Rainier Wylde: Risking Authenticity Over Performance—Why Failing Better Matters More Than Performing Well | EP 56

Heart of Man

Rainier Wylde is a gifted writer, teacher, and guide known for his direct and insightful approach to some of life’s toughest questions...

His work blends wisdom from ancient traditions with a modern understanding of life’s impermanence challenging us to confront our fears, embrace discomfort, and cultivate the strength to stay present to the raw experiences of life.

And for the past 20 years, he's been teaching and guiding people through this approach, helping them transform their lives.

To me, Rainier is one of those unique men whose very presence feels like a living story. He has lived a life of incredible contrasts: helping businesses at the highest level, then burning them to the ground. He has known both the heights of success and the depths of failure, and he has learned to speak about both with the same raw honesty.

He's also a master storyteller, weaving together ancient myth, his personal struggles, and timeless wisdom into reflections that don’t just engage our intellect, but land right in the core of who we are. And he does all of this with a lighthearted, warm, almost childlike approach.

He’s a philosopher of love, a guide into authenticity, and a man who has walked through the fire and come back with something to say.

What strikes me most about Rainier is not just his wisdom, but his willingness to fail fully, and then turn that same failure into beauty. He reminds us that authenticity is always more powerful than performance, and that the cracks in our lives are often the very places where light and creativity can break through.

In our conversation, discover:

• What it means to risk authenticity over performance as men

• How we can learn to fail better

• How shame, when it's met with courage, can become a teacher that leads us into accountability and deeper integrity.

• Rainier speaks vulnerably about his own journey into authenticity, which included owning his past infidelity and the describes how he moved through that experience with his partner.

• We also explore why our lives can become unbearable when we refuse to embrace our inherent role as creators, and why reclaiming that role, becoming creative in our day-to-day lives, is vital if we want to live well.

And connected throughout our entire conversation, Rainier offers these simple yet profound reminders, like never missing a sunrise, calling us back to the beauty of being alive, and what really matters at the end of the day.I absolutely loved this conversation with Rainier...It was deep, messy, and real. And for me, it was a reminder of what becomes possible when we meet life with truth, humility, and wonder. My hope is that it does the same for you...

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Connect with Rainier Wylde:

Website: https://www.rainierwylde.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rainierwylde

Check Out "The Creator's Collective": https://www.rainierwylde.com/thecreators

Listen to Rainier's Podcast "The Creators Podcast": https://open.spotify.com/show/4zH5wYDPBKIiZjmNxdLldi?si=966da933d9c140cf

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Connect with Alex Lehmann:

Website:

https://www.alexlehmann.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@heartofmanpodcast

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/alexlehmann-hom

Listen to this conversation on Apple Podcasts and leave a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heart-of-man/id1697289478

Email: [email protected]

Think we might be a good fit to work together? Let’s find out & schedule a free connection call (two spots available at present time): https://ahb8n7i1908.typeform.com/to/ddTCwpJP

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