Getting Married

Fat Girl Finds Love

Getting Married with Sandy David

Sandy David has been fat most of her life and grew up with a fat mom who didn’t want to be fat. After an online dating journey and the body trust online course, Be Nourished, Sandy found herself suddenly in a relationship that has since turned into marriage. Sandy’s sharing how she learned to embrace her body and also discovered her love for sex and a desire to find someone who wanted the same thing.

Discover what losing your inhibitions is really all about!

What we’re talking about

• How Sandy Discovered Herself & Her Desires
• When Friends With Benefits Becomes Serious
• Saying “I Do” In Las Vegas

How Sandy Discovered Herself & Her Desires

Sandy became pregnant and married at the age of 19, just after high school. By 30, she found herself single and on Tumblr. It was then that she started following Jess Baker on Instagram and the online course, Be Nourished. After growing up with a mom who was fat, but didn’t like being fat, Sandy discovered a new love for her body because of what it is.

Once Sandy’s son turned 21, she decided it was time to do something for herself. She joined OKCupid with a desire to have sex with men. Receiving 6-10 messages per day, she discovered what having friends with benefits meant and lost all inhibition by being truthful with what she wanted. She found freedom and fulfillment in choosing who she would have sex with.

When Friends With Benefits Becomes More

Sandy shares that she narrowed her selection of men down to 2, but found herself more attracted to Ed who not only lived down the street, but would talk about normal things outside of just sex. Having sex with Ed felt different because he appreciated her body and they began to hang out on a daily basis, but without a commitment. Ed had been honest about his intention of moving out of state within 6 months. Before those 6 months were up, Sandy discovered she’d had a mental shift and started thinking of Ed as something more with feelings for him. When she decided not to see the other guy, she knew that was her cue and asked Ed if he still planned on moving.

Saying “I Do” In Las Vegas

Ed did move, but not to another state...he moved in with Sandy! It’s been 2.5 years now and after contemplating that for them marriage is a legal security in which they could protect themselves financially and medically, they decided it was time to get married. Sandy adds that friends would tell them they were already acting like a married couple and simply saw what they were trying not to see. This past March, Ed and Sandy exchanged vows in Las Vegas.

Sandy shares that after her first marriage, she didn’t want to get married again, but in spending time with Ed and sharing so much in common, she didn’t cringe at the thought of sharing space with him. She hopes everyone gets a change to connect emotionally and physically with another person and enjoy a relationship like they have.

Moved in November. Neither wanted to get married. 2.5 yrs later, now married. What changed mind to get married. For us, marriage means a legal security. Wanted to protect financially and if something were to happen to either of them. Protect their united interests. Friends said we act like we’re married, just do it. People saw what we were trying not to see.

LINKS MENTIONED

Sandy Davdi’s Instagram

Sandy David’s Blog

Chapel of the Flowers

Be Nourished

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TIMESTAMPS

19:23 - 1936 (13 sec SD) - it just made you feel...what do you really want from me?

23:30 - 24:30 (60 sec SD) - Definitely hasn’t been unicorns farting rainbows...ultimately he decided to stay.

QUOTES

1. Re: The wedding: I wanted to be comfortable. I didn’t want to wear shoes I’d want to rip off. We had plans...we were getting In N Out Burger when it was all done. SD
2. It hasn’t been unicorns farting rainbows, but we try to always keep the communication open and talk about it, even if it feels uncomfortable. SD
3. I’m not going to lie. I don’t love my body everyday, but I love it for what it is. SD
4. I lost all inhibition in telling people what I wanted. SD
5. You’re here because i want to have sex with you, not because I want to please you. SD
6. I hope everybody gets a chance to be in a relationship like this. To connect emotionally and physically. SD