Episode 47 - Marriage Myth #7: Can You Change Your Spouse?

Get A Room Podcast

On this episode we discuss virtual birthday parties, wearing a bikini to a funeral, and whether or not you can change your spouse. Join us to find out if we’ve changed together or separately, and if we’ve tried to change each other in the last 17 years.

Specific topic discussed in this episode:

• (1:00) Highlights of the week: shaving our cat, moving our bunnies, and attending a virtual birthday party.
• (5:00) Rochelle ruins a funeral by wearing a bikini.
• (8:00) Marriage Myth #7: Can you change your spouse?
• (9:00) People can change in a marriage, but can you manipulate the way they change?
• (10:40) People have to be willing to change themselves because people won’t change unless they want to change.
• (11:45) It’s better to accept your partner for who they are, than try to change them into what you want them to be.
• (13:10) There’s nothing wrong with wanting your partner to grow and improve.
• (14:10) You have to take the good with the bad when it comes to a partner.
• (16:00) You can’t put in the work for the other person.
• (19:10) With our kids, Rochelle wants to be in charge and do things her way. But she is not trying to change who they are.
• (20:30) We are on a different path than our families, and we are okay with our kids choosing a different path from the one we’re on.
• (23:45) You can’t do these things, Nemo.
• (27:00) You can’t change your spouse, you can’t change your kids, you can’t change anybody but yourself.
• (28:30) Do seasonal allergies include coughing?
• (31:50) Stinger or cliffhanger: marriage myth #8: Marriage means you’ll never be lonely again?