The Invisible Mental Load: Why You’re So Tired (Even When Nothing Big Happened)

Don't Cut Your Own Bangs

Ever feel completely drained at the end of the day… but can’t point to one big thing that explains it? That’s the invisible mental load - at work, at home, in life. In this solo episode of Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs, Danielle Ireland unpacks the unseen weight of constant remembering, planning, and worrying—and how small, doable shifts can lighten that load.

✨ This is part of the Put the Panic Down mini-series, a kind guide to stress—because you deserve calm without having to earn it.

🔑 In this episode:

• What the invisible mental load is (and how it shows up in your day)

• Why “chasing your to-do list” drains you more than it helps

• How a one-minute pause can reset your whole system

• Listening to your body’s cues for when it’s time to stop, delegate, or ask for help

• Three gentle shifts you can start practicing today to ease stress

💬 Quotes to remember:

• “You don’t have to do more to deserve a break. You are worthy of rest right now.”

• “The root of exhaustion isn’t doing more—it’s noticing when the chasing is draining you.”

👉 If this episode resonates, share it with a friend who might also need this reminder. And don’t forget to subscribe so new episodes find you—no chasing required.

📚 Mentioned in this episode:

• Wrestling a Walrus: For Little People with Big Feelings – Danielle’s children’s book on emotions

• Wrestling a Walrus

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DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW

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00:00 Introduction and Series Overview

02:52 The Invisible Mental Load

06:59 Practical Tips for Mindfulness

12:36 Recognizing and Communicating Needs

23:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement