Where are all the cool people at? Event producer and spoken word musician Khari B. discusses his legendary twenty-year event, Thee Debauchery Ball, a kinky house music party in Chicago for melanated people. Karen and he discuss Black sexuality, creating safe spaces, and the documentary Thee Debauchery Ball. Filmmaker David Weathersby joins the conv…

What’s keeping your sex life from being more exciting? Panelists discuss limiting beliefs and tips to move past them in this dynamic conversation. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. From the October 2024 live show. Panel with: Sex coach and pleasure mentor Tazima Parris Therapist for all things queer and kinky Jake Penrod from Live Oak ENM/kin…

Panelists discuss issues facing LGBTQ+ folx inside their respective groups and across affinities, offering skills and strategies to combat isolation and forge bonds. Plus an interview with drag artist Cindy Nèro about her art and mentorship, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. From the June 2024 live show. GET TIX for our sixth anniversary live …

Listen to performers from past live Chicago Wild & Sublime shows as they heat up your earbuds. Plus audiences tell us what sex secrets they’re keeping, and Karen presents a Sermon on the Pubic Mound about great sex. In this episode: B and Lee Honey”s storytelling event at GD2 Storyteller Mistress BlaqueIvory Storyteller Alan Colorado Host, sex educ…

NYC burlesque artist Fancy Feast discusses her memoir, Naked: On Sex, Work, and Other Burlesques, and how being a fat performer, phone sex worker, and sex toy store clerk revealed to her Americans’ fears and expectations about sex. In this episode: Burlesque artist Fancy Feast Host, sex educator, and energy worker Karen Yates Naked –buy on Bookshop…

In this lively interview with bisexual mega influencer and Men’s Health columnist Zachary Zane, he discusses Boyslut, his recent book, now in paperback, that chronicles his sexual journey, as well as how to live a more shame-free, sex-positive life. [Rebroadcast] Get tix to our Chicago Pride Show on Friday, June 28, 8pm! Help us continue to spread …

In this dynamic interview with award-winning author and sex educator Tristan Taormino, she discusses her memoir, A Part of the Heart Can’t Be Eaten, recounting her queer youth and relationship with her gay dad, making feminist porn, being a femme dyke, and why people aren’t having sex now. Get tix to our PRIDE SHOW. Chicago, Friday, June 28 at 8pm.…

Our panel of sex-positive therapists discuss the roots of jealousy and envy, and share the best ways to approach these uncomfortable feelings in both open and monogamous relationships. From our May 2024 live show. For info and tickets to our live Pride Show in Chicago on Friday June 28, go here. In this episode: Sex-positive therapist Matthew Amado…

Do you and your partner have mismatched libidos? In this fascinating interview that turns many long-held ideas on their head, sexologist and author Cyndi Darnell talks about her book that helps people connect to their authentic desires and build connection. [Rebroadcast] In Chicago on Saturday May 4? Get tix to our live show and podcast recording! …

Chicago documentary filmmaker David Weathersby talks to Karen about his work chronicling the Black kink community in Chicago, including his upcoming series Sex in Color and his film Thee Debauchery Ball. In this episode: Documentary filmmaker David Weathersby. Also on Instagram. Thee Debauchery Ball event info Watch the documentary Thee Debauchery …

Art therapist and counselor Alyse Ruriani explains how Tarot, the ancient divinatory card deck, can be a tool for self-growth and inner work around one’s sex life and relationships. Host Karen Yates uses herself as the subject in a reading–with a little bit of anxiety! In this episode: Art therapist and counselor Alyse Ruriani. Also on Instagram Ho…

Author Alex Alberto talks with Karen about “Entwined,” their memoir that explores polyamory, including community living, triads, pansexuality, and how the French and English language rate in describing being nonbinary. In this episode: Author Alex Alberto. Also on Instagram Host and sex educator Karen Yates Buy Entwined on Bookshop, our affiliate p…

Do you want to express yourself better in bed? Sex educator and host Karen Yates explains what might be getting in the way (a lot!) and offers solutions in this solo episode. In this episode: Betty Martin - Wheel of Consent Karen’s interview with Betty Martin Buy The Art of Receiving and Giving on Bookshop, our affiliate partner. Need a good read o…

What do male-identified people hold in their bodies that keeps them from greater pleasure? Karen interviews JoJo Bear, a somatic sex and intimacy guide, about what he’s learned from years of working with men in this rebroadcast from 2022. JoJo Bear - Somatic sex & intimacy guide Karen Yates - somatic sex educator and energy healer Body Electric Sch…

Molly Roden Winter talks with Karen about her bestselling memoir More, which honestly chronicles opening up her long-term marriage while being a mother and then caregiver to her parents. We are part of the Lincoln Lodge podcast network! Buy More through Bookshop. Help independent booksellers and Wild & Sublime! Check out Entwined by Alex Alberto (a…

