92. 5 Tools to Help You Survive a Long-Distance Relationship

Relationship Psych | Love | Marriage | Conflict | Psychology |

Long distance is hard.

· You are lonely.

· You do miss each other.

· You fight over silly things because you miss each other and you’re sensitive.

· You have different expectations for how connection looks, texting, phone calls, and what your in-person time should be like.

I get it, my husband and I dated long-distance for 14 months. We would fight about things like:

· The appropriate amount of time it takes to text back

· When to schedule longer calls

· How often we should talk on the phone

· Who should come see who and when

· What our time should look like we when actually saw each other.

These months were some of my loneliest, but when I saw him, it was often exhilarating.

Here are some tips that helped.

1. Discuss your expectations around contact.

2. Build rituals of connection for contact.

3. Strategize around what your time together will look like and how often you will see each other.

4. Build a social circle for yourself.

5. Acceptance, life on life’s terms.

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