261: Differentiation as Key to Wise Decision Making w/ Dr Julie Hanks

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Join Val and colleague Dr. Julie Hanks as they dive into the topic of differentiation and how being differentiated is the key to our making healthy choices related to our relationship with the church.
This episode is a wonderful “teaser” for those who want to jump into their FINAL 4-week Q&A session, focused on supporting those people perplexed about how to relate to the LDS Church.
This session will not only include a Q&A but also include instruction on practical ways to develop differentiation skills.
This is a four week series, held on October 8, 15, 22, 29 on zoom 7-8p MT.
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261: Differentiation as Key to Wise Decision Making w/ Dr Julie Hanks

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325: Why Jesus Likely Couldn't Care Less about Church Handbooks & Creeds 38:34

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Transcending Church Rules on the Path Towards Genuine Christlike Discipleship w/Russ Hinckley Part I of IV Welcome to a beautiful series featuring guest author Russ Hinkley (who doesn't mind being referred to as Mr. Susan Hinkley of the "At Last She Said It" podcast) where Val and Russ explore his book "Beyond Belief" a radical reinterpretation of what Jesus likely would have those who gathered in his name focus on. In this episode Russ and Val riff a bit about early Christian history and why creeds (official belief statements) were made and why Jesus likely could not care less about what are in those creeds. The rest of the series tackles what Jesus would probably have us focus on as individuals, families, and congregations. Beyond Belief - Russ Hinckley https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 324: Office Hours: Shifting the Focus from Abortion to Preventing Unwanted Pregnancy 1:00:18

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! In this timely conversation Valerie tackles Elder Anderson's recent general conference talk on abortion. In one hour she goes from the macro issue of abortion itself and offers some thought-provoking concepts about NOT focusing on abortion and instead focusing on how abortion is the prevailing solution to unwanted pregnancy only because we live in a patriarchal society. She also proposes that LDS women have valid reason to feel unique and acute transgenerational pain connected to marriage, s*exual misconduct, power, and self sacrifice. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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323: Sometimes Love Uses a Microphone 57:48

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Send us a Positive Review! In this episode Valerie is invited to be a guest on "Beyond a Shadow of a Doubt," a podcast where she shares many experiences leading to her choice to commit her career to the psychological and spiritual healing of those connected to her own Latter-day Saint faith tradition. Val shares some personal experiences, some of her reasons for beginning and staying in this nerve wracking space, about the ups and downs of the work she does. Mostly she shares her conviction that what she is doing feels deeply "right" to her core... that when one knows they are in their integrity, other concerns fall away. Join Valerie and host Meagan Skidmore for a fresh, heartfelt look at faith journey—through the eyes of someone who’s walking the path right alongside you. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 322: How Rootwork Brings us to Deep Kinship in this World & in the Mormon Cosmos w/ Kathryn Sonntag & Taylor Petrey 47:04

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: A Look into the Minds of Creators of The Mother Tree & Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part II of II] In this continuation of our conversation about modern Mormon feminist scholarship, Taylor and Kathryn riff about various schools of thought regarding the heavenly roll of a feminine divine in historical and contemporary Mormon scholarship and complicate these ideas with their own, connected to a potential heaven where humanity and our eternal creators may be an embodiment of masculine and feminine energies that defy our mortal conceptualization and definition. Settle in for some beautiful ideas by some beautiful, creative, and courageous current scholarship here in our tradition. The Mother Tree: Discovering the Love and Wisdom of Our Divine Mother - Kathryn Knight Sonntag Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor G. Petrey https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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321: The Feminine Divine in the Mormon Cosmos with Kathryn Sonntag & Taylor Petrey 57:08

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: A Look into the Minds of Creators of The Mother Tree & Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part I of II] Why is my job the very best? Because I get to sit down with two of the kindest, more brilliant and beautiful souls out there--Kathryn Sonntag and Taylor Petrey-- to facilitate a conversation about all things modern Mormon feminism, scripture, symbology, and the feminine divine. The Mother Tree: Discovering the Love and Wisdom of Our Divine Mother - Kathryn Knight Sonntag Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor G. Petrey https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 320: "Queering" the Garden Narrative in the Mormon Cosmos 1:08:16

