Building Confidence Through Self-Validation Cycles

Lessons from a Quitter

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Wyatt Flores’s Red Dirt Roots 43:43

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Wyatt Flores is a 23-year-old singer-songwriter from Stillwater, Oklahoma, who’s making a name for himself in the Red Dirt music scene, building on the musical legacy of his home state. He grew up on a ranch in a working-class family where he was surrounded by musicians, often hearing them play cowboy songs around a campfire. His father, a drummer, built him a stage in the backyard when he recognized his talent, and his Uncle Bobby taught him how to play guitar. Now Wyatt is playing in front of thousands of fans, singing at the Grand Ole Opry, and writing songs that are winning audiences with their honesty, heart, and vulnerability. His debut album, Welcome to the Plains, explores the rough—and sometimes violent—side of growing up in rural Oklahoma, but it also shows a talent for storytelling and a wry sense of humor. Sid talks to Wyatt about why he’s so happy to be back in Stillwater after a couple of years in Nashville, the mental health struggles he’s openly shared with his fans, the family member he wants to have on his podcast, and why his favorite food is a breakfast burrito. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

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The root cause of all of your problems is a lack of self-validation. Let me explain…

This isn’t some self-love, woo-woo kind of thing.

I want you to think about every one of your maladaptive behaviors:

People-pleasing - needing other people to be happy with you so that you can feel good about yourself
Perfectionism- needing everything to be perfect so that you can believe you’re good enough
High-achiever- needing to keep achieving milestones to feel like you’re worthy
Obsessing over what other people think of you - needing other people’s approval so you can believe you’re good.
Imposter syndrome- insisting on believing you’re not good enough when all of your achievements prove otherwise
And on and on.

Every. Single. One comes from your inability to validate yourself.

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Building Confidence Through Self-Validation Cycles

Lessons from a Quitter

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MP3•خانه قسمت

The root cause of all of your problems is a lack of self-validation. Let me explain…

This isn’t some self-love, woo-woo kind of thing.

I want you to think about every one of your maladaptive behaviors:

People-pleasing - needing other people to be happy with you so that you can feel good about yourself
Perfectionism- needing everything to be perfect so that you can believe you’re good enough
High-achiever- needing to keep achieving milestones to feel like you’re worthy
Obsessing over what other people think of you - needing other people’s approval so you can believe you’re good.
Imposter syndrome- insisting on believing you’re not good enough when all of your achievements prove otherwise
And on and on.

Every. Single. One comes from your inability to validate yourself.

366 قسمت

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What if no one had an opinion on your life? 19:00

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we dive into the powerful mindset shifts needed to stop letting other people’s opinions run your life. If you’ve ever held back from taking a risk—whether it’s posting online, taking a gap year, or quitting your job—because you’re afraid of being judged, this episode is for you. I walk you through how to build the confidence to own your decisions, sit with discomfort, and trust yourself more than the noise around you. You only get one life—don’t let other people’s fears dictate how you live it. Let’s take it back.…

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What I learned from my trip to Iran 27:01

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , I share the powerful mindset shifts I experienced during a recent trip to Iran. From confronting my addiction to productivity to witnessing the deep-rooted value of community, the trip forced me to slow down and rethink how I want to live. I talk about embracing the 50/50 nature of life—how even beautiful moments come with discomfort—and how letting go of perfection allows for richer experiences. If you’ve been craving more connection, rest, and presence in your life, this episode is a gentle push to start redefining what success truly looks like.…

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Produtivity Addiction 30:48

21 روز پیش30:48

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we explore our cultural obsession with productivity and why so many of us struggle to truly rest. I share personal reflections from a recent trip abroad that challenged my deeply ingrained beliefs about busyness, urgency, and worth. We dive into how capitalism and hustle culture have programmed us to equate rest with laziness—and how to begin unlearning that. If you're feeling burnt out, this episode will help you reframe rest not as something to earn, but as something essential. Plus, I share practical steps to help you reclaim rest without guilt.…

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Navigating Career Grief with Laverne McKinnon 44:40

28 روز پیش44:40

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In this powerful episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we dive deep into the often-overlooked grief that comes with career transitions. Joined by grief coach Laverne McKinnon, we explore how letting go of an old identity—especially one built around achievement and people-pleasing—can feel like a profound loss. We discuss how grief shows up in unexpected ways, why it’s a necessary part of transformation, and how embracing it can lead you back to your most authentic self. If you’re navigating burnout, a layoff, or a career pivot, this episode will help you understand the emotional side of reinvention. You can find Laverne at: Substack: https://moonshotmentor.substack.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lavernem/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWBuL2OWgglO_YHyFdJOGpg…

