When negative feedback shakes your confidence, it can be difficult to get back to feeling like yourself at work. In this episode, Anne and Frances help a struggling listener who has spent years toning herself down in the workplace after being told that she was too assertive — now, she feels that her modest approach is holding her back. Together, they use Anne and Frances’s “trust triangle” framework to explore how empathy, authenticity, and logic can help you rebuild confidence and trust with your colleagues, and share helpful confidence hacks for getting comfy with discomfort. What problems are you dealing with at work? Text or call 234-FIXABLE or email fixable@ted.com to be featured on the show. For the full text transcript, visit ted.com/podcasts/fixable-transcripts Want to help shape TED’s shows going forward? Fill out our survey ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…
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Hello and welcome to Scratch That!
We (Caitlin & Rebekah) are so thrilled that you — yes you listening to this right now — are here tuning in to this episode.
So we wrote you a letter! And had a quick chat about who we are, why we started this show, and how becoming parents ushered us into a new era of reparenting ourselves and rewriting our scripts for family, motherhood, childhood, and so much more.
We hope you’ll press play, subscribe wherever you listen, and join us on Patreon to continue these conversations.
xo, Rebekah & Caitlin
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محتوای ارائه شده توسط Rebekah Taussig & Caitlin Metz, Rebekah Taussig, and Caitlin Metz. تمام محتوای پادکست شامل قسمت‌ها، گرافیک‌ها و توضیحات پادکست مستقیماً توسط Rebekah Taussig & Caitlin Metz, Rebekah Taussig, and Caitlin Metz یا شریک پلتفرم پادکست آن‌ها آپلود و ارائه می‌شوند. اگر فکر می‌کنید شخصی بدون اجازه شما از اثر دارای حق نسخه‌برداری شما استفاده می‌کند، می‌توانید روندی که در اینجا شرح داده شده است را دنبال کنید.https://fa.player.fm/legal
Hello and welcome to Scratch That!
We (Caitlin & Rebekah) are so thrilled that you — yes you listening to this right now — are here tuning in to this episode.
So we wrote you a letter! And had a quick chat about who we are, why we started this show, and how becoming parents ushered us into a new era of reparenting ourselves and rewriting our scripts for family, motherhood, childhood, and so much more.
We hope you’ll press play, subscribe wherever you listen, and join us on Patreon to continue these conversations.
xo, Rebekah & Caitlin
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How do we talk to our kids about war, death, families being separated, floods, guns, violence, any of it? Should we shield them as much and as long as possible? Should we hold their hand as we tell them what we know to be real? How do we balance protecting our kids with equipping them? These questions feel important, the stakes feel high, we're doing our best, and making it up as we go. Today we dive into it as we try to figure out how we want to navigate the conversations that scare us. Tune in to hear us talk about: The sticky conversations Caitlin loves diving into with their kid and why some topics feel so much harder. 🇺🇸 How our parents' talked with us about politics in the 90s. 🪦 The very different responses we had to our kids seeing dead animals and the one thread we share. 📚 How Caitlin is using books and stories as invitations and bridges into hard conversations. 🪧 The conversations Rebekah had with a fellow protester that illuminated how she wants to move through today's politic landscape with her son. ⚙️ A potentially measured and responsible new strategy to equip our kids for the scary realities of today's world. Mentioned In Today's Episode: What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! What helps you navigate conversations (with your kids or anyone else!) about the scary things happening in the world right now? And what book recommendations do you have? For any age! What are the book that are helping you understand our history and humanity? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
1 🎙️Trading the Status Quo for the Risk of a Dream with Kate Wieners 1:03:52
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدA year ago, Kate Wieners quit her corporate job to open a cozy, plant-filled bookstore, Monstera's Books . And while it sounds like the pitch for a movie we'd all love, today Kate talks with us about the real-life, fleshed-out story. What stars had to align for her to leave the "good enough" setup she already had for the risk of a dream? What has it been like to be a partner and a parent as she makes this great leap? What is it like to create a third-space community around books and storytelling right now? And does the nervous-scary of a big risky dream ever go away? Tune in to hear us talk about: ☎️ The story of the old 70s phone they use in the store and all the ways it sets the tone for the shop. 💫 What Kate's husband Justin said when he heard her name her bookstore dream out loud at a party. ％ The strategies Kate and Justin have developed to navigate living, parenting, and working together. 🔧 The big and unexpected monkey wrench in their plans and how that became the scary ideal way to actually launch their plans. 🔔 The epiphany Kate had while waiting for someone else to tell her she had a brilliant plan. 🌿 Why Kate thinks Monstera's Books is a worthy competitor to Amazon. Just making the next decision and getting comfortable with chaos. 📚 The conversation Kate overheard in the bookstore that highlighted the unique power of third spaces (especially ones that center storytelling). 💓 The tremendous value/power of little risks. (Or how something as simple as a romance bookclub could save someone's life.) ✨ How paying attention to the sparkle dream in ourselves can meet a much larger need in our communities. ⚡️ What Kate hopes her daughters take away from growing up in this bookstore. Mentioned In Today's Episode: Two books recommended by Monstera's Books patron s – The Covenant of Water by Abraham Verghese and A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas Two of Kate's top book recommendations – I Am, I Am, I Am: Seventeen Brushes with Death by Maggie O'Farrell and Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! Shout out your favorite local bookstore! Tell us about your favorite third space! Share a little or big dream that's been tugging at your chest! We're here for all of it💛 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