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part IV of IV] Here's one final mindblowing conversation that will definitely leave you thinking "I never thought of the garden narrative THAT way! In this episode Taylor and Val peruse the various and sundry ways that the Garden Narrative has been used to justify all manner of unhelpful theology and social and political agendas throughout the ages and Taylor offers novel thoughts on ways in which we can see even in this narrative an opening for a heaven that welcomes of all of God's children able to form bonds of love through equality and kinship rather than through hierarchy and gender. Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor Petrey https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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319: "Queering" Ideas about Heavenly Mother in the Mormon Cosmos 44:12

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part III of IV] One definition of "queering" that Taylor uses in his book is to complicate or expand --and this episode does just that in the realm of the feminine divine. Buckle up as Taylor and Val walk through his fascinating ideas regarding what Latter Day Saints call Heavenly Mother. This episode addresses historical and current scholarship around this highly charged topic and offers new ideas on how we might see this part of our theology in a whole new and provocative way. Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor Petrey https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 318: "Queering" Ideas about the Godhead in the Mormon Cosmos 45:41

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part II of IV] Get ready to have your mind blown just a little more as Taylor walks Val through more expansive ideas around a heaven that privileges "kinship" over all other types of covenant bonds and uses the deep and loving relationship within the Godhead as a model, opening doors of eternal connection that transcend current Mormon theology. Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor Petrey Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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317: Ideas on a Heaven Large Enough for All Loving Connection 34:35

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: A Deep Dive into the Fascinating Cosmos Found in Taylor Petrey's Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos [Part I of IV] In this episode Val and guest scholar and author Taylor Petrey set this series up by walking through the focus of Taylor's phenomenal new book, Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos. They set the stage to blow your mind in the many ways that an open-minded and close reading of scripture makes all kinds of space for a heaven packed with not just heterosexual love and connection. Welcome to the world of "kinship"! Queering Kinship in the Mormon Cosmos - Taylor Petrey Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 316: "Office Hours" Exclusive: When Faith Crisis Destabilizes the LDS Marriage 51:47

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! In this Office Hours live session, members of the Latter Day Struggles community are asking their questions and Valerie brings her encouraging responses. Since February is the month where love is celebrated, this conversation centers around marriage, partnership and navigating the sometimes tumultuous waters of maintaining close relationships during a faith expansion journey. Don’t lose heart! It really is possible to maintain love, patience and mutual respect while honoring your faith expanding experience! Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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315: Forgive Them, For They Know Not What They Do 1:22:05

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Valerie & Nathan Hamaker Forced Resignation from the LDS Church [Part III of III] In this final episode detailing the tough events of Val and Nathan's last year trying to collaborate with their local priesthood leaders, they share why they chose to resign their membership instead of experiencing a disciplinary counsel. They also explore the fear that some LDS leadership experiences with mental health workers and conclude with their process of letting go of resentment or anger so that they can move forward with true freedom. Please SHARE these episodes. Val and Nathan want the narrative around their need to formally resign from the LDS church to be understood firsthand. Thank you for your love and support at this time! https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 314: Devoted Listener/Supporter Q&A on Hamaker Forced Resignation 1:00:45

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Valerie & Nathan Hamaker Forced Resignation from the LDS Church [Part II of III] Join Val & Nathan in this episode answering questions that came in from listeners following their public announcement regarding their forced resignation from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints due to local priesthood leaders' inability to understand the nature of their work and the healing intent of their hearts. Thank you all for your ongoing love and support. Valerie & Nathan are committed to this platform and are honored to be a voice for psychological healing in our Latter-day Saint and surrounding community. No regrets, only love. Books Referenced in this Episode: Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion - Gregory Boyle A Course in Miracles Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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313: Not Willing to be Burned at the Stake Center 2:10:16

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Valerie & Nathan Hamaker Forced Resignation from the LDS Church [Part I of III] Please join Valerie & Nathan in this tough 3-part conversation sharing the events that led to what felt to them like their forced resignation from LDS Church this past week. In today’s episode Val and Nathan walk through a timeline of a lot of painful experiences in the past eighteen months with multiple well-meaning local priesthood leaders who ultimately could not overcome their fear of the healing work happening on the LDS Church on the Latter Day Struggles platform. The episode ends with several truly beautiful testimonials sent to us by many of you, which were sent to all of these priesthood leaders, detailing the impact of our ministry—to no avail. COMING UP... PART II - Friday 3/21 episode: Special full-content listener Q&A episode answering your questions asked on @ latterdaystruggles.com Instagram stories today. PART III - Monday 3/24/25: Second half of Val and Nathan’s experiences, on their decision to resign, and their thoughts love, forgiveness, and moving forward with you. *** Please SHARE these episodes. Val and Nathan want the narrative around their need to formally resign from the LDS church to be understood firsthand. And thank you for your love & support friends. It means everything. We can proceed showing a different and better way. Love over fear. WE HAVE NO REGRETS “[They] drew a circle that shut me out, heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But LOVE and I had the wit to win: I drew a circle that took [them back] in." -Edwin Markham https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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312: Why Gender-based Wounds Can Only be Healed in Mixed-Gender Communities 58:32

