The impossible boundary in a trauma bond

Dr Sarah: Relationship Success Lab

Today, let's chat about the challenge of setting boundaries in a trauma-bonded relationship. We often hear about the importance of boundaries in maintaining healthy connections, but it gets tricky when you're trauma-bonded.

In these situations, recognizing the need for a boundary mentally is one thing, but putting it into action feels almost impossible. You might psych yourself up to address an issue with your partner, only to find yourself unable to express your feelings when the moment arrives.

Trauma, especially in past relationships or childhood, imprints deep in our brains and subconscious, affecting our emotions and behaviors. When the neural networks associated with threats are triggered, expressing boundaries becomes a daunting task.

Historical traumas lead to subconscious beliefs about self-worth and relationship dynamics. Even when we logically grasp the importance of boundaries, the subconscious may resist, fearing rejection or criticism if we prioritize ourselves.

Neuroplasticity offers hope, allowing us to rewire our brain's neural pathways. Intense emotional moments, coupled with somatic exercises, help release trauma imprints, shifting us from a threat-response to a calmer state.

On the subconscious level, identifying and addressing fears attached to expressing boundaries is crucial. It goes beyond surface-level concerns, delving into core beliefs about self-deserving, fear of rejection, and the discomfort of stepping out of perceived lines.

By clearing these fears and reprogramming our neural networks, we pave the way for healthier, conscious expressions of ourselves. It's about embracing change and creating a new system where we feel capable, content, and, most importantly, true to ourselves. If you have questions or need support, feel free to reach out. Looking forward to connecting!
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