131. The Sexual Trauma Episode: There is No Such Thing As Deviancy

I'M THE VILLAIN

Trigger warning: This episode contains discussion of early childhood rape, sexual assault, and incest.

This is a continuation of our conversation last week with Sunshine, so if you missed last week's episode, listen to that before listening to this. Even more so that last week's episode, this conversation is HEAVY. Sunshine talks about her experience coping with sexual trauma, and how her therapist actually gave her the best suggestion of all time: join the BDSM community. Her whole life, she has been trying to figure out how to have a healthy relationship with sex and intimacy, and so much of what society has told her is to erase the parts of herself that are considered "deviant" and the kink community offered another option: embrace it. Definitely make sure consent is king, but within that, there are ways to cope with sexual trauma that don't look like the "mainstream" societal picture of what sex should be.

When asked for what she would want to say to her younger self, she says this: There is no such thing as deviancy.

Links:

National Sexual Assault Hotline: https://www.rainn.org/resources

Woman Against Rape (not recommended per se but was mentioned in the episode): https://womenagainstrape.net/

Music is The Beauty of Maths by Meydän.

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