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محتوای ارائه شده توسط Monique R. Shields. تمام محتوای پادکست شامل قسمت‌ها، گرافیک‌ها و توضیحات پادکست مستقیماً توسط Monique R. Shields یا شریک پلتفرم پادکست آن‌ها آپلود و ارائه می‌شوند. اگر فکر می‌کنید شخصی بدون اجازه شما از اثر دارای حق نسخه‌برداری شما استفاده می‌کند، می‌توانید روندی که در اینجا شرح داده شده است را دنبال کنید.https://fa.player.fm/legal
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محتوای ارائه شده توسط Monique R. Shields. تمام محتوای پادکست شامل قسمت‌ها، گرافیک‌ها و توضیحات پادکست مستقیماً توسط Monique R. Shields یا شریک پلتفرم پادکست آن‌ها آپلود و ارائه می‌شوند. اگر فکر می‌کنید شخصی بدون اجازه شما از اثر دارای حق نسخه‌برداری شما استفاده می‌کند، می‌توانید روندی که در اینجا شرح داده شده است را دنبال کنید.https://fa.player.fm/legal
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Are you standing at the edge of a new chapter, feeling the pull of transformation, yet held back by invisible barriers?
Join Monique as she uncovers the secrets to navigating identity shifts and breaking free from the self-doubt that keeps us stuck. Explore the thought-provoking questions that often paralyze progress, like 'Am I truly capable?' and 'Is this the right moment?' Through fresh insights and actionable strategies, Monique helps you reframe those doubts into empowering questions that inspire clarity, courage, and momentum on your journey of becoming.
📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.
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"You're it. You're the one we've been waiting on to usher forward this next thing that has been placed on your heart, in your mind and your imagination to create in the world. Who is going to come through and tell you you're ready, tell you you're the right person for the job? No one. No one is going to come through and affirm that for you.”
“Am I the right person? Any version of this question is an absolute trap, and we have to let the question go. It's not about how do I get to that answer. It's the question in and of itself that is not useful.”
“If we can equip ourselves to move through this blockade phase or protective barriers phase, and we can slide that barrier to the left. Slide the ’am I’ person question barrier to the right and then get into, ‘well, what is the identity that I am sitting in today that is no longer serving me, that is keeping me stuck on the road, that is keeping me boxed in with these barriers?’ This is when we start getting into more useful questions.”
“However you believe timing takes place, whatever right timing means for you, that's what it will be. No one else can tell you if it's the right time to pursue the thing that you need to pursue now. I think a better question is, ‘am I willing to make the sacrifices or to make the investments that are required right now in order for me to step into this new version of myself?’ ”
“We've got to get more precise. We've got to get more practical. We've got to get more tangible and real. These questions have to be useful to actually help us arrive at what we're trying to arrive at. We need questions that force decision making.”
“If it's yours, you can do it. You can set the timeline. You can set the look and the feel- the vibe and the pace. You get to set it. Just give yourself permission to stop asking questions that limit you, that keep you stuck and that keep you spinning around an old identity that's trying to hold on to you and keep you safe. And free yourself with questions that actually move you forward, that spark creativity, that spark your inner problem solver, that give you something to grab onto so that you can grab onto the next thing and the next thing and start that journey forward.”
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Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.
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محتوای ارائه شده توسط Monique R. Shields. تمام محتوای پادکست شامل قسمت‌ها، گرافیک‌ها و توضیحات پادکست مستقیماً توسط Monique R. Shields یا شریک پلتفرم پادکست آن‌ها آپلود و ارائه می‌شوند. اگر فکر می‌کنید شخصی بدون اجازه شما از اثر دارای حق نسخه‌برداری شما استفاده می‌کند، می‌توانید روندی که در اینجا شرح داده شده است را دنبال کنید.https://fa.player.fm/legal
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback!
Are you standing at the edge of a new chapter, feeling the pull of transformation, yet held back by invisible barriers?
Join Monique as she uncovers the secrets to navigating identity shifts and breaking free from the self-doubt that keeps us stuck. Explore the thought-provoking questions that often paralyze progress, like 'Am I truly capable?' and 'Is this the right moment?' Through fresh insights and actionable strategies, Monique helps you reframe those doubts into empowering questions that inspire clarity, courage, and momentum on your journey of becoming.
📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.
GEMS DROPPED
"You're it. You're the one we've been waiting on to usher forward this next thing that has been placed on your heart, in your mind and your imagination to create in the world. Who is going to come through and tell you you're ready, tell you you're the right person for the job? No one. No one is going to come through and affirm that for you.”