What does living alongside a toddler reveal to us about our high school and college students? How does time in the classroom inform the way we approach learning with our pre-schoolers? On today's episode, we reflect on our experiences teaching and learning and cobble together a list of guiding principles. Tune in to hear us talk about: ✨ Curiosity as sacred. ⏱ The cost of separating places and times of learning. 🌱 Shame vs safety in a learning environment. ❓ The power of asking "silly" questions and admitting you don't know. ☁️ Valuing "idleness" in a world that rewards gold stars. 🧶 Why it's good and important to make so many crappy things. 🥁 Continually seeking out experiences where we're not very skilled. ⚡️ The scrappy trickster energy required to view constraints as possibility. Mentioned In Today's Episode: "Dispatches from the Ruins" is an essay in Ross Gay's book Inciting Joy . Here's the clip of Ira Glass talking about the gap between your good taste and what you are able to make when you start out. As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! What were your experiences in school? What worked well and what do you wish had been different? How do you think about education and learning as an adult? And does that show up in how you parent/re-parent now? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
As we kick off Pride month, we turn over what it means to bring a new person into a scary world, especially as a queer parent, and the ways pregnancy has helped Caitlin understand and live out their gender. Tune in to hear us talk about: 🫢 A super big announcement! ❓ Asking questions to understand the ways we experience pregnancy and parenthood differently. ⚖️ Caitlin processing the need they felt to choose between being visibly queer and keeping their kids safe in public. 🏳️🌈 Why being pregnant with Charlie propelled Caitlin to come out as nonbinary. 🔔 The moment Caitlin rung the bell that could not be unrung and showed up as their nonbinary self to people that mattered. 👥 Modeling for our kids an alignment in how we show to the world and how we show up inside our homes. Mentioned In Today's Episode: If you'd like to swaddle Caitlin in a little care for this new being that's coming to be, check out their registry here 💛 As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! Drop your thoughts on this conversation below💛 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
1 🎙️ The Hilarious & Heartbreaking with Shane & Hannah Burcaw 1:03:08
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدToday on Scratch That we chat with one of the most beloved couples on the internet – Squirmy and Grubs ! (Also known as Shane and Hannah Burcaw 🤗) They talk with us about what it's like to share their personal lives with an enormous following, how they cope with internet hate and real life ignorance about disability/relationships, why they wrote their new book Interabled: True Stories of Love and Disability , the perspective they've gained through their experience with IVF, and loads more! There was much giggling. There were sobering truths. There was a story about the time Hannah ate edibles and then thought a real life witch approached them on the street. We're so excited to share this one with you💛 Tune in to hear us talk about: 🤡 Little Shane and Little Hannah as two rule-following class clowns. 🧑🦼The shame Shane had about his disability when he was younger and the coping mechanisms he developed to be seen as fully human. 💞 Why we think so many people struggle to understand how disability, care giving, and romantic relationships can co-exist. 📣 Why Shane and Hannah continue to share their stories publicly, even when their comment sections fill up with ignorance and hate. 🛠 The tools Hannah & Shane have found to protect themselves from ignorance. ⚡ Disability as a disruption to narrow expectations around traditional gender norms and inter-generational living. 🗺The perspective they've gained from their IVF experience. Mentioned In Today's Episode: Shane and Hannah's book, Interabled: True Stories of Love and Disability And their YouTube channel, Squirmy and Grubs Sara Hendren's book What Can a Body Do? And here is an interview Sara Hendren did with Krista Tippett on the On Being podcast about an obligation to others as valuable within human society. The 3 songs Hannah and Shane added to our collective Scratch That Spotify playlist – Fortune Teller by Sea Lemon , Get Better by alt-J , and look up by Joy Oladokum . As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
If love incarnate was sitting beside you today, what would they say to you? Today we offer you a little practice that we learned from the one-and-only Elizabeth Gilbert – Letters from Love . We share a tiny how-to and then dive into reading some of our own letters, Caitlin as a seasoned veteran and Rebekah as a fresh newbie. You're invited to write your own letter, too, but even if you don't, we hope this especially tender episode brings you some kind of love today. Mentioned In Today's Episode: Here is Elizabeth Gilbert's how-to guide on Letters from Love on her Substack by the same name. Caitlin made a print of the phrase that came to Rebekah in her Letter from Love! You can purchase it for $5 here 💌 As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! What would Love have you know today? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