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The shift that made my dreams doable 25:13

۵ weeks پیش25:13

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , I share how I’m redesigning my life in small, intentional steps—even when I can’t have the “big dream” just yet. From summering in Jackson Hole to planning a trip to Banff, I talk about how we can live pieces of our dream now, instead of waiting for perfect circumstances. I challenge you to rethink your all-or-nothing mindset and explore how micro steps can create massive change. If you’re feeling stuck or burnt out, this episode will help you shift from scarcity to possibility and start building a life you’re actually excited about.…

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Micro decisions 22:24

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we explore the real secret to making lasting life and career changes: micro decisions. While we often believe massive change requires dramatic, sweeping action, this episode breaks down how real transformation happens through small, intentional steps. I also announce that doors are now open—for the final time—to the Quitter Club, my membership program closing at the end of 2025. If you’ve been waiting to get coaching and strategy support, this is your chance. Tune in to learn how small steps build self-trust, reduce overwhelm, and ultimately redesign a life you love.…

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Confidence is built 30:14

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we dive into the myth of "not being ready" and how it’s keeping you stuck in a life you no longer love. We explore the neuroscience behind fear, the brain’s obsession with safety over happiness, and how imposter syndrome reinforces your doubts—even when you've proven yourself. You'll learn why confidence isn't a prerequisite to change, but a result of courageous action. If you're waiting to feel ready before making a move, this episode will show you why that feeling may never come—and why that's okay. It's time to choose courage over comfort.…

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Why I'm closing my membership 25:38

۸ weeks پیش25:38

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , I share the behind-the-scenes decision to close the Quitter Club after three incredible years. I dive into the real reasons—burnout, overcomplication, and misalignment with the lifestyle business I truly want. You'll hear how I’ve navigated pressure to scale, reconnected with my "why," and chosen creativity and simplicity over constant growth. If you’re feeling stuck in a business or career that no longer fits, this episode is your reminder that you’re allowed to pivot, evolve, and design a life that actually works for you . Let’s talk about choosing fulfillment over hustle.…

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What if you couldn't make a wrong decision? 19:03

۹ weeks پیش19:03

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we explore the liberating idea: What if you couldn’t make the wrong decision? So many professionals stay stuck, paralyzed by fear of regret and perfectionism. But what if every choice—whether it works out or not—is just part of the journey to becoming who you're meant to be? We dig into the truth that experience, not perfection, builds resilience and clarity. You’ll learn how indecision is often more damaging than “wrong” decisions, and how to trust yourself to take action—even when the path ahead is uncertain. It's time to redefine what it means to choose.…

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The way your brain works is fine 22:07

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we dive into a powerful mindset shift: what if there’s nothing wrong with the way you are? So many of us waste energy trying to force ourselves to be different—morning people, quick decision-makers, productivity machines—because society told us we should . But what if your brain is wired exactly as it needs to be? I explore how self-acceptance, rather than self-judgment, is the real key to designing a life you love. You’ll walk away with practical insight into working with yourself—not against yourself—to create more ease and fulfillment.…

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Looking for Fulfillment 17:51

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we explore the often-overlooked key to fulfillment: play. If you’re feeling stuck, bored, or unfulfilled in your career, the answer might not be to change your job—but to bring more joy into your life outside of it. I share my journey of rediscovering hobbies and creativity, and how that opened up new possibilities and happiness I never expected. This episode is your reminder that you don’t need a passion or a plan—just curiosity, permission to play, and a little time for yourself. Start small, and watch how everything else begins to shift.…

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How to use ChatGPT for your job search 21:34

12 weeks پیش21:34

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we explore how AI, specifically ChatGPT, can revolutionize your career change, job search, and professional development. While addressing common concerns about AI’s environmental impact, we also highlight the nuanced reality of technology’s role in our lives. More importantly, we dive into practical ways AI can help you discover new career paths, refine your job search, and even network strategically. If you’re feeling stuck and unsure of your next move, this episode will show you how AI can be your brainstorming partner, clarity tool, and career coach in navigating your transition.…

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Struggline with your Goals? Here's what to do. 16:40