“Am I the right person? Any version of this question is an absolute trap, and we have to let the question go. It's not about how do I get to that answer. It's the question in and of itself that is not useful.”
“If we can equip ourselves to move through this blockade phase or protective barriers phase, and we can slide that barrier to the left. Slide the ’am I’ person question barrier to the right and then get into, ‘well, what is the identity that I am sitting in today that is no longer serving me, that is keeping me stuck on the road, that is keeping me boxed in with these barriers?’ This is when we start getting into more useful questions.”
“However you believe timing takes place, whatever right timing means for you, that's what it will be. No one else can tell you if it's the right time to pursue the thing that you need to pursue now. I think a better question is, ‘am I willing to make the sacrifices or to make the investments that are required right now in order for me to step into this new version of myself?’ ”
“We've got to get more precise. We've got to get more practical. We've got to get more tangible and real. These questions have to be useful to actually help us arrive at what we're trying to arrive at. We need questions that force decision making.”
“If it's yours, you can do it. You can set the timeline. You can set the look and the feel- the vibe and the pace. You get to set it. Just give yourself permission to stop asking questions that limit you, that keep you stuck and that keep you spinning around an old identity that's trying to hold on to you and keep you safe. And free yourself with questions that actually move you forward, that spark creativity, that spark your inner problem solver, that give you something to grab onto so that you can grab onto the next thing and the next thing and start that journey forward.”
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Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.
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Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Is the pursuit of success weighing you down? In this episode, Monique uncovers how ambition can sometimes come at the cost of our deepest dreams. Listen in as she shares compelling stories of women balancing leadership, motherhood, and personal fulfillment. Through the lens of the 'Giver,' the 'Grinder,' and the 'Pleaser,' she reveals how these identities shape our paths—both fueling and restricting us. Tune in to learn how to break free from outdated roles, redefine success on your terms, and step into a future of authentic fulfillment. 📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for March 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching. MENTIONED 53 | The Safety Shift: Trusting Yourself in Times of Transformation 52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap 26 | When Achievement Is No Longer The Goal 15 | Learning To Dream First (CEO Series) GEMS DROPPED "Everything that you are doing could be mission oriented. Everything that you are doing could be impact driven. And then the thing that is not getting done is the thing that you desire most deeply. So the thing that you wanted most is the thing that is also being put at risk." "When you're in a perpetual state of grind over years and years and years and years, your whole identity begins to form around that. And it's really, really challenging to see how it's possible to set that down and to still succeed. How to be any other way even when you know what is at stake." "We think that just because this is the version or form of winning that I've ever, always known that that is what winning is. That is what that looks like for me. That is what's possible for me. With the strengths that I have, with the weaknesses that I have, with the perspective that I have, the background that I have, that is how I must win. But, no, that is just how you happen to have won for this period of time. Winning can look different." “The ways that we need to be must evolve if we want our successes to evolve, if we want to elevate ourselves. We constantly talk about elevating our voices and elevating, expanding our impact, those things don't elevate and expand, not truly, unless we do.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
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Ambition Without Compromise
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! In today's fast-paced world, the pressure to conform to a certain image of success can be overwhelming. Many of us are familiar with the archetype of the "4am CEO," a figure that embodies relentless ambition and productivity. But what happens when this pursuit of success starts to overshadow our true selves? In this week's episode, Monique dives into the journey of identity evolution and the fears that accompany significant life changes. Building on her previous discussions about identity leaps, she reflects on the critical moments when we find ourselves on the brink of transformation, yet held back by fears surrounding safety and acceptance. Join in as Monique guides us through the transformative process of letting go, embracing new identities, and ultimately finding peace in the pursuit of our authentic self. 📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching. MENTIONED 52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap GEMS DROPPED “We have identity needs. Safety at the identity level is very different than safety at the practical, tangible level. Safety, in terms of our heart’s needs, it operates very differently. And I think these are driving forces that are deeper and can be far stronger if we turn our attention to them and actually start to get real with what is trying to stretch and come from us.” “I'm tired of money being this primary driver. I'm beyond that. I know I'm in a system that requires money to sustain us, but I don't want that to be the thing that is driving all of my decisions anymore. I want to do the things that have been deemed frivolous. I want to spend more time in my garden. I want to spend more time cooking. I want to experience a season that lets that version of myself come to be. I want to get to know this version of myself where money is no longer the core