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part VIII of VIII] Join Valerie in the final episode of a series exploring the beauty of community healing in the context of an LDS faith crisis. In this episode you will meet two current members of Valerie's brand new advanced content group, processing the impact of growing up in a patriarchal world and church. This group dives deeply into how each and every one of us has been deeply impacted by the "Christianization of Patriarchy," and how awareness of our roots brings about healing and wholeness. Valerie made a point to invite both a woman and a man from the new group to join her in this episode, where they could not only share their own personal journeys of awakening but also reflect on what it was like to witness someone of the opposite gender go through their own process of learning and growth. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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311: By the Mouths of Four Witnesses: Community Healing in LDS Faith Crisis 1:04:17

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part VII of VIII] Join Valerie and four amazing guests who get really brave speaking about their LDS faith journey as they become acquainted with the concept of true community. In this episode Val invites two women and two men to talk about the fear of joining a healing group, especially in light of negative experiences, too common in their lives, when they shared what they were experiencing in church, or with some of their immediate and extended families. Too often, their faith journeys made loved ones uncomfortable, sometimes even bringing up anger, guilt, or shame. Listen as they share how healing it is to know that they "belong" simply because they are children of God on a quest for personal growth. In the Latter Day Struggles growth and processing groups, people learn that you do not have to believe a certain way to be loved, seen, and accepted. Revolutionary, right? https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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310: A "Masculine" Man's True Self Journey Home to His Healthy Feminine 46:02

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part VI of VIII] In this Friday episode you will meet Leo, another fellow listener to the Latter Day Struggles podcast and an ongoing participant in Valerie's healing communities. Leo and Val talk about Leo's true self journey and how he has realized his estrangement from his true self and how that was closely connected to burying multiple aspects of himself due to the demands of patriarchy. Leo shares his confusion at the concept of true self and how he eventually realized that reclaiming this part of himself was the key to all healing in every area of his life. Listen in and see if this resonates with you if you are a man socialized out of your wholeness by patriarchy...or if you are a woman who knows and loves a man who might resonate with Leo's very relatable experience. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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309: Love of Others Begins with Finding Unshakable Goodness Within 39:11

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Send us a Positive Review! Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part V of VIII] In this beautiful episode I welcome Devin (another graduate of my faith expansion growth and processing group) who was willing to share his experiences coming into deep connection with his true self as the most fundamental part of his faith journey. In this episode Devin and I talk about his wrestle with feeling "good enough" to even imagine a self that is infinitely good, loveable, and enough--mainly due to harmful early messaging and experiences connected to sin and worthiness. In Devin's journey he was able to slowly unlearn old and harmful ideas with the love and support of group members and supportive loved ones and finally embrace his true identity--which has carried him deeper into further growth, healing, and not only acceptance of himself, but a deeper commitment to seeing others outside of any kind of power hierarchy. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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308: "I Am Not My Ability to Bear Children": A Tender Journey Towards True Self Discovery 40:00

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part IV of VIII] Join Val in this beautiful episode with guest Joy, who shares some tender elements of her faith journey which began long before joining one of the growth & processing communities. Val and Joy talk about Joy's journey finding her "true self" after realizing that the core of her selfhood could *not* be her ability to have the large family she desired. They discuss what happens to a woman when what is "supposed" to happen slams into the reality of actually happens, and how pain and grief are often the catalysts to our deepest growth and personal empowerment. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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307: On the Process of Awakening to Our Worthiness as the Factory Setting 54:54

