103-Authenticity is how Steady Teddy Bonds with Kids...Starring Ted Diepenbrock

James Sturtevant Hacking Engagement

I'm exposed to fascinating guest through common interactions on Twitter. Ted Diepenbrock is one such person. We bantered back and forth about what to discuss in this interview. We settled on bonding with students, while at the same time, empowering them by giving them choices in learning. This is a fine topic and we discuss it thoroughly. But one message came through strongest as I edited our convo:
To bond with kids you have to be authentic.
Ted is authentic. He's a calm and kind presence in his student's lives. His commitment to bonding with students and his commitment to giving kids choice shines through, but I kept thinking as we spoke about the Myers-Briggs Personality Profile. This measurement determines what gives one energy. For those familiar, I am an ENFP. I'm Extroverted, I'm Intuitive, I'm Feeling, and I'm Perceiving. If you're interested in taking an online version of the Myers-Briggs, head to this link.
Ted and I are different. I have the personality of a game show host. This might seem conducive to teaching high school students, but that's a generalization. I've had kids in class that just flat didn't care for me. There haven't been many such youngsters, but I can think of a few. My lack of rapport with these kids bothered me. One brave dissenter finally told me that it was my personality they found off-putting. "You're just so hyper", she informed. This didn't make me feel good, but it definitely altered the way I tried to interact with this kid and the way I tried to interact with standoffish kids moving forward. This somewhat painful episode demonstrated that it takes all kinds to teach. While Steady Teddy might score very different on the Myers-Briggs than me, he might of been a better fit for my students who struggle with my over-the-top personality.
As you listen to Ted, understand that you are what you are. You don't need to try to be something different.