1 🎙️Good Bad Things with Danny Kurtzman & Steve Way 1:01:17
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدToday on Scratch That we bring you the disabled bromance of your dreams – Danny Kurtzman and Steve Way . You might know Steve from his role on the Hulu series Ramy , and maybe you recognize Danny from his modeling days, but most recently, these two have been in creative collaboration as the leading man (Danny) and executive producer (Steve) of the recent (gorgeous) film Good Bad Things . These two live out the themes of this podcast, literally rewriting the scripts of disability storytelling as actors, screenwriters, producers, and directors. And as they share about their own creative journeys, it's very clear they have a powerful friendship. Starting May 13th, you can stream Good Bad Things on Hulu! Here's a link with all the places you can listen, watch, purchase, and support💛 Let's show the powers that be with our plays, hearts, and downloads that this is the kind of storytelling we crave! Tune in to hear: 🖤 Steve tell us what it was like to grow up thinking he wouldn't live to be an adult. 🫧 Danny describe the gifts and curses of the bubble he grew up in. 👤 The gnarly ways internalized ableism has shown up in both their stories, and the revising/rewiring/rewriting they continue to do. 👊 The potent power of friendship in rewriting our own scripts. ❓ Steve tell us the simplest, most effective question his friends asked him when he was in a dark place. ⚡️ Danny's hot take on "inspiration porn." 📺 All the deets on their new film, Good Bad Things , and how this movie wouldn't exist without Danny seeing Steve on TV first. Mentioned In Today's Episode: Steve's hilarious standup . The coach we all love and adore, Carson Tueller . The 5-minute film, We'll Meet Again , Danny and Steve made for the 2025 Easterseals Disability Film Challenge. (Content warning – true to its prompt, this film is a genuine horror. As it looks at some of the darkest layers of ableism, it includes suggestions of suicide.) NOT Mentioned In Today's Episode: After we stopped recording, Danny reminded me that we try to ask all our guests to contribute a song to our collaborative Scratch That playlist, Songs That Have Held Us . Danny and Steve are both big fans of Mac Miller and our playlist now includes the song they chose – " Good News. " As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! Did you see yourself reflected in the stories you saw growing up? Have you seen disability representation changing meaningfully in recent years? What is your favorite (or least favorite!) example of disability representation in recent storytelling? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
Do you ever feel frozen by the chaos, the mess, the to-do list? There's a big project you really want to dive into, but every time you try to start, you end up scrolling on your phone instead? Or you look out at the suffering in the great wide world and don't know what steps you could possibly take to help? This week, Caitlin introduces us to a sturdy framework their brilliant little brain created to help them in just such moments. And if you dig it, you're in luck, because they're offering a whole juicy online class based on these ideas this spring! Mentioned In Today's Episode: Check out all these details on Caitlin's online class – Start Where You Are ⭐️ As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! What do you have? What do you need? And how would it feel to start that thread in the group chat? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
On today's episode, it's Dr Becky versus Original Sin! What happens when Good Inside takes on the fall of man? Are our jobs as parents to get out of the way and nurture our kids' inherent goodness? Or are we here to guide them away from their bad instincts? In Scratch That fashion, today's tornado conversation swirls through the gray as we try to piece together a both/and philosophy that can support us through the unwieldy work of learning/teaching how to be a human. Tune in to hear us talk about: 🐣 The Easter-weekend moment Caitlin had with Charlie that sparked this whole episode. 🔎 Shifting the focus from good versus bad to belonging versus abandonment. 🤼♀️ Shame versus responsibility, unmet needs versus bad behavior. ⚡️ How the capital S-self might help us get out of binary thinking. Mentioned In Today's Episode: For anyone feeling lost every time we reference Dr Becky, here's a link to her corner of the internet. As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! Are we the only ones thinking about these questions? What did this episode bring up for you? And do you have any good book recommendations?? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
1 🎙️ Creativity as a Way of Life with Elsie Larson 1:10:02