driver. Like, what a privilege that would be. How incredible would that be? It's a shame that that's a privilege. It shouldn't be a privilege.” “If you change, the world around you changes which means the relationships around you have to change. They can embrace it, you can figure out how to move forward together, you might have a rough patch or a season, but there's also the risk that that relationship is now lost or some of the core fundamentals that kept you connected before, are null and void at this point.” “If I'm evolving into a whole new world, there’s a version of myself where I'm not going to be your savior anymore because I'm relaxing into my own needs. I'm leaning into my own creative expression and like minded, equally yoked community, partnership, friendship…the version of me that was required to uphold the nature of our past relationship, she's not going to be here. That undercurrent is a huge part of what will hold us back from evolving into the next version or the next stage of identity that is calling. I cannot overstate how deep that runs, how real that is for us.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Are you standing at the edge of a new chapter, feeling the pull of transformation, yet held back by invisible barriers? Join Monique as she uncovers the secrets to navigating identity shifts and breaking free from the self-doubt that keeps us stuck. Explore the thought-provoking questions that often paralyze progress, like 'Am I truly capable?' and 'Is this the right moment?' Through fresh insights and actionable strategies, Monique helps you reframe those doubts into empowering questions that inspire clarity, courage, and momentum on your journey of becoming. 📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching. GEMS DROPPED "You're it. You're the one we've been waiting on to usher forward this next thing that has been placed on your heart, in your mind and your imagination to create in the world. Who is going to come through and tell you you're ready, tell you you're the right person for the job? No one. No one is going to come through and affirm that for you.” “Am I the right person? Any version of this question is an absolute trap, and we have to let the question go. It's not about how do I get to that answer. It's the question in and of itself that is not useful.” “If we can equip ourselves to move through this blockade phase or protective barriers phase, and we can slide that barrier to the left. Slide the ’am I’ person question barrier to the right and then get into, ‘well, what is the identity that I am sitting in today that is no longer serving me, that is keeping me stuck on the road, that is keeping me boxed in with these barriers?’ This is when we start getting into more useful questions.” “However you believe timing takes place, whatever right timing means for you, that's what it will be. No one else can tell you if it's the right time to pursue the thing that you need to pursue now. I think a better question is, ‘am I willing to make the sacrifices or to make the investments that are required right now in order for me to step into this new version of myself?’ ” “We've got to get more precise. We've got to get more practical. We've got to get more tangible and real. These questions have to be useful to actually help us arrive at what we're trying to arrive at. We need questions that force decision making.” “If it's yours, you can do it. You can set the timeline. You can set the look and the feel- the vibe and the pace. You get to set it. Just give yourself permission to stop asking questions that limit you, that keep you stuck and that keep you spinning around an old identity that's trying to hold on to you and keep you safe. And free yourself with questions that actually move you forward, that spark creativity, that spark your inner problem solver, that give you something to grab onto so that you can grab onto the next thing and the next thing and start that journey forward.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
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Ambition Without Compromise
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! In this episode, Monique shares her personal process for annual reflection, offering insights into how she evaluates the past year and sets intentions for the year ahead with clarity and purpose. Tune in to discover how embracing feminine energy and becoming more emotionally available can transform your approach to goal setting and personal growth. As you listen to this episode, you'll be inspired to reflect on your own journey and consider how you can set intentions that align with your values and aspirations. Happy New Year, and here's to a year of intentional living and personal growth! 📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching. MENTIONED YearCompass 42 | Committing To Success That Heals You With Marla Teyolia 13 | Re-Mothering Ourselves GEMS DROPPED "I am caring less and less about my annual planning process as annual planning. I care very much about setting clear intentions for the time ahead." “I spent a lot of years in more of my masculine energy in building this business. And after having baby number two, we didn't have it in us to continue to keep that up in the same way. And so I had to trust that the seeds that have been planted in those previous seasons would allow me to gently reap what had been sown. So in 2024, I came into the year with a clear focus on depth and well being and how those two interact both for me personally and professionally. Embracing this was about embracing a more feminine, energetic approach which is a lot more about what you can attract. It's a creative energy that is not about purely execution or hunting. It's about believing that you can experience a holistic well being. Because I decided that, this is the highest grossing revenue year for my business, which is wild because I did the least.” “I'm really proud of my decision, my commitment to continuously coming back into a feminine posture of receiving and not over exerting myself. Resting in the magnetism, the attraction and the abundance, and just allowing for things to unfold in my favor. I mean down to like little things with grandparent help and things like that, where before I used to be like, no, I need to be the one, or no, I shouldn't stay on the trip this one extra day. It was just like, no, the help has been offered. Receive it, receive it fully.” “My goal into next year is to start being more emotionally available. I realized that I have been robbing some of my closest relationships of the fullness of who I am. My daughter deserves to see what it looks like for a grown Black woman, the leading grown Black woman in her life, to experience emotion so she knows it's okay for her to experience the full range of emotion.