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part III of VIII] In this episode, Valerie and Nathan set the stage for why those who commit themselves to Val's healing groups say that what they learn about the concept of the "true self" can be life changing. Val and Nathan talk about why this idea not only gives us access to full healing from LDS faith and trust crisis, it also offers a path to a more full, peaceful, and confident life. The "true self" concept is a fundamental aspect of Val's Latter Day Struggles group curriculum. Members discover how to heal from their Mormon faith crisis through understanding who they are and what they believe. A year later, members will graduate knowing so much more about themselves, tapping into a well of personal growth and freedom they never thought possible. This episode kicks off a series of voices that follow, where Val invites three different women and men to share their transformative experiences learning about their own "true selves". The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself - Michael Singer Awareness: Conversations with the Masters - Anthony De Mello The Different Drum - M. Scott Peck https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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306: "I Didn't Think Feeling This Safe was Possible in a Group of People" 53:56

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part II of VIII] In today's episode Val and Nathan go deeper into what they have learned about the unique healing process of faith and trust crisis connected to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. You'll learn how our faith crisis journey might be a bit different from other religion's faith journeys and why being in a non-judgmental group of people (who are open to whatever spiritual path you choose) is perhaps the most healing part of the journey. Why? Because it helps you realize that you ARE capable of being the authority of your own life and your own relationship with spirituality and with your higher powers. Listen in to find some confidence that there is a neutral space for discovering your own indwelling competencies for spiritual growth! Referenced in this Episode: Gender Equity & Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family Living an Examined Life - James Hollis https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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305: What? I Belong Here No Matter What I Believe? 47:06

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Community Healing: How our Greatest Wounds & our Greatest Healing Happens through Human Relationship [Part I of VIII] The LDS faith journey is not an 'individual sport' and although some of us try, we realize that it can't really be done alone. In this episode Val and Nathan walk you through why so many of us try to walk through this "valley of the shadow" alone. We try to hide what’s happening to us due to what we've been taught about those who doubt, question, and seek for something beyond the correlated gospel. Then they talk about what they have learned from hundreds of you who have been instrumental in the creation of a phenomenon that no one expected would happen--little micro-communities of sacred growth and healing happening almost every day of the week on the Latter Day Struggles platform. If you want hope that healing your LDS-"crisising" soul is possible, once again, this episode is for you. And you'll learn why community is so important to the journey. Referenced in this Episode: Gender Equity & Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 304: The Invisible Cage: Patriarchy's Invisible Toll on Male True Self Development 45:24

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part VIII of VIII] This is the final episode in a groundbreaking series diving deeply into what a lack of the feminine looks like in both LDS men and the LDS church itself. This episode explores the profound ways in which patriarchal systems affect men's ability to discover and develop their true selves because patriarchies encourage the over-cultivation of traits that privilege power over partnership and external achievement over personal growth and development. Valerie and Nathan discuss the internal struggles that men face when conditioned to spend their whole lives constructing false self identities, leading to ego inflation, exhaustion, mental health issues, and sometimes a sense of meaninglessness late in life. Most importantly, this episode highlights how patriarchal systems distract men from the very purpose of life: to learn how to connect with one's own divinity, with others, and with their divine creators. Nathan's personal experiences and practical insights about his own growth journey provides a heartfelt look at overcoming patriarchal conditioning for a more holistic self-realization. Referenced in this Episode: The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love - Bell Hooks Living an Examined Life - James Hollis https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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303: Alone Together: Redefining Masculinity & Femininity to Heal LDS Marriages 44:20

11 weeks پیش44:20

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part VII of VIII] In this episode Valerie and Nathan get personal as they share their marriage journey awakening to the impact that patriarchal influences had on their ability to connect and really grow closer as a couple and family. They candidly share VERY REAL moments of early distress and disconnection, especially the struggles that occurred before they realized the core of their struggles. What they realized and are still learning each day is that each human being thrives as an individual AND within marriage and family life only as they fully embrace both their divine masculine AND their divine feminine attributes. Before they understand this profound concept, they suffered without a map for healing. In short, if imbalanced energies in church are painful, amplify that pain exponentially within in the home. Listen to this entire series to expand your potential for health and healing in every important relationship in your life. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 302: When Patriarchal Little Boys are Taught Not to Feel 44:41

