38. Learning to Accept Kindness

A Jaded Gay

As gay men, many of us have had to repress our authentic selves and hide our emotions because of negativity we may have experienced growing up differently. Among the myriad of issues this can cause, some of us may not trust acts of kindness from others.
In this episode, we’re discussing why we may be guarded when it comes to receiving acts of kindness, the struggles this can cause when forming a romantic relationship, and how we can ultimately learn to begin accepting kindness.
Additional Resources:

• Trauma Makes Us Shun Kindness When We Need It Most
• 05. Interpersonal Vulnerability: Overcoming the Fear of Rejection
• Why Do So Many People Respond Negatively to Being Loved?
• 5 Reasons Why Receiving Is Harder Than Giving
• How to Understand and Overcome Help-Rejecting Behavior
• Fears of Compassion: Development of Three Self-Report Measures
• 11. Overcoming Internalized Homophobia
• 30 Ways to Deal with Internalized Homophobia for LGBTQ People
• Be Kind to Yourself
• The Importance of Accepting Compliments
• How to Accept Kindness
• How I Learned to Accept Kindness — Because that Doesn’t Make Me Selfish

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1. Snarky Opener (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:28)

3. Announcing Patreon & Social Channels (00:01:23)

4. Learning to Accept Kindness (00:02:53)

5. Tarot (00:03:56)

6. Why Gay Men May Avoid Kindness in Relationships (00:05:48)

7. My Experiences with Vulnerability (00:07:47)

8. Being Loved Can Trigger Negative Feelings from the Past (00:08:57)

9. Fears of Compassion Scale (00:11:52)

10. How to Accept Kindness (00:13:40)

11. Episode Closing (00:17:32)

12. Connect with A Jaded Gay (00:18:41)

13. Outtake (00:19:42)