In this solo episode, Wild & Sublime host and sex educator Karen Yates talks about the importance of one's pleasure and how to begin taking steps toward a better sex life in 2024. We are part of the Lincoln Lodge podcast network! Featured speaker: Karen Yates - host, somatic sex educator, intuitive, energy worker Links mentioned in the episode: Kin…

Panelists from our live December show in Chicago talk about aspects of nonmonogamy: communication skills; low-risk ways to begin; what not to do; and the poly community. This lively and thoughtful conversation deeply considers what it takes to open up your relationship. Plus questions from the audience. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge podcast netwo…

Our most popular episode of 2023! What is somatic healing, and how does it work? Karen shares a conversation with several somatic therapists on different techniques, and the possibilities for healing sexual trauma and getting back into your body. Note: We're taking the rest of December off. See you January 11! In this episode: Cassie Porter - Sexol…

Podcasters Adrienne Gunn and Elizabeth Gomez talk with Karen about teenage celebrity crushes and how they informed their adult sexual life in this entertaining yet insightful episode. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Get tickets for our Saturday, Dec 9 show in Chicago! In this episode: Adrienne Gunn - humorist and podcaster Elizabet…

Our sexperts share their wisdom on why relationships lose their spark and what to do about it. From the Wild & Sublime fifth anniversary live show. [Note: audio issues in first few minutes of panel conversation.] We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. In this episode: Tazima Parris - sex coach and pleasure mentor Tom Doctor - sex and rela…

From the Wild & Sublime fifth anniversary live show: our sexperts field audience q’s on anal, sex ed, and being “too much”; standup Archy Jamjun brings the laughs, and host Karen Yates gives her Sermon on sex intentions. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. In this episode: Archy Jamjun - standup comedian Tazima Parris - sex coach and p…

Standup comedian Adam Burke (Wait Wait…Don’t Tell Me!) discusses his open relationship, UK v. US dating, and helps Karen with her dating app in this hilarious episode. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Check out the video of this interview. In this episode: Adam Burke - standup comedian Karen Yates - sex educator, performer, energy w…

NY comedian Raanan Hershberg (The Tonight Show, The Late Late Show, Comedy Central) discusses pegging, sobriety and sex, dating someone with herpes…and Vladimir Putin. Raanan and Karen also chat about the hottest movie: Blue Is the Warmest Color vs Out of Sight. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Check out the video of this interview.…

Chicago comedian and producer Sonal Aggarwal discusses growing up in an Indian family and the parental pressure to marry. Sonal and Karen discuss dating: How kinky are folks on the apps exactly? Who’s picking up the tab? Plus how being a massage therapist is an added benefit with partners. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Check out …

Chicago-based comedian and writer Gena Gephart talks about her gross-out humor, her podcast, selling panties, and one follower’s extreme fetish. Karen responds with her Sermon on the Pubic Mound. CW: Contains graphic description of bodily fluids in fetish play. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Check out the video of this interview. …

Voted by the Chicago Reader as “Best Standup of the Year for 2022” in Chicago, standup Deanna Ortiz talks about her day job doing social media in the adult entertainment industry, the philosophy of sleeping over after sex, her podcast “Crushes," and dating on the apps v. in the wild. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Check out the vi…

New format! In Season 5 we're having sex with comedians. Standup and storyteller Archy Jamjun talks with Karen about polyamory, the Grindr hookup app, his Thai grandfather's "arrangement," frottage, Archy's LGBTQ+ storytelling series, and racism in the gay community. We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Check out the video of this inter…

Our Pride Edition show part two features guest host Matthew Amador interviewing sex and gender therapist Rae McDaniel on their new book “Gender Magic,” plus recurring storyteller Lily Be’s comedic story on experiencing her asexuality as a teen. Includes Karen Yates’ Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Recorded at Hungry Brain in Chicago. Live show sponsor: …

The first half of our Pride Edition show features a panel on how to live authentically and fearlessly as a LGBTQ+ person in these challenging times, plus a comedy set with Chicago standup musician Manny Petty. Guest host Matthew Amador. Recorded at Hungry Brain in Chicago. Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members’ club, the Afte…

Panelists discuss "stonewalling" — when one partner checks out physically or emotionally during intense moments, refusing to talk things through — and what you can do if it's happening in your relationship. Plus Karen's Sermon on the Pubic Mound. In this episode: Jason Best - Sex-positive & kink-aware therapist Tazima Parris - Sex coach & pleasure …

You want to explore kink but aren’t ready to engage a partner. What to do? Our panel of sexperts discuss options and how to slowly move out into the wider kinky world. In this episode: Elmo Painter-Edington - Somatic therapist and empowerment coach Diane Long - sex positive empowerment self defense teacher Clark Hazel - nonbinary trans therapist li…

