ITL144: What Should You Make Your Kids Work For, and What Should You Just Give Them?

In the Loop with Andy Andrews

On this week’s episode, I discuss a popular listener question: “What should you provide for your kids, and what should they have to work for?”

Some parents have a cut and dry answer for that, but I don’t.

• My answer changes depending on what’s going on.
• It’s according to how they are behaving.
• If I sense a spirit of gratefulness, then there are more things that I will handle for them. A lot of the time it’s not even things they are aware of.
• The one thing that can truly stop it in a heartbeat is if I sense a spirit of expectation or a lack of gratefulness. Then it’s a totally different ballgame.

There was a time last week that I needed to drive Austin around to several locations for the business he has started.

• Something distracting was happening when we got home, and a few minutes later I was aware that Austin had not thanked me for doing that for him.
• I used this situation to explain to him that as he grew older, life would become more chaotic and there will be more occasions to forget how to act.
• People want to be around grateful people, and it’s a desirable quality in an employee or boss.

I recently saw a kid who got a brand new BMW on his 16^th birthday.

• At some point that car is going to wear out. And if the parents aren’t going to buy him another car when he’s older, then that may be the nicest car he ever has.
• I see young adults all the time who are disappointed with their life, because the best car they ever drove, place they lived, or most fun they had was when they were a kid.
• As they become more disappointed, it affects how they act. And then their performance level is affected at work. Over time, they become more and more likely never to have that BMW again.

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