E09 Should I Be Open About What I'm Into? Coming Out As Kinky

Deeper Sex - A Sex Positive Podcast Exploring Fantasies And Boundaries

What is “The Lifestyle” with capital L? Who are “Vanilla Friends”? Should you tell them that you are curious and “Spicy”? We discuss all this and more in this very raw, honest and heartfelt episode of Deeper Sex.

While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we gained from diving into Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), we have also discovered how many common misconceptions most people (including our old selves) have about it, and we address the careful communication that is required to avoid fu**ing up friendships and relationships.

The hosts Allie, Will and Chiara share personal anecdotes about assessing friends' readiness to hear about alternative sexual experiences, emphasizing the importance of respecting friends’ boundaries. They also discuss the delicate balance between potential risks and rewards of dragging vanilla friends into their s*x play.

Our objective is, as always, to demystify society’s misconceptions, promote open mindedness and sexual liberation: this is the secret recipe to a great sex life!

If you’re looking for practical advice on how to navigate conversations about your curiosity, interest and/or participation in non-monogamy, this is it!

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>> Link to Episode 05 to know more about Allie’, Will’ and Chiara’s conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, s*xually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy: Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify

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01:12 Let’s Explore Alternative S*xual Lifestyles

03:45 Being Open: The Struggle Is Real!

05:52 Maintaining Friendships While Being Your Authentic True Self

07:14 A Journey to Acceptance + Finding Like-Minded Friends

08:01 The Challenges of Mixing Vanilla and Spicy Worlds

08:40 Ethical Non Monogamy (ENM) and Swinging: A Liberating Experience

18:43 Deep Emotional Bonds and Deeper Trust

20:55 When "Coming Out" Can Be a Challenge

25:58 Is the Lifestyle and ENM Superficial?

27:26 What “Normal” People Think Of the Lifestyle: The Misconceptions We Didn’t Expect

29:06 Our Podcast’s Mission

29:50 Aren't You Jealous...?

32:52 Trusting Yourself and Your Partner

37:03 Should I Drag Friends Into This?

38:43 Have S*x With Friends: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly

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WHO IS WILL

Will is a psychologist, journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.

WHO IS CHIARA

Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.

WHO IS ALLIE

Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.

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