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدDo you ever long to explore a totally new creative outlet or try something brand new? Like, I don't know, write a novel? Open a cute little boutique? Or try your hand at jumpstarting an art career? Our guest today has the trickster energy to try it all, throwing off scripts about being too inexperienced or too old to explore, try, and play. Elsie Larson is a mother of two and co-founder of A Beautiful Mess empire she's built with her sister Emma. The two are creative makers to their core, from their vintage clothing boutique Red Velvet (RIP) where they sold their originally designed dresses to their outrageously successful blog where they share original recipes, DIY projects, and home renovation ideas. They've written books , co-host a podcast , and showcase their ideas on their Instagram account . Today we truly talk about it all with Elsie, from her journey as a creative to her role as an adoptive parent, from her earliest years to her plans for her 50s. Tune in to hear us talk about: 🤸 The way Elsie's childhood fostered her creative trickster energy. ⚠️ Where she gets her boldness, willingness to take risks, and try something new. 🏆 Jealousy as a manifesting tool. 🧭 How Elsie pivoted when she lost her sense of self in early parenthood. 📅 Making choices for yourself 10 years from now & feeling excited to get old. 📝 The common scripts about adoption that strangers repeat to Elsie & how she's narrating a different story in front of her daughters. 💞Ridding ourselves of the assumption that we understand our kids' experiences of the world & generating more curiosity within a family ecosystem. 🐣 Rebekah and Elsie's shared stories of getting married and divorced really young. 🙏 How our particular evangelical upbringings influence how we show up as adults/parents & what Caitlin misses most about church. Mentioned In Today's Episode: We talk about "trickster energy" a lot on Scratch That! The idea comes from Elizabeth Gilbert's book Big Magic 💫 Martha Beck's book The Way of Integrity Elsie's podcast is called A Beautiful Mess , and the episode Rebekah mentioned on goal setting is #246 "Setting Goals for 2025" As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! How are you coping (or not!) with all the demands the domestic world? Are there ways you are forced out of the traditional scripts around care work? Or do you long to break out of them, but find it difficult to actually do? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
Anyone else feeling a little extra anxious these days? SAME. On today's episode, we share some of the strategies and tools we're using to stay grounded and keep belly-crawling forward. Tune in to hear us talk about: 🌥Why taking pictures of the sky calms Caitlin's nervous system. 🏘 Caitlin's most annoying anxiety hack. 📰 The new way Rebekah is consuming news. 🧥 What Rebekah is doing instead of impulsively buying that cardigan from Target. ✨ Caitlin rushing toward JOY with the same kind of energy as they rush toward a crisis. 🎤 Rebekah saying the absolutely-for-certain true things out loud. Mentioned In Today's Episode: Recording of Ross Gay with Bon Iver, "Catalog of Unabashed Gratitude" Mary Oliver Andrew Gibson Joy Sullivan Found on the We Can Do Hard Things podcast feed, "Calm News with Jessica Yellin" And here's a link to Jessica Yellin's Substack, News Not Noise Here's how you too can mend the armpit holes in your shirts! Rebekah's new picture book, We Are the Scrappy Ones (This link takes you to Rebekah's favorite local bookshop where she is signing copies. It is also available wherever books are sold.) As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! Who are the creators lighting up your world these days? Let fill up the comments with a big ol' show and tell! 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
In today's episode, Laura Danger (aka @thatdarnchat ) dives into a candid conversation with us about care work, domestic labor, and the powerful/often invisible scripts that shape our life choices, relationship dynamics, and home lives. Offering a unique perspective as a parent with ADHD and bipolar 2, Laura invites us to go off script, tune out default societal expectations, and set the terms for our homes, relationships, and stories. Tune in to hear us talk about: 🧑🎨 Being an artsy emo punk feminist who also has a crush on Freddie Prinze Jr. 🔎 Learning to decipher our own desires from society's expectations. 🧑🧑🧒 Co-parenting as a useful framework for all the parenting. 😳 The embarrassing realization that you're living inside a cliché sitcom, and you're playing the part of the naggy sitcom mom. ✨ Looking to queer, multigenerational, and divorced families for tools to build a framework of care without any assumptions. ♿️ The complicated ways disability disrupts traditional scripts around gender and care work. 📝 How difficult it can be to actually embody an alternate script. ꩜ The shame that can spiral when a neurodivergent person sees their sink full of dirty dishes. 💎 Laura Danger's interesting bit of hope built on a tiny bit of data. Mentioned In Today's Episode: Laura Danger's upcoming book with Dutton publishing is called No More Mediocre: A Call to Reimagine Our Relationships and Demand More — make sure you're following @thatdarnchat for the cover reveal and pre-order link on April 21! And check out Laura Danger's podcast, Time to Lean ! Laura also mentioned Eve Rodsky's book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live). As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! How are you coping (or not!) with all the demands the domestic world? Are there ways you are forced out of the traditional scripts around care work? Or do you long to break out of them, but find it difficult to actually do? 🍎 Apple 🟢 Spotify Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
What do we do when our parenting strategies aren't working out the way we expected? Or we stumble into a hard parenting fail? On today's episode, we share parenting stories we recorded several months ago on the CosmoParenting podcast . Then we reflect on those stories, honestly naming the ways our strategies are evolving (or not) with time. This is an episode all about the messy, unresolved, ever-shifting work of parenting and peopling. Tune in to hear us talk about: 📜 Disrupting old narratives through adaptation. ⚖️ The tricky balance of acknowledging pain and also pushing past discomfort. 👥 Modeling behavior versus exercising power. ⛓️💥 Understanding our past to break patterns. ☀️ Bring our parenting fails into the sunlight to move forward and evolve. Mentioned In Today's Episode: If you're looking for a parenting podcast full of bite size practical tools, the CosmoParenting podcast is for you! And if you missed our earlier episode interviewing the host of CosmoParenting, Abbie VanMeter, you can listen to it here - "What paradigms are we building? (Part 2) with Abbie VanMeter" As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! What parenting scripts are you revising in real time? What moments are you coming back to again and again as parents and people? Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
