EP 12: How to Deal with an Emotionally Absent Mother
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An emotionally absent mother is not fully present to the emotional.life of the child. This could be due to depression, exhaustion, or numbness. Many of these mothers were severely under mothered themselves and have no idea what a close parent-child relationship looks like. Emotionally absent mothers are doing the outer things they think a mother should do, but have no clue how very big the job of mothering is. Some of the things i use to feel and do are identity crisis, difficulty with change, low self worth, anger, extreme sensitivity to rejection, perfectionist, a lair, difficulty setting boundaries, self conscious, self-criticizing , blaming myself for my mother’s actions, continuously asking for forgiveness to fix relationships, thinking i was bad, upset for feeling joy, and trusting others as well as myself.
1. Examine how you feel before and after interacting with your mother.
2. Let yourself feel Everything - do not run from your pain, take the time to understand what you are feeling.
3. Don’t blame yourself for your mother’s action.
4. Forgive yourself 5. Cut her off/set clear boundaries
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