Deborah Jean Nielsen Honoring the Child 3/2/2222 Susan Clark: [00:00:00] Well, welcome, Deborah, to the Art of Dynamic Competence. Deborah Nielsen: [00:00:03] Thank you, Susan. So glad to be here with you. Susan Clark: [00:00:06] It's great having you. We chose as a topic today to really talk about Self. I'd like to start out by having you explore why it is that we're talking about Self on this podcast called The Art of Dynamic Competence. Deborah Nielsen: [00:00:20] That's that's a good place to start, because from my perspective, it's not Self in the sense of let's be self centered, it's Self in the sense of what is our idea of what a Self is. The way I'm thinking about is from the inside out, right, looking at what is our core Self, what is that which drives us gives us a perspective of how to see the world, how to become more dynamically competent by grounding into really our core self more; so that gives you some idea. Susan Clark: [00:01:02] Great. And so as we get into this, I'd like for you to explore a little bit for our listeners. What are these aspects of Self that you feel are so critical that we're looking, we're going to explore today? Deborah Nielsen: [00:01:16] I think of it as the three key Self aspects, and they are universal. They are absolute. It is the adult, the child and the wise self. The adult is what is the operative daily Self who has the ability to choose actions, words, direction, path. Susan Clark: [00:01:43] Would you call that the more rational one? Deborah Nielsen: [00:01:45] Well, yes, but not only rational but absolutely rational is an important part. Yes. So the adult has the ability to make a rational decision about, OK, what is my course of action? Absolutely. Where the child might be smart, but not necessarily rational. Susan Clark: [00:02:06] So tell me a little bit about the wise one. Deborah Nielsen: [00:02:08] The wise one is intuition, moral compass, sense of just knowing without being able to explain exactly why I know. And it's also the bigger vision, the bigger picture. And so when we are stressed, sometimes in my experience, I've had that sense of, oh my gosh, it's like tunnel vision here. When we open up and can access the wisdom, there's a much bigger picture. We can see the broader vision of not only our own impact in our life, but how we're impacting others and how they're impacting us and what our sense of purpose can be, for example. Susan Clark: [00:02:54] Well, what is the role of this child, this little one? Connection, maybe to the wise one or going beyond our normal, rational functioning? What's the importance of this child? Deborah Nielsen: [00:03:07] The child Self has natural, beautiful, essential qualities, for example, the ability to just bond to build trust. That is what I believe. We're just born with ability to connect and trust. Unquestionably, then the child has wonder, or which is just like, Wow, Oh, Look at this tree, look at these leaves, look at this flower. It's just like everything's amazing. That opens up to a different kind of learning. And then also spontaneity, being able to just be in the flow. Mm hmm. Some days, of course, we're going to have crunchy, stressful days. But when we're in a flow, that's where what the child can easily access. So the child part of us can help us get into the flow. The child part of us can help us learn in a more holistic way. The child self can help us be creative. Susan Clark: [00:04:20] Well, does the child self then help us become more operational as adults? Deborah Nielsen: [00:04:26] Absolutely. And part of why the little self helps us to become more operational is…
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