1 🎙️ Flipping the Script on Disability with Lucy & James Catchpole 1:06:48
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدWill these charming Brits be able to withstand Rebekah's gushing?? If you don't yet know who Lucy and James Catchpole are, tune into our episode from last week, "Catchpoles + Andy J Pizza Love Fest." Two disabled parents who run a children's literary agency and write picture books, Lucy and James talk to us about their early experiences with disability, the ways disability shapes their parenting, and how their creative work reframes disability as ordinary, in sharp contrast to the cultural narratives of awe and pity. Tune in to hear us talk about: ❤️ Restriction as a liberating starting point. 🪶 James's early memory of swapping the goal of normalcy for the joy of moving his body freely. 👑 Lucy's rare experience as a non-disabled child seeing disability represented as dignified and regal. 🌀 Lucy's origin story of learning to parent without guilt. ❓Common non-disabled narratives of disability that laud asking and kindness. 🤝 Belonging to a disability legacy and culture that we can pass on to younger generations. Mentioned In Today's Episode: Pre-Order the forthcoming YA collection of first-person essays, Owning It: Tales From Our Disabled Childhoods , edited by Jen Campbell, Lucy and James Catchpole, and illustrated by Sophie Kamlish. (You can read an essay by Rebekah in this collection, too!) (All orders from Blackwell include free shipping to the US!) Check out all three of James and Lucy's picture books – What Happened to You? You're So Amazing! Mama Car! Watch Lucy and James sing their own pandemic lockdown version of "Oh my darling, Clementine" with their daughter. (Highly recommend. Easily the sweetest thing you'll watch/listen to this week.) As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! Who are the creators lighting up your world these days? Let fill up the comments with a big ol' show and tell!…
On today's Show-and-Tell episode, we gush about some of our favorite creators: Lucy and James Catchpole (disabled parents and children's book authors, with "more children than working legs") and Andy J Pizza (New York Times bestselling author / illustrator / podcaster). And we want to hear from you, too! Who are the creators lighting up your world these days? Tune in to hear us talk about: 🛝 Being a disabled kid on the playground. 📝 Subversive representation that flips the script of disability storytelling. 🧰 Children's books that give our kids agency 🎨 ADHD + art + parenting Mentioned In Today's Episode: Pre-Order the forthcoming collection Owning It: Tales From Our Disabled Childhoods , edited by Jen Campbell, Lucy and James Catchpole, and illustrated by Sophie Kamlish. (You can read an essay by Rebekah in this collection, too!) (All orders from Blackwell include free shipping to the US!) As Always: Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop ! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves. Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators , Esther and Melissa. We would love to hear from you! Who are the creators lighting up your world these days? Let fill up the comments with a big ol' show and tell! Find Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨…
Today we bring you a mini mid-week episode to tell you all about Rebekah's forthcoming picture book, We Are the Scrappy Ones . Tune in to hear: 🌱 The origin story of the book and who Rebekah wrote it for. 👽 A bit about what it felt like for Rebekah to grow up with a disability. 🌗 The ways writing about the experience of disability for a younger audience felt very different from other writing projects Rebekah has done. 📖 Rebekah read some of the book. PRE-ORDER THE PICTURE BOOK HERE Find us on instagram @sitting_pretty ✨ @caitlinhasfeels…
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This conversation was inspired by a visit Rebekah took to her son's classroom. As he has adjusted to a new school, Rebekah has tried to think more critically about how she wants to lead the conversation (and onslaught of inevitable questions these kids have) about her wheelchair. In SCRATCH THAT fashion, this episode is more in-real-time-processing and back-and-forth questions than a 1-2-3 step plan for raising our babies to have immediate and "perfect" understanding of disability from a very young age. How do we teach our kids how to respond when they notice difference in public? How do we teach our kids about all kinds of difference when they don't experience all of it in real life? Are there any blanket rules about what we say/don't say? How do we avoid accidentally reinforcing the stigmas we're trying to push against? And as we ask and listen, we realize this is actually a conversation about how we do the hard work of being community with all kinds of different people. Together, we generate a hearty set of ideas for how we strive to navigate these tricky conversations that we fully expect to be just as messy as human relationships themselves. Tune in to hear us talk about: 📚 Our favorite disability-forward picture books. 📜 Rebekah's current script for answering questions about her wheelchair. 🎯 Evaluating our goals in teaching our kids about disability and difference more broadly. What are we really trying to do here? 🎨 The pieces that make these conversations sticky and complicated and learning to embrace the messiness of it all. ♿️ How Otto's new school has responded to Rebekah's disability and need for access. 🤝 A sprawling brainstorm on how we teach our kids (and ourselves) to build communities of care. Mentioned in this episode : Come Over to My House by Eliza Hull Bodies Are Cool by Tyler Feder This Is How We Play by Jessica Slice Mama Car by Lucy Catchpole The Circus Ship by Chris Van Dusen Cake Girl by David Lucas We would love to hear from you! How are you navigating these kinds of conversations? Have you discovered any scripts that have helped you? What makes these moments feels especially tricky to you in any direction?…