In this insightful panel conversation we examine the impossible and shame-based standards the fitness industry sets and how this impacts our sex lives. A co-production with Comfy Fitness. In this episode: Comfy Fitness--online fitness studio Kira Macoun - Comfy Fitness founder Carrie Drapac - Comfy Fitness founder Caitlin V - sex coach Tazima Parri…

Our panel discusses new relationship energy–the fantastic feeling when you’re just starting to date and getting to know someone. What happens when it fades? Can it be addictive? We cover all the bases. Don't miss our Chicago live show and podcast recording, Thursday, June 15. Wild & Sublime--The Pride Edition. Help us continue to spread the message…

In this lively interview with bisexual mega influencer and Men’s Health columnist Zachary Zane, he discusses Boyslut, his new book chronicling his sexual journey, as well as how to live a more shame-free, sex-positive life. Help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity! Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members’ club! …

Summary: Learn essential intimacy and communication skills when dating transgender and gender nonconforming people in this lively interview with sex and gender therapist Rae McDaniel. Help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity! Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members’ club! In this episode: Rae McDaniel - sex and …

Fifty years since it began, surrogate partner work is being embraced again as a cutting-edge somatic therapeutic modality to help people hands-on with intimacy issues, and more people are choosing it as a career. Recurring guest Brandon Hunter-Haydon talks about his own journey and what it takes to do the work successfully. Leave a tip for our work…

Panelists answer a Patreon listener question about how to trust your intuition and avoid old patterns with new partners after leaving an abusive relationship. Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members’ club! In this episode: Elmo Painter-Edington - Somatic therapist and empowerment coach Clark Hazel - Individual and couples thera…

The live Valentine’s Spectacular serves up a panel chat on increasing intimacy, an interview with The Pegging Book authors, Karen’s Sermon about the gifts of an unexpected health event, and more. Recorded at Constellation in Chicago. Live show sponsor: Rowan Tree Counseling Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members’ club! In this…

Has your identity shifted? Do you want to tell others about it – and if so, how? Panelists answer a listener question on the value and meaning of coming out as queer (or as anything!). In this episode: Matthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex, & gender rebels Elmo Painter-Edington - Somatic Therapist & Empowerment Coach Brandon Hunter-Haydon …

What is somatic healing, and how does it work? Karen shares a conversation with several somatic therapists on different techniques, and the possibilities for healing sexual trauma and getting back into your body. In this episode: Cassie Porter - Sexological bodyworker & body-centered counselor Elmo Painter-Edington - Somatic Therapist & Empowerment…

Join us for the final episode of Season 4 while I take a break for a while and you have time to catch up on all the past episodes you may have missed. While you’re here a HUGE request to please leave us a rating and review on Apple – your reviews make such a difference to our visibility and viability to return with even more episodes. To remain ad …

Today's guest is Kate Loree, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. She cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. In this episode …

The second half of October’s live show features an interview with kink educator Stranger on the hows and whys of switching, plus a performance by storyteller Archy Jamjun and Karen’s fourth-anniversary Sermon on the Pubic Mound. In this episode: Stranger - Rope enthusiast & kink educator Archy Jamjun - Storyteller Missed the first half? Oct live sh…

This week is Cuckweek! Who knew? - not me until I recorded this interview with Dr. David Ley, someone whose work I have followed for many years and indeed the world's foremost expert into the world of cukolding, hot wife-ing and the impact of religonn on human sexuality. Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Al…

Today's guest is an absolute delight and I am thrilled to introduce you to Goody Howard. Goody is an award-winning sexologist, educator, and consultant. She provides pleasure development and professional development workshops worldwide. Her authentic and enthusiastic presentation style allows her audiences to connect quickly to the concepts and enj…

Ever wondered what makes a person kinky? How we define it or what does it mean you’re your partner is into kink and perhaps you are not? Today’s guest is Dr Richard Sprott. received his Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology from UC Berkeley in 1994. He is currently directing research projects focused on identity development and health/well-being in peo…

Season 4 kicks off with the first half of October’s live show, where panelists chat about porn – what’s good, how to find out what you like, and ways to think about its role in your life. Tickets on sale for our Chicago Feb 11 show! In this episode: Peter Navarro - Somatic sex therapist Goddess Erica - Tantric doula & sexual empowerment coach Caitl…

Today's guest is Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn a sex and relationship expert, tenured professor, relationship coach at Luvbites.co, and host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast with a bustling social media presence on TikTok. From a shy immigrant from Thailand to a confident sexpert, her goal is to normalize talking about sex in a healthy and fun way. In…

In this episode we meet Dr. Holly Richmond - a Somatic Psychotherapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Clinical Board Member for Dame Products. Her newly released book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological …

In this episode we meet Lola Jean. A Sex Educator, Fetish Wrestler, ProDomme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo). She provides the 'No Frills Sex Education' we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to invite individuals through what they think they are capable of. In this episode …