How to Get Rid of Nerves and Be a Pro in Front of People : Episode 2 : Chad Muncy

Grow My Officiant Business

In today's episode, Chad teaches how to conquer your nerves and be a pro in front of any size crowd.

WHY do you get nervous or uneasy? Many reasons you get nervous or uneasy.

1. Mental picture of failure
2. Unprepared
3. You have to be somebody or look a certain way in front of people and that’s scary.
4. You have a fear of being in front of people

WHAT can you do about it? Pinpoint and write down why you are uneasy or nervous.

This part is usually a once in a lifetime thing if you continue getting in front of people throughout your career as an officiant. However, this is a HUGE, important step if you are just starting out and it is completely necessary in the beginning to get rid of the nerves or fear. The reason you need to know why you feel like you do...is it gives you something in your mind that you can confront and understand that it isn’t just you or part of you. It is a feeling that can be dealt with and deleted.

My music teacher ALWAYS ALWAYS made me go home and stand in front of a mirror to sing to myself. As silly as this may sound to some, it does something very important. It literally reaffirms the saying that seeing is believing. It gives you and your mind confidence that the person that you are seeing...can do what I am seeing them do. It raises your belief in yourself, tremendously because you are physically seeing yourself do it.

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These three things all work together. They build on each other and make a strong confident professional and the more you do them the more confident and less nervous you will be. Make sure you are organized and prepared in your business...as you will see soon.

Control
Comprehending this first will get your mind right for the next steps. You need to gain control of your mind by gaining control of your immediate situation and understand that you will be in control at your event or ceremony. Control your situation by having a system or process in place, in your business, to get all of the information you need to ensure that you don’t miss a thing. Control your part of the event. Be so prepared that you are in 100% control at the ceremony...YOU ARE IN CONTROL.

Rehearse
Make sure your part of the ceremony is rehearsed. You don’t have to memorize it, but you should have rehearsed enough to briefly look at the couple every few moment as you’re reading. Build confidence in yourself by watching yourself do this.

Visualize
Write down, in order, what is going to take place the day of the ceremony. Get familiar with it. Get in a quiet place and think through everything that is going to happen. Visualize yourself giving the same incredible performance as you did in front of the mirror. Visualize different scenarios of things happening (wind turning a page in your book causing you to lose your place, someone making noise and interrupting, a baby crying and distracting you, the groom or bride asking you to reread something causing you to calmly pause...find your place...and reread). This is essentially you practicing all aspects of what you do and getting better every time you do it.

WHERE do you focus your energy before an event?

You focus it on being you. Before an event you aren’t worried or nervous...you walk up and have casual conversations with people because you know where to be, what to do, and how you’re going to do it.

Focus on being kind, happy, funny...whatever makes you...YOU. When you start having ceremonies like this. It becomes an amazing career that you absolutely look forward to doing. It becomes easy and fun and exciting.

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