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Today we tackle what Caitlin refers to as the "cheerful nostalgia and heart-wrenching sorrow" the holidays can bring. For so many of us, this particular time of year comes with a lot of guilt and pressure, hard memories or sadness that the present doesn't look quite like we think it should. Together we process what makes these days hard for the both of us and generate a host of ideas for navigating these both/and days with full hearts and a lot of creative curiosity. 🖨️ You can download this little zine, print on 8.5x11 paper and fold it down for your pocket to reference when you need it. Here are directions for folding. Tune in to hear us talk about: 💔 Making space for the sadness and releasing the guilt. ✨ Grasping onto joy when we can. 🎊 Caitlin's tips on how to create new holiday traditions. 🍄 Learning to take off the pressure of a single day. 🙌 Our own experiences accidentally discovering new holiday rituals. 🌱 The pains of families evolving holiday traditions as they age, grow, and change. ⚙️ Moving away from default and toward intentional celebrations. Find us on instagram @sitting_pretty ✨ @caitlinhasfeels…
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Today we bring you a mini mid-week episode to tell you about a resource Caitlin created, fueled by the specific needs of their neurodivergent brain that has expanded into a tool, a practice, a piece of art in so many other homes. Tune in to hear: 🎂 A tiny update on how Caitlin has been processing their neurodivergence, especially as they cross the threshold of a birthday that feels big. ✨ A poignant insight from a dear friend. 🌱 Caitlin learning to recognize some of the tangible beauty that comes from their specific needs. 💓 Several ways that people use the calendar Caitlin made, including: a visual guide, a way to help kids understand long passages of time, tracking big dates. ☀️ Rebekah's use of the calendar as a daily practice for tuning into embodied memories. Order/Download the Calendar Here…
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1 🎙️ How does a disabled mum approach parenting her disabled son? A joyful conversation with Nina Tame 1:06:04
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدToday we're thrilled to bring you our conversation with the aunt you always needed, the one with the funniest memes and all the colors, we can't imagine the internet without her — Nina Tame! Nina is doing powerful, hilarious work to revise the scripts we have around disability that has made its way across the globe (if you don't yet follow her Instagram , go forth and consume), but maybe the most profound evidence of this rewriting shows up in her own little family. Nina grew up disabled and is now the mum to three boys, the third of which shares Nina's disability. Listening to her reflect on parenting as she tends to her younger selves feels like a tangible moment of re-parenting that I imagine many of us need. Tune in to hear about: 📜 The early inheritance of a script that disability is bad. 🧑🧑🧒 A gentle/honest reflection on what it was like to be parented as a disabled kid. ⚡️ Nina's hard-earned insights on the best practices for parenting a disabled kid. 💓 The lifelong work of teaching our younger parts that they're not a piece of shit. 👯♂️ The transformative shift of disability as a medical experience to a social experience. 🌱 The multitude of ways that disability enhances a family ecosystem. Mentioned in this episode : 📖 Nina and Rebekah both have essays coming out in the forthcoming YA collection, Owning It: Stories From Our Disabled Childhoods . (While the target audience is around 9-13, we think it's also for anyone who's ever been 9-13.) Pre-ordering from Blackwells (linked above) includes free shipping to the U.S. Where to find everyone: Follow Nina on Instagram @nina_tame Follow Rebekah on Instagram @sitting_pretty Follow Caitlin on Instagram @caitlinhasfeels…
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We don't have a lot of words right now. No hot takes. No three step plans. We feel heavy, confused, and scared. And while we might have the impulse to shut down, we want to be intentional to bear witness to the untidy snarl of this moment. It didn't feel right to carry along with our regularly programming when so many of us are grieving & afraid right now. So here's a tiny conversation to hold space for a greater pause — for feeling our feelings, for taking deep breaths, for listening to more stories & reflecting on the stories we hold, for making plans to support the ones around us, for whatever we need to feel the ground beneath us. And in the meantime, here are some poems & essays that are speaking to us right now. What do you turn toward? by Lisa Olivera MAGA Hat In the Chemo Room , by Andrea Gibson For My Sister , by Kate Baer I don't want another black president: a love letter , by Kaplan Villacorte Trudo How Dark the Beginning , by Maggie Smith…
