Two Steps to Make Decisions from a Place of Love (Not Fear)

The Women in the Arena

In this enlightening episode, Paige Rene dives into the art of making decisions from a place of love rather than fear. She delves into the intricacies of the human mind, revealing that a majority of our thoughts are repetitive and often unproductive. She introduces the concept of mindset and the three lanes frequently explored in coaching–the universes’ lane, the other people’s lane, and one’s own lane.

The heart of the episode unfolds as Paige outlines the two crucial steps in decision-making: being a ‘nonjudgmental unbiased observer’ to one’s own thoughts and distinguishing between fear-based and love-based mindsets. She demonstrates these steps with practical examples, emphasizing the power of getting these thoughts out on paper.

Throughout the episode, Paige reflects on her own journey and underscores the importance of discerning objective facts from subjective thoughts. Join us for a captivating exploration of the mind's potential and the path to decisions rooted in love!

Takeaways:

1. Understanding the difference between objective facts and your own subjective thoughts can lead to more informed and empowered decision-making, allowing you to choose a path rooted in love rather than fear.

2. Fear is valid–there are moments when it serves as a protective instinct. However, it's essential to acknowledge that more often than not, fear can hinder us from selecting the choices that bring us closer to what we genuinely love and desire.

In this episode:

[1:07] Paige kicks off the episode with a quick insert of the recent dating news about Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce. She then starts talking about how seeing people talk about their goals without actually pursuing them was one of the reasons why she started coaching in the first place.

[3:05] Paige shares an interesting fun fact–an average human has about 60,000 thoughts in a day, and 80% of these are useless while a whopping 90% are repetitive. She connects this to how mindset works and shares the three lanes often used in coaching.

[5:43] Paige talks about the first step in love versus fear decision making: laying out one’s thoughts and being a ‘nonjudgmental unbiased observer’. She shares how writing down bullet points in her journal helps her do this and tells a real-life example from one of her clients.

[9:35] Paige discusses identifying the thoughts that are coming from a fear-based mindset and those that are coming from a place of love–the second step in this decision-making process. She mentions how getting these thoughts out on paper helps sort them into these categories.

[12:48] Paige shares about her money mentality as an example and how she used to operate with what she thought were facts about herself. She reiterates the importance of identifying actual facts versus thoughts which can be subjective.

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Quotes

1. “Is this a decision I'm making out of love for myself and where I'm going and for my growth or is this a decision that I'm making out of fear?” - Paige Rene, Host

2. “...If you're gonna think about the worst-case scenario, why can't you envision the best-case scenario either? The more you can get in that vibration, the more open you are to receiving the best-case scenario too.” - Paige Rene, Host

3. "Facts can be proven in the court of law. Thoughts are depending on who's thinking them and who's sharing them.” - Paige Rene, Host