"My husband is too critical" or am I overthinking it?

Dr Sarah: Heal Trauma Bonding

I discuss how individuals often question whether their feelings of anxiety or insecurity are self-generated or provoked by their partner's behavior. I emphasize the importance of discerning between personal issues and those originating from the partner, as failing to do so can lead to ongoing anxiety and uncertainty within the relationship.

I illustrate how individuals often initially blame themselves, assuming their anxieties are unfounded, but over time, these behaviors persist, leading to confusion when attempting to address them with the partner. I explain how you may unwittingly internalize blame, leading to a normalization of problematic behaviors in the relationship.

Furthermore, I explore the concept of projections, explaining how your personal histories and insecurities influence behavior within relationships. I discuss examples where individuals attempt to compensate for perceived inadequacies by striving to meet unrealistic standards set by themselves or their partners. These behaviors, rooted in childhood experiences, become projected onto the relationship, shaping interactions and dynamics.

I encourage introspection to identify and challenge these deeply ingrained beliefs, emphasizing the need for professional support to navigate these complexities effectively. I stress the importance of understanding your own projections before attempting to address issues within the relationship, as this clarity enables you to communicate more effectively and work towards mutual healing and growth as a couple.

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