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Welcome 2025 with us as we celebrate our 50th podcast episode! 🎉 Join Monique as she reflects on the top five episodes—ranked by downloads and impact—exploring themes like embracing change, prioritizing well-being, and balancing humanity with wealth. Monique also shares exciting news about her upcoming speaking engagement at Rachel Rogers' ROI Millionaire Summit, a conference aimed at empowering marginalized identities to achieve financial success. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to the podcast, this episode serves as both a guide to the most impactful episodes and a celebration of the journey so far. Thank you for being a crucial part of our community. Here's to another year of growth, reflection, and ambition. 📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching. TOP 5 EPISODES #1) Episode 25 | Avoiding The Real Work #2) Episode 26 | When Achievement Is No Longer The Goal #3) Episode 27 | Scaling Your Humanity With Your Wealth #4) Episode 29 | Betting On My Wellbeing: Sharing My Practices #5) Episode 01 | Embracing Your Next Season - How To Let Go Of What's Holding You Back HONORABLE MENTIONS #6) Episode 32 | The Right Time Is Not Coming #7) Episode 30 | How I Became A Podcaster - 1 Year Anniversary Episode! #8) Episode 12 | Allowing Your Ambition To Evolve with Jereshia Hawk #9) Episode 31 | When Will It Ever Be Enough? #10) Episode 28 | Beneath The Struggle To Ask For Help MENTIONED Where Monique is Speaking: ROI Millionaire Summit by Rachel Rodgers Jan 15-17 2025 in Huntington Beach California. My session is the afternoon of Weds, Jan 15 for Golden Ticket holders... get your tickets here! Book: We Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel Rodgers GEMS DROPPED "Take a moment to appreciate yourself for having the level of integrity with yourself that you have had, no matter how big or small the commitment." "The work that actually unlocks the success that we're deeply craving is the work that we're avoiding." "When you share from the vulnerable place, you create powerful influence and connect with people as a leader." STAY IN TOU…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Have you ever felt the pull to close one chapter of your life and start a new one, only to be held back by an invisible ball and chain? This episode tackles the heart of that struggle, exploring how we can make meaningful shifts in how we work, live, and perceive ourselves. Join Monique on this live broadcast episode as she discusses how to break free from old identities, embrace personal evolution, and seek permission from within. Tune in for a transformative conversation that challenges you to rethink the rules you've lived by and invites you to create from a place of artistry and authenticity. 📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching. GEMS DROPPED “Once we've reached a certain level of achievement and success in our lives, oftentimes then we have the privilege of looking up and creating from this place of artistry, like actually being a creative, taking a paintbrush to blank canvas and building from scratch. How we see the world, how we want things to be, how we want to exist. And that level of freedom can come with a lot of fear and it can be disorienting. But it is the place that we, I think, all deserve to be at.” “I think the top two reasons that I hear from people who are scared to pivot, who are scared to make the leap: number one, there's some scarcity thing going on around money. But I think that the bigger driver is something around this invisible audience that is judging our every move. The language that people use constantly is ’I get scared of what people will think or what people will say’. Like, what people? Who are you talking about? Who specifically are you referring to? ” “Usually there are specific relationships, there are specific groups of people that we have related to in a certain way, who have seen us occupy a certain identity, who have seen us in a certain light that we don't want to break our current image with them. We're terrified of becoming something unrecognizable to these people or a specific person. And the way these show up in our thoughts and in our minds that then influence our actions is what I've been calling an invisible audience.” “There's a physiological connection to the ways in which we are not allowing ourselves to show up in the fullness of who we are and we've created all of these rules around these old identities that are no longer going to serve us. We have created all of these limitations and rules and constraints based off of old spaces, places and identities that we've had to occupy or that we've chosen to occupy in the past and that stuff is sticking with us.” "Sacrifice is meant to be temporary. It is not meant to be the end all, be all, forever state of things." STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! In a world where success is often defined by external benchmarks and societal expectations, Monique invites us to pause and reflect on the art of intentional living. Tune in as Monique shares her personal framework, "Nature, Nurture, Navigate," guiding us to understand our inherent strengths and make choices that resonate with our true self. Press play now to learn how aligning your actions with your core values can lead to a more fulfilling and abundant life. This is the first step into a life of intentional living. Listen now! 