Ep #140 The SEE-quel: How Understanding Replaced Fixing in My Parenting OS

Connect Method Parenting I Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Connective Parenting, Peaceful Parenting, Slow Parenting, Parenting Teens, Single Parenting, Joyful Parenting, Positive Discipline, ADHD Parenting

So here's the deal—I've been low-key obsessed with creating this geeky-but-life-changing episode about the SEEing Framework that has COMPLETELY rewired how I parent. And listen, when you've had six kids in eight years like I have, you need all the mental frameworks you can get!

Here's the mind-blowing data point that sent me down this rabbit hole: Dr. Neufeld's research shows that 95% (!!!) of kids' problem behaviors were never actually intended. NINETY-FIVE PERCENT, people!

I used to be the correction queen, y'all. I had more sticker charts than Target's office supply section.

In this episode, I break down my SEEing Framework that's basically the ultimate parent hack:

🤓 S - See the Other Person (not just their behavior) 🤓 E - Emotions are data, not disasters! 🤓 E - Engage before directing (connection before correction) 🤓 I - Investigate with curiosity (be a behavior detective!) 🤓 N - Neuroscience supports this! (I get nerdy with brain facts!) 🤓 G - Growth happens in relationship (mind = blown)

Years ago my daughter was having this EPIC bedtime resistance campaign that would impress military strategists. Old me would have gone straight to consequences. New SEEing Framework me discovered she was actually having scary thoughts and feeling unsafe! The moment I shifted from "WHY WON'T YOU JUST GO TO BED ALREADY?!" to "Oh wait, what message is this behavior sending?" everything changed.

If you're like "This sounds amazing, but HOW do I do this when my kid is having a Target floor tantrum and strangers are staring at me like I'm starring in my own reality show called 'Parenthood: The Unhinged Years'?"—I've got you covered with practical steps!

If this episode helps you see your child differently, even ONCE, please share it with another parent! And if you have three seconds, smash that subscribe button or leave a review!

Stay curious!!

xoAndee

P.S. What if I told you that tomorrow, instead of trying to correct your child, you just tried to SEE them? Mind-blowing, right? Try it and DM me on IG @connectmethodparenting and lmk how it goes.

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