理解 — How do you understand others?

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Inspired (again) by the group conversation game from the other day. One person, instead of writing a question, simply wrote this one word "理解“ (Li3 jie3) which is one of the words (In Chinese) that means "to understand." They admitted that when it comes to developing a romantic relationship, understanding the other person is one of the biggest roadblocks they face. Which got me thinking... and wondering... how do we understand others? What is the approach we take? How do we know when we get it right (or wrong)? How do we relate to our understanding in the short-term? The longer-term?