Life Lessons Episode 24: It Is Not Over

Life Lessons w/ Cresta Durojaiye

So there's this conversation I have been hearing a lot lately. It is mostly heard when; The year is gradually drawing to an end, people are celebrating milestone birthdays like (30, 40 or 50) or at old students re-unions

It usually goes something like this: “Another year is drawing to an end and I feel like I didn’t achieve much, I feel so unaccomplished or I feel so behind amongst my peers” etc.

The truth is, at some point or the other in the course of our lives, most of us have felt this way or made one of these statements either about ourselves or others.

In scenarios like this, we cease to dream again or strive for more, because we tried at some point and didn’t seem to be as successful as we had hoped we would be. From then on we conclude that dreaming, setting goals, or making resolutions do not work and so we just cease to and strive towards anything..

We also hide away and start isolating ourselves from gatherings, to avoid the pressures of comparison and competition. Especially at our old student’s re-unions where consciously or unconsciously we check people out too. Mentally measuring where each person stands in comparison to their peers.

Yet another scenario is the phobia for celebrating life, especially in our African culture where our achievements are measured by whether we are married, have children, have a home of our home, have a well-paying job with the accompanying title to show, etc.

LIFE IS NOT A RACE!!!