13 weeks پیش16:40

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we revisit goal-setting—because let’s be honest, by March, most of us have forgotten those ambitious January resolutions. But instead of shame, this episode is about course correction. Whether you’ve made progress or fallen off track, now is the perfect time to reflect, reset, and create a 90-day plan to move forward. You'll learn why goals aren’t about perfection but growth, how to overcome all-or-nothing thinking, and why consistency—not motivation—is key. Tune in for practical strategies to recommit to your goals and make real progress in Q2!…

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How to be a good community member 28:37

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we dive into the power of community—why we crave it, why it’s messy, and why it’s worth it. We often expect connection to come easily, but true community requires effort, vulnerability, and a willingness to navigate discomfort. I break down the unrealistic expectations we place on relationships, how managing our mindset can help us avoid unnecessary resentment, and why showing up fully leads to deeper, more fulfilling connections. If you’ve been feeling lonely or disconnected, this episode will challenge you to rethink how you engage with the communities around you.…

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Replay: Thoughts About Yourself 38:41

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In this replay of the milestone 200th episode of Lessons from a Quitter , I reflect on the journey of shifting my mindset, embracing self-compassion, and redefining success on my own terms. I share how I overcame limiting beliefs about productivity, scheduling, and my own capabilities—learning to work with my brain instead of against it. From battling resentment to reclaiming control over my time, this episode is all about questioning the narratives we tell ourselves and choosing thoughts that serve us. Plus, I invite you to take the next step in your career transformation by joining the Quitter Club !…

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Replay: Self-love 28:36

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we dive deep into the trap of achievement and why it never leads to true self-worth. Many of us believe that once we reach the next milestone—whether it’s the degree, the promotion, or the perfect work-life balance—we’ll finally feel good enough. But the truth is, our thoughts, not our accomplishments, shape our self-worth. I break down how to shift from external validation to self-love, why self-acceptance is key, and how embracing your humanity can free you from burnout and perfectionism. Start loving yourself now—no achievement required.…

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Your Job Isn't Your Identity: Separating Self-Worth from Work 26:39

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In this episode of Lessons From A Quitter , we dive deep into the identity crisis that keeps so many professionals stuck in unfulfilling careers. We unpack how our sense of self becomes entangled with our job titles and why the fear of what others think can keep us trapped. I challenge you to redefine who you are beyond your profession and explore what truly makes you, you . If you’re ready to break free from these limiting beliefs and create a career and life you love, join us in the Quitter Club. Your worth isn’t your job—it’s who you are .…

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Why You Can't Do It Alone: The Power of Community in Overwhelming Times 31:17

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In the latest episode of Lessons From A Quitter , we dive deep into the importance of community for overcoming burnout and isolation and share personal experiences of finding strength in group coaching and highlight how connecting with others facing similar challenges can normalize struggles and reduce shame. Emphasizing the transformative power of shared vulnerability. I encourage listeners to actively seek supportive communities, whether online or in-person, and to engage fully in them. The message is clear: building connections with like-minded people is key to overcoming obstacles, finding courage, and ultimately redesigning a life you love.…

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The Cost of Information Overload (And How to Take Back Control) 21:39

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we tackle the overwhelming flood of information that keeps so many of us feeling stuck, burnt out, and powerless. I share the powerful mindset framework I teach my clients to help regain control, quiet the noise, and stay grounded in an era of digital overload. We explore how our brains are wired to seek novelty and negativity, making it easy to spiral. But the good news? You can take back control. Learn how to shift your mindset, protect your energy, and break free from the cycle of overwhelm.…

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Trying something new? Here's why it's worth it (even if it doesn't work out!) 20:44

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we tackle the hidden thought that’s keeping you stuck: What if this doesn’t work, and I waste my time? Too many of us are paralyzed by the need for a guarantee before we take action—whether it’s starting a business, changing careers, or even picking up a new hobby. But what if failure isn’t wasted time, but instead, the very thing that leads you to success? We break down how shifting your mindset around risk, failure, and growth can help you stop waiting for certainty and start building the life you truly want.…

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Lesson from my past self 29:24

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we explore the powerful lessons learned from overcoming fear, self-doubt, and perfectionism while pursuing your dreams. Reflecting on my own journey, I share the pivotal moment I stopped obsessing over starting my podcast and just took action, leading to a thriving business. I also emphasize that it’s never too late to start, regardless of external factors like competition or timing. I encourage my listeners to embrace progress over perfection, celebrate their growth, and take imperfect action to move forward. Whether you’re stuck or burnt out, this episode inspires you to create a life you love.…