📝As a special note, Monique announces the opening of her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching. MENTIONED Episode 27 | Scaling Your Humanity With Your Wealth GEMS DROPPED “Discomfort is necessary for us to grow, but not all discomfort is necessary. And I think that we haven't stopped to consider what necessity means to us. I'm not adding things to my plate for no reason. There has to be a reason. And the reason needs to be specific. It has to feel necessary.” “You're oftentimes fighting to create more equity in the world. You're pushing so hard and overextending yourself for the people that you are making a way for. Your employees, your team, your mentees, whoever it is that you are trying to blaze the trail for or with. A big part of the mission oftentimes is to create more equity for them, for them to have experiences where there is more given to them than was given to you. Where they get to experience a reciprocal relationship within these crazy systems that they have to operate in and navigate and build, within and yet we won't expect that for ourselves. It's like you're trying to give the thing that you are not willing to give to yourself. And I want you to know that that comes at a cost, not just to you, but for those who are watching. Because you're not setting the example you think that you are. When you are living a life that is feeling lopsided, other folks can see that. We have to give ourselves permission to exist in what it is that we're trying to create for others to not leave ourselves out of our own vision.” “You need to know what your values are. I think a lot of us have loosely articulated vague values that are really just a set of feelings that we've never actually taken the time to do the work on, to truly be precise about, to be specific about.” “My values coupled with my mind, body, connection, and my gut feeling help me decide what I choose to say yes to versus what I don't. And we all need these. And I will also say that getting intentional practice around connecting the two, using them in real life situations, it deepens our conviction. It makes it much easier to step into whatever season of life or work that is ahead of us with a lot more confidence and speed, honestly.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
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Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Are you feeling ungrounded or disconnected from your true self? Our latest episode takes you on a transformative journey of self-discovery through therapy, journaling, and meditation. Join Monique as she takes us on an unscripted journey, sharing raw and real insights fresh from a therapy session, where the realization dawned that the key to feeling grounded lies in embracing our past and present selves. Through insightful reflections and a powerful grounding exercise experienced at a recent retreat, Monique challenges the notion of productivity-driven meditation and journaling, advocating instead for a return to the simple, joyful practices of being in nature and embracing the present moment. This episode is a heartfelt call to action for those feeling detached from their inner selves, offering a fresh perspective on finding balance between our adult responsibilities and the wisdom of our inner child. Tune in now to explore your own relationship with stillness, play, and the simple pleasures of life. MENTIONED Spelman College Barnes and Noble GEMS DROPPED “Sometimes you're in a moment, you're having realizations,in real time, and trying to architect,organize, and package it is just going to kind of ruin it. And it just needs to be raw, it needs to be real.” “The thing is never the thing y'all. There's something that's running beneath it that is keeping you from doing whatever activity or habit or ritual or behavior it is that you want to exhibit or want to stop exhibiting. It's not about the behavior itself. It is about something else that is running beneath it.” “I always had my diary. It was a companion and it was a way that, I not only just consolidated my thoughts or processed my emotions, but it was a way that I connected with myself. It was like a part of a relationship that I had with myself. It was a trusted anchor, and an expression of my own rootedness.” “The aspects of how journaling used to show up for me when I was younger and what was so grounding and beautiful about it was that there was no adult pressure. There was no pressure period on it.” “For those of you who are craving stillness, who feel like the relationship that you once had with yourself, where there was space for no strings attached, no pressure, no expectations, where you can just be and let your feelings flow. It's like you get to experience the fullness of yourself. To experience that again, make space for this other part of yourself, your inner child.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
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پخش در آینده پخش در آینده لیست ها پسندیدن دوست داشته شدText Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Join Monique for an enlightening conversation with Tamyra Gordon as she shares her journey of intentional living, homeschooling and legacy building. Tamyra, also known as Tammy, is a public historian whose work serves as a powerful reclamation of Black history, identity, and legacy. With over 18 years of experience in education, historic preservation, workforce development, and public programming, she is more than just an executive; she is a steward of ancestral stories. Tune in as we explore Tamyra's path and learn how she continues to build and nurture her legacy with courage and heart. Her wisdom and experiences offer valuable guidance for anyone looking to live a life of purpose and impact. GUEST INFO Tamyra Gordon, former and founding Executive Director of Blavity.org and the current Founder of Your Legacy Tours | Website | Instagram (Tamyra) | Instagram (Legacy Tours) | Instagram (Greenwood Seneca) | LinkedIn MENTIONED Association of African American Museums GEMS DROPPED “There's something really special and important about recognizing that building a relationship with our little selves and our former selves.The different essence is the part that we get to reconnect with,celebrate and honor, but also giving room for the fact that our little nine year old selves will never exist exactly in the same format that she did back then. So even as we reimagine