, why ADHD mums are exhausted, breaking the cycle, shifting the mental load, reducing resentment, practical strategies for ADHD mums, low-effort solutions, ADHD and motherhood, neurodivergent partnerships, unspoken expectations, small changes for big impact. Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it. ADHD Planner See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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70. The Truth About Time-Outs and What to Try Instead with Gen Muir 54:36

12 weeks پیش54:36

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You know that moment when your kid is in meltdown mode, you’re barely holding it together, and before you can stop yourself "Just go to your room and think about what you’ve done!" flies out of your mouth? We’ve ALL been there. But time-outs don’t actually teach emotional regulation . They teach kids that their big feelings are too much, that they have to handle them alone, or that they just need to get better at hiding their struggles. In this episode, I chat with Gen Muir , parent educator, obstetric social worker, mum of four, and the person I wish had been whispering in my ear when I first became a parent. Gen has worked with over 40,000 parents, helping them navigate tricky behaviours and big emotions using connection-based parenting strategies that actually work. And she’s here to break down why time-outs aren’t the magic fix we were told they were - and what actually helps. PLUS we've put together a free Kit on Handling Big Emotions & Time-Ins. Download HERE . We’re covering: Why time-outs don’t work - especially for neurodivergent kids What’s actually happening in your child’s brain when they’re sent away How disconnection leads to more behaviour struggles (not fewer!) The skills kids really need to handle big feelings and how to teach them How to set firm, loving boundaries - without feeling like they’re running the show What to do when a meltdown makes the whole house feel like a war zone Resources Mentioned: Gen Muir - website and Instagram Little People, Big Feelings by Gen Muir Brick [not affiliated] Beyond the Chaos Podcast Sibling Rivalry S2 Ep 4 with Gen Muir on Apple Podcasts or Spotify ADHD Mums Facebook Group JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . Topics Covered in This Episode ADHD parenting, timeouts, emotional regulation, meltdowns, parenting strategies, neurodivergent kids, ADHD kids, discipline alternatives, gentle parenting, conscious parenting, parenting without punishment, time-in strategies, behaviour challenges, parenting support, ADHD emotions, sensory regulation, co-regulation, parenting neurodivergent children, big feelings, ADHD discipline, neuro-affirming parenting, setting boundaries, sibling rivalry, parenting expert advice, Gen Muir, ADHD Mums podcast, ADHD struggles, emotional resilience, parenting without shame, connection-based parenting, time-outs Mentioned in this episode: A Mum’s Guide to Supporting Your Child’s Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It’ A Child’s Diagnosis: A Mum’s Guide to Support and Helping Others ‘Get It’ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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69. Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan (And How to Change It) [Part 1] 26:28

13 weeks پیش26:28

26:28

Ever tried to have an uninterrupted shower, only to have Fight Club break out in your house the second you close the door? Meanwhile, your partner somehow gets their coffee, their phone time, their 35 minute toilet morning routine - completely untouched ? If you’ve ever thought: Why am I the only one absorbing the chaos? Why does everyone else’s needs seem to matter more than mine? Why does it feel like I have to do everything while being “grateful” for the occasional break? 🚨 THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU 🚨 We’re jumping into: The real reason neurodivergent mums are expected to be endlessly flexible (while others get protected time). Why the mental load isn’t just about chores - it’s about who carries the unpredictable stress of a household. How this imbalance fuels burnout, resentment, and exhaustion (and why so many of us have just stopped asking for change). The masking, guilt, and gendered expectations that keep us stuck. ✨ PLUS: I’ve created A Kit for Recognising & Shifting the Mental Load to help you start shifting the mental load - without feeling like it’s just one more thing on your plate. Get it here . RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Second Shift Study ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook Not sure where to start? Start here: https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here Blog post on this topic JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . Topics Covered in This Episode ADHD mums, mental load, gendered mental load, default parent, invisible workload, emotional labor, cognitive load, burnout, neurodivergent mums, ADHD relationships, ADHD parenting, autistic mums, executive dysfunction, masking, overstimulation, mom burnout, ADHD and motherhood, relationship imbalance, household responsibilities, parenting mental load, ADHD overwhelm, time management ADHD, ADHD partner, neurodivergent families, ADHD routines, ADHD executive function, sensory overload, ADHD life hacks, ADHD productivity, gender roles, equality in parenting, ADHD coping strategies. Mentioned in this episode: ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook: A Guide for Women and Mothers Wondering if it’s ADHD or mum life? The ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook is your survival guide, helping you untangle your thoughts and explore ADHD traits - perfect for those curious about self-diagnosis or preparing for an assessment. ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Worbook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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68. Perimenopause & PMDD: The Hormonal Rollercoaster of Neurodivergent Women with Dr Miranda Robinson 34:12

13 weeks پیش34:12

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One day you’re fine. The next? Brain fog, rage, exhaustion, sensory overload - like your body has a mind of its own. It’s not just stress. It’s not all in your head. Perimenopause and PMDD hit neurodivergent women harder, turning ADHD and autistic traits up to full blast. And yet? Most doctors still dismiss it. In this episode, Dr Miranda Robinson, an obstetrician & gynaecologist with a special interest in neurodiversity, breaks down what’s really happening and what can actually help, so you can stop feeling like you’re losing control. Why ADHD and sensory overwhelm skyrocket during perimenopause How hormonal shifts make emotional and physical symptoms worse - and what you can do about it HRT, ADHD meds, supplements - what’s worth trying & what to ask your doctor How to get doctors to listen (instead of dismissing your symptoms as ‘just stress’) How to feel more stable, clear-headed & in control Resources Mentioned: Dr Miranda Robinson Dr Miranda Robinson’s Instagram page Episode on PMDD. Listen on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or on the website Episode on Perimenopause - Haylee’s Story. Listen on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or on the website Episode on EMDR. Listen on Apple Podcasts , Spotify or the website A Guide to ADHD Medication JOIN THE COMMUNITY: Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format! FOLLOW FOR MORE: Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram , Facebook , TikTok or YouTube LEAVE A REVIEW: Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together. COLLABS: For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at jane@adhdmums.com.au. MORE RESOURCES: Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here . Topics Covered in This Episode ADHD, perimenopause, PMDD, hormones, ADHD in women, autistic women, neurodivergent health, ADHD and hormones, perimenopause symptoms, PMDD symptoms, ADHD burnout, neurodivergent burnout, brain fog, sensory overload, rage, exhaustion, mood swings, HRT, hormone replacement therapy, ADHD medication, supplements for ADHD, autistic sensory overwhelm, cycle-related ADHD changes, mental load, medical gaslighting, advocating for ADHD healthcare, neurodivergent women’s health, ADHD and menopause, ADHD emotional regulation, women’s health specialist, Dr. Miranda Robinson, ADHD Mums Podcast Mentioned in this episode: A Guide to ADHD Medication A Guide to ADHD Medication See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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