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Defining Women's Work with Nicole Kalil 42:50

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In this episode of Lessons From A Quitter , we tackle the deep-rooted expectations and "shoulds" that often keep us stuck in careers that no longer serve us. Joined by Nicole Kalil, we explore how to identify and meet your own needs, break free from societal delusions, and embrace a mindset shift for more freedom and joy. We discuss the reality of careers—no dream job is perfect—and the power of small, intentional steps toward rediscovery. Nicole shares practical tools, including her confidence-building workbook, to help you rewrite the rules and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.…

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Help! But What If I Fail? 21:28

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In the latest episode of Lessons From A Quitter , we tackle the pervasive fear of failure and how it holds us back from pursuing our dreams. Whether it’s launching a business, starting a creative project, or switching careers, fear often paralyzes us with thoughts of embarrassment or shame. This episode reframes failure as a natural and essential part of growth, urging listeners to question the worst-case scenario and confront the limiting beliefs behind their fear. You’ll leave empowered with actionable insights to embrace failure as a learning tool, freeing you to take bold steps toward the life you desire.…

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2024 Year In Review 27:29

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , I share my 2024 year-in-review, reflecting on a season of rest, reevaluation, and recalibration. After scaling back my business to focus on two key launches, I explored what truly works for my clients and aligned my business with my own values and needs. While my income dropped, I leaned out expenses, prioritized family, health, and clarity, and discovered the power of trusting myself through life's seasons. I discuss lessons on embracing change, defining success on your own terms, and creating a career that aligns with your life. Join me for inspiration and growth!…

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Why learning to regulate your nervous system is just as important as thought work with Victoria Albina 45:28

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Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women reconnect with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, is trained in Somatic Experiencing, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York. SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Website Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness Podcast: Feminist Wellness Facebook LinkedIn…

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You picked your goal...now what? 20:18

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we conclude our series on goal-setting by tackling the often-overlooked yet critical step: what to do after setting your goal . I share actionable tips to break your goal into manageable steps, focus on short-term milestones, and embrace the inevitable challenges along the way. You'll learn why expecting inconsistency is key, how to avoid all-or-nothing thinking, and the importance of weekly evaluations to adapt and improve. If you're ready to build momentum and finally achieve your goals, this episode will provide the tools and mindset shifts you need to succeed.…

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The side effects of your goals 23:34

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we explore the deeper purpose of goal-setting and how it transforms not just your life but those around you. It's not about checking boxes or achieving arbitrary milestones—it's about the ripple effects your growth creates. From setting an example for your family to overcoming fears of judgment, your goals help you become the person you aspire to be. We discuss why embracing challenges is essential for meaningful change and how to choose goals that align with your future self. Join us to redefine success and build a life you truly love.…

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Only pick one goal 18:48

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This week on Lessons from a Quitter , we continue our three-part miniseries on redefining goal setting. We break down the pitfalls of traditional approaches to goals and advocate for focusing on just one priority per year . Learn how this strategy builds self-trust, minimizes overwhelm, and creates lasting habits. Whether you're juggling personal and professional ambitions or battling self-doubt, this episode will inspire you to set meaningful goals without sacrificing your well-being. Plus, hear more about the upcoming “Goals That Stick” workshop, a full-day event designed to help you master goal-setting for sustainable success.…

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What people get wrong about goal setting 21:26

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we kick off a series on goal setting with a refreshing and practical perspective. As the year winds down, many feel pressure to set goals or New Year’s resolutions, often leading to burnout or shame spirals when life inevitably gets in the way. We explore the common misconceptions about goal setting, like tying self-worth to achievements or pursuing goals we don’t truly want. Instead, I emphasize the power of intentional decision-making, accepting inconsistency, and reframing challenges as expected parts of growth. Tune in to rethink your approach and design a life aligned with your true values.…

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Help! My family doesn't support my dreams! 26:53

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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter , we dive into how to handle conversations about your dreams with loved ones who may not fully understand or support them. Often, we seek validation from family and friends, hoping they’ll give us the green light. But instead, we discuss how to set clear boundaries, identify what you really need from these conversations, and gain the courage to pursue your goals without waiting for others’ approval. Plus, I share a personal story on launching this very podcast, showing the impact of standing by your dreams even when others can't see your vision.…

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