Ways to Deal with Setbacks

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In this episode I talk about setbacks.

Setbacks are a normal part of life, things don't always go according to plan. So its important to recognise that setback are likely and they do not mean that you are useless, that its all pointless and that you are a failure. Watch out how you talk to yourself during these times because this has such a powerful impact on us. The way we talk to ourselves has the ability to lift our mood or bring us down. The way we talk to ourselves will effect our confidence and self-esteem, and can easily lead to us feeling bad about ourselves.

Can you change the conversation you have with yourself. Catch yourself when you are falling into unhelpful thinking , like I’m a failure, it pointless , its useless. And instead say to yourself. It’s okay, it’s just a setback.

And prepare for when setbacks are most likely to happen. There is always certain times when we might not be functioning as well as we could be. It’s normal to have times when motivation plummets and self-doubts creep in. What we don’t want….Consider when this might happen. Have you heard of the acronym HALT. Hungry, angry lonely and tired. If we are feeling any of those 4 or even all 4 at the same time. It’s likely that we are not going to be at our most resourceful.

So having some strategies up our sleeves for these moments can be really useful.

Think of setbacks like a bump in the road, simple a blip. Nothing more. And before you know it you be back on track. Don’t allow negative thinking to sabotage your progress, sometimes we forgot about how far we have really come and all the progress that we have actually made.

So when things get touch as they will try and remind yourself that it will pass. Things won’t be like this forever, and you have probably been through equally tough times and come out of it the other end.

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