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1 🌪️ How Do We Talk About Our Internalized Ableism? 1:05:06
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدThe conversation we bring you today is especially tender. We decided to sit down to talk about internalized ableism, because Caitlin is grappling with a potentially new diagnosis that has brought up a lot for them. We hope you'll listen to this one with care — as we process together, we lift the lids on some of the ugliest wounds ableism inflicts. And so much is still fresh. The two of us experience internalized ableism differently for a host of reasons — Caitlin feels wobbly even claiming the title of disability and would embody a combination of old and new, non-apparent versions of the word, while Rebekah moves through the world in a very visible wheelchair, and has for most of her life — but as we talked, we bumped into a host of thought-provoking overlaps and deviations in our experiences. Tune in to hear us explore : 🌪️ The wide range of layered emotions that can come up with a new diagnosis. 🦆 The definition of ableism through the metaphor of a duck on water. 🌊 The messy intersections of postpartum depression, internalized ableism, and ADHD/autistic burnout. 👍 The feeling of needing to prove we can be trusted to care for our kids, especially in public. ❗️ The ways pregnancy and postpartum can become disabling experiences, especially in a country that does not support new parents. 💵 How money changes the experience of disability. ♟️ Strategies for navigating mental health struggles as a parent. 🌱 A hope that adjusting to a new diagnosis can be a beautiful process, too. Mentioned int this episode : 📖 Easy Beauty by Chloe Cooper Jones 🌀 Andy J Pizza shares a lot about his experience of ADHD as a creative — find him on Instagram or his podcast, The Creative Pep Talk Podcast . 🫧 KC Davis creates conversation around neurodivergence & parenting — find her on TikTok , her podcast, Struggle Care , or read her book, How To Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing . ⚡️Katherine May's book The Electricity of Every Living Thing 🌿 The Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD: Cultivate Self-Compassion, Live Authentically, and Be Your Own Advocate by Jennifer Kemp and Monique Mitchelson We would love to keep the conversation going in the comments. How do your experiences with internalized ableism overlap/deviate from the experiences we talk about in today's episode? How are you coping? What feels hard? What do you understand now that you didn't at first? Find us on instagram @sitting_pretty ✨ @caitlinhasfeels…
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When we sat down for this conversation, we fully intended to dive into the tricky choices we have to make when deciding if/how to share about our kids — on social media or a podcast, in writing or conversation. And while we do spend some time trying to parse out that particular challenge, the conversation that unfolded quickly became much deeper. Because a conversation about representing another human is also a conversation about storytelling, perspective, autonomy, and relationship boundaries. And so we ask — 👀 What if we don't see things the same way that our kids/parents do? 📚 What happens when family members have conflicting true stories of shared experiences? 📷 How do we document our kids' childhoods without bringing an audience into their experiences. 👯♂️ How do I untangle where my story ends and yours begins? 🧑🧑🧒 How do we learn to tell our own stories when we've deeply absorbed a family narrative? 🪢 How do I hold onto a sense of myself when parenting/caregiving consumes so much of me? 🐣 And why even share about our kids at all? In the episode, we mention... Rebekah's recent Substack essay, " Dear Son of a Disabled Mother ," Caitlin's collaborative artwork with Charlie, including the "Am I a Real Mom?" piece. We would love to keep the conversation going on our Patreon . Have you found a way of representing your young people (online or anywhere else) that honors both your experience and theirs? Do you have tensions within family systems that hold multiple, differing true stories? What do you find especially sticky about the questions being asked in this episode? Find us on instagram @sitting_pretty ✨ @caitlinhasfeels…
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1 🎙️ How Do We Talk About Miscarriage and Infertility? with Emma Parker 1:00:17
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدToday, we share with you a tender conversation with the one-and-only deep-feeler, wholehearted Emma Parker . Emma is a photographer who longs for deep connections, feels inspired by the ways we are all different and also the same, and, for the last two years, has experienced infertility and miscarriage. Emma generously agreed to share some of her story, experience, and insight with Caitlin and Rebekah – two people who do not share this experience – with the hope that it could help give all of us in the Scratch That community new scripts for processing our own unique experiences and showing up for the ones we love. We are so grateful she was willing to have this vulnerable conversation with us – and y'all, she showed up with such honesty and heart💛 Tune in to hear about: 🌟 Fumbling through uncomfortable conversations. 🚫 The scripts we want to avoid when someone is going through infertility or miscarriage. 🌗 Growing our capacities for feeling more than one thing at a time. 🌱 Showing up for our hurting people by learning to sit with our own pain & discomfort. ❤️ Practicing new scripts for how to engage our kids when they are struggling. 📦 Miscarriage care-packages! 🌊 Better scripts for when our loved ones are experiencing unresolved/ongoing suffering. Where to find everyone: Follow Emma on Instagram @emmybeephotog + visit her website Follow Rebekah on Instagram @sitting_pretty Follow Caitlin on Instagram @caitlinhasfeels…