our younger selves now and engage with that essence and energy and help leverage it as best we can that she gets to grow and evolve and morph as we're growing, evolving, and morphing. It's not like this static thing. I think that that's really important because that speaks to the beauty and the messiness of it all.” - Monique R. Shields “Legacy is less about generational wealth and what's the hand down, and what are the things that we sort of get as part of being tied to someone else's legacy. Really, it's just like, are we leaving this place any better than we found it and can the people who are left to tell our story actually articulate that? Did we live a life that our values, that our beliefs, that our actions are aligned to all those things that we said that we cared about? Did people feel better after being in my presence and being around me than they did not being around? Did I honor people who would otherwise be forgotten and not let to work and other things sort of distract from those moments where you can pull in people into the fabric of how we live today. In my mind, that's the legacy. That's how I'm thinking about it today. I'm also open to the idea of what that looks like continuing to mature and evolve with me and how I sort of see the babies keeping and thinking about legacy, because that will also matter. But for right now, it's keeping things alive that I think matter at the end.” - Tamyra Gordon STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! This episode is a delightful reflection on Monique's recent family trip to Australia and the valuable lessons she learned about balancing ambition with rest. Monique takes us through her journey of stepping away from her solopreneur business to embrace a much-needed break, all while maintaining the essence of her work and personal life. She shares insights on how to create space in your life for rest and recovery, even when you're running a business that thrives on personal connections. Monique also dives into the practices that have enabled her to take extended breaks without compromising her business. She discusses the importance of viewing rest as an asset, studying your own rhythms, setting a vision and plan, and getting the right support. For anyone contemplating a sabbatical, a big trip, or simply more spaciousness in their daily life, this episode is packed with actionable advice and inspiration. Press play now to discover how to integrate rest into your entrepreneurial journey and emerge with renewed energy and clarity. MENTIONED 42 | Committing To Success That Heals You With Marla Teyolia GEMS DROPPED “You have to decide that rest is an asset and not a liability.” “We have to acknowledge that something is not congruent and that we actually have to step into a true valuing of rest, of space, not with the deep undercurrent of guilt that comes along with not constantly being productive. We have to see the relationship, like, truly feel the relationship between rest and productivity as one that is harmonious.” “Conceptually, it's easy to understand that rest is good for you, but my behaviors over time are not necessarily lining up with that understanding. So I want to shift us from understanding to belief.” “We are wrapped up in so many systems that tell us that if we ever stop moving, that we will be overtaken and destitute and just out of the game, that we will be fighting for our lives to feed ourselves and to be relevant. No matter how much money you have that track can be running in the background still pushing you to do more than what you need to be doing. And so I don't mean to in any way make light of this, but we have to kind of get real with how ridiculous it actually is and that it is not a narrative of our making. It is a narrative driven purely out of capitalism.” “I'd given myself over to this season of rest, and it gave me the proof after going through that, that abundance can be possible for you when you treat yourself abundantly.When you treat yourself with scarcity, you cannot be surprised when your results are scarce.“ “We cannot always be sowing seeds. Sometimes we need time for the stuff to grow. Sometimes we need time for the stuff to wilt and die so that it has the energy to regrow in a new season. You cannot always be on, you cannot always be doing, you cannot always be giving because you're going to reap really weak crops or it'll be the wrong crop.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Are you navigating a season of change? This episode is here to provide inspiration and guidance. Join in as Monique revisits a transformative period in her life, reflecting on a throwback episode from her earlier audio newsletter series, "Letters from Monique." She shares insights from her journey of allowing herself to be changed, especially during significant life transitions like the birth of her second child and the early seeds of this very podcast. She also emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to be changed, the power of community, and the necessity of support and presence. Monique dives deep into the messy and beautiful process of change, offering a raw and honest account of her experiences. Whether you're in a season of transition or just seeking inspiration to embrace change, this episode is dropping gems. So, grab your tea, journal, and a cozy spot as Monique takes you on a journey through personal evolution, resilience, and the beauty of embracing change. Enjoy, and may this episode meet you exactly where you need to be met. GEMS DROPPED “You can't want change without permitting yourself to be changed.” “Our thoughts are anchored upon the changes that we get to experience externally, but what has to happen internally we undersell, we undershoot, and oftentimes, we don't fully anticipate because it's something that's new. So you're not really able to preemptively anticipate what those internal changers are. So to be changed is something that is easy to struggle with.” “We want the external product of change, we want the external experiences of change, but it's not all upside to get there. It can't be. There has to be some pain. And I'm not gonna say, full on suffering, necessarily, but pain, loss, absolutely. And this comes with any kind of