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & Their Churches [Part VI of VIII]] In this heart-to-heart episode of Latter Day Struggles, Val and Nathan delve into the profound effects of patriarchal conditioning and its impact on men's abilities to become relationally and emotionally mature. Val and Nathan explore how little boys (raised in patriarchal cultures and churches) are often discouraged from cultivating traits fundamental to relational and emotional health due to a transmitted fear that these attributes are too feminine. They explore how this is not only a sad message for little boys, but that this messaging can be devastating for grown men who cannot experience true love and connection in their marriages and family lives. Don't miss a single episode of this compelling and possibly life-changing series. Val and Nathan care so much about our individual and collective healing. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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301: What Patriarchies Teach Men about Weakness & Vulnerability 48:08

12 weeks پیش48:08

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part V of VIII]. In this compelling episode Valerie and Nathan delve deep into the subtleties of benevolent patriarchy and how it places harmful pressures on men. They explore the unrealistic expectations for men to always be strong, the emotional and psychological costs of these societal norms, and how these pressures can lead to personal and relational breakdowns. Once again, Nathan lays it all out there with his own life experiences and talks about the debilitating pressure that he dutifully carried until he realized that this load was not only not necessary, but that it was not helpful, loving, or good for himself or his loved ones. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 300: Unraveling the Patriarchal Male Superiority Complex 44:22

12 weeks پیش44:22

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! In this enlightening episode, Valerie and Nathan tackle another tough but important topic: the insidious issue of the male superiority complex fostered by systemic patriarchy. They discuss how patriarchal structures teach boys and men, both subtly and explicitly, that they are superior to women, impacting the emotional and psychological development of all genders. Nathan shares personal reflections on how he now sees that what he was taught and how he was treated as a boy and man in a patriarchal world and church deeply affected his own behavior and relationships. He invites all men to confront and unlearn these biases so that men both in and around the LDS church can embody their God-given potential, which frankly cannot be realized when their characters are crippled by patriarchal ideas. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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299: What Happens When Collaboration & Connection are Neglected at Church 44:17

13 weeks پیش44:17

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men & their Churches [Part III of VIII] Glad you're back! In this episode Valerie and Nathan delve into the impact that the overemphasis on masculine energy has on the ideas and practices within the LDS church because it is an institutional patriarchy. Today they focus on the masculine trait of competitiveness and explore how this plays out in unhealthy ways when not balanced with collaboration, its feminine counterpart. They then show how the masculine attribute of protection can also go sideways when not balanced with the feminine trait of emotional connection. In each case, they will offer on-the-ground examples that you might have felt uncomfortable about but never thought to connect to the deprivation of feminine energies within the church. This episode and series was designed to show that healthy humans and systems need the divine, balancing energies of the masculine and the feminine and that there are very real consequences when both are not honored and celebrated. As they say, once you see it, you cannot "not" see it. Val and Nathan are honored to be a part of this eye-opening and healing journey towards balance and personal and institutional healing. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 298: Subtle but Profound Examples of Hyper-Masculine Energy within the Church 48:05

13 weeks پیش48:05

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men and their Churches [Part II of VIII] In this episode Val and Nathan move from the theoretical to the practical and talk about what it actually looks like on the ground when divine masculine and feminine energies are not appreciated, balanced, and celebrated. They use a handful of specific masculine attributes that are prominent within LDS culture and practice to demonstrate what imbalance looks like, what feminine attributes might be called upon to provide the needed counterbalance, and how all humans involved in imbalanced collectives are stagnated in their growth and development. If you have always wanted "words" to describe some of the "senses" you have had while on your faith journey, Val and Nathan think this series is going to blow your mind. What they have learned in the study and preparation of this series has changed their perspectives in countless ways. They are so excited to share this information with you, their podcasting family! https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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297: Two Wings of the Same Bird: Rediscovering Masculine & Feminine Energies 49:20

14 weeks پیش49:20

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: The Profound Impact of Feminine Suppression on Men and their Churches [Part I of VIII] Val and Nathan's series tackling the common traits connecting psychologically/spiritually underdeveloped people with men strongly socialized in a patriarchy went NUTS in response, shares, and downloads (episodes 283-288) as expected. Why? Because our LDS faith expanding community seems to be STARVING to learn more about what health and wholeness looks like when women and men are both seen and treated as equals. No fear, there is SO MUCH to say on this topic...at least eight more episodes! In this opening episode of a new series diving even deeper into the on-the-ground costs exacted on men due to their patriarchal wiring, Val and Nathan start by creating a framework for what healthy masculinity and femininity could look like in every human being socialized as equals (no matter their gender!) This episode focuses on how masculinity/maleness and femininity/femaleness are often used interchangeably and deeply misunderstood in this patriarchal world where we've all be raised. This episode sets the record straight on this topic as a foundation of the rest of this series. This entire 8-part series aims to foster a more balanced understanding of both masculine and feminine traits within all people regardless of gender, particularly within the context of the LDS faith community as we confront the relational and spiritual harm caused by patriarchal structures of every shape and size. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 296: Are You a Bridge Between the LDS "Loyalist" & the "Leaver"? 1:05:02

