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If you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no, and consistently do things for others at the expense of your own needs, this podcast is for you. I'm Charlotte, an experienced trauma and attachment-informed psychotherapist, and former anxious people-pleaser. We'll explore all things people-pleasing; why it happens, what the signs are, and the impact it can have on your life. I'll be sharing personal and professional insights, tips and strategies to help you break free from people-ple ...
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If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes to things at work when you really want to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, or struggling to set boundaries, then this episode is for you. I explore how people-pleasing might be holding you back in your career, even in ways you might not expect, and what you can start doing about it today Join me over …
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My first guest on the podcast! Sheena joins me to talk about her work with people living with long term health conditions and chronic pain, the importance of learning to set boundaries, communicating your needs and finding balance - for your emotional AND physical health! This is a must listen for anyone regardless of whether you have a health cond…
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In this episode, I talk about parentification - when you were made to take on adult responsibilities as a child and how that can shape your beliefs, boundaries, and relationships as an adult and people-pleasing behaviours. I talk about practical steps to help you start breaking free from these patterns, like challenging unhelpful beliefs, tuning in…
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Have you ever caught yourself downplaying your achievements? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment where I noticed myself minimising my success and how it’s a sneaky habit rooted in good girl conditioning. I explore why so many women feel the need to shrink themselves, the subtle ways it shows up in our lives, and how to start breaking free …
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The festive season can feel overwhelming, especially when you're pulled in all directions, trying to please everyone and make everything perfect. In this episode, I talk about signs you're going into people-pleasing mode this Christmas and explore how to set boundaries. From managing family expectations to prioritising your well-being, I’ll share p…
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If you’re working on yourself, making progress with your psychological insights and new perspectives, you may have come across times where certain people in your life just aren’t on board or on the same path. In today’s episode, I’m talking about what it feels like to grow, and become more self-aware while some people remain in the same patterns of…
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Does your partner do things that make you feel uncomfortable, but it feels easier to ignore it and pretend you’re OK with it? Perhaps you don’t want to come across as a nag or seem insecure, or maybe that’s exactly what you’ve been told when you’ve tried to express how you feel! In this episode, I explore why people-pleasers often suppress their tr…
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Have you noticed 'sorry' is often an automatic response? Are you sick of of saying ‘sorry’ for things that aren’t your fault? In this episode I talk about the habit of over-apologising – where it comes from, why it’s so common in people-pleasers, and some practical tips to help you break free from it. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, …
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I talk about how constantly trying to please others can take it's toll on your mental and physical health. Feeling the pressure to meet everyone’s expectations can lead to stress, anxiety, and even burnout, making boundary-setting even more important. I share practical tips for breaking free from the cycle of people-pleasing and prioritising your o…
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In this episode, I'm reflecting on my recent experience of being a guest on a podcast for the first time and how imposter syndrome and anxiety showed up. If you ever struggle with feelings of not being good enough, please know you're not alone! I talk you through techniques you can use to help you shift your mindset, reframe negative thoughts, and …
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This episode explores the link between ADHD, trauma, and people-pleasing, and how these patterns can stop you from living authentically. I discuss how being told you are 'too much' has a lasting impact on you and can lead to masking, approval-seeking, and shrinking your true self to be accepted and feel like you fit in. I share insights on recognis…
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If the thought of confrontation makes you feel sick, perhaps your body shakes and your brain feels scrambled when it comes to trying to articulate yourself, this one's for you. I explore the very common fear of confrontation - the why behind it and the what to do about it. If this resonates with you please reach out on instagram and let me know, I'…
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Stressing When It Comes To Getting Ready and Choosing What To Wear? This one's for you | Ep 4
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When it comes to going on a night out or meeting friends do you find yourself stressing out about what to wear and worrying what people will think of how you look? Perhaps you end up with clothes all over the place after so many outfit changes and scrutinising yourself in the mirror. You might ring your friends to see what they're wearing because y…
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In this episode I share the simple yet profound words my daughter said that prompted me to reflect on how we treat and speak to ourselves. I share an easy technique you can use to help break free from your inner critic so you can start speaking to yourself with less hate and more kindness and self-compassion. Don't forget to Like, Share and Subscri…
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Do you notice you always seem to feel particularly anxious when you're around a certain person in your life? Perhaps it's more than one person. Despite 'knowing' you don't need to feel anxious you can't help but feel uncomfortable or on edge around them. In this episode we'll explore why you might feel that way and you'll discover how to figure out…
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5 Things You Think Are Normal But Are Probably People-Pleasing (and what to do about it) | Ep 1
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You are probably familiar with the more obvious signs of people-pleasing such as struggling to say no to things you don't want to do or bending over backwards for people at the expense of your own needs, but what about the less obvious signs? People-pleasing becomes so engrained that some habits we pick up are so normalised they go under the radar …
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If you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no, always putting others first and feeling burnt out in the process, then this podcast is for you. I’m Charlotte Bailey, an experienced attachment and trauma-informed psychotherapist—and a former anxious people-pleaser myself. With 15 years as a therapist and 20 years of studying psycholo…
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