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We love books. And the best part of loving books is sharing them with our friends. So we’re very excited to kick off our book report series — mini-ish episodes where we’ll talk about our favorite books that guide us as parents and people. Our first pick is the amazing What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth . Tune in to hear us gush about this book that will help you explain reproduction to your two year old. Then join us on Patreon to request future book reports and share your fave reads! More from us: Follow Rebekah on Instagram @sitting_pretty Follow Caitlin on Instagram @caitlinhasfeels Mentioned in the episode: Ericka Hart , What Makes a Baby , Sex is a Funny Word , You Know, Sex ✷ And if you loved this episode, please join us on Patreon for show notes, transcripts + more!…
Today we’re taking on the impossible question: do we have another baby? 😵💫 Caitlin opens us with a beautiful poem from Joy Sullivan, and then we each share the joys, fears, and swirls of question marks coming up as we consider having a second kid. Listen in as we unpack our feelings about fertility, age, baby fever, finances, mental health, desire, and more — including how an oracle card is helping Rebekah figure out her answer. Then join us on Patreon to continue the conversation! We’d love to hear how you’re approaching this question with your families. ♡ More from us: Follow Rebekah on Instagram @sitting_pretty Follow Caitlin on Instagram @caitlinhasfeels Mentioned in the episode: Instructions for Traveling West by Joy Sullivan , Haley Brown’s Tearwater Oracle Deck , Why Fish Don’t Exist by Lulu Miller ✷ And if you loved this episode, please join us on Patreon for show notes, transcripts + more!…
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1 🎙️ What Does Disability Teach Us About Building Community? with Alex Wegman 1:07:50
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدAlex Wegman is one of our absolute favorite people on (and off) the internet. She’s a writer, storyteller, homeschooling mom of two, and a lifelong wheelchair user who tells stories about life at the intersection of disability, parenting, friendship, and generally existing in public. Everything she shares has deeply impacted how we approach parenting. So we’re thrilled to have her as our first guest on Scratch That! Tune in to hear about: Cultivating independence for parents & kids Disability representation in Alex’s childhood Confronting ableist attitudes toward pregnancy & birth Deconstructing the nuclear family New scripts for intimacy & home-building Learning to love the act of asking for help Indulging in our joy More from us & our guests: Follow Alex on Instagram @alexwegman + v isit her website Follow Rebekah on Instagram @sitting_pretty Follow Caitlin on Instagram @caitlinhasfeels ✷ And if you loved this episode, please join us on Patreon for show notes, transcripts + more!…
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Have you ever felt like maybe you weren’t a “real” parent? When we decided to start a podcast, this was the first thing we wanted to talk about — why our brains keep sending us messages that we aren’t “real” mothers. So today we’re sharing the images of motherhood we’ve seen throughout our lives, and digging into how those images are complicated by disability, queerness, and a desire to parent differently. Listen in as we unpack our vision of what a Real Mom™️ should be. Then join us on Patreon to continue the conversation! If you have your own green shoes moment, we’d love to hear about it. ♡ More from us: Follow Rebekah on Instagram @sitting_pretty Follow Caitlin on Instagram @caitlinhasfeels Mentioned in the episode: Alex Wegman ✷ And if you loved this episode, please join us on Patreon for show notes, transcripts + more!…
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Hello and welcome to Scratch That! We (Caitlin & Rebekah) are so thrilled that you — yes you listening to this right now — are here tuning in to this episode. So we wrote you a letter! And had a quick chat about who we are, why we started this show, and how becoming parents ushered us into a new era of reparenting ourselves and rewriting our scripts for family, motherhood, childhood, and so much more. We hope you’ll press play, subscribe wherever you listen, and join us on Patreon to continue these conversations. xo, Rebekah & Caitlin Mentioned in the episode: Basil Kincaid Scratch That Patreon…
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We’re launching a podcast!!! First episodes of SCRATCH THAT: PARENTING & REPARENTING OFF SCRIPT drop September 30th! Two scrappy midwestern authors, who birthed babies in the early days of the pandemic, walk into a bar. Well, one walks in their chunky doc martins and backward cap, the other rolls in on her Ti-lite chair, rocking teeny tiny bangs. Both challenge the norms of parenthood in their own ways — one with their gender, the other with her body — and carry deep curiosity about what it means to be human. Naturally, these wayward misfits hit record and turned their angst and good cheer at being alive — in these bodies, at this time — into a whole ass podcast. You are cordially invited to join us on this winding exploration. Along the way we’ll be chewing on impossible questions, interviewing people who are also going off script, and sharing the books, poems, and objects that support our quest to parent and re-parent ourselves at the same time. You will always be able to listen on Apple & Spotify, but join us on Patreon (for free) to be part of the conversation (and see our intro videos!)!!…
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