change.” “When we ask for change be ready for everything that comes with that, but also recognize the beauty in it.” “Permitting ourselves to be changed is to permit ourselves to have permission to change, to have permission to create in the midst of change, to have permission to reenvision, to pivot, to shift, to reimagine, to want differently. And it requires support. I think for most of us, particularly so for women, we are so practiced at not permitting ourselves to want, to create,to build freely, unapologetically, and inviting in the support to do that. And not even the support to do that, but also just making sure that we are part of communities where that was heralded and encouraged and modeled. It means everything.” “It is very easy to scale back on our self investments when we think we can't produce as much, or we think that, like, oh, I'm stepping into a season of less. So then we start giving ourselves less. Girl, you're doing the opposite of what needs to happen. This is a season where we give ourselves more,much, much more.” “If you want change, you have to permit myself to be changed. So ask yourself, what needs to be true in this next season in order for you to get prepared for that season? There's a new version of you that is waiting.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
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Ambition Without Compromise
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! In this episode, Monique takes us on a journey through her relationship with social media. She dives into an ongoing experiment that is reshaping her life, work, and well-being. Instead of waiting until the end of this process, Monique brings you into the messy middle, sharing her live experiences, feelings, and the steps she’s taking to reclaim her time and attention. Join Monique as she unpacks the psychological and emotional layers of her social media detox, offering valuable insights that might just inspire you to rethink your own digital habits. Grab your tea, take some notes, and let’s dive in together. GEMS DROPPED “I too, grapple with my relationship to technology, specifically that of social media. And I'm in the middle of an experiment that impacts my life, my work, my wellbeing,and my relationships regarding social media.” “We are going to reclaim our time. We are going to reclaim our attention. That is of high, high value to me, especially in this transitional season where I am really focusing down and redirecting my path with some new intention. And this (social media) cannot be a thing that stands in the way.“ “I was actually really surprised by the release that I felt (with unfollowing every account on IG). It felt like a real releasing, a relinquishing of something… something relieving and easeful.” “Baby, I got goals and [social media] cannot be a thing that stands in the way. This cannot be a thing that feels like it's clogging up my brain. A top line goal for all of this was to build the belief that I could feel in control of technology that I claim to use for my business and engage in for entertainment and connection. But its primary use is to be a tool to amplify the messaging of my business, to make sure I'm reaching people with my message.“ “Social media can serve as this passive proxy for connection that does not exist and it keeps you in a state of inaction of actually creating the thing you want, which is real connection.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
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Ambition Without Compromise
1 42 | Committing To Success That Heals You with Transformational Healer & Coach Marla Teyolia 49:48
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Welcome back, good people! This episode is a special treat as we welcome the inspiring Marla Teyolia, a seasoned transformational coach with over two decades of experience. Marla’s expertise lies in executive presence development, enhancing communication skills, career growth, and team expansion, all while preserving core values and personal authenticity. Her holistic approach integrates mindfulness, meditation, and yoga practices, making her coaching a transformative experience. In this episode, we dive deep into Marla’s journey, from her early work in the field of domestic violence to her current role in empowering leaders. We explore how she balances her deeply spiritual practices with her work in high-powered corporate spaces, and how she navigates the dance between personal freedom and family commitments. Marla shares profound insights on the importance of reconnecting with our humanity, the power of breathwork, and the necessity of decolonizing our vision of success. This conversation is a powerful reminder that our true power lies within, and that by tending to our spirit, we can navigate any space with grace and strength. Join us for this enlightening conversation and discover how you can embrace your inner power and live a life aligned with your deepest values. GEMS DROPPED “Nothing about the fuckery that I was experiencing shifted, but I had shifted. And that's when I realized, oh, my liberation is an inside job, first and foremost. And then when I feel strong and powerful and I feel free, then I can actually do the work I'm here to do in a way that's fully aligned and isn't coming from a place of lack or trauma, but it's coming from a place of power.” - Marla Teyolia “We have a western way of thinking where it's like, medicine is an external thing that you take into your body to help you to solve a problem. But your relationship to your inner spiritual awareness and connectedness is at your core and is your medicine. The medicine is inside. Making your medicine your lifeline has to start from there and everything else flows from that.” - Monique R. Shields “The strength that comes from knowing. First of all, what you value most-family, freedom, etc- there's no perfect static place that you arrive to that just stays that way. There's always this constant dancing trade off. When you think about doing that dance, we will cannibalize the things that matter most. And it's not like your family always gets the best of you or your work always gets, you know, 100% of the time, all the time. But there are