70: Yemi Penn: Getting out of fight & flight, the Window of Tolerance & Intergeneration Trauma (part two)

The Selfish Podcast with Chloe & Steph

If you haven't already make sure you listen to part one of our conversation with Yemi Penn.
Welcome to part two of our chat with Yemi Penn (PhD Researcher (Trauma Transformation), Transformation Thought Leader, TEDx Speaker, Author, Engineer, Entrepreneur, Mother & Producer!).
In part two we go deeper into the window of tolerance, intergenerational trauma and the body keeping score. Some key points include:
- the "window of tolerance", the range of emotions and experiences an individual can handle without feeling overwhelmed or disconnected. What does your window look like?
- Being "stuck" outside of one's window of tolerance, in states of hyper or hypo-arousal (fight/flight or freeze/fawn), is common but often goes unaddressed. Yemi estimates that 80 - 95% of people may operate outside their window at times.
- Intergenerational trauma is increasingly recognized, with trauma potentially passed down through 14+ generations. Reconnecting with cultural practices and wisdom can aid healing.
- Grief and trauma responses are highly individualised, yet Western society often lacks the rituals and collective support to process them healthfully. Exploring practices from other cultures can provide guidance.
- Using the voice (singing, humming) and body (movement, dance), stimulating the vagus nerve, can be powerful ways to self-regulate and return to one's window of tolerance when feeling dysregulated.

Links
Follow Yemi on Instagram
Website: https://yemipenn.com/
Details of Yemi's Liberate program
Listen to Yemi's TED talk
Follow Yemi on YouTube
Listen to Yemi's podcast Decolonising Trauma
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