COL755: LoR: We Hurt Where We Care

Cubs Out Loud

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back with the cubs to explore the somewhat darker side of relationships. This time around, Ed leads the guys on a journey through hurt from those we love and how to find a positive perspective from this.

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Landscape of Relationships: We Hurt Where We Care

Relationships have a lot of benefits, but they are not going to be without conflict and other life difficulties. So what do you do when that happens?

Fear not! I have a couple things to tell you that will be helpful.

1. “We Hurt Where We Care”
   1. Russ Harris’ “When Life Hits Hard”
   2. Your pain tells you that this is important to you
   3. Self-compassion
2. Brene Brown’s BRAVING model.
   1. the G stands for Generous.
   2. Let’s be generous with our loved ones when they mess up
3. The Gottman’s Positive Perspective
   1. We can either look at the actions of our loved one through rose colored glasses, clear glasses, or poop colored glasses. Which one(s) do you think is going to have the best outcome?
   2. Five positive interactions to one negative interactions (e.g. affection, appreciation, listening, rituals).
   3. Small actions lead to big results