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Cutting Edge Research on the LDS Faith Journey Experience [Part II of II] In this series' second half with the amazing author and researcher Jana Riess, you won't be disappointed in an abundance of aha moments and things to ponder after the closing music. Val and Jana delve deeply into several aspects of Jana's current research (yes...new book forthcoming and you're hearing about it HERE before anyone else!) and dive deep into what Jana is learning about the important role that "edge" people (on the inside or the outside) play in bridging our sadly divided space. Jana and Val also tackle the very complex topic of negotiating church activity during faith transitions and how members handle shifts in sexual behavior and shame. These discussions provide a comprehensive view of how personal identity and community intersect during faith transitions. Jana's book The Next Mormons: How Millennials Are Changing the LDS Church can be found HERE https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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295: On LDS "Loyalists", "Leavers" & Everyone In Between! with Jana Riess 42:42

15 weeks پیش42:42

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Send us a Positive Review! Series Title: Cutting Edge Research on the LDS Faith Journey Experience [Part I of II] You're in for a wonderful two episodes here as Valerie welcomes researcher and author Jana Reiss for a conversation brimming with details about Jana's current project (a forthcoming book!) centered around the diverse personal experiences of hundreds of people on the LDS faith spectrum. In order to not give too many spoilers for the next two episodes, you'll need to tune in to hear what she is learning in both her surveys and oral history interviews about people like yourself and also about people whom you love on different places of the spectrum. In this info-packed two part conversation they hit (among other things!): sociopolitical influences on the LDS faith journey navigating sexual ethics during/after the faith journey the role of "edge" dwellers on potentially helping our LDS faith spectrum learn how to talk to one another Jana's research is in part an effort to help us wherever we are on the LDS spectrum understand one another better...which we couldn't love more here on the Latter Day Struggles podcast! Jana's book The Next Mormons: How Millennials Are Changing the LDS Church can be found HERE https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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🔒 294: "Office Hours" Exclusive: Celebrating the Holidays on the Edge of the Inside 49:50

15 weeks پیش49:50

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Subscriber-only episode Send us a Positive Review! In this recording of the December's Office Hours special event offered to all of our "Full Content" Family of Listeners, Valerie answers a variety of questions from several listeners anxious about holiday events in the throes of the LDS faith journey. During the holidays (or any family event surrounded by more traditionally believing family and friends) do you find yourself worried about how to talk to people whom you've never had trouble talking to before? Do you ruminate about how much to share? How much to not share? What is appropriate to share and when? Is it okay to ask loved ones to not just assume you are open to traditional activities that might make you uncomfortable now that your worldview is shifting? Who knew a family party could become so stressful? Listen in for some questions and responses that likely will remind you that you are not alone in the relational complications of the LDS faith journey--especially connected to family gatherings. https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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293: How the Powerhouses on "At Last She Said It" Found Their Backbones & their Voices 1:04:06

16 weeks پیش1:04:06

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Send us a Positive Review! When someone starts a podcast in the LDS faith journey space, one question that is often asked is this: "Have You ALWAYS had this much courage?" Join Valerie in this episode as she asks this question to friends and colleagues Susan and Cynthia of "At Last She Said It". In this episode Susan & Cynthia share very different stories about their journeys that led them to the airwaves. Their stories are each unique in part because their temperaments are totally different, and perhaps that is what makes their work so relatable, engaging, and inspiring. So whether you are an introvert (like Susan) or an extrovert (like Cynthia) there will definitely be something in this episode for you if you're looking to find that backbone and voice of your own to use in some realm of your life! https://valeriehamaker.com/one-one-consultations/ Support the show Share this episode Become a Monday & Friday Listener: Annual Friday Episode Full Access only $89/year Monthly Friday Episode Full Access : $9.99/month Join an LDSS Support Group Visit Our Website: https://valeriehamaker.com/ Want to support Valerie & Nathan? Make a donation: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠…

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