other things outside of what matters most. And it's like focus on cannibalizing that.” - Monique R. Shields GUEST LINKS Learn more about Marla Teyolia, Exec Coach + Advisor to BIPOC Visionary Leaders | Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Tik Tok STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! Have you ever found yourself feeling stuck, even though you've accomplished everything you set out to do? Life is full of subtle shifts and changes that can catch us off guard, leaving us feeling lost or in limbo. As high achievers, we can sometimes be so focused on our goals that we miss the subtle shifts happening around us. In this episode, we’ll explore how to recognize and adapt to these seasonal transitions, ensuring that our dreams expand and contract with grace. Whether you're a CEO, entrepreneur, or someone in the midst of a personal transition, this episode offers valuable guidance to help you align with your next season. Join in as we explore the importance of acknowledging shifts, seeking trusted perspectives, and giving yourself the grace to grow. MENTIONED 15 | Learning To Dream First (CEO Series) GEMS DROPPED “Dealing with seasonal transition in our life means to have a life that is ever moving, ever changing, and responding to those changes, …getting what we need out of the seasons that we're in, not fighting the seasons that we're in.All of those things are going to come up, but, I think part of where we hit the rough edges is we don't realize that a season has changed until it's too late. “ “It's hard to detect that something is off because the really tricky thing about it is that things aren't actually broken.” “I don't think we spend enough time talking about what it's like to navigate the murky waters of - not just ‘I set the vision,’ ‘I set the mission,’ ‘I walked the path,’ and ‘I'm accomplishing the things I said I wanted to do’ and now something is wavering, something is shaky.” “Dreams move. They pivot and change course but our dreams also expand and contract through different seasons. When something contracts, usually everything comes closer together and you become more compact. There's no more or less material there. It's just that we are more focused, and only going to do a certain number of things. And when we have a little more heat–think of that as energy or capacity …then that same dream gets to expand.” “Sometimes we will wake up in the middle of a season that is basically trying to end. I had to wake up to the fact that my season had shifted. Now I'm in a season where all these doors are open, and I get to choose which door I want to walk through. Initially, the prospect of that felt kind of exciting. But then, immediately, it turned to overwhelm because I had not given myself space to actually unpack the season that I'd come through because I did not realize that that season had come to a close.” STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
Text Monique directly! Share thoughts, feels or feedback! One of the most challenging aspects of this journey of entrepreneurship is people management. As entrepreneurs, we often find ourselves grappling with delegation and feedback, two crucial elements that can make or break our team dynamics and overall business success. In this episode, I’m diving deep into these very topics by exploring the common pitfalls entrepreneurs face when trying to delegate tasks and provide feedback, and offering practical solutions to overcome these challenges. Join me as I share personal experiences and the lessons I've learned from coaching clients through the intricate dance of delegation. From setting clear expectations to creating effective checkpoints, I walk you through my thought process and provide actionable advice to help you delegate tasks more effectively and give constructive feedback. If you've ever struggled with feeling like your standards are too high or questioned your ability to trust your team, this episode is for you. MENTIONED I'm opening three exclusive spots for women CEOs ready to redefine their leadership. If you're at a pivotal moment—launching a new fund, leading a team, or stepping into a new role—and feel the weight of what's next, I’m here to support you. Ready to invest in your growth and tackle challenges head-on? Visit www.moniquershields.com and fill out the simple contact form to get started. GEMS DROPPED “When we delegate the first thing we go to is the initial delegation, but I think that we skip a couple of steps when we jump to initial delegation. We bundle together in our mind that expectation setting and delegation are the same thing. Telling someone what you expect them to do in terms of steps that you expect them to take, people that you expect them to speak to, that is not the same thing as expectation setting. Expectation setting really revolves around, have I actually taken the time to define what ownership means?” “I think the other part of defining ownership, is also explaining the stakes in the context because when we start handing over decision making authority - even if it's very low stakes or small decisions - they still have an impact. We equip our team members with what they need to increase their chances of success when we explain to them the context, that is necessary for the task at hand or for the whatever it is that you're trying to hand over ownership for. This is a key missing piece.” “Before we set any expectations, we have to recognize how little we actually know about what our expectations are. Especially as women leaders, we know what we want, but we don't know how to express what we want. We're not practiced at it. We're not practiced at both, what it is that we want, and expressing it freely because we are often in spaces where it is not safe to do that. And so, number one … is to drop into and find support for expressing your needs. This flows outside the walls of your business or your organization. This is about how you are also showing up in life, how you relate to what it is that you need… How you express that. Period.“ STAY IN TOUCH Come and follow me on Instagram @moniquershields and I would love your feedback so send an email to ambition@moniquershields.com.…
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