Ep #176 Net Gains: Turning Regret Into Your Best Parenting Asset

Connect Method Parenting I Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Connective Parenting, Peaceful Parenting, Slow Parenting, Parenting Teens, Single Parenting, Joyful Parenting, Positive Discipline, ADHD Parenting

Ever find yourself lying in bed at night, replaying every parenting moment that went sideways that day? Yeah, me too. For years, I would literally drown in a sea of regret, beating myself up for every time I lost my cool, lectured instead of listened, or just plain missed the mark with my kids.

But here's what I've learned: regret can either be your biggest parenting enemy or your secret weapon. The difference? How you use it.

What We're Diving Into Today

🌟 The two faces of regret: when it serves you vs. when it sabotages you
🌟 Why your brain is addicted to the regret spiral (and how to break free)
🌟 The future-focused regret hack that actually motivates positive change
🌟 How to model healthy regret processing for your kids
🌟 The Nelson Mandela approach to learning and growing from every "mistake"

The Golden Quote That Changed Everything

"Just 'cause we know how to do something better doesn't mean we're capable in that moment to do better."

This isn't about letting ourselves off the hook - it's about radical acceptance of our humanity while still growing into the parents we want to be.

My Personal Moment

Picture this: I'm driving home, hit some rocks, dent my wheel, and my brain immediately goes into full regret mode. But my husband calls me out (lovebug that he is), and I literally had to go swing in a hammock for 10 minutes to metabolize the regret instead of drowning in it. Sometimes the work shows up in the most unexpected places!

Your Takeaway Action

The Future Regret Exercise: Imagine yourself 10 years from now. What would you regret NOT doing with your kids today? Use that awareness to guide your choices right